Self Improvement [ Peace of Mind ]

Ability has got Nothing to do with Success

Sometimes, people are too quick to give up on themselves when work becomes difficult, while others persist and double their efforts to reach their goals. It’s the latter who will eventually succeed, even if they aren’t the “smartest”

Heidi Grant Halvorson knows more about success and successful individuals than most people. The experimental social psychologist, who has authored two books — How we can reach our goals and Nine things successful people do differently, talks about success and busts myths around successful people.

There is a strong tendency to attribute our successes and failures to ability. And by that we usually mean some innate quality or aptitude. So you either win the DNA lottery and end up with lots of intelligence or creativity or willpower and are therefore successful, or you don’t, and you fail. This simplistic explanation is wrong for two reasons.

First, ability simply doesn’t work that way. No matter which ability you are talking about — whether it’s intelligence, creativity, athletic prowess or selfcontrol — research shows them to be malleable. In other words, no matter what you start with, what you end up with has everything to do with experience, learning and effort. If you want to be smarter, you can get smarter. When we think of our abilities as fixed and innate, we give up on ourselves when we encounter difficultly, and resign ourselves to failure.

The second reason why this explanation is wrong is that no matter how much ability you have, successfully reaching a goal has everything to do the actions you take (or don’t take) along the way.

Effort, strategy, mindset, motivation, confidence, planning and monitoring of progress are the true keys to achievement, and they are much more powerful than ‘ability’ or ‘aptitude’. But until we start rejecting explanations like “I’m just not smart enough” or “I don’t have what it takes”, we won’t start looking for the real problems, and figuring out solutions.

Actions, Not Abilities

To explain success (and failure), we need to look to our actions, rather than our abilities. We need to think about the aspects of our performance that are under our control: the effort we put in, the strategies we used, the critical steps we may have neglected, whether or not we considered the obstacles to success, etc.

Smart Equals Successful?

Ability is a very poor predictor of success — measures like IQ don’t do a very good job of telling us who will perform well at work and who will perform poorly. Again, it comes down to doing the right things — abilities are expressed through our actions. Sometimes, people are too quick to give up on themselves when work becomes difficult, while others persist and double their efforts. It’s the latter who will succeed.

Traits of the Successful

Self-confidence, belief in the ability to improve, patience and persistence — these are inherent in a successful individuals. The good news is, none of these traits are innate — we can develop these through experience and effort.

by : Heidi Grant Halvorson

*Less Cluttered Life

Jeff Davidson*

With the introduction of more channels on the television set, the Internet (which was not prominent before 1993), and all the consumer choices that exist, there are many things that compete for your time and attention. If you cram that into the same 24-hour day or 168-hour week that you have always had, your perception will be that time is speeding by.

For example, if you talk to a friend, watch a single television show while doing nothing else, read a book, or engage in any singular activity for one hour, you will have a certain perception of how quickly that hour will pass. But, if you pack more tasks into that same hour: the television being on, trying to read a book, maybe eating, maybe watching a 4-year-old; maybe a friend calls; maybe fiddling with an iPhone, and so on, then your perception of time changes. So, the more things that you can fit into that hour, the more things compete for your time and attention, and the faster that hour will seem to pass.

Does this seem like all the makings of a chaotic life? We each have 24 hours in a day, so how are you supposed to fit in all of your daily tasks without getting so stressed out or frustrated that you cannot finish any? The answer is: less is more.

You can only eat one meal at a time. Focus on the task at hand and reflect on that ‘60s phrase, Be Here Now! You can actually taste the food when you are eating. You can actually watch the show that you are watching. You can actually play the sport that you are playing. Have the emotional and financial strength to let go of all the peripheral items competing for your time and attention and focus on the activity at hand.

The message that is being disseminated in contemporary society is to practice multi-tasking. “Do multiple things at once.” “Click here.” “Push here.” “Turn me on.” “Switch me on.” Every place you look, you are besieged by more items competing for your time and attention. Now, people actually have dwindling attention spans. They lack the ability to remain focused on the same subject for more than a few minutes and, sadly, some people for more than a few seconds.

The key to reclaiming your time is to practice the art, something I call an art, of doing one thing at a time. Sounds pretty simple, doesn’t it? Focus on the task at hand and be present in the moment.

*Building Confidence Beyond Belief

Danielle Pierre
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One of the main ingredients to creating a life of good health, wealth and happiness is confidence. Let’s face it, if you want to continue to move toward your dreams and goals you must have the confidence to do it.

