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Friends,

Michael Jordan was born in 1963, in the slums of Brooklyn, New York.

He had four siblings and his father’s earnings were not sufficient to provide for the whole family.

He grew up in a poor neighbourhood. Exposed to mindless violence and heavy discrimination in the slums, he saw for himself only a hopeless future.

His father saw in Michael, a lost soul and decided to do something.

He gave Michael, who was 13 years old, a piece of used clothing and asked: “What do you think the value of this outfit would be?”

Jordan replied,“Maybe one dollar.”

His father asked, “Can you sell it for two dollars? If you can sell it, it would mean that you are a big help to your family.”

Jordan nodded his head, “I’ll try, but no guarantee that I’ll be successful.”

Jordan carefully washed the cloth clean. Because they didn’t have an iron, to smoothen the cloth, he levelled it with a clothes brush on a flat board, then kept it in the sun to dry. The next day, he brought the clothes to a crowded underground station. After offering it for more than six hours. Jordan finally managed to sell it for $2. He took the two dollar bill and ran home.

After that, everyday he looked for used clothing, washed and ironed it, and sold it in the crowd.

More than ten days later, his father again gave him a piece of used clothing, “Can you think of a way you can sell this for 20 bucks?”

Aghast, Jordan said, “How is it possible? This outfit can only fetch two dollars at the most.”

His father replied, “Why don’t you try it first? There might be a way.”

After breaking his head for a few hours, finally, Jordan got an idea.

He asked for cousin’s helpto paint a picture of Donald Duck and Mickey Mouse on the garment. Then he tried to sell it in the school where the children of the rich study.

Soon a housekeeper, who was there to pick his master, bought that outfit for his master. The master was a little boy of only 10 years. He loved it so much and he gave a five dollar tip. 25 dollars was a huge amount for Jordan, the equivalent of a month’s salary of his father.

When he got home, his father gave him yet another piece of used clothing, “Are you able to resell it at a price of 200 dollars?” Jordan’s eyes lit up.

This time, Jordan accepted the clothes without the slightest doubt. Two months later a popular movie actress from the movie “Charlie’s Angels”, Farah Fawcett came to New York for her Movie promos. After the press conference, Jordan made his way through the security forces to reach the side of Farah Fawcett and requested her autograph on the piece of clothing. When Fawcett saw this innocent child asking for her autograph, she gladly signed it.

Jordan was shouting very excitedly, “This is a jersey signed by Miss Farah Fawcett, the selling price is 200 dollars!” He auctioned off the clothes, to a businessman for a price of 1,200 dollars!

Upon returning home, his father by broke into TEARS and said, "I am amazed that you did it My child! You’re really great! "

That night, Jordan slept alongside his father. His father said, “Son, in your experience selling these three pieces of clothing, what did you learn about success?”

Jordan replied, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

His father nodded his head, then shook his head, “What you say is not entirely wrong! But that was not my intention. I just wanted to show you that a piece of used clothing which is worth only a dollar can also be increased in value, Then how about us – living & thinking humans? We may be darker and poorer, but what if we CAN increase our VALUE.”

This thought enlightened young Jordan. Even a piece of used clothing could be made dignified, then why not me? There is absolutely no reason to underestimate myself.

From then on, Michael Jordan felt that his future would be beautiful and full of hope.

He went on to become the greatest basketball player of all times.

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The above is one of 36 ways spoke can speak.
IMO , FAKE is NOT desired. Jus remove the lowest 24 ways to speak.

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Critics choice ?

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Leica and the Jews The Leica is the pioneer 35mm camera. It is a German product – precise, minimalist, and utterly efficient.

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Behind its worldwide acceptance as a creative tool was a family-owned,
socially oriented firm that, during the Nazi era, acted with uncommon
grace, generosity and modesty. E. Leitz Inc., designer and manufacturer
of Germany ’s most famous photographic product, saved its Jews.

