Any good sites to seek relationship advice?

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hana25

Preferably Indian, since western dating stuff doesn't match with our culture.

Also don't suggest quora, too many fake accounts or over the top replies.

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Apne kisi aise dost se advice lelo jo aaj tak relationship mai na aya ho. Best advice wahi log dete hain somehow
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OP,
Its my assumption.

You are trying to fall in love for getting married.  Chat > Discuss > Fall in love > Marriage

The other person wants the other way.  Enjoyment first and then see if he falls in love with you later.

The best thing is, do not chat. instead ask your parents to talk to his parents and see the compatibility. 

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Apne kisi aise dost se advice lelo jo aaj tak relationship mai na aya ho. Best advice wahi log dete hain somehow
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TINYY wrote:

reddit

Isnt reddit a foreign site?

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Tanmayyy wrote:
Apne kisi aise dost se advice lelo jo aaj tak relationship mai na aya ho. Best advice wahi log dete hain somehow

Can a male here give judgement if a man in jeevansathi site is behaving normally or a potential pervert?

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hana25 wrote:

Isnt reddit a foreign site?

there are lots of indian community there like if you are from Delhi you can join Delhi and India forum and ask questions people are pretty genuine there with diverse field of experience ( I am myself a member )
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hana25 wrote:

Can a male here give judgement if a man in jeevansathi site is behaving normally or a potential pervert?

yes definitely he can.Been a male we somehow know intentions of another man 😂😂
but I think you should trust your gut whether it feels right or wrong
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hana25 wrote:

Can a male here give judgement if a man in jeevansathi site is behaving normally or a potential pervert?

On every site you’ll find opinions only which may vary. Ask away here or on reddit india forum or quora. Or seek a professional marriage counsellor. 

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hana25 wrote:

Can a male here give judgement if a man in jeevansathi site is behaving normally or a potential pervert?

Absolutely. If you comfortable in sharing stuff in this forum ask away. Many knowledgeable and experienced people are here who can definitely give an honest and good opinion to you.
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Tanmayyy wrote:
Absolutely. If you comfortable in sharing stuff in this forum ask away. Many knowledgeable and experienced people are here who can definitely give an honest and good opinion to you.

I feel very uncomfortable and doubt the character of the other person who straight off the bat calls you dear/darling and say x rated stuff. 

Specially when we're practically strangers, shouldn't we get to know each other and have conversations in a decent manner?

Or am I am outdated prude? Also is it even ok to chat/call 24/7 when you just know from day 1? This is happening quite frequently among all the profiles I started over the last year.

And if I miss chat bcz not online all the time, (it is impossible unless I'm a net addict), they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

Like what am I suppose to talk about when I already exhausted topics. It's not like we're best friends and know and have similar topics to have long conversations.

The people I know... Including my friends and even neighbours' tenants. No one talks to the same person for 1+ hour TWICE a day. 

Also wants to call at 11pm or 12pm but I switch off my phone.

I outright cancel as soon as they try to force me to meet inside hotels and not in open restaurants. Too many are in national and local news on similar stuff to know what is this setting about.

Out of 25 profiles, only 2 were rational to me and unfortunately didn't work out bcz of job location issues.

Also I get messages from call girl services like this every week bcz I swapped my brother's jio SIM from day 1 (it's now proven they send such service messages to male SIM card holders, not matter what their age/married status is)

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/800898/medium/Screenshot_2022-09-01-19-13-01-23.jpg?1662039903

Even with all such services, males in my states treat any women as free prostitutes. Im only trying to look for a life partner because my parents are worried sick and even getting their bp up unnecessarily.

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TINYY wrote:
there are lots of indian community there like if you are from Delhi you can join Delhi and India forum and ask questions people are pretty genuine there with diverse field of experience ( I am myself a member )

I didn't know that one can join and select location. Will check out then

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romilq239 wrote:

On every site you’ll find opinions only which may vary. Ask away here or on reddit india forum or quora. Or seek a professional marriage counsellor. 

Marriage counseling services are frauds. Tried 2 of them, once they get their advance money, they treat you as if you're invisible 

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Relationship Advise - Dimers hai na biggrin

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hana25 wrote:

I feel very uncomfortable and doubt the character of the other person who straight off the bat calls you dear/darling and say x rated stuff. 

Specially when we're practically strangers, shouldn't we get to know each other and have conversations in a decent manner?

