First Salary Gift for Parents

Whole salary as cash to them 

Don't want to spoil your good feeling or hurt emotions, but technically, freelancer (esp web developer) income is considered business/other income so not a "salary" as people understand in our country or such like that...

I too started out as a freelancer/web developer way back in 2007 (was in college then) and first real income (if you compare to a salary cheque) in life was a google adsense cheque of about 5.7k if I remember correctly...  used paypal in those days (lots of regulatory issues if one remembers) for freelance payments.

Have been an investor since then with the accruing income, live life frugally and proudly will do so for rest of life (I spend only for real needs, not a hard miser)...

Agnivo007 wrote:

Don't want to spoil your good feeling or hurt emotions, but technically, freelancer (esp web developer) income is considered business/other income so not a "salary" as people understand in our country or such like that...

I too started out as a freelancer/web developer way back in 2007 (was in college then) and first real income (if you compare to a salary cheque) in life was a google adsense cheque of about 5.7k if I remember correctly...  used paypal in those days (lots of regulatory issues if one remembers) for freelance payments.

Have been an investor since then with the accruing income, live life frugally and proudly will do so for rest of life (I spend only for real needs, not a hard miser)...

So as per your concept I would consider my first salary in 2018 drawn which was Rs.80k around  😃 as data analyst and that time and we had a small family trip to south India as rarely my parents went for any trip.  

@Best_Deal_Hunter See, my post made you feel better (better gift)

kukdookoo wrote:
Whole salary as cash to them 

I'd have preferred not to comment on your post (as I've been doing of late), but that's a too old fashioned concept that has been prevailing in this country.

Youth are more financially educated these days and no need to surrender first salary for the sake of thinking parents can guide them...

Also, some people tend to do "karz utaari" ritual by doing so for what parents have done for them till they have earned something for the first time. (too cheesy and hypocritical in many scenarios)...

Please don't react thinking I meddled into your affairs, but you may have done what was good for you, I'm saying about new age kids of these days...

Agnivo007 wrote:

I'd have preferred not to comment on your post (as I've been doing of late), but that's a too old fashioned concept that has been prevailing in this country.

Youth are more financially educated these days and no need to surrender first salary for the sake of thinking parents can guide them...

Also, some people tend to do "karz utaari" ritual by doing so for what parents have done for them till they have earned something for the first time. (too cheesy and hypocritical in many scenarios)...

Same here, totally ignore your posts.
You have no idea when I earned my first salary, let alone what I did with it so maybe you should have kept this to yourself.
Only karz utari was highlighted from your reply which again shouldn't have been there as my money my rules, your money your rules. Grow up kid, stop being so arrogant.

Agnivo007 wrote:

I'd have preferred not to comment on your post (as I've been doing of late), but that's a too old fashioned concept that has been prevailing in this country.

Youth are more financially educated these days and no need to surrender first salary for the sake of thinking parents can guide them...

Also, some people tend to do "karz utaari" ritual by doing so for what parents have done for them till they have earned something for the first time. (too cheesy and hypocritical in many scenarios)...

Please don't react thinking I meddled into your affairs, but you may have done what was good for you, I'm saying about new age kids of these days...

Sorry to say this bro, but ur devoid of one of the most valuable/ best thing in life - HAPPINESS /Joy of Giving...

Sorry if i am being too rude...

Aap ko tho videsh mein paida hona tha ... If that's what u mean by " too old fashioned concept prevailing in this country."

Karz utaari - I personally don't think any kid would be able to do that in his/her lifetime...

As related to the topic:

I don't know how okay it's to mention all this, parents/ grandparents are well off with rich ancestral property, Dads top position job in a Mnc, well settled lifestyle (touchwood)... Nothing that they expect from us kids...

Been a freelancer for few years (my passion for computers), have had decent earnings n good knowledge too...

It's not just from my first earnings but whenever I see something good which they would love, never had second thoughts in buying it for them... Be it saree to my Mom n granny, clothing, footwear to Dad n grandpa, the happiness u see on their faces is worth every rupee u spend for them... Can compare that to the joy what my niece/nephew(little ones) express on receiving a gift... It's gratifying to watch them adore/ appreciate the gift you've given them...

As far as my job goes, just out from college... Not interested to work for someone else... Have my own plans/ventures..

Kids don't learn from what you teach/preach them, they follow or imitate what u do, u talk, ur actions closely... Hopefully u understand what I mean here...

Just my personal opinion... Sabka nazariya ek jaise nahi hota...


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Can go to any extent to please my parents, they are my world. My people mean everything to me... Have found peace of mind in giving always...

Please Respect the Land, Language and Culture where you Eat, Earn and Sleep...

Sorry if I have hurt u with this... If u can't understand my feelings/emotions, I am fine with it... This is my personal view and have no intentions of hurting u or anyone else...

Agnivo007 wrote:

Youth are more financially educated these days and no need to surrender first salary for the sake of thinking parents can guide them...

Off course youth is financially savvy now. But, That’s a token of love n respect bro.

Snapz wrote:
Off course youth is financially savvy now. But, That’s a token of love n respect bro.

Good if that token comes out from the self feeling/heart, not just a hypocritical or mere ritual show to stop crooked comments, I meant that in my earlier post... in some families/societies they expect this (don't relate with me) and that is done to stop gossip or nonsensical talk if one doesn't do it... 