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And Ernst Leitz II, the steely-eyed Protestant patriarch who headed the closely held firm as the Holocaust loomed across Europe , acted in such a way as to earn the title, “the photography industry’s Schindler.” As soon as Adolf Hitler was named chancellor of Germany in 1933, Ernst Leitz II began receiving frantic calls from Jewish associates, asking for his help in getting them and their families out of the country. As Christians, Leitz and his family were immune to Nazi Germany’s Nuremberg laws, which restricted the movement of Jews and limited their professional activities.

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To help his Jewish workers and colleagues, Leitz quietly established what has become known among historians of the Holocaust as "the Leica Freedom Train," a covert means of allowing Jews to leave Germany in the guise of Leitz employees being assigned overseas. Employees, retailers, family members, even friends of family members were “assigned” to Leitz sales offices in France , Britain , Hong Kong and the United States Leitz’s activities intensified after the Kristallnacht of November 1938, during which synagogues and Jewish shops were burned across Germany .. Before long, German “employees” were disembarking from the ocean liner Bremen at a New York pier and making their way to the Manhattan office of Leitz Inc., where executives quickly found them jobs in the photographic industry. Each new arrival had around his or her neck the symbol of freedom – a new Leica.


The refugees were paid a stipend until they could find work. Out of this
migration came designers, repair technicians, salespeople, marketers
and writers for the photographic press.

Keeping the story quiet The “Leica Freedom Train” was at its height in 1938 and early 1939, delivering groups of refugees to New York every few weeks. Then, with the invasion of Poland on Sept. 1, 1939, Germany closed its borders. By that time, hundreds of endangered Jews had escaped to America , thanks to the Leitzes’ efforts. How did Ernst Leitz II and his staff get away with it? Leitz, Inc. was an internationally recognized brand that reflected credit on the newly resurgent Reich. The company produced range-finders and other optical systems for the German military. Also, the Nazi government desperately needed hard currency from abroad, and Leitz’s single biggest market for optical goods was the United States . Even so, members of the Leitz family and firm suffered for their good works. A top executive, Alfred Turk, was jailed for working to help Jews and freed only after the payment of a large bribe. Leitz’s daughter, Elsie Kuhn-Leitz, was imprisoned by the Gestapo after she was caught at the border, helping Jewish women cross into Switzerland . She eventually was freed but endured rough treatment in the course of questioning. She also fell under suspicion when she attempted to improve the living conditions of 700 to 800 Ukrainian slave laborers, all of them women, who had been assigned to work in the plant during the 1940s. (After the war, Kuhn-Leitz received numerous honors for her humanitarian efforts, among them the Officier d’honneur des Palms Academic from France in 1965 and the Aristide Briand Medal from the European Academy in the 1970s.) Why has no one told this story until now? According to the late Norman Lipton, a freelance writer and editor, the Leitz family wanted no publicity for its heroic efforts. Only after the last member of the Leitz family was dead did the “Leica Freedom Train” finally come to light. It is now the subject of a book, "The Greatest Invention of the Leitz Family: The Leica Freedom Train," by Frank Dabba Smith, a California-born Rabbi currently living in England . Memories of the righteous should live on.

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@Spock wrote:

@AKA wrote: speak fewer than u usally do…nd work hard

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Wrong examples
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However, I thought it suits to wishes for some others

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in the current times now of everything and everyone having an on-line or social presence,
things can also be looked at as below





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put your (labelled) price 10-times your worth or realistic price

then announce that you’ll only be sold via a flash-sale.

which needs pre-registrations an year in advance

then at the time of actual sale, just close the site back-end. but to others you declare that there was overwhelming demand and your site was under-prepared for the unprecedented demand .

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with the fake demand and fake scarcity and the doctored desirability , you will be able to increase your own value? 👍👍

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@MJ911 wrote:

Bot eek roll


It was for asm123

As I have never seen him fighting, which is normal human tendency like u have shown.

