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OBERIO69
I'm slightly younger than most of you here. I came to know about DesiDime in January 2019 when I was not even 18. In 2020, when COVID hit, I was fortunate enough to learn about crypto. I'm good with computers and love finance. Since then, I've been able to make handsome money. In the past year, I've made as much as a top IIT graduate might make in 10-15 years. I'm not trying to show off! All my earnings have come from trading and making products for companies. Since January, everything I do seems to backfire, whether it's in trades or anything else. I'm a believer in 70% hard work and 30% luck. I also have a closed group of people from various countries whom I've never met in person. Until December, things were going well. Yes, there were occasional losses, but they weren't significant. If I made Rs. 100, I would lose Rs. 20-30 at most on bad days. Since January, I don't know why everything I do seems to fail. Every trade I make goes bad. For instance, since January, out of around 80 trades I've taken, 79 have resulted in losses. In our group, where we share trade setups and investment options, everything I do seems to fail yes every single thing, while others are making magical returns. For example, they've made in a year what took me 1 year to make, despite me not taking a single trade because I was occupied with something else.

For the past month, I haven't been feeling good. Yes, my parents are super proud of me; we belong to an upper-middle-class family. My father used to earn 8 lakhs per year. And here I am, changing everything. I'm proud of myself, but I don't understand why everything is going wrong. If it were just 1-2 trades, I wouldn't even bother. But it seems like every trade I take results in losses, while the ones I skip turn out to be profitable. My daily routine consists of eating, trading, and sleeping. I have many in  real friends whom I meet once a month on exam days and chat with frequently. I was in a relationship for 4 long years. I'm an introvert, and she was an extrovert. Everything was fine until she started demanding more of my time. She wanted to meet every single day, and as an introvert, I didn't like it, but for her happiness, I pushed myself. Having chats with her friends and sister, I got to know she needed no one but me, which I didn't want. I loved her, but not at the cost of giving up everything. She dreamed of becoming a doctor, but she stopped studying, indulging in me, which I hated. I wanted to see her become a doctor as it was her parents' dream

I think God is punishing me , karma is punishing me I am ready to fight but since 2-3 months I am felling lost I am getting scared impatient which I was never ever before

. Please judge me as it is a virtual forum. I shared exactly what came to my mind, word to word. Please judge me; you guys are elder than me, you all have experienced life more than me. I won't be offended, please say what's on your mind.


Edit : I thought to publish this twice thrice i dont like sharing my personal life affairs with anyone. I am thinking I have been egoistic, over confidence,
I am not taking up sympathy not flexing just wanted what's the wrong thing I am doing 
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Pro Shopping Friend Pro Shopping Friend
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Simple Advice :-

Don't do Options

Don't do Future

Don't do Intraday

Don't do Crypto

Invest your money in Good Fundamental stocks or simply Invest the Money in Mutual Funds.

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Return all the money from who you looted. 

Patron Patron
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Sorry to say but it looks like it's a marketing strategy post, so that people make DM & u forward them to your special trade setup groups with monthly fees.

But if it's a true fairytale, then I wish all the best.

Same with Nigerian Price, strategy= Fake it till you make it. @sherlock

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Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Top IIT graduate making in 10-15yrs🤔 Must be 10cr+ you made at 18yrs open_mouth

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Brother, stop trading for a while, just do paper trading of your current ideas and tweak them during paper trading. Even Sachin tendulkar had bad patches and out of form scenarios in his career life so take your present downtrend just as a pause to learn new techniques and improve your skills. You are very young, so you have lot to do in life, from winning in all aspects of your personal life to give away something to the needy. If you are truly bored by financial things, use your brain power towards research, people will cherish you forever, remember my words. Ex:- We remember Instein, cv raman and all not for what they earned, but for how they changed the lives of generations and generations of all of us with their positive inventions.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Share proofs of ur age, portfolio and trade losses. 


Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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  1. Take a Break: Trading can be stressful, especially when experiencing a losing streak. It might be beneficial to take a break and clear the mind.
  2. Diversify: If the user is only trading in one type of asset (like cryptocurrency), they might want to consider diversifying their portfolio to mitigate risk.
  3. Seek Professional Advice: Consider consulting with a financial advisor or a trading expert. They can provide personalized advice based on the user’s specific situation.
  4. Education: Continuous learning is crucial in trading. The user could benefit from additional training or education in trading strategies and financial management.
  5. Support System: It’s important to have a support system during tough times. The user could benefit from discussing their feelings with friends, family, or a mental health professional.
  6. Work-Life Balance: The user seems to be spending a lot of time trading. It’s important to have a balance between work and personal life. Engaging in hobbies and personal interests can provide a much-needed break.
  7. Relationships: The user mentioned a past relationship that ended due to differences in expectations. It might be helpful to seek relationship advice or counseling to navigate future relationships better.

Remember, it’s okay to ask for help and seek professional advice when needed. It’s also important to remember that everyone experiences ups and downs, and it’s okay to make mistakes and learn from them.

Generous Generous
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-u will not improve untill u stop writing long essay and learn to write in short in points instead

-nobody on earth have time to read novel ,just explain in short the problem and expected solution 

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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First thing first basically OP is implying his/her/they Net worth = 15 Crores

  • The user is young and tech-savvy, with a keen interest in finance.
  • They discovered DesiDime in 2019 and started trading cryptocurrency during the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020.
  • Their earnings from trading and product development have been substantial, comparable to a top IIT graduate’s 10-15 years’ salary.
  • They believe in the combination of 70% hard work and 30% luck for success.
  • They are part of an international trading group, sharing trade setups and investment options.
  • Despite previous success, they’ve been experiencing consistent losses since January, with almost all trades resulting in losses.
  • They are feeling down due to this sudden downturn in their trading performance.
  • They come from an upper-middle-class family and have significantly increased their family’s income.
  • Their daily routine consists of eating, trading, and sleeping, with occasional social interactions.
  • They were in a 4-year relationship with an extrovert, which ended due to differences in expectations and time commitments.
  • They believe they are being punished by karma or divine intervention for their recent failures.
  • They are seeking advice and judgment from the online community, acknowledging possible ego and overconfidence issues.
  • They have been feeling lost, scared, and impatient for the past 2-3 months, which is uncharacteristic for them.
  • Despite their personal struggles, they are not seeking sympathy but rather guidance on what they might be doing wrong.
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Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Is this a new way of crypto advertising?

Are you provoking people to invest in crypto?

I don't understand how people assess a cryptocurrency. I strongly feel Dimers who end up asking for crypto help from him will end up on roads.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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okay send me 1 bitcoin & will talk.

Deal Newbie Deal Newbie
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I would be happy if you prove me wrong and turn the tide in your favor again.

Trading is mostly a lonely journey. If you decide to review all of your past trades with someone who is also a trader then you can think of me.

Deal Newbie Deal Newbie
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In my culture, success in speculative bets is considered as a result of past life good deeds. This is because luck has a role in speculation. However, in 100 trades the luck factor should get ironed out and you should make money if your skills are solid. 

You need someone who can tell you that you suck. You don't have the skills to go to the next level. Your success was a fluke, the markets were aligned to your strategy. The market has changed and your strategy is still the same. You have no idea what is going wrong because you have not done the efforts.

No comments on your relationship.

Analyst Analyst
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Bro is suffering from SUCCESS 

Chill the f out whenever someone makes a good amount of money, it's a general rule to take a break and let your mind realise your new wealth.

Also, No genuine person will flex his wealth and earnings on a public forum , which shows your immaturity and your mind is yet to realise your new wealth as it's too big for you at this stage. 

Secret wealth is bliss. You'll understand later.

Give it a break.

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It seems like you might be dealing with a few challenges like feeling lost, making mistakes in trading, and managing relationships. Maybe you've been a bit too confident or focused only on certain things. It's good that you're asking for advice and reflecting on what might be going wrong. Just take things step by step, stay open to learning, and don't be too hard on yourself.

