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@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
Tappers & Listeners
In 1990, a psychology student at Stanford University, conducted an interesting experiment. It was referred to as the “Tappers & Listeners” experiment.
Each student was assigned one of two roles: ‘Tapper’ or ‘Listener’. The tappers were given a list of twenty-five popular tunes, such as “Happy Birthday to you” and “Jingle Bells”. They had to tap out the tune with their fingers on a table, and the listeners had to guess the song. As you might have guessed, this was not an easy task at all. Of the hundred and twenty times a tune was tapped, the listener could guess the tune correctly only thrice. That’s a success rate of about 2.5%.
But here’s the interesting bit. Before the tappers began to tap the tune, Elizabeth asked them to predict the probability of the listeners being able to guess the song correctly. The tappers predicted a 50% chance that they would be able to get the listeners to guess the tune correctly.
So while they thought that they would be able to get the listeners to guess correctly one out of two times, the reality was that listeners could guess the tune only once in forty attempts. How come?
Well, here’s what was happening. As the tapper taps the tune, he can hear the song playing in his head His fingers seem to be tapping the tune in perfect sync with what’s playing in his head. And he just can’t understand what the listener is not able to pick up such a simple tune!
And what about the listener? Well, she doesn’t have the tune playing in her head, without which, she has no idea what’s happening. She tries as hard as can to make sense of the bizarre Morse-code like tapping that she hears. Alas, to no avail. This results in utter frustration.
As leaders, we often fall into the tapper’s trap! We give instructions which seem very clear in our heads but our colleagues may have no idea what we want them to do. Has it happened to you that you called a young trainee to do some work, and when she got back the next day – having slogged all night to finish the task – you were disappointed? She hadn’t quiet done what you were looking for. You probably felt a bit frustrated too, that she ’didn’t quiet get it.’
The next time that happens, do remember that the problem is with the tapper – not the listener. Because you knew what you wanted to get done, you assumed it was clear to the young trainee too. That is seldom he case.
The next time you are communicating with a colleague, think about the “Tappers & Listeners” experiment. And remember, what’s obvious to you may not be so to the other person. When the listener says he doesn’t get it, that’s not a signal to get irritated. It’s probably telling you to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, and try and be more explicit. Don’t assume that knowledge levels are the same.
One more thing. Tapping harder or Tapping repeatedly won’t make it any easier for the Listener!
-—
@Navneet
@JonSnow
Nice one 
@Spock wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:can not say about being some else.
to many permutations and combinations.
would just be happy if our own past could be re-lived, go back in time and be young again and have memories from the future to act according (may be differently).
as for absolutely ‘anything’: we are becoming quasi-Gods in bits and pieces.
👌कुछ पीछे तो नहीं रह गया?👌
⏰
“अरे सब सामान ले लिया क्या? बस में किसी का कुछ पीछे रह तो नहीं गया?
“जी सर, सब ले लिया ।” स्कूल ट्रिप से वापिस आये सब बच्चे एक साथ चिल्लाये । और बस से उतरकर घरकी तरफ दौड़ गए ।
“सर, फिर भी बस में देख लेना ।”
हेडमास्टर जी का हुकुम होते ही सर वापिस बस में गए । बस में नजर घुमाते ही पता चला बहुत कुछ रह गया है पीछे । वेफर्स, चॉकलेट के रैपर्स और कोल्ड ड्रिंक पानी की खाली बोतले पड़ी थी । जबतक ये भरे थे, तबतक ये अपने थे । खाली होते ही ये अपने नहीं रहे । जितना हो सके, सर ने कैरी बैग में भर दिया और बस से उतरने लगे ।
“कुछ रह तो नहीं गया पीछे?” हेडमास्टर के फिरसे सवाल पूछने पर सर ने हँसके नहीं का इशारा किया ।
पर अब सर का मन “कुछ पीछे तो नहीं रह गया?” इस सवाल के इर्द गिर्द घूमने लगा । जिंदगी के हर मोड़पर अलग अलग रूप में यही सवाल परेशान करता है । इस सवाल की व्याप्ती इतनी बड़ी होगी ये सर को अभी पता चला …
⏰ बचपन गुजरते गुजरते कुछ खेल खेलना पीछे तो नहीं रह गया?