We’ve all heard it said from motivational speakers to teachers and coaches that our past does not equal our future. In other words, even if we’ve made bad choices, lived in poverty, or experienced some other unfortunate or undesirable circumstances, we can still re-create our lives and live a happy and abundant lifestyle in every way.

Although I believe this statement to be completely accurate, I also believe that there is a very big piece of it missing. What that statement does not say is that when a person emerges from a negative past and begins to pursue a healthier and happier future; there are certain limited beliefs that were derived out of that past that must be addressed before a complete mindset shift can take place. Change your mind, change your life – absolutely. But first, make sure you’ve changed your mind. If the limited beliefs are not properly addressed, the person will invariably find themselves back in a place of struggle. Why? Because they lack the confidence and positive belief system necessary to become and remain successful. Notice I’ve underlined the word remain. While anyone can reach a specific goal, it will take a healthy belief system to maintain its benefits.

Just as it is true that once you change your mindset you can completely re-create your life, it is equally true that it’s going to take effort, time and consistency to remove the negative beliefs that were previously implanted in order to maintain that lifestyle and experience long term success.
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This is why there are far less people at the top of the income chain then there are in the struggle. The majority of people are seeking immediate gratification and the thought of spending months, even years, re-programming their minds can be discouraging and therefore many quit before they reach their goals. Others find it easier and safer to settle for where they are and some have convinced themselves that they like it there.

Developing unshakable confidence and changing negative belief systems is not only applicable to those who are seeking a lifestyle of the rich and famous, but also for those who want to pursue a specific passion or interest, or simply to live a happier, healthier life. The effort and consistency it takes to have the appreciation for life that is required to experience true and meaningful happiness includes having the confidence to move forward without reservation, no matter what the target is.

Over the years, various methods have been discovered to help people delve into their subconscious minds and replace the negative, limiting thoughts with the thoughts necessary to build a healthier belief system and gain confidence and esteem, taking a person through this process in a much faster and more efficient way. Bottom line – certain practices and methods can save years and the effectiveness and benefits are life-changing and life-lasting.

Whatever tools you choose to pick up along your personal development journey, make sure you begin by building a foundation that will equip you for the many twists and turns that will come your way. Building a strong emotional foundation will enable you to become a confident, productive and unstoppable force. It begins by ridding yourself of limiting thoughts and developing a healthy, confident mindset, which is mandatory for lifetime success. The world is your oyster – crack it

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“There is no such thing as along piece of work, except one that you dare not start.”

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~ Charles Baudelaire*

“You are not in this world to live upto other people’s expectation, nor should you feel the world must live upto yours.”

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- F. Pearl*

“To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.”

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- Elbert Hubbard*

“Life is what you celebrate. All of it. Even its end.”

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Joanne Harris*

“Stop and consider! life is but a day;
A fragile dew-drop on its perilous way
From a tree’s summit.”

~John Keats

“Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.”

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~John F. Kennedy*

“I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.”

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~Voltaire*

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

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- Viktor E Frankl*

“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.”

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~ Jim Morrison*

“Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.”

~ William James

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A fantastic sentence written on every Japanese bus stop.

Only buses will stop here – Not your time,

So keep walking towards your goal.
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Negative Thinkers focus on Problems

Positive thinkers focus on Solutions.
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*Payback Time——- Gratitude

True Story-Very inspiring*

One stormy night many years ago, an elderly man and his wife entered the lobby of a small hotel in Philadelphia.
Trying to get out of the rain, the couple approached the front desk hoping to get some shelter for the night.

“Could you possibly give us a room here?” the husband asked.

The clerk, a friendly man with a winning smile, looked at the couple and explained that there were three conventions in town.
“All of our rooms are taken,” the clerk said. “But I can’t send a nice couple like you out into the rain at one o’clock in the morning. Would you perhaps be willing to sleep in my room? It’s not exactly a suite, but it will be good enough to make you folks comfortable for the night.”

When the couple declined, the young man pressed on.

“Don’t worry about me; I’ll be just fine here in the office,” the clerk told them. So the couple agreed.

As he paid his bill the next morning, the elderly man said to the clerk, “You are the kind of manager who should be the boss of the best hotel in the United States. Maybe someday I’ll build one for you.”

The clerk looked at them and smiled. The three of them had a good laugh.

As they drove away, the elderly couple agreed that the helpful clerk was indeed exceptional, as finding people who are both friendly and helpful isn’t easy.

Two years passed. The clerk had almost forgotten the incident when he received a letter from the old man. It recalled that stormy night and enclosed a round-trip ticket to New York, asking him to pay them a visit.