Or am I am outdated prude? Also is it even ok to chat/call 24/7 when you just know from day 1? This is happening quite frequently among all the profiles I started over the last year.

And if I miss chat bcz not online all the time, (it is impossible unless I'm a net addict), they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

Like what am I suppose to talk about when I already exhausted topics. It's not like we're best friends and know and have similar topics to have long conversations.

The people I know... Including my friends and even neighbours' tenants. No one talks to the same person for 1+ hour TWICE a day. 

Also wants to call at 11pm or 12pm but I switch off my phone.

I outright cancel as soon as they try to force me to meet inside hotels and not in open restaurants. Too many are in national and local news on similar stuff to know what is this setting about.

Out of 25 profiles, only 2 were rational to me and unfortunately didn't work out bcz of job location issues.

Also I get messages from call girl services like this every week bcz I swapped my brother's jio SIM from day 1 (it's now proven they send such service messages to male SIM card holders, not matter what their age/married status is)

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/800898/original/Screenshot_2022-09-01-19-13-01-23.jpg?1662039903

Even with all such services, males in my states treat any women as free prostitutes. Im only trying to look for a life partner because my parents are worried sick and even getting their bp up unnecessarily.

After few days change your profile name or else you might start getting messages here also
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hana25 wrote:

I feel very uncomfortable and doubt the character of the other person who straight off the bat calls you dear/darling and say x rated stuff. 

Specially when we're practically strangers, shouldn't we get to know each other and have conversations in a decent manner?

Or am I am outdated prude? Also is it even ok to chat/call 24/7 when you just know from day 1? This is happening quite frequently among all the profiles I started over the last year.

And if I miss chat bcz not online all the time, (it is impossible unless I'm a net addict), they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

Like what am I suppose to talk about when I already exhausted topics. It's not like we're best friends and know and have similar topics to have long conversations.

The people I know... Including my friends and even neighbours' tenants. No one talks to the same person for 1+ hour TWICE a day. 

Also wants to call at 11pm or 12pm but I switch off my phone.

I outright cancel as soon as they try to force me to meet inside hotels and not in open restaurants. Too many are in national and local news on similar stuff to know what is this setting about.

Out of 25 profiles, only 2 were rational to me and unfortunately didn't work out bcz of job location issues.

Also I get messages from call girl services like this every week bcz I swapped my brother's jio SIM from day 1 (it's now proven they send such service messages to male SIM card holders, not matter what their age/married status is)

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/800898/original/Screenshot_2022-09-01-19-13-01-23.jpg?1662039903

Even with all such services, males in my states treat any women as free prostitutes. Im only trying to look for a life partner because my parents are worried sick and even getting their bp up unnecessarily.

Pls don't post such nos here on DD....
I too get messages from too many unknown females like these like anything biggrin
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hana25 wrote:

I feel very uncomfortable and doubt the character of the other person who straight off the bat calls you dear/darling and say x rated stuff. 

Specially when we're practically strangers, shouldn't we get to know each other and have conversations in a decent manner?

Or am I am outdated prude? Also is it even ok to chat/call 24/7 when you just know from day 1? This is happening quite frequently among all the profiles I started over the last year.

And if I miss chat bcz not online all the time, (it is impossible unless I'm a net addict), they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

Like what am I suppose to talk about when I already exhausted topics. It's not like we're best friends and know and have similar topics to have long conversations.

The people I know... Including my friends and even neighbours' tenants. No one talks to the same person for 1+ hour TWICE a day. 

Also wants to call at 11pm or 12pm but I switch off my phone.

I outright cancel as soon as they try to force me to meet inside hotels and not in open restaurants. Too many are in national and local news on similar stuff to know what is this setting about.

Out of 25 profiles, only 2 were rational to me and unfortunately didn't work out bcz of job location issues.

Also I get messages from call girl services like this every week bcz I swapped my brother's jio SIM from day 1 (it's now proven they send such service messages to male SIM card holders, not matter what their age/married status is)

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/800898/original/Screenshot_2022-09-01-19-13-01-23.jpg?1662039903

Even with all such services, males in my states treat any women as free prostitutes. Im only trying to look for a life partner because my parents are worried sick and even getting their bp up unnecessarily.

Based on what you've mentioned in the comment, I think you're doing absolutely fine and don't need any relationship advice. I'm not being sarcastic here. 
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MrKool_JJ wrote:
Pls don't post such nos here on DD....
I too get messages from too many unknown females like these like anything biggrin

I don't think this no and their service will work pan India... 