⏰जवानी में किसीको चाहा पर जताने की हिम्मत नहीं हुई… कुछ पीछे तो नहीं रह गया?
जिंदगी के सफ़र में चलते चलते हर मुकाम पर यही सवाल परेशान करता रहा…. कुछ पीछे तो नहीं रह गया?
⏰3 महीने के बच्चे को दाई के पास रखकर जॉब पर जानेवाली माँ को दाई ने पूछा… कुछ पीछे तो नहीं रह गया? पर्स, चाबी सब ले लिया ना?
अब वो कैसे हाँ कहे? पैसे के पीछे भागते भागते… सब कुछ पाने की ख्वाईश में वो सब कुछ तो पीछे छोड़कर जा रही है…
⏰
शादी में दुल्हन को बिदा करते ही
शादी का हॉल खाली करते हुए दुल्हन की बुआ ने पूछा…"भैया, कुछ पीछे तो नहीं रह गया ना? चेक करो ठीकसे ।.. बाप चेक करने गया तो दुल्हन के रूम में कुछ फूल सूखे पड़े थे । सब कुछ तो पीछे रह गया… 25 साल जो नाम लेकर जिसको आवाज देता था लाड से… वो नाम पीछे रह गया और उस नाम के आगे गर्व से जो नाम लगाता था वो नाम भी पीछे रह गया अब …
“भैया, देखा? कुछ पीछे तो नहीं रह गया?” बुआ के इस सवाल पर आँखों में आये आंसू छुपाते बाप जुबाँ से तो नहीं बोला…. पर दिल में एक ही आवाज थी… सब कुछ तो पीछे रह गया…
⏰ “कुछ पीछे तो नहीं रह गया?” शमशान से लौटते वक्त पुजारी ने पूछा । नहीं कहते हुए वो आगे बढ़ा… पर नजर फेर ली, एक बार पीछे देखने के लिए….माँ की चिता की सुलगती आग देखकर मन भर आया । भागते हुए गया और थोडीसी राख चिमटी में लेकर लौटा ।।
दोस्त ने पूछा… कुछ रह गया था क्या?
भरी आँखों से बोला…नहीं कुछ भी नहीं रहा अब…और जो रह गया वो अब कभी वापिस नहीं आ सकता ।।
🔴🙏🏻, शायद पुराना समय याद आ जाए, आंखें भर आएं और आज को जी भर जीने का मकसद मिल जाए।😊
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
Tappers & Listeners
In 1990, a psychology student at Stanford University, conducted an interesting experiment. It was referred to as the “Tappers & Listeners” experiment.
Each student was assigned one of two roles: ‘Tapper’ or ‘Listener’. The tappers were given a list of twenty-five popular tunes, such as “Happy Birthday to you” and “Jingle Bells”. They had to tap out the tune with their fingers on a table, and the listeners had to guess the song. As you might have guessed, this was not an easy task at all. Of the hundred and twenty times a tune was tapped, the listener could guess the tune correctly only thrice. That’s a success rate of about 2.5%.
But here’s the interesting bit. Before the tappers began to tap the tune, Elizabeth asked them to predict the probability of the listeners being able to guess the song correctly. The tappers predicted a 50% chance that they would be able to get the listeners to guess the tune correctly.
So while they thought that they would be able to get the listeners to guess correctly one out of two times, the reality was that listeners could guess the tune only once in forty attempts. How come?
Well, here’s what was happening. As the tapper taps the tune, he can hear the song playing in his head His fingers seem to be tapping the tune in perfect sync with what’s playing in his head. And he just can’t understand what the listener is not able to pick up such a simple tune!