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because we get automated replies from your id lol

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because we get automated replies from your id lol

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One should stop violating rules then twisted

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@[email protected]_0_0_D wrote: Wrong examples
One is bot and second is none,
However, I thought it suits to wishes for some others

how how ?

disagree.


unless you meant MJ911 ji is … braving others tirelessly .. he does face and bear the burnt at times from us Dimers :-/

and asm123 is a : no offence no exceptions person smile , right ?? that is the only ‘none’ i get for him.

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@MJ911 wrote:
@Smarty wrote: because we get automated replies from your id

One should stop violating rules then twisted

wohh maaaara !!

Bang On ! smile

Smarty , isse kehte hein Nehle per dehla !
this hand is MJ ji’s nehle_pe_dehla.jpg


or shall i say.. it is a complete sweep
nehle_pe_ikka.jpg

nehle par Ikka … aur baaji jeet gaye MJ911 cool

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haha true lol lol

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@MJ911 wrote:
@Smarty wrote: because we get automated replies from your id

One should stop violating rules then twisted

wohh maaaara !!

Bang On ! smile

Smarty , isse kehte hein Nehle per dehla !
this hand is MJ ji’s nehle_pe_dehla.jpg


or shall i say.. it is a complete sweep
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nehle par Ikka … aur baaji jeet gaye MJ911 cool


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9+11== 9+Jackal

Anyway 911 is US emergency no and related to 11th sep attack.

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When I would wake from that dream

Have you ever tried everything went well and suddenly everything changes?, What was a beautiful dream has become a nightmare, ahorrible dream that you wanted to wake up.
And it sometimes seems that we are dreaming, because our mind does not understand how everything can change from one moment to another, and for some reason our mind is reused to believe in what is now reality.

I have personally gone through stages where it seems that I’m dreaming, but not because that dream is pleasurable, but because they believe it’s happening to me, I think it’s just a bad dream and would soon wake up and everything will be back to reality but sometimes not, that bad dream may last a while.

Sometimes I would sleep and wake up thinking that everything had changed for the better, but there are things that are not so easy.

And it is that for some reason we tend to compare our best moments in life, against the worst we are going and if so: How could it not be a big difference?

Sometimes we forget also, not always in life has gone well, not always everything has been perfect, not always our life has been a beautiful dream, there have been tough times, very difficult situations to overcome problems great God helped us solve, nightmares that we never get out, but we left.

If you reflect on your best moments in life, you will realize that most of them came after a long time after you left that you never thought out, but that God brought you out of there.

What I mean by this is that maybe today’re living a very harsh reality, perhaps wanted to wake up from this bad dream that has taken hold of your mind and leaves you not think of anything else that has nothing to do with failure.

You can you feel that this time will not get out of this, that this dream has become a nightmare is almost impossible to get out of it, want to close your eyes and when you open them all has changed, but beyond all that you have to remember this is not your first bad time in life, there have been many and all of them God brought you forward.

What makes you think that this bad dream will not end ?, What makes you want to give up this time ?, Have you not gone through hard and difficult situations and God I brought them all ?, Why does God not do this time ?, Why think so much failure on our side having a God who never fails?

Today I want you to get up out of that bed of anguish and concern that these lying, today I want you to go and wash your face and wiping away all tears of sadness in your eyes has sprouted, today I want you to sign pairs, you moorings well spiritual pants and think as it has always done, God will draw OF THIS.

You do not have to spend all worried, anxious and desperate time, it’s not your first bad time in your life and not be the last, but what if you have to be sure always that of all God always brought you forward, you he’s taking you out ahead and always on, because he loves you and there is a perfect purpose to fulfill in your life.

That bad dream ended and began a beautiful one which you feel blessed to experience God never have to just unjust, God sees beyond what others see and even beyond what you yourself once in you, God sees your heart,see the longing that is in the to seek and to please and above all see the love with which you really love, and because of that, he will act in your favor, Ya see!
“Put your life in your hands, fully trusts him, and he will act on your behalf”

Psalms 37: 5 ( New Living Translation)
And everything will’ll wake cuter than it was forever!

