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I always find difficult to learn new things quickly. I need to read/go through multiple time to understand it. I find difficult to concentrate since last few years. May be I started procrastinating because of that. I was a bright student during school time, but I became mediocre from college. (Currently working in IT) What could I do to improve this?

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1)Check your sugar levels (if so which in turn raise BP too).

2)Usually these people are not good speakers.

3)If you had suffered with depression, even that become root cause.

4)Just ignore every thing and take it easy (if you are nearer to financial freedom level)

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ramadesidime wrote:

1)Check your sugar levels (if so which in turn raise BP too).

2)Usually these people are not good speakers.

3)If you had suffered with depression, even that become root cause.

4)Just ignore every thing and take it easy (if you are nearer to financial freedom level)

Thanks for your suggestions


1) I consume less sugar

2) I am not good in communication skills.

3) Not in the past, but might face that. Having terrible career and personal life.

4) Just ignoring everything is not procrastinating?

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How’s your health?

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what are your vitamin D and B12 levels?

i am willing to bet they are below the threshold. Test and let me know. That is your root cause.

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Start doing  Yog  and  Pranayams daily . This will really help in concentration , stress , anxiety , overall wellbeing of you and your body. 

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Dastro wrote:

How’s your health?

Normal as of now.

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It’s because you don’t respect yourself and you won’t demand the best from yourself, while demanding the best from others which in turn makes them elevate their life to next level. I think the above reason is the cause.

I’d like to add one more thing, the more successful you are the more demanding the work gets, so you don’t want the upgrade. 

PS: I’m not judging you or insulting you here. Just wanted to be blunt and see if you agree and go for a reality check with a concrete plan of action.

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@makeourdeal travel around india without money. Or volunteer somewhere like ashram without expecting anything back. 

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decideaim wrote:

It’s because you don’t respect yourself and you won’t demand the best from yourself, while demanding the best from others which in turn makes them elevate their life to next level. I think the above reason is the cause.

I’d like to add one more thing, the more successful you are the more demanding the work gets, so you don’t want the upgrade. 

PS: I’m not judging you or insulting you here. Just wanted to be blunt and see if you agree and go for a reality check with a concrete plan of action.

May be I have fear if I will be able to do that in the better way or not. I usually try to give the best when I am serious about it.

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makeourdeal wrote:

May be I have fear if I will be able to do that in the better way or not. I usually try to give the best when I am serious about it.

I know brother, many of us including me face this dilemma. We don’t try because of fear of failure, we give ourselves false assurance like “had i tried i would have made it possible”.

Let me tell you from my experience, trying something and achieving it is sweet and excellent, trying and failing is honorable too, avoiding doing it and fooling ourselves saying we couldn’t do it because we didn’t want/try to make it is deplorable.

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Dont do anything JUST RELAX 

You are just overstressing your mind.

Take the depression test & if you’re in depression ( it’s not a disease it’s just a symptom of something is not going well psychologically by any personal/professional life cause or might be due to chronic body diseases)

Just do everything to kill the cause and you’re good to go.

Moreover , concentration issues usually happens in BRAIN FOG and brain fog issue happens due to deficiency of VITAMIN D which is temporary or due to dementia which is permanent and most of the time due to stress, anxiety in which you just to relax body & mind.

Learn belly breathing it will help to stop anxiety, stress.

Also, As ramadesidime said ignore everything, take it easy and live life, find the happiness in every small moment of life if you’re near to financial freedom. Don’t stress much. Don’t make your life a race , enjoy the journey.

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Has anyone tried Brahma Rasayanam or Brahmi Ghritham for improving memory? I had seen a Fittuber video regarding the same.
Any Ayurveda expert here?

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makeourdeal wrote:

Normal as of now.

Good

Pay more attention on health, at times you feel unwell or upset digestive system/stomach etc.?

Health is Wealth just keep this in mind. Everything else will improve by little effort.

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decide what u want priority in life (a)money or b)8 hour of daily sleep and peace +health

if a) then change yourself and study some software language in demand and then apply aiming for money

If b) just complete your grad and apply for govt job (state govt. or central govt )  NOT PSU like banks , min. public dealing more peace

at time some entrepreneurship/startup venture may grant u both a) and b) if sucess

also when u will earn enough money u will realise there is something money cant buy and those are the one with most joy in life

trust me i have been to top school >top college>>> top somewhere and when i see people going after money and sacrificing health i feel pity on them

Life prioties in order :

1)health:includes good food ,exercise ,health necessarily means desease free fit body not necessarily muscle body (in corona many body builder died ,there muscles dont grant them immunity), one who has health have hope and one who has hoe have everything -jaan hai to jahan hai

2)social personal: family members,friends,collegues , social media(make priiorty of people in order of what they can sacrifice for you NOT what how beautifull or sucessfull or rich they are -1)parents 2)relative 3)friends -GF ka to name bhi mat lena )