And what about the listener? Well, she doesn’t have the tune playing in her head, without which, she has no idea what’s happening. She tries as hard as can to make sense of the bizarre Morse-code like tapping that she hears. Alas, to no avail. This results in utter frustration.
As leaders, we often fall into the tapper’s trap! We give instructions which seem very clear in our heads but our colleagues may have no idea what we want them to do. Has it happened to you that you called a young trainee to do some work, and when she got back the next day – having slogged all night to finish the task – you were disappointed? She hadn’t quiet done what you were looking for. You probably felt a bit frustrated too, that she ’didn’t quiet get it.’
The next time that happens, do remember that the problem is with the tapper – not the listener. Because you knew what you wanted to get done, you assumed it was clear to the young trainee too. That is seldom he case.
The next time you are communicating with a colleague, think about the “Tappers & Listeners” experiment. And remember, what’s obvious to you may not be so to the other person. When the listener says he doesn’t get it, that’s not a signal to get irritated. It’s probably telling you to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, and try and be more explicit. Don’t assume that knowledge levels are the same.
One more thing. Tapping harder or Tapping repeatedly won’t make it any easier for the Listener!
-—
@Navneet
@JonSnow
Thanks for sharing this excellent piece of writing/research Barood Sir. Copying and forwarding it to my WhatsApp contacts 
@Spock wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:can not say about being some else.
to many permutations and combinations.
would just be happy if our own past could be re-lived, go back in time and be young again and have memories from the future to act according (may be differently).
as for absolutely ‘anything’: we are becoming quasi-Gods in bits and pieces.
Beat this
……
Someone knocked at my door last evening. When I opened it, I saw a guy from Domino’s holding a chicken pepperoni pizza with extra cheese and onion rings.
“I haven’t ordered any pizza” I said. “This must be a mistake”
“I know” he replied.
“Your neighbour forgot his Facebook password and could not update status…he just wanted to show you what he was eating for dinner”
😝😝😂😂😂
“@CrazyTroll ":http://www.desidime.com/users/...34
न मीर हूँ
न खुशरो हूँ
न ग़ालिब
न गुलज़ार
इश्क़ हुआ है
तुझसे तो
लिख बैठा
कुछ अशहार !!
✒📖🌹
Age of a Woman!
A lady is having a bad day at the table in Monte Carlo.
Down to her last £100, completely exasperated, she cries, “What rotten luck! What in the world should I do now?”
A gent next to her, trying to calm her down a bit, calmly suggests, “I don’t know… Why don’t you play your age?”
He walks away. Moments later, his he is intrigued to hear a great commotion at the roulette table. Maybe, she won!
Rushing back to the table and pushing his way through the crowd, he is stunned to see the lady lying limp on the floor, with the table operator kneeling over her.
He asks, “What happened? Is she all right?”
“I don’t know, she put everything on number 24 and when 36 came up, she screamed and then fainted.
Regretting over yesterday and fear of tomorrow
are the two thieves which steal our present.
Live for today… life will be beautiful.
!🌹🙏
🌹🌹
कोई ग़ज़ल सुना कर क्या करना,,
यूँ बात बढ़ा कर क्या करना,,
तुम मेरे थे, तुम मेरे हो,,
दुनिया को बता कर क्या करना,,
तुम साथ निभाओ चाहत से,,
कोई रस्म निभा कर क्या करना,,
तुम खफ़ा भी अच्छे लगते हो,,
फिर तुमको मना कर क्या करना,,
तेरे दर पे आके बैठे हैं,,
अब घर भी जाकर क्या करना,,
दिन याद से अच्छा गुजरेगा,,
फिर तुम को बुला कर क्या करना।।
💐💐💐💐
Panama Papers Explained So That Even A 5-Year-Old Can Understand
“When you get a quarter you put it in the piggy bank. The piggy bank is on a shelf in your closet. Your mom knows this and she checks on it every once in a while, so she knows when you put more money in or spend it.