@superdimes It's not that I negate the stuff, but point is there's a prevailing thought in this country (and nothing in any country is 100% correct or supportable, goods and bads exist, be it India or whatever) and some people who intend to do something different is confronted by social rules, age old expectations that have become rituals and lot of social stigma for rebels, also see lines just above...

Today's youth and generation has gone to waste and loves everything videsi - from underwear to condom to cosmetics to films, style and talks - so why should they be shy of selfish western attitude? Yes, they are hugging all videsi and eating, living, peeing pooping and humping desi... this is reality, so yes, those ideas are technically old fashioned already. (I'm middle aged, not a youth or gen z)

kukdookoo wrote:
Whole salary as cash to them 

My salary is in 6 figures and I still behave like a kid. 

The day salary gets credited in my account, I transfer the same to my Mom’s account. I just maintain minimum balance. She has done so much for me and cause of her I’ve stand on my own. 

Whenever required, I keep asking her 500-1000rs for pocket money for my expenses. It’s so much fun asking her money and she asking me what do u do with this every alternative day. 😂

Plan a vacation plus end it with a family movie and dinner 

Faug wrote:

My salary is in 6 figures and I still behave like a kid. 

The day salary gets credited in my account, I transfer the same to my Mom’s account. I just maintain minimum balance. She has done so much for me and cause of her I’ve stand on my own. 

Whenever required, I keep asking her 500-1000rs for pocket money for my expenses. It’s so much fun asking her money and she asking me what do u do with this every alternative day. 😂

Same I still do, ask for 200/400 /500 as loan when go out in weekend but I have to repay it again 😜

I enjoy it 

Faug wrote:

My salary is in 6 figures and I still behave like a kid. 

The day salary gets credited in my account, I transfer the same to my Mom’s account. I just maintain minimum balance. She has done so much for me and cause of her I’ve stand on my own. 

Whenever required, I keep asking her 500-1000rs for pocket money for my expenses. It’s so much fun asking her money and she asking me what do u do with this every alternative day. 😂

It's fun playing kiddo for sometime, guess you're not married or require decent funds for any venture right now, so the play/act will give you some sound sleep and enjoyment... but for how long? When you're married, have kids, need money for various ventures/requirements, the "real" stage play/act will happen then...

You'd bite your mails off thinking you'd have started financial planning/investing properly yourself years ago, and the sweet time won't come back...best wishes!

Best_Deal_Hunter wrote:
Same I still do, ask for 200/400 /500 as loan when go out in weekend but I have to repay it again 😜

I enjoy it 

I too take when short of cash and have to pay someone (I don't like to keep cash or transact in cash much these days), keep a note and settle every month; yes, that feels nice...

kukdookoo wrote:
my money my rules, your money your rules. Grow up kid, stop being so arrogant.

In Indian reality show, it doesn't matter whose money it is - yours or mine, what kind of - white or black --- the IT dept rules... Now say that "arrogant" to the ITD and prove your mettle... 😈

Anyway, we part again in our own ways...

My parents never demand anything from me unless it's very urgent (that's a different thing now) but i always try to make them as happy as possible.

This comment says it all - https://www.desidime.com/discussions/what-s-you...

MrKool_JJ wrote:

My parents never demand anything from me unless it's very urgent (that's a different thing now) but i always try to make them as happy as possible.

This comment says it all - https://www.desidime.com/discussions/what-s-you...

I think u missed reading the thread title and post...

superdimes wrote:
I think u missed reading the thread title and post...

Jo mera hai vo unka hi hai...so aisa gifting kuch hota hi nai...
Mom ko mobile leke dia hai dad k liye shopping ki hai but i don't term that as a gift here for what they've done in my life.

Gold jewellery. It's a gift+investment

MrKool_JJ wrote:
Jo mera hai vo unka hi hai...so aisa gifting kuch hota hi nai...
Mom ko mobile leke dia hai dad k liye shopping ki hai but i don't term that as a gift here for what they've done in my life.

Agreed Bro but there is no harm in showing some gratitude and to make them feel special.If you celebrate Valentine's Day,Father's Day,Mother's Day or Rakshabandhan and gift and pamper your Gf/Bf/Parents/Siblings that doesn't mean you don't love them for the remainder of the year.

Agnivo007 wrote:

It's fun playing kiddo for sometime, guess you're not married or require decent funds for any venture right now, so the play/act will give you some sound sleep and enjoyment... but for how long? When you're married, have kids, need money for various ventures/requirements, the "real" stage play/act will happen then...

You'd bite your mails off thinking you'd have started financial planning/investing properly yourself years ago, and the sweet time won't come back...best wishes!

Arrey bhai emotions ki vaat na lagayo. 

 I’ve no plans to get married and I can’t disclose my age but matured enough to know how to plan my funds and future like enough fd’s in our joint name that can cover my life with good fd interest of <70k/m as of now, enough saving as in properties and getting rent too. Plus, I don’t have huge requirements to live my life happily, simple man with basic requirements. 

That apart, you did raised a good point and I appreciate it too but sometimes you prefer love for your parents than anything else. 😄

Gulag-Survivor wrote:
Agreed Bro but there is no harm in showing some gratitude and to make them feel special.If you celebrate Valentine's Day,Father's Day,Mother's Day or Rakshabandhan and gift and pamper your Gf/Bf/Parents/Siblings that doesn't mean you don't love them for the remainder of the year.

Show gratitude and to make them feel special - I always thrive to do that
It's their anniversary on 31st so planning for a dinner date with my family 😄