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Ransome wrote:
Based on what you've mentioned in the comment, I think you're doing absolutely fine and don't need any relationship advice. I'm not being sarcastic here. 

So I'm not the abnormal prude? Thank goodness.. I thought that's the new norm and I had to change my personality and get out of my comfort zone 😵


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hana25 wrote:

I don't think this no and their service will work pan India... 

Whether the no is working or not that's a different thing. Any numbers shouldn't be openly posted on DD unless it's spam or something. Admins might have better understanding on this one. Nothing against anything biggrin
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Seems jeevansathi type of websites are also becoming tinder, or adda for scamsters. Too many fake profiles.
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hana25 wrote:

I feel very uncomfortable and doubt the character of the other person who straight off the bat calls you dear/darling and say x rated stuff. 

Specially when we're practically strangers, shouldn't we get to know each other and have conversations in a decent manner?

Or am I am outdated prude? Also is it even ok to chat/call 24/7 when you just know from day 1? This is happening quite frequently among all the profiles I started over the last year.

And if I miss chat bcz not online all the time, (it is impossible unless I'm a net addict), they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

Like what am I suppose to talk about when I already exhausted topics. It's not like we're best friends and know and have similar topics to have long conversations.

The people I know... Including my friends and even neighbours' tenants. No one talks to the same person for 1+ hour TWICE a day. 

Also wants to call at 11pm or 12pm but I switch off my phone.

I outright cancel as soon as they try to force me to meet inside hotels and not in open restaurants. Too many are in national and local news on similar stuff to know what is this setting about.

Out of 25 profiles, only 2 were rational to me and unfortunately didn't work out bcz of job location issues.

Also I get messages from call girl services like this every week bcz I swapped my brother's jio SIM from day 1 (it's now proven they send such service messages to male SIM card holders, not matter what their age/married status is)

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/800898/medium/Screenshot_2022-09-01-19-13-01-23.jpg?1662039903

Even with all such services, males in my states treat any women as free prostitutes. Im only trying to look for a life partner because my parents are worried sick and even getting their bp up unnecessarily.

they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

BLOCK them
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hana25 wrote:

I feel very uncomfortable and doubt the character of the other person who straight off the bat calls you dear/darling and say x rated stuff. 

Specially when we're practically strangers, shouldn't we get to know each other and have conversations in a decent manner?

Or am I am outdated prude? Also is it even ok to chat/call 24/7 when you just know from day 1? This is happening quite frequently among all the profiles I started over the last year.

And if I miss chat bcz not online all the time, (it is impossible unless I'm a net addict), they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

Like what am I suppose to talk about when I already exhausted topics. It's not like we're best friends and know and have similar topics to have long conversations.

The people I know... Including my friends and even neighbours' tenants. No one talks to the same person for 1+ hour TWICE a day. 

Also wants to call at 11pm or 12pm but I switch off my phone.

I outright cancel as soon as they try to force me to meet inside hotels and not in open restaurants. Too many are in national and local news on similar stuff to know what is this setting about.

Out of 25 profiles, only 2 were rational to me and unfortunately didn't work out bcz of job location issues.

Also I get messages from call girl services like this every week bcz I swapped my brother's jio SIM from day 1 (it's now proven they send such service messages to male SIM card holders, not matter what their age/married status is)

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/800898/medium/Screenshot_2022-09-01-19-13-01-23.jpg?1662039903

Even with all such services, males in my states treat any women as free prostitutes. Im only trying to look for a life partner because my parents are worried sick and even getting their bp up unnecessarily.

Which state are you from 🤔
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Tanmayyy wrote:
Apne kisi aise dost se advice lelo jo aaj tak relationship mai na aya ho. Best advice wahi log dete hain somehow

How this works 22g? Single ko kya maloom relationship ke baare me?

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What I have observed is that all these online match making sites are fraud.

Few bots profile to lure subscription, then very rare genuine profiles, then such tinder type stuff happening now and then.

Use local community of yours to get possible match in known circle of friends and families.

Even after getting profile suggestion, do a lot of homework with respect to the financial and outlook of the family.

My suggestion look for match with similar financial status only for a happy life.

Cheers.


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hana25 wrote:

I feel very uncomfortable and doubt the character of the other person who straight off the bat calls you dear/darling and say x rated stuff. 