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Your own Proud killed you. You must have abused  people in the past.

Deal Captain Deal Captain
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My advice is, break up with her, you both don't deserve each other, you both bear some pain today to prevent a Heartache in future.

And regarding money, I don't think losing money is anything to worry at all, as long as you have still enough and don't try to lose the remaining money too

Finance Mentor Finance Mentor
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You're platonic, SIR!
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Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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We are probably of the same age, so I won't give you the advice that everyone has, since they know better than me in that regard. 

See, I have been in a similar situation for years now. Everything went bad for me in 2020 (I'd say worst, but idk if my luck has other plans for me in the future lol). My ex broke up with me, my family's verbal abuses turned physical, I wasn't able to meet or talk to anyone and I started hating everyone and everything. 


Time passed, I made some choices, I met someone, and she made me realize that I can hate everyone all I want, or just focus on the one that I care about and forget everyone else. Speaking of money, I might not have made as much as you, not even close, but I'm trying. Long story short, I too face these times when I can't think of what to do and everything becomes literally intolerable, to say the least. 

Solution: Works for Me All the Time

There is an army club around my place (That's what it's called). Whenever my brain gets foggy or things go wrong, I go to this club, and pay 100rs to use their swimming pool for an hour. I just hold my breath and sit underwater for as long as I can. Just imagine the world around you getting cut off in an instant. No voices, no thoughts, just some strange bubbly music (I call it that). It clears my mind more than anything. Long walks and music are good, but water is my therapy. Try it once, it might work for you. And if it doesn't, just stay in the water for 10 mins (don't lol). 

Also, I developed this thing for dark humor, idk how. But it helps me laugh even when people generally would start crying. Might be some mental disorder lol, but I stress out less now. Try to look at the world from the 4th person's perspective (a space creature). Your crores, your trades, your money, nothing matters to the fourth person. You might disappear today and nothing would change on a worldly level. So, bhaad me jaaye sab, if something bothers you a bit too much, leave it as it is for a day, don't think about it. And when you come back, you'll realize it wasn't that big of a problem to begin with. 


Baaki bade paras k liye sorry, perks of being a content writer. 

Finance Mentor Finance Mentor
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This is much original and better:

Deal Brigadier Deal Brigadier
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bhai pyaar ka mamla lagta h , subconsiouly u cannot live without her & thats why everything going wrong

Benevolent Benevolent
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High time to take and break and leave trading for time being. You're over trading which is very bad.. Your health is getting affected. Do something which you like the most and most importantly things go haywire when you don't communicate properly so talk things out and set realistic goals for yourself. Good luck. Happy trading in the future and God bless sunglasses

PS - If possible don't trade in crypto instead shift that to cash/stock market else Mutual funds.

Patron Patron
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Sorry to say but it looks like it's a marketing strategy post, so that people make DM & u forward them to your special trade setup groups with monthly fees.

But if it's a true fairytale, then I wish all the best.

Same with Nigerian Price, strategy= Fake it till you make it. @sherlock

Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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TRUE.

Whenever someone starts screaming about their earning and everything else...its pretty obvious.

Thank you @TridentDG for reading between the lines and making other dimers aware of this.
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Finance Mentor Finance Mentor
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I'd have dropped in but I've seen a lot like you, as for myself, lots of success in the 2000s yardstick and young age... also, a lot in terms of relationships, be it parents or even a GF turned wife... (then comes the bummer)

I shall stay out, cause there's a lot that I can equate you with me from your account, but obviously not the same (no crypto or insane earnings going multifold), but may I ask your current age now?

@Rajkotian The black bengali is back son...

Generous Generous
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Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Oh my god chill out!

Your problem is you got money so quickly at a very young age.

That shouldn't have happened(some people may not agree).

Now that you are experiencing your first loss(major loss everything is going wrong), you are struggling to cope.

Relax this is how you are supposed to feel. Your mid-late 20's are supposed to be a struggle.

This is the time of your life, you realise you are not invincible and start to self doubt.