The old man met him in New York, and led him to the corner of Fifth Avenue and 34th Street. He then pointed to a great new building there, a palace of reddish stone, with turrets and watchtowers thrusting up to the sky.

“That,” said the older man, “is the hotel I have just built for you to manage.”

*"You must be joking," the young man said.

“I can assure you I am not,” said the older man, a sly smile playing around his mouth.

The older man’s name was William Waldorf Astor, and the magnificent structure was the original Waldorf-Astoria Hotel.
The young clerk who became its first manager was George C. Boldt.
This young clerk never foresaw the turn of events that would lead him to become the manager of one of the world’s most glamorous hotels

“We are not to turn our backs on those who are in need, for we might be entertaining angels”

Life is more accurately measured by the lives you touch than the things you acquire… *

*One Hour Makes all the Difference

Brian Tracy*

Did you know that one hour per day of study will put you at the top of your field within three years?

Think about it. You’ve gone as far as you can with what you now know. Any progress you make from this moment onward will require that you learn and practice something new.

Commit to Lifelong Learning

One quality of leaders and high achievers in every area seems to be a commitment to ongoing personal and professional development. They look upon themselves as self-made people, as “works in progress.” They never become complacent or satisfied. They are always striving toward ever-greater heights of knowledge and understanding.

Get to the Top in Five Years

Earl Nightingale said many years ago that one hour per day of study in your chosen field was all it takes. One hour per day of study will put you at the top of your field within three years. Within five years you’ll be a national authority. In seven years, you can be one of the best people in the world at what you do.

Read Everything You Can

Read all you can about your field. Subscribe to the executive book clubs and book summaries. Build your own library of important books in your field. Never be cheap about your education.

In fact, if you make a decision today to invest 3% of your annual income back into yourself, back into your own personal and professional development, you will probably never have to worry about money again.

Go Through 50 Books Per Year

If you read one hour per day in your field, that will translate into about one book per week. One book per week translates into about 50 books per year. 50 books per year will translate into about 500 books over the next ten years.

Action Exercises

*Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into practice.

v v First, ask the successful people around you for their best book recommendations. Whatever advice they give you, immediately go out and buy those books, take them home and begin reading for one hour every morning before you start work.

v v Second, when you read, underline and take notes when you find important ideas that you can use. Implement them immediately. Take action of some kind on good ideas. You will be amazed at the change in your career.

Five ways to get your career moving

You’re stuck in the same job for what seems like ever. You haven’t had a promotion in a long time, you’re tired of doing the same thing for years and given the present scenario, new opportunities in other companies are equally hard to come by. Here’s how you can drive change when you feel trapped in the same job.

Take stock

It’s time for you to re-evaluate your skills, talents and abilities, and where they fit in with your overall career aspirations.

Says Ruth Singh, HR head at Emkay Global Financial Services: “Review your work over the last year and see how your contributions made a difference to your department. Make sure that you can quantify your achievements in terms of efficiency, accuracy, increased revenue, cost savings or better customer relations.”

Go Beyond

Sometimes, going beyond the limits of one’s job makes a lot of difference. “I voluntarily took charge of a project which nobody was particularly keen on. Not only did I impress my boss but it also helped me bag a lateral move I had been angling,” says D Sen, who’d been stuck in the same role in an IT firm for several years.

Change Your Attitude

All you need to renew your vigor about work is a change in outlook. Try and see the positives in your current job and stop whining about minor issues. Realise that with a fresh look, you can transform your role and make yourself indispensable to your organisation.

Broaden Your Skills

While it is human nature to want to be really good at one thing, this can actually work against you. “Employees that are versatile and have a broader scope of knowledge and skills are viewed to be more valuable. Find out whether there are other career options in your organisation which interest you and enroll for the necessary training,” says Ruth Singh.

Renew Contacts

If you have neglected your professional and personal contacts, now is the time to re-engage them. Says Ruth Singh: “Renew your involvement in forums, clubs, or blogs. Ask them how you might be of assistance to them . You might need their assistance if your situation changes.”

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“Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.”

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~Martin Luther King, Jr.*

“Our duty is to encourage everyone in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth.”

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~Swami Vivekananda*

The FOUR blessed looks

1. Look back and thank God.

2. Look forward and trust God.

3. Look around and serve God.

4. Look within and find God!

I asked God,

‘How do I get the best out of life?’

God said,
‘Face your past without regrets, handle your present with confidence, and prepare for the future without fear!’

Without God, our week is:

Mournday

Tearsday

Wasteday

Thirstday

Fightday

Shatterday and

Sinday.