Now one day, you might decide ‘I don’t want mom to look at my money.’ So you go over to Johnny’s house with an extra piggy bank that you’re going to keep in his room. You write your name on it and put it in his closet. Johnny’s mom is always very busy, so she never has time to check on his piggy bank. So you can keep yours there and it will stay a secret.
Now all the kids in the neighborhood think this is a good idea, and everyone goes to Johnny’s house with extra piggy banks. Now Johnny’s closet is full of piggy banks from everyone in the neighborhood.
One day, Johnny’s mom comes home and sees all the piggy banks. She gets very mad and calls everyone’s parents to let them know.
Now not everyone did this for a bad reason. Eric’s older brother always steals from his piggy bank, so he just wanted a better hiding spot. Timmy wanted to save up to buy his mom a birthday present without her knowing.
Sammy just did it because he thought it was fun. But many kids did do it for a bad reason. Jacob was stealing people’s lunch money and didn’t want his parents to figure it out. Michael was stealing money from his mom’s purse.
Fat Bobby’s parents put him on a diet, and didn’t want them to figure out when he was buying candy.
Now in real life, many very important people were just caught hiding their piggy banks at Johnny’s house in Panama.
Today their moms all found out. Pretty soon, we’ll know more about which of these important people were doing it for bad reasons and which were doing it for good reasons. But almost everyone is in trouble regardless, because it’s against the rules to keep secrets no matter what.”
@@anixy21@@ @JonSnow @devashi
@infrared1100 @mdeal001
A wife saw the fridge full of Kingfisher beer bottles kept by husband… she asked:
“What is this For ??”
Husband’s humble answer: "I’m doing what the banks could not do………..freezing the properties of Vijay Mallya
😜
” Life is like a flowing river of opportunities “Its upto you to stand up with a bucket or spoon.” 😊☕💐
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
Panama Papers Explained So That Even A 5-Year-Old Can Understand
“When you get a quarter you put it in the piggy bank. The piggy bank is on a shelf in your closet. Your mom knows this and she checks on it every once in a while, so she knows when you put more money in or spend it.
Now one day, you might decide ‘I don’t want mom to look at my money.’ So you go over to Johnny’s house with an extra piggy bank that you’re going to keep in his room. You write your name on it and put it in his closet. Johnny’s mom is always very busy, so she never has time to check on his piggy bank. So you can keep yours there and it will stay a secret.
Now all the kids in the neighborhood think this is a good idea, and everyone goes to Johnny’s house with extra piggy banks. Now Johnny’s closet is full of piggy banks from everyone in the neighborhood.
One day, Johnny’s mom comes home and sees all the piggy banks. She gets very mad and calls everyone’s parents to let them know.
Now not everyone did this for a bad reason. Eric’s older brother always steals from his piggy bank, so he just wanted a better hiding spot. Timmy wanted to save up to buy his mom a birthday present without her knowing.
Sammy just did it because he thought it was fun. But many kids did do it for a bad reason. Jacob was stealing people’s lunch money and didn’t want his parents to figure it out. Michael was stealing money from his mom’s purse.
Fat Bobby’s parents put him on a diet, and didn’t want them to figure out when he was buying candy.
Now in real life, many very important people were just caught hiding their piggy banks at Johnny’s house in Panama.
Today their moms all found out. Pretty soon, we’ll know more about which of these important people were doing it for bad reasons and which were doing it for good reasons. But almost everyone is in trouble regardless, because it’s against the rules to keep secrets no matter what.”
@@anixy21@@ @JonSnow @devashi
@infrared1100 @mdeal001
@dealyogi
Great Share Barood Boss. It can be shared via a new thread. And you may also work upon categorization of your threads… like placing the forwarded GIFs and motivational thoughts in different threads and such good piece of writing in different ones.
Can’t give Karma again. Karma Pending.