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Log jab apna naam aise nahi bana pate, woh naam badal lete hai par naam badal lene se pehchaan nahi badal jati… Do good Be good Increase your own value smile

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6 Mental Traps That Keep You From Making Smart Decisions

Decisions: We all make them, and we all want to make better ones. Science to the rescue!
BY JEFF HADEN
@jeff_haden

Why do we sometimes regret a decision we’ve made?

The main problem is that we are all, to use the title of Dan Ariely’s great book, predictably irrational. We’re people. That’s why markets aren’t always rational. That’s why consumers aren’t always rational.

That’s why some middle-aged men think buying a Porsche will make them attractive to young women.

Here are some common reasons why all of us make poor decisions — and how you can avoid making those poor decisions.

1. Recall bias.
Scientists call recall bias “availability heuristic” (which is why I refer to it as recall bias).

Recall bias says that if you recall something, it must be important — or at least more important than an alternative not as easily recalled. That means we tend to give heavy weight to recent information and form opinions and make decisions biased toward whatever is recent.

For example, if you read about a shark attack, you’ll naturally decide shark attacks are on the rise — even if no others have occurred in the past six months. It’s recent, therefore it’s a trend. Or if you read about fighting in Syria you might think we’re living in exceptionally violent times, when in fact we’re living in the least threatening period in history.

Part of the problem lies in our extraordinary access to information. Unlike in years past, when something happens, we know about it. So you read about one robbery in Ibiza and assume the island is unsafe — and you cancel your trip. Or you read one bad review about a caterer and decide that caterer is not worthy of your business — and you go with what is actually a poorer quality option.

And here’s a further problem: the more inflammatory or sensational the event, the more you’re likely to remember it, and the more weight you’re likely to give it when you make a decision.

Recall bias says, “Well, I remember that … so this must be true.”

But that doesn’t mean this is the whole truth — or in any way indicative of a larger truth.

Always use what you recall as a springboard for doing more research to make sure you know everything you need to know, not just what you remember.

2. Survivor bias.
Survivor bias is focusing on people or things that “survived” while overlooking those that did not simply because they aren’t visible.

For example, Ryan Gosling dropped out of high school when he was 17 and moved to L.A. to pursue acting. It worked spectacularly well for him, but what about the thousands of kids who drop out and move to L.A. in hopes of making it? Did they all become movie stars? Nope — but you never hear about them.

The same is true for Steve Jobs, who dropped out of Reed College so he could “drop in” on classes that interested him. It worked for him, but what about the thousands who don’t finish college? Did they all become billionaires? Nope — but you never hear about them.

Michael Sheerer talks about how advice about commercial success distorts perceptions by ignoring all the businesses and college dropouts who failed. University of Waterloo professor Larry Smith says, referring to Jobs, “And what about ‘John Henry’ and the 420,000 other people who tried ventures and failed? It’s a classic case of survivor bias. We make judgments about what we should do based on the people who survived, totally ignoring all the guidance from the people who failed.”

The problem with survivor bias is that it doesn’t really indicate whether a strategy, or a technique, or a plan will work — and especially whether or not it will work for you. Train like Usain Bolt and you probably won’t become the fastest man in the world. Be as outspoken as Charles Barkley and you probably won’t manage to be as widely liked.

Never base your plans solely on a blueprint that worked for an outlier. Work hard to know yourself: your strengths, your weaknesses, and what will make you happy.

Then you can determine the best path for you to take.

3. Loss avoidance.
We all tend to strongly prefer to avoid a loss than to acquire a gain. (Put more simply, we’re much more likely to want to avoid losing $100 than to make $100.)

How much more do we want to avoid a loss than acquire a gain? Research by Daniel Kahneman, author of the great book Thinking, Fast and Slow, indicates that losses are twice as psychologically powerful as gains. (I suppose that means a bird in the hand really is worth two in the bush.)

