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[Depressed] - Stuck in a mediocre job while friends bagging 40-50LPA

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The current part of my life is probably the most depressing part.
Almost all the people in my friend circle works in big IT firms and bagging 40-50LPA packages. One even have 70LPA. Even their wives make more than 30LPA.

While I am stuck in a mediocre job. I make around 20LPA. While my wife makes 10LPA.

My wife constantly naggs about this to me. I am not able to match their lifestyle when I hangout with them. I feel low.

I am very afraid that I will be able to provide a better life to my kid.
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Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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Well... before career...you guys need to work on your relationship and understanding between you both.

Make sure your home is in order before you are planning to conquer the world.

P.S. I am nobody to comment and I apologize if it hurts you.

Cool Cool
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Your 70LPA friend will  be thinking about his 2cr package friend. Humans are never gonna satisfied when it comes to money. Just make your current life simple and happy.

Deal Newbie Deal Newbie
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"My wife constantly naggs about this to me. I am not able to match their lifestyle when I hangout with them. I feel low."

Feeling sorry for you dude, if your wife doesn't find happiness in 20LPA, then she will never be even happy with 2 Cr.
Happiness is an internal function, if it depends on LPA, forget that you will ever become happy.

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Analyst Analyst
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Hope, LPA is not TPM.

Benevolent Benevolent
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TPM.  ? 

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Blaze Blaze
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Both of you try to work smart and hard eventually you will be able to catch-up with your friends.

Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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Well... before career...you guys need to work on your relationship and understanding between you both.

Make sure your home is in order before you are planning to conquer the world.

P.S. I am nobody to comment and I apologize if it hurts you.

Firestorm Firestorm
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I m in my early 20s and posts like these make me more depressed 💔

I feel you brother ♥️
(I know u r a senior to me .. but i could give you just 1 advice, that start learning a skill .. Precisely Trading/investing in Stock/F&O at first it would look difficult but its something that could make you financially independent! Always gain experience by trading with 1 lot only! Do not gamble or buy any course!)

Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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Such posts are published to make you feel depressed bro.

Chill karne ka bidu... bc life me aur hai kya smile

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You and your wife need to observe if all those making more money are happy. Check how much stress one has to go through to keep the lifestyle you are comparing with. As long as you keep your expenses in balance with your earnings you are in good condition. Staying happy with what you have is more important. Make sure you invest your savings wisely. How much you save is more important than how much you earn. Last thing, you are not alone in this situation.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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You depressed with 20 LPA. Then how about who earns monthly 10k or imagine the life of daily wage labour,road side poor beggars?

Comparison makes you sad.

Be happy with what you have.

Happiness is within you, money can't give happiness.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Me with 5LPA while reading this joy

Cool Cool
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Your 70LPA friend will  be thinking about his 2cr package friend. Humans are never gonna satisfied when it comes to money. Just make your current life simple and happy.

Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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Me getting depressed seeing OP's LPA cold_sweat

Deal Newbie Deal Newbie
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"My wife constantly naggs about this to me. I am not able to match their lifestyle when I hangout with them. I feel low."

Feeling sorry for you dude, if your wife doesn't find happiness in 20LPA, then she will never be even happy with 2 Cr.
Happiness is an internal function, if it depends on LPA, forget that you will ever become happy.

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Dusre ki thaali mai sabko ghee jada nazar ata hai, apko bas samne ka nazar aa rha h, background mai bhut dikkat hongi unke sth. Har cheez har kisi ke pas nhi hoti. Appreciate whatever u have.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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U make me depressed who earns even less than your wife 😭😃

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Option 1 : find a government job and scheme from govt treasury and/or scheme from people who lick ur battom to get favors

Option 2: join politics & loot public funds to make sure next 100 generations will get fed and your arsh will be public property where everyone will lick it for favours and what not.

option 3: find & change your priorities as you going to die in a home with near and dear ones as money can only get you a house

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Option 69. Divorce 

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Entertainer Entertainer
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Well, i faced this phase, when i was stuck at 7 lpa even after working for long 8 years while my friends (who started the journey with me in a same company same team even some used to work under me, all were from same colg nd class)  were making avg 35 l out of them one was making 45.

I too when started comparing myself with the IT crowds or my own frnds, i stared feeling depressed frustrated and on one unfortunate day i quit my job.

Learning - dusre ke sone ka ghada dekh ke apna mitti ka ghada nhi todna chahiye.

Suggestions - meet a couple counselor, stop comparing yourself with others and try to be thankful for what u are getting.

Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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There is an actual life beyond the lifestyle which you think of .... Not that you need to be a minimalist but the more you get, more you will want... Once you get the thing you wanted, you again want something else, this is a human disease...

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Not a disease, Rather an essential Nutrient for personal growth if handled properly.. 
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ye b koi baat hui , yaar if u have parents , friends , GF(optional) then love them 4 lac or 40 lacs doesnt matter for anyone

even i feel that my kaamwali & kudewala is 100 times more happy then me when i see his whatsapp status with entire family

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Post Emperor Post Emperor
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Inn dono line mein kya difference hai bhai neutral_face

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Ur wife makes money? My wife is a simple housewife.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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That's full time job 24/7

Deal Newbie Deal Newbie
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Ruk bhai loot bol ker aur logo ko depressed kerta hu

Deal Captain Deal Captain
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I hate you for dragging me in to this ridiculous discussion smile

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Live a simple life . why do you want to showoff. My wealth is upwards of few crores but i myself drive alto. why compare lifestyle with others. I buy things from sale only. Many people here know my mutual fund portfolio but if you meet me you cannot  relate me with the wealth i got. I am happy with what I got , my friends in IT are earning more than me but i am least bothered.

if you want to compare then compare with adani/ambani .then you will know 20-40-70 lpa is too low like dirt.😄
If your wife is pushing you to get more high paying job then mate go to a counselor as I think your wife needs help.
Even I don't earn 20 lpa but do I feel sad absolutely no.

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Feeling down because your friends make more? Just remember, at least you’re not eating "Frog Flavored Crisps" from Balaji Wafers for dinner. Plus, 30LPA means your kid won't have to live off ramen noodles!

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दोस्तों के पैकेज लाखों में, मेरी तनख्वाह बस थोड़ी,

उनकी बीवियाँ सोने में, मेरी बीवी की बातें थोड़ी बड़ी।

सोचा मैंने भी, क्यों न बनूं मैं अमीर,

पर फिर याद आया, घर में दो आलू भी हैं मेरी तक़दीर!

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Not sure what to say also. A family earning 30LPA is depressed. Comparison kills your happiness. Just live the life happily. You're earning a very decent money. Please think about it

Deal Newbie Deal Newbie
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It is my humble suggestion to lead a contended life with whatever you have. If you keep improving your skillset you could earn high but then also you/your wife would yearn for more. Time is very limited in this material world, and we want to amass lot of fortune without knowing that they are of no use one fine day.

I was not an IT professional and was earning around 9LPA (and of course some my friends would be earning 20-50LPA) devoting most of time to work without spending much time for spiritual awakening/society. I quit my job couple of years back and I may not even earn 1/3rd of it now but I could spend time for spirituality and donate much higher amounts to society than I was doing before.

I would suggest just to lead the life happily and devote time to society and spirituality as it is the real purpose of life for that we have born in this earth. Life is not just material; you would understand this only when you travel that path.

Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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Find a job outside India, keep yourself motivated, and maybe she knows your potential, but you're not utilizing it.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Job satisfaction is more important than money. Do what you love for even 6 LPA, that's better than doing what you hate for 20 LPA.

Why do you want to compare yourself with your friends? Happiness is what matters.

I have a friend who earns who feels bad when he learns that another mutual friend of us is earning more than him. I don't want to become like him.

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Am I doing what I love?

2. Is it providing me with enough money to manage my family's basic expenses plus needs and wants.

If your answer is No to the first question, then you need to find what you love.

If your answer is No to the second question then you need to find ways to switch to a better paying job in your current job which you like. (Assuming the answer to the first question is yes)

I don't want to comment on your personal life so will not offer any comment on your wife's nagging.

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Wow this is, I don't even know where to begin.

People out here are struggling to make 2Lacs per annum.

Not relatable at all.

The last line is what would draw the biggest ire, you are afraid you won't be able to provide for your kid?

Kid? As in singular?

You are already worth crores!

I am not mocking you! You need to adjust your life view!

With thinking like this, you will never be satisfied even if you make 1 crore per month.

Also you are pissing off people.

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Leave this mediocre job and everything else. You should become sanyasi.

Atleast other person who gets a job will be happy. 20l is mediocre in India?

You are literally among top 3% Indians

Comrade Comrade
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Heard somewhere, maybe in a movie.

These lines stuck with me.

Keeps me humble, grounded & grateful.

"Dusro ko dekh kitna Gham hai.

Pata chalega tera kitna Kum hai"

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Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Look at those people who earn only 2-5 lacs per annum.

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