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@Spock wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:can not say about being some else.
to many permutations and combinations.
would just be happy if our own past could be re-lived, go back in time and be young again and have memories from the future to act according (may be differently).
as for absolutely ‘anything’: we are becoming quasi-Gods in bits and pieces.
Beat this
……Someone knocked at my door last evening. When I opened it, I saw a guy from Domino’s holding a chicken pepperoni pizza with extra cheese and onion rings.
“I haven’t ordered any pizza” I said. “This must be a mistake”
“I know” he replied.
“Your neighbour forgot his Facebook password and could not update status…he just wanted to show you what he was eating for dinner”
😝😝😂😂😂“@CrazyTroll ":http://www.desidime.com/users/...34
गम भुलाने के लिए तुम हर शाम महफ़िल सजाते हो….
मैंने एक शाम उसे याद कर लिया….तो गुनाह कर दिया.
“@CrazyTroll ":http://www.desidime.com/users/...34
InshaAllah
Gotta love those Canadian doctors
Who said that the health care in Canada was not up to par?
A Paki immigrant in Toronto goes to the doctor and says “I feel terrible.”
The doctor examines him and then says: “You need to pee and put your bowel movements in a bucket for a week, then throw in a dead fish and some rotten cabbage. Put a towel over your head and inhale the vapors for three days.”
The Paki does this and goes back to the doctor 8 days later and says, “I feel wonderful! what was wrong with me?”
The doctor replied… “You were homesick.”
😛😝😛😝
“@CrazyTroll ":http://www.desidime.com/users/...34 wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@Spock wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:can not say about being some else.
to many permutations and combinations.
would just be happy if our own past could be re-lived, go back in time and be young again and have memories from the future to act according (may be differently).
as for absolutely ‘anything’: we are becoming quasi-Gods in bits and pieces.
Beat this
……Someone knocked at my door last evening. When I opened it, I saw a guy from Domino’s holding a chicken pepperoni pizza with extra cheese and onion rings.
“I haven’t ordered any pizza” I said. “This must be a mistake”
“I know” he replied.
“Your neighbour forgot his Facebook password and could not update status…he just wanted to show you what he was eating for dinner”
😝😝😂😂😂“@CrazyTroll ":http://www.desidime.com/users/...34
गम भुलाने के लिए तुम हर शाम महफ़िल सजाते हो….
मैंने एक शाम उसे याद कर लिया….तो गुनाह कर दिया.
Kya Likhte hai Wah Wah Excellent
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
ठंडी रोटी अक्सर
उनके ही नसीब में होती है
जो अपनों के लिए
कमाई करके देर से घर लौटते हैं…✍
@the king @parry @kage01
@ankurjpr
@gambits @@bootysweet@@ @ishandon
Great Lines :- @B@R_0_0_D
@onlyrocky @B@R_0_0_D @@CrazyTroll@@
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
बहस कर बैठा आइना आज
पढ़ नहीं पाता चेहरा तेरा
दिल खोल के बता आज !!
🌹🎻💘
@srocks @Smarty @Bulwark
फ़ितूर होता है हर उम्र मे जुदा जुदा…….. खिलौने, माशूक़, रसूख़ और ख़ुदा।
एक बार अमेरीका में एक विमान..
खराब मौसम के चलते..
गोते खाने लगा…..
विमान के पायलट ने अपना सारा…
अनुभव और कौशल्य लगा के…
पहाड़ों के बीच से बचते बचाते..
आड़े तिरछे कट मार के..
विमान को बचा कर एअरपोर्ट…
पे ले आया…..
उसका सत्कार किया गया….
और पुछा गया की ऐसा talent..
और अनुभव उसने कहा और..
कैसे प्राप्त किया…??
वो बड़ी सहजता से बोला…
“भइया पाहिले कानपुर में ऑटो चलावत रहली”
……….😊😳😂……
@numberek @cancob
@vishusgh @sheetalvarunyadav2223