That bias is understandable. A loss means giving up something I actually have. Not acquiring a gain means giving up something theoretical rather than actual. If I have a chance to make $100 but don’t, that sucks, but if I have $100 and lose it, that really sucks.

The problem with loss avoidance is that it typically defaults to the status quo. Say you decide not to attend a networking event because you don’t want to give up an hour of your time. Fine, but what if you might have met the perfect partner for a joint venture? Or say you decide you don’t want to invest $20,000 in your business because you hate the thought of losing it. Fine, but what if you might have created a product line that would open up a great new revenue stream?

The key is to properly value the potential loss. Often what we may lose isn’t as valuable as we might think.

And think of it this way: You can recover from almost any loss, but will you someday recover from not having done everything possible to achieve your dreams?

4. Anchor setting.
Anchors are often used in negotiations because the value of an offer is highly influenced by the first relevant number — an anchor — that starts the negotiation.

Research shows that when a seller makes the first offer, the final price is typically higher than if the buyer makes the first offer. Why? The buyer’s first offer will usually be low and that sets a lower anchor. In negotiations, anchors matter.

Anchors matter everywhere else, too. If six packs of Diet Mt. Dew are on sale but the limit is four six packs per customer, research shows you’re more likely to buy two or three six-packs even if you only came in the store wanting one. Or take pricing schemes: Many businesses offer a high-priced “premium” service simply to make a less expensive level of service seem like more of a bargain. “I won’t spend $250 a month for that,” you think, “but $175 looks like a deal for this.”

Anchors are widely used because they’re extremely influential. The key is to know what you’re willing to pay, to know what you’re willing to do, to know what you really want, and then stick to that. Forget any other cues intended to influence your decision.

After all, a Lexus IS at $38,000 isn’t a better bargain just because an LFA costs $400,000. Every item, every service, every thing has an intrinsic value — especially to you.

Know that value before you start.

5. Myside bias.
Myside bias is also called confirmation bias, but should be called “I’m really smart and let me show you why” bias. Myside bias is our tendency to look for and favor data that confirms what we already believe — and to avoid or look poorly on data that goes against what we already believe.

So if I think customers love my new product, I’ll pay close attention to feedback from customers who enjoy their experience — and I’ll ignore any data that shows customers are less than satisfied.

I think our product is great, so I’ll look for data that supports my point and I’ll ignore any data that doesn’t.

Myside bias starts with forming a hypothesis — shark attacks are up, customers love your product, employees don’t care — and then seeking out data to support that hypothesis. Even worse, the more strongly you feel about your hypothesis, the more likely you are to fall prey to myside bias.

The best way to avoid myside bias is to draw conclusions after you review data. Instead of assuming customers love your product, go into it with an open mind and see what all of your customers have said.

Then you won’t be biased. Then you’ll know — and then you can make a smart decision on what to do about what you know.

6. Not invented here.
This last one is based on a simple premise: “If I (or we) didn’t think of it, it must be worthless.” (A close cousin to NIH is AIBHLRIA!: Already Invented But Hey, Let’s Reinvent It Anyway!)

We’ve all worked with people who hated any idea unless we found ways to make them think it was theirs. And we’ve all fallen prey to the same problem.

That’s because NIH can infect anyone — especially leaders and business owners — since the root of all NIH evil is ego. The higher you rise, especially in your own estimation, the greater the risk of NIH infection.

If you or your business has a chronic case of NIH, here are a few antidotes.

Don’t get distracted by the source. Employees at every level have good ideas. Assuming an entry-level employee’s input is worthless is just as foolish as assuming your VP of sales always has great ideas. The same is true for friends, family, people you’ve just met.

The value always lies in the idea and the implementation of that idea — not where the idea comes from.

Don’t get distracted by the industry. I learned more about increasing manufacturing efficiency from spending 30 minutes in a poultry processing plant than I learned from any formal process improvement program. (And I’ve been through, and led, a bunch of programs.)