Also trading, yeesh. This is when traders decide to either quit or keep going. So you need to choose now.

As an introvert myself, i understand relationships are hard. You need to be upfront with your partner about your need for personal space. Tell them you can only extend yourself so much.

If they truly love you, they will understand. You can never be someone's everything. That's a toxic relationship.

In summation, you are in a rut, calm down. Indulge in activities you like. Take it slow, Relax I won't tell you to travel.

Travelling as an introvert is a nightmare.
Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Yesterday I heard a podcast I'm sharing you the link. I don't know if it will work or not, but you can give it a try..

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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@OBERIO69 - First of all sorry to hear that you are going through such an ordeal. But hey are just 24 years old and you have whole life starring at you 😊

Nothing is permanent, money, love, relations, friends so are setbacks. If you could be where you are starting from scratch, you have the capability to do it again. Regarding investments, do sizeable part of it through expert agencies so you secure your financial future. You love crypto so continue it. As far as lost love is concerned, almost...and I say almost every guy must have gone through it once in their life. If you think she is the one for you, go back, explain her what you are going through and what you expect from her, give her assurance that you would marry her once she completes her studies and becomes doctor. 

Sort it out through communication. Clear communication. Break and all is OK BUT that would not help solve the problem.

Take a deep breath, decide the best way to tackle this situation and just do it cause YOU can do it!

Think positive, no matter what. And good luck buddy ✋🏻

Generous Generous
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It's good to know that you were making money through trading. But, as per the situation you explained here, it's time to take a break from everything, especially trading.

About a Girl, you seem to be losing a gem. Finding a girl like her at this time was very very difficult. It's supposed to be your decision, but get her back, apologize, and patch up if possible. (Maybe you are missing the lady luck!)

Go on solo travel, explore new places, and meet new people. Stay in the hostel dorms, you will find lots of extroverts there, so don't worry about networking. They will pinch you into the conversations.

After you feel confident, make a fresh start.

Tech Guru Tech Guru
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Kya leke aaye the

Kya leke jaoge

Sab mohmaaya hai

Deal Major Deal Major
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Redmi leke aaye the

Poco leke jaayenge

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Benevolent Benevolent
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Take break from trading.. like a month... But do keep a track on movement.. but strictly no trade for month. 

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So when you made profit off Crypto, you were proud of yourself, now making losses, mentality changed to 'what's wrong with my life'.

Trading isn't for people like you exactly. You can't embrace a simple fact that you won't be making profits always, losses too are a part of it.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Not exactly I know I won't make profit every time . I started noticing when everything turned upside down . About 80 trades I lost 79 , every safest investment the project rugs . And the one which my friends would have shared and I skipped them gave exponential return . As if which I take it is loss and which my friends are taking up in front of my eyes they are ending up making ton of money!

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Well, I'm not a trade person but so I shouldn’t comment on that part. But belive me, there is not god! But if you still want to believe in god, believe in your parents! And why she 'was'? What happened? Did you guys broke up? But one thing is for sure, you 'were' extremely lucky to have someone like her! Girls like this are super rare! And you have lost it, and its your accountability if she has left. You should go on a vacation and should learn a few things about society, education and cultures. Life is much bigger than trading in front of a computer 365 days. Pardon me if I sound harsh.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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She is gem I agree I was wrong to let her go . But she was fully indulged on me . It become a case like if she won't breathe if I were not there and I knew because of what I do I cannot handle all this I even confronted this to her many times that lets slow down this but she never did so pensive. Yup seeing everyone's comment I would take a break from everything I have no one to travel with sad( will try to do something else from my daily routine.

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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His name is prince and he is from Bihar..

He looted many people in the name CC to bank and also investment returns.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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What the....😯

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Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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He is a scammer .

He looted crores of rupees from innocent people like me..


Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Not true . Please don't comment unnecessary. Person making good money isn't always scam I worked hard day and night to achieve what I have today with 0 money scammed from a single person.

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Return all the money from who you looted. 

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