So, allow Him to be with you every day!

Life is short, so forgive quickly.
Believe slowly.
Love truly.

Time is like a river.
You cannot touch the same water twice,
because the flow that has passed
will never pass again.

Enjoy every moment of your life.

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To get to the top, do what others won’t

Rory Vaden

So how do you stand out to be hired by potential employers? How do you stand out for a promotion to a superior? How do you stand out as loyal to the people you are leading? It’s simple: do the things that others aren’t willing to do.

Whether you’re a leader, a team member, or a candidate, success comes from having the discipline to do the things that you know you should be doing, even when you don’t feel like doing them. When you practice this kind of self-discipline regularly, you’ll naturally stand out from the pack—because most people avoid the hard stuff. It’s just easier to put it off.

But the truth is that what feels easy now creates problems down the line. And what feels hard now—doing the stuff you don’t feel like—makes everything easier in the long-term. Self-discipline doesn’t have to be hard—you just have to change the way you think about it.
Successful people have mastered the art of self-discipline. I’ve spent the last 10 years studying and coaching some of the most successful people in business, figuring out what makes them different. They’re not smarter or more talented than the average person—they just consistently do what others aren’t willing to do by keeping three principles in mind:

Do it scared. Fear is one of the biggest saboteurs of our goals, because it inhibits action. The next time you feel yourself putting something off because you’re afraid—of uncertainty or failure—just “do it scared.”

I once heard a true story of a woman who was trapped in a burning building on the 80th floor. She was terrified of heights and enclosed spaces, and when the fire alarm went off, she refused to follow her colleagues into the stairwell to evacuate to safety.

The firemen did a sweep of the building and found her hiding under her desk, waiting to die. She was screaming “I’m scared, I’m scared!” as the firemen insisted she walk down the stairwell until one fireman said, “That’s OK, just do it scared.” He repeated it all the way down the 80 flights of stairs, until he brought her to safety.

We’ve all faced these moments in our careers—when you know what has to be done, but your fear holds you back. In order to stand out, you must develop the habit of acting in the face of fear. It’s fine to be scared—do it scared. It’s fine to be unsure—do it unsure. It’s fine to be uncomfortable—do it uncomfortable. Just do something.

This is the attitude of the most disciplined and successful people on the planet. They might be scared, but they do it anyway. And by just doing something, you create movement and momentum that will lead to progress and results.

Habits, not results. Perfectionism is one of the most common reasons people procrastinate, and we’ve all done it at some point.

The best way to overcome this impulse is to put your self-esteem into stellar work habits instead of results. It can take a while to see the fruits of your labour—whether you’re spearheading a new initiative, trying to launch a business, or planning a second act career. To keep yourself motivated, take pride in sticking to your work habits, rather than looking for immediate results. In time, success will follow.

Remember the big picture. The pursuit of any goal will inevitably face a number of obstacles. The difference between those who stand out in their careers and those who blend in lies in what you do when you reach these critical turning points. Do you hesitate and turn back? Or do you press forward? When you feel frustrated, depressed, or disappointed, don’t give up—just get some perspective.

I have a mental reminder that helps me push past these hurdles. I hold my pen up to my eye and stare directly down the barrel. Then, I pull it away and look at it in its entirety. It’s a quick way to remind myself to look at my life in the same way.

Stop fixating on the here and now, and think about the big picture. Today’s challenges may not make sense, but you must have faith that over the long term, they will be nothing more than blips on the radar screen. Having this perspective and faith will help you press forward at the moments when others turn back.

Contrary to popular belief, people who have reached the highest levels in their careers aren’t necessarily better educated, more talented or better connected. Neither are they simply more motivated or harder workers. Rather, successful people have realized that getting to the top means that they first have to do the things that they don’t want to do related to their goals.

It’s not about enjoying self-discipline—it’s about adopting a few new ways of thinking that simply make discipline easier to endure. And when you develop the habit of doing things that others won’t do, you’re putting yourself on the fast track to the route to the top.

“An error doesn’t become a mistake until you refuse to correct it.”

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~John F. Kennedy*

“The highest reward for a person’s toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.”

~ John Ruskin

“When you judge others, you don’t define them, you define yourself.”

- Earl Nightingale

“All differences in this world are of degree, and not of kind, because oneness is the secret of everything.”

~Swami Vivekananda

“More than anything else, I believe it’s our decisions, not the condition of our lives, that determine our destiny.”

~Anthony Robbins

“Great effort from great motives is the best definition of a happy life.”

~William Ellery Channing

“Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born.”

~ Dale E. Turner