3)Money : assets capital credits golden hen >golden eggs,

4)education: timely school and collges has its exp part but take only that much which is necessory to have all the mentioned  above (a pass percentage is totally fine) .if u have all the above u can always apply for whatever u want thru online/distance learning later in life .college life names rank percentage.. no one care or remember it much after college 

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demerius2020 wrote:

decide what u want priority in life (a)money or b)8 hour of daily sleep and peace +health

if a) then change yourself and study some software language in demand and then apply aiming for money

If b) just complete your grad and apply for govt job (state govt. or central govt )  NOT PSU like banks , min. public dealing more peace

at time some entrepreneurship/startup venture may grant u both a) and b) if sucess

also when u will earn enough money u will realise there is something money cant buy and those are the one with most joy in life

trust me i have been to top school >top college>>> top somewhere and when i see people going after money and sacrificing health i feel pity on them

Life prioties in order :

1)health:includes good food ,exercise desease free ,fit body

2)social personal: family members,friends,collegues , social media

3)Money : assets capital

4)education: timely school and collges has its exp part but take only that much which is necessory to have all the mentioned  above (a pass percentage is totally fine) .if u have all the above u can always apply for whatever u want thru online/distance learning later in life .

I should prioritize my career. Being average, costed me professionally as well as personally. I don’t want to be an average software engineer. I want to be a good software engineer and ultimately earn money. I screwed my personal life. (can elaborate more if needed)
Also I graduated 9 years ago. Today I just found out that my company is hiring a guy(less than 4 years experience for junior level) in my team with pay more than me.

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makeourdeal wrote:

I should prioritize my career. Being average, costed me professionally as well as personally. I don’t want to be an average software engineer. I want to be a good software engineer and ultimately earn money. I screwed my personal life. (can elaborate more if needed)
Also I graduated 9 years ago. Today I just found out that my company is hiring a guy(less than 4 years experience for junior level) in my team with pay more than me.

 ultimately its your life and your choice , but do share it with others ,once u gain your good/bad exp. 

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makeourdeal wrote:
Being average, costed me professionally as well as personally. I screwed my personal life. (can elaborate more if needed)

Bro.. plz tell more.

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makeourdeal wrote:

I should prioritize my career. Being average, costed me professionally as well as personally. I don’t want to be an average software engineer. I want to be a good software engineer and ultimately earn money. I screwed my personal life. (can elaborate more if needed)
Also I graduated 9 years ago. Today I just found out that my company is hiring a guy(less than 4 years experience for junior level) in my team with pay more than me.

i was expecting this. The root cause is hiring jumior for more salary. Dont worry.

tell me 

1  do yo have immediate job threat?

2. Are you going to your junior if there are code or other job related issues?

3. Are you able to befriend with him

4. Are you using your wife as stress buster or already did

5. Do you have kids? Are you able to spend time with them heartfully?

6  assuming you get 4% avg. hike yoy are you happy financially?

edit:

i dont mean to answer them here. Answer tonyourself and correct them. See the magic

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playdime wrote:

i was expecting this. The root cause is hiring jumior for more salary. Dont worry.

tell me 

1  do yo have immediate job threat?

2. Are you going to your junior if there are code or other job related issues?

3. Are you able to befriend with him

4. Are you using your wife as stress buster or already did

5. Do you have kids? Are you able to spend time with them heartfully?

6  assuming you get 4% avg. hike yoy are you happy financially?

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i dont mean to answer them here. Answer tonyourself and correct them. See the magic

root cause was different.. This is today’s news.. I posted 2-3 days back.

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Snapz wrote:

Bro.. plz tell more.

My pay is below market average. I always find difficult to crake the interviews. It took me multiple interviews when I changed the job last year.

I love a girl since last 9 years. When I proposed for the first time, her response was “Your letter left me speechless.  I just cannot believe someone can love so much and that too, a person like me.  I am so sorry for everything.”. She works in top MNC and moved to US in 2017 (internal transfer). As per her, she falls for anyone easily, but she never considered me even after being a friend and almost having too many similarities. She got married last week. Now I am in 30s being single. (I don’t believe in love at first sight).. I had enough time to prove myself, but I failed.

Being an average costed me a lot.

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makeourdeal wrote:

My pay is below market average. I always find difficult to crake the interviews. It took me multiple interviews when I changed the job last year.
I love a girl since last 9 years. When I proposed for the first time, her response was “Your letter left me speechless.  I just cannot believe someone can love so much and that too, a person like me.  I am so sorry for everything.”. She works in top MNC and moved to US in 2017 (internal transfer). As per her, she falls for anyone easily, but she never considered me even after being a friend and almost having too many similarities. She got married last week. Now I am in 30s being single. I don’t believe in love at first sight.

Being an average costed me a lot.

First stop calling yourself average bro. Say, I should get better/ improve

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makeourdeal wrote:

My pay is below market average. I always find difficult to crake the interviews. It took me multiple interviews when I changed the job last year.