Sometimes the best ideas are the ones you borrow from seemingly unrelated places.

Don’t get distracted by your ego. Being in charge doesn’t make you smarter, savvier, or more creative. Being in charge just makes you the person in charge. Leaders aren’t granted a monopoly on great ideas.

So never hesitate to let others shine. The more they shine, the brighter they’ll want to shine. Then everyone benefits — especially you.

Hold an “invented elsewhere” session. Reinventing the wheel is time consuming, plus there’s no guarantee of success. The next time you meet to brainstorm, tell your staff members they can only suggest ideas they’ve actually seen succeed somewhere else. That automatically removes NIH from the equation because any suggestions must have been invented elsewhere.

Never forget that great people, and great companies, adopt outstanding strategies and practices — no matter where they find them.

The opinions expressed here by Inc.com columnists are their own, not those of Inc.com.
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One day at school….

Teacher: @ice @plz, answer me. What do you wanna be when you grow up.
IcePlz: Teacher, I wish to become a very rich man. My business should be in all major cities. I should buy a big bungalow. I will always travel by air. Wherever I go into should stay in 5 star hotels. There should be minimum 10 servants to take care of my needs. I should own the costliest car. I should have the costliest diamond.

Teacher: Stop IcePlz. Students, henceforth you should not give such lengthy answer. Please reply in a sentence. Ok. Now you tell me Riya. What do you want to be?

Riya: IcePlz’s wife ….

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11 Surefire Ways To Instantly Connect With Anyone

Travis Bradberry

Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that the ability to connect with others is a natural, unteachable trait that belongs to only a lucky few. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, this ability is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ).

Research conducted by Matthew Lieberman at UCLA shows that being social and connecting with others is as fundamental a human need as food, shelter, and water. For example, Lieberman discovered that we feel social pain, such as the loss of a relationship, in the same part of the brain that we feel physical pain.

The primary function of this brain area is to alert us to threats to our survival. It makes you realize how powerful and important social connection is. We’re hard wired to be social creatures.

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood.” -Ralph Nichols

MRIs of the brain show that social thinking and analytical thinking involve entirely different neural networks and that they operate something like a seesaw. When you engage in analytical thinking, the social part of your brain quiets down, but as soon as you’re finished, the social network springs back to life.

The social brain is the end of the seesaw where the fat kid sits; it’s our brain’s default setting.

Given that social connection is such a fundamental human need, you’d think that it would be easy to connect with everyone we meet. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Against our own self-interest, we get bogged down by shyness, self-consciousness, cynicism, pride, competitiveness, jealousy, and arrogance.

If you can get that baggage out of the way, you can connect with anyone—even those who are still holding on to their own. Here are some tips that will help you to connect instantly with everyone you meet.

1. Leave a strong first impression

Research shows that most people decide whether or not they like you within the first seven seconds of meeting you. They then spend the rest of the conversation internally justifying their initial reaction. This may sound terrifying, but by knowing this, you can take advantage of it to connect with anyone.

First impressions are tied intimately to positive body language. Becoming cognizant of your gestures, expressions, and tone of voice (and making certain they’re positive) will draw people to you like ants to a picnic. Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the person who’s speaking are all forms of positive body language that high-EQ people use to draw others in. Positive body language can make all the difference in a conversation. It’s true that how you say something can be more important than what you say.

2. Be the first to venture beyond the superficial

Our first conversation or two with a new acquaintance tends to be pretty superficial. We portray a careful picture of ourselves, and we stick to nice, safe topics. We talk about the weather and people we know in common and share the most basic details about ourselves. But if you really want to connect with somebody, try upping the ante and revealing the real you. You don’t need to get too personal, but it’s important to let the other person know what you’re passionate about. Most of the time, if you open up, the other person will follow your lead and do the same.

3. Ask good questions

If the other person seems hesitant to open up, encourage them to do so by asking substantial questions. “What do you do?” doesn’t further the relationship nearly as much as, “Why did you choose your profession?” Search for questions that will help you to understand what makes the other person tick, without getting too personal.