Specially when we're practically strangers, shouldn't we get to know each other and have conversations in a decent manner?

Or am I am outdated prude? Also is it even ok to chat/call 24/7 when you just know from day 1? This is happening quite frequently among all the profiles I started over the last year.

And if I miss chat bcz not online all the time, (it is impossible unless I'm a net addict), they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

Like what am I suppose to talk about when I already exhausted topics. It's not like we're best friends and know and have similar topics to have long conversations.

The people I know... Including my friends and even neighbours' tenants. No one talks to the same person for 1+ hour TWICE a day. 

Also wants to call at 11pm or 12pm but I switch off my phone.

I outright cancel as soon as they try to force me to meet inside hotels and not in open restaurants. Too many are in national and local news on similar stuff to know what is this setting about.

Out of 25 profiles, only 2 were rational to me and unfortunately didn't work out bcz of job location issues.

Also I get messages from call girl services like this every week bcz I swapped my brother's jio SIM from day 1 (it's now proven they send such service messages to male SIM card holders, not matter what their age/married status is)

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/800898/medium/Screenshot_2022-09-01-19-13-01-23.jpg?1662039903

Even with all such services, males in my states treat any women as free prostitutes. Im only trying to look for a life partner because my parents are worried sick and even getting their bp up unnecessarily.

I was never ever in the relationship but I have a female friend, from what you have wrote, I would say that you are not wrong at all. Being a male, I agree that calling a female darling / dear from day 1 is absolutely wrong, especially when you both don't know each other for even a month & there's is nothing old fashioned about it. Secondly, 24*7 a day? No, it's not needed at all from what I have experienced I am have seen my friends (male) they are too much possesive about opposite gender & expect her to be with them all time, which is practically impossible, female have more work to be done than boys & they cant be available all the time & when their this expectations are not met they play this emotional blackmail or abusive game. I am ok with emotional blackmail thing, If & only the opposite gender have true feelings for you & they care for you. If not then they are just doing time pass & you can cut off the lines there If you observe, for abusive tone people cut off them (1/2)
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hana25 wrote:

I feel very uncomfortable and doubt the character of the other person who straight off the bat calls you dear/darling and say x rated stuff. 

Specially when we're practically strangers, shouldn't we get to know each other and have conversations in a decent manner?

Or am I am outdated prude? Also is it even ok to chat/call 24/7 when you just know from day 1? This is happening quite frequently among all the profiles I started over the last year.

And if I miss chat bcz not online all the time, (it is impossible unless I'm a net addict), they either start emotional blackmail or become abusive.

Like what am I suppose to talk about when I already exhausted topics. It's not like we're best friends and know and have similar topics to have long conversations.

The people I know... Including my friends and even neighbours' tenants. No one talks to the same person for 1+ hour TWICE a day. 

Also wants to call at 11pm or 12pm but I switch off my phone.

I outright cancel as soon as they try to force me to meet inside hotels and not in open restaurants. Too many are in national and local news on similar stuff to know what is this setting about.

Out of 25 profiles, only 2 were rational to me and unfortunately didn't work out bcz of job location issues.

Also I get messages from call girl services like this every week bcz I swapped my brother's jio SIM from day 1 (it's now proven they send such service messages to male SIM card holders, not matter what their age/married status is)

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/800898/medium/Screenshot_2022-09-01-19-13-01-23.jpg?1662039903

Even with all such services, males in my states treat any women as free prostitutes. Im only trying to look for a life partner because my parents are worried sick and even getting their bp up unnecessarily.

straight If they cant respect you just cause you are not available for some time then I don't think I need to say how the future with such mindset person would be. Speaking about meeting, try to meet at neutral places & do informed you closed ones that you are visiting so & so place for meeting XYZ person & share his number with them. Don't get me wrong but I see that you are looking into the stuff cause you are worried about your parents & that makes you think maybe you are outdated person & not in touch with the new stuff but that's not the case you are right & there's nothing wrong in it 🙂 (2/2)
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OP,
Its my assumption.

You are trying to fall in love for getting married.  Chat > Discuss > Fall in love > Marriage

The other person wants the other way.  Enjoyment first and then see if he falls in love with you later.

The best thing is, do not chat. instead ask your parents to talk to his parents and see the compatibility. 

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Thought to creat a profile on jeevansathi, as my 2 frnds got married via that only, but now i think i should stick with the local sansta/groups.
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