Asking for a friend who is nagging me everyday for some advice:
“I loved a girl dearly for more than 2 years. Her family was also keen to get us married, but they wanted us to get married right away. I, on the other hand, wanted to achieve some career goals before marriage (and she is still studying anyway), so I asked them to wait a couple more years.
After sending 6-7 representations to my parents to fix the marriage, they decided to get her engaged to another guy for an arranged marriage. They held a grand engagement ceremony recently and even agreed to agreed to pay a hefty dowry (I wouldn’t have demanded any, obviously).
I never imagined they would do such a thing. This has shocked me and left me heartbroken.
The girl wouldn’t do anything against her parents’ wishes. The only (decent) options I have left are to either agree to the marriage and request them to call off the engagement (in the hope that they will agree to do so), or move on in life. But I feel calling off the engagement would be unjust to the groom and his family.
So should I just move on?"
Ask him to move on
The proposal is flawed, nobody waits for years, usually the probability of them getting married decreases with each passing year.
MooooV on 
Does that girl loves him back dearly?
I_am_MrPerfect wrote:
Op bro chill, right girl with come (don’t be option or choice to anyone) best girl awaiting move on
No parent would want their girl to wait for someone with completely uncertain future.
Move on.. Life is too beautiful to waste it over this
panchabhut wrote:No parent would want their girl to wait for someone with completely uncertain future.
At the age of 25,26 no one will get crores package brother, even parents of that girl at 25yrs started at 15-20k (so thiking should change)
panchabhut wrote:No parent would want their girl to wait for someone with completely uncertain future.
Uncertain future with loved ones better than… Uncertain future with a staranger
I_am_MrPerfect wrote:
Ramakrishna check comments
nandamuri.balakrishna wrote:Uncertain future with loved ones better than… Uncertain future with a staranger
That is the thought process of young idealistic people. Not the way a parent will think. And for arranged marriage, the parents would have made sure that the groom has a good financial future.
It was still really progressive of the parents to offer marriage. But that offer was rejected by the guy. So now, there is no point of crying over lost options.
nandamuri.balakrishna wrote:Ramakrishna check comments
One thing I can say, what is destined to happen it will happen.
What have to come will come.
What have to go will go.
#vvpp
I_am_MrPerfect wrote:One thing I can say, what is destined to happen it will happen.
What have to come will come.
What have to go will go.
#vvpp
These are my words 
panchabhut wrote:That is the thought process of young idealistic people. Not the way a parent will think. And for arranged marriage, the parents would have made sure that the groom has a good financial future.
It was still really progressive of the parents to offer marriage. But that offer was rejected by the guy. So now, there is no point of crying over lost options.
Agreed some points but still.. Money comes and goes.. Once a girl go.. She will never come back.. Even if u get range Rover or rr in future.. …
Tell your friend to (try to) move on.
Be humble, keep nothing against the girl, try to let this go.
I wasted good amount of time seeking answers to questions like “why me?”, “why only me?”, “why not those who are bad?” etc etc.
Try loving yourself and work on you. Time gone won’t come back and all the time he will waste in thinking around this will be of no value later.
Although, this is my suggestion, if things can work out between girl’s family, give it a try but seeing things moved on way ahead of I could think of, it’s better to let this one go.
Girl agreed for engagement with someone itself implies that she is ready to forget your friend and fly with anyone her parents choose.
Your friend is not on her priority list, She already took a decision. Moreover in a particular phase, Girls will stand by their choices at any circumstances. Though choices do change but it takes a lot of time for that.
Tell him no matter how hard he tries, it won’t work between them. Your friend is already out of her equation. Tell him to respect her choice & let her go.
Time will heal his pain. Till then he has to learn to live with pain.
This is simple. Your friend actually first rejected the girl. That is how she’s thinking. Imagine yourself in her shoes. The girl chose someone else. Good for her.
Now he’s sad that she moved on and nobody waited for him. I say kick him.
This love and all is just bullshit. All matters is money in this World.
Bhai mera 1 frnd ka 8 saal live-in mein rahne k baad ish saal ladki ka sadi kisi or se ho.gya family pressure mein, even poison wala drama v kaam nhi kiya family k aage 
A girl only agrees to marriage when she get good (earning and decent looking) man. Till then, she keeps beating the bush around.
So IMO, she has prepared mind to marry to new guy. Tell your friend to forget her.
Ask him to just think about himself only.
If he really loves, ask him to agree to the marriage and request them to call-off the engagement. Puchne mein kuch nahi jata. Atleast try to karo, baad mein aaisa nahi lagna chahiye ki try nahi kiya.
Else move onn and now work harder for your goals.
har saah nal yaad tainu karde rahe
koi sade vaang karuga ta pta laguga.
dil nal laare ni tu laan valiye
dil tera jadu tutuga ta pta laguga
someone translate this in hindi for op
He does not deserve her, he is more interested in career than her
Boy had his priorities n..
girl n her family had their priorities
So just move on…btw congrats to d groom who got hefty dowry/gift 
Ots14 wrote:Bhai mera 1 frnd ka 8 saal live-in mein rahne k baad ish saal ladki ka sadi kisi or se ho.gya family pressure mein, even poison wala drama v kaam nhi kiya family k aage
Bhai 8 saal 😯
kaise?
Cody wrote:This love and all is just bullshit. All matters is money in this World.
yup, tried two relationships and money matters in after an year😂 if you can’t afford tata byebye.
chota_chattri wrote:yup, tried two relationships and money matters in after an year😂 if you can’t afford tata byebye.
So you didn’t find true love, except for idfc debit card ??