4. Learn from them

In the course of his research, Lieberman concluded that our educational system would be much more effective if we tapped into the social side of learning, rather than trying to squash it. For example, the best way to help an eighth-grader struggling with math would be to have him get help from another student. Apply that same principle to your life, and be willing to learn from the person you’re trying to connect with. Not only does that make them feel more bonded to you, it makes them feel important. It also shows that you’re willing to be vulnerable and aren’t too proud to admit that you have much to learn.

5. Don’t make them regret removing the mask

If your new acquaintance does you the honor of opening up, don’t make them regret it. Sarcasm, criticism, or jokes that might make the other person feel judged for what they’ve shared are major faux paus. Instead, empathize with their approach to life, which you can do even if you don’t agree with their beliefs, and then reciprocate by revealing more about yourself.

6. Look for the good in them

Our culture can often predispose us toward cynicism. We seem to focus on finding reasons not to like people instead of reasons to like them. Shut that cynical voice off, and concentrate on looking for the good in a new acquaintance. For one thing, that keeps you from writing someone off too soon, but more importantly, when you expect the best from people, they’re likely to deliver it.

7. Smile

People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation and they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good about you as a result.

8. Use their name

Your name is an essential part of your identity, and it feels terrific when people use it. You shouldn’t use someone’s name only when you greet them. Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation. When you meet someone, don’t be afraid to ask their name a second time if you forget it right after you hear it. You’ll need to keep their name handy if you’re going to remember it the next time you see them.

9. Follow the platinum rule

We all know the golden rule, and it’s pretty easy to follow. The platinum rule is harder to follow because it requires us to treat people the way they want to be treated. Not only does doing so make the other person more comfortable—and therefore more likely to open up—but it also proves that you’ve been listening and have really heard what they’ve been telling you. And that shows extra effort on your part.

10. Don’t make it a contest

We’ve all seen the stereotypical sit-com scene where two guys in a bar spend the night trying to one-up each other. The same thing happens when you meet someone new. Their accomplishments and life experience sneak up on you and make you feel the urge to make yourself look just as good (if not better). Doing so may stroke your ego, but it doesn’t help you to connect with them. It keeps you focused on yourself when you should be trying to learn about them and find common ground.

11. Turn off your inner voice

One giant thing that keeps us from connecting with other people is that we don’t really listen. Instead, we’re thinking while the other person is talking. We’re so focused on what we’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect us down the road that we fail to hear what’s really being said. The words come through loud and clear, but the meaning is lost.

You must turn off this inner voice if you want to connect deeply with people. So what if you forget what you were going to say or if the conversation moves in a different direction before you have a chance to make your point. If your real goal is to connect with a person, you have to shut off your own soundtrack long enough to focus on what they’re telling you.

Bringing It All Together

The good news is that we’re programmed to connect with each other; we just keep getting in our own way. Try these tips the next time you meet someone new, and watch a superficial conversation turn into a real connection.

Travis co-wrote the bestselling book Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and co-founded TalentSmart.

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How young earners can grow their salary with their career

Career is the single largest contributor towards your well-being and wealth. Spend time to make a long-term plan and follow through to enjoy the rewards.

Career is the single largest contributor towards your well-being and wealth. Spend time to make a long-term plan and follow through to enjoy the rewards. Here are the four pillars of your plan.

Know your goal
This is the toughest part. Do you want to be a head of business, a specialist, an independent entrepreneur, or an academic in 5, 10 or 20 years? Identify the skills and experiences that will take you there. Find people whose success you want to emulate and ask them about their journeys and milestones.

Do you want to pursue higher education in five years? Choose jobs that prepare you for your studies. Do you have financial goals or geographical/ health constraints? Know that a Career in sales is likely to be more financially rewarding than in human resources, but is likely to involve more travel.

Learn in the initial years
The most successful and wealthy careers are built by continuously learning through the first few years. Find opportunities, companies and bosses where you are likely to learn the most. Big branded companies are not only great for your resume, but also places with structured training. However, formal training alone won’t get you ahead of your peers. Invest time and resources in extensive reading, volunteering for projects, spending time with mentors, listening to audio books on your commute and learning through online/weekend courses.

Take on responsibility
Being given more responsibility is the only measure that your career is progressing and a higher salary will follow. Always work towards the next promotion. Find out how you are evaluated, what results is your boss looking for, what initiatives can you take beyond your role, and work hard to get there. Be punctual, don’t be a troublemaker and maintain your manners with a ‘please’, ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’ in your interactions.

Be indispensable and likeable
Your new job offer is invariably linked to your last drawn salary, so make sure it grows through the years. Apart from the responsibility you handle, your salary hikes depend on your indispensability and likeability. Work towards acquiring skills and solving problems that no one else can, and be a person that others love to work with. To keep your income growing, find a role or firm where you are likely to succeed over a threeto five-year time frame.

Avoid these
If you have changed 3-4 jobs in 10 years, you will be perceived as unstable and unemployable for a mid- to senior-level role. Besides, random job changes driven by salary hikes alone mean there is no specialised set of skills to hire you for. Also remember that if you take a super-specialised role with a very high salary, no one else will require your skills or be able to afford your salary. Finally, if you take a huge hike in salary and a role with impossible deliverables, you are very likey to find yourself unemployed soon and trying to explain your failure.

( By Devashish Chakravarty, Director, Executive hiring at Quezx.com )

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How young earners can grow their salary with their career

Career is the single largest contributor towards your well-being and wealth. Spend time to make a long-term plan and follow through to enjoy the rewards.

Career is the single largest contributor towards your well-being and wealth. Spend time to make a long-term plan and follow through to enjoy the rewards. Here are the four pillars of your plan.

Know your goal
This is the toughest part. Do you want to be a head of business, a specialist, an independent entrepreneur, or an academic in 5, 10 or 20 years? Identify the skills and experiences that will take you there. Find people whose success you want to emulate and ask them about their journeys and milestones.


Do you want to pursue higher education in five years? Choose jobs that prepare you for your studies. Do you have financial goals or geographical/ health constraints? Know that a Career in sales is likely to be more financially rewarding than in human resources, but is likely to involve more travel.

Learn in the initial years
The most successful and wealthy careers are built by continuously learning through the first few years. Find opportunities, companies and bosses where you are likely to learn the most. Big branded companies are not only great for your resume, but also places with structured training. However, formal training alone won’t get you ahead of your peers. Invest time and resources in extensive reading, volunteering for projects, spending time with mentors, listening to audio books on your commute and learning through online/weekend courses.

Take on responsibility
Being given more responsibility is the only measure that your career is progressing and a higher salary will follow. Always work towards the next promotion. Find out how you are evaluated, what results is your boss looking for, what initiatives can you take beyond your role, and work hard to get there. Be punctual, don’t be a troublemaker and maintain your manners with a ‘please’, ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’ in your interactions.

Be indispensable and likeable
Your new job offer is invariably linked to your last drawn salary, so make sure it grows through the years. Apart from the responsibility you handle, your salary hikes depend on your indispensability and likeability. Work towards acquiring skills and solving problems that no one else can, and be a person that others love to work with. To keep your income growing, find a role or firm where you are likely to succeed over a threeto five-year time frame.

Avoid these
If you have changed 3-4 jobs in 10 years, you will be perceived as unstable and unemployable for a mid- to senior-level role. Besides, random job changes driven by salary hikes alone mean there is no specialised set of skills to hire you for. Also remember that if you take a super-specialised role with a very high salary, no one else will require your skills or be able to afford your salary. Finally, if you take a huge hike in salary and a role with impossible deliverables, you are very likey to find yourself unemployed soon and trying to explain your failure.



( By Devashish Chakravarty, Director, Executive hiring at Quezx.com )

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