I love a girl since last 9 years. When I proposed for the first time, her response was “Your letter left me speechless.  I just cannot believe someone can love so much and that too, a person like me.  I am so sorry for everything.”. She works in top MNC and moved to US in 2017 (internal transfer). As per her, she falls for anyone easily, but she never considered me even after being a friend and almost having too many similarities. She got married last week. Now I am in 30s being single. (I don’t believe in love at first sight).. I had enough time to prove myself, but I failed.

Being an average costed me a lot.

Bhai… time heals everything. Be patient.
You have some bad things going on in your life… but there must be some good things too. Try to identify those n then view your story as a whole. Same applies for your career. There are millions of people who are happy n content with all kinds of situations. So consider your life as a blessing n find meaning n happiness with it. 
Again be patient… take 1 day at a time n make it worth it for you.
Best wishes.

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Why do you think average is bad?
Consistency is more important.

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decideaim wrote:

First stop calling yourself average bro. Say, I should get better/ improve

+1
leave the past, 
Be forward looking.

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Snapz wrote:

Bhai… time heals everything. Be patient.
You have some bad things going on in your life… but there must be some good things too. Try to identify those n then view your story as a whole. Same applies for your career. There are millions of people who are happy n content with all kinds of situations. So consider your life as a blessing n find meaning n happiness with it. 
Again be patient… take 1 day at a time n make it worth it for you.
Best wishes.

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Just go out and notice people are in worse condition, you will find yourself privileged.

Looking up is good but keep looking only those who are doing better than you will only demotivate you  

See both the world

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Q. I always find difficult to learn new things quickly.

Ans: Well, everyone is tuned differently. Some people learn quickly because maybe they don’t go into that deep level. Right? If you learn basic chemistry everything seems easy. Things get complicated when study about atoms n molecules. And some people can grasp those things easily. And maybe those people who can grasp vast complicated things easily they might get flabbergasted while tackling mundane things. It’s okay to face difficulties while learning a new thing. 🙂 

Quick solution Divide the task, new things to be  learned, into smaller chunks. Proceed and finish ’em all. Find fun in doing so. See all the superhero movies. Take Ironman for example. Tony Stark always keeps on twerking his inventions. Right! They even portrayed his failures. But he learns from em n overcomes it. No? Be like those heroes. Everyone faces those difficulties. Winners overcome ’em. 

Q. I need to read/go through multiple time to understand it.

Ans: Everyone does it. You go through it multiple times because you are honest with yourself. It’s good.

Statement: I find difficult to concentrate since last few years

Assumption: May be I started procrastinating because of that. 

My opinion: It’s brave of you to figure out the reason behind your procrastination. Whatever time you have wasted is gone. Please don’t waste anymore. 🙂🙏

Statement. I was a bright student during school time, but I became mediocre from college. (Currently working in IT) What could I do to improve this?

My personal opinion: Well in schools, we were in this rigorous regimen of study. We were being monitored by both our parents n teachers. So, if we’re being considered as bright then in my honest opinion it was 20% personal talent and 80% discipline. In colleges, discipline level reduces. If a fit guy won’t do any exercises for years then he ll become obese. 🙂 Time has cometh for you to pull your life’s reigns tighter. Right? That’s it. Just maintain your level of discipline. Do your work properly. Keep your eyes n ears peeled for new info n opportunities. 🙂🙏



 

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makeourdeal wrote:

My pay is below market average. I always find difficult to crake the interviews. It took me multiple interviews when I changed the job last year.

I love a girl since last 9 years. When I proposed for the first time, her response was “Your letter left me speechless.  I just cannot believe someone can love so much and that too, a person like me.  I am so sorry for everything.”. She works in top MNC and moved to US in 2017 (internal transfer). As per her, she falls for anyone easily, but she never considered me even after being a friend and almost having too many similarities. She got married last week. Now I am in 30s being single. (I don’t believe in love at first sight).. I had enough time to prove myself, but I failed.

Being an average costed me a lot.

Lemme backtrack to the point, where she said that she falls for guys easily. That also means she forgets about previous relationships easily. She is a keeper, no? Pun intended. It was your first red flag. 🙂


Arey bhai, life’s not a linear video game. There are multiple facets to it. Let’s take an example of dogs. Some people like desi kutta, some people like labrador, some people like rottweiler etc right! Similarly, we might look, behave in a weird manner. There are people who ll give anything to be with us. That’s it. She got married last week. I think she had it done with her own consent. Right! When you close your eyes, it must be very difficult to imagine her to be with someone else. Been there, done that. I get it bro. There is a movie named Forgetting Sarah Marshall. Same story. So, bhai, let’s not dwell into who did wrong/right. Let’s stop goading our personal sacrifices behind her happiness. It won’t do anything good. Physical relationship is a fundamental tnc of any marriage. So, since consent has been given by the girl, so we can’t do anything about it.

There are tons of girls out there. Just choose a right one. This is one advice from one bro, who was in similar situations regarding a girl, to another. If you sit n sulk and keep yourself withdrawn, then no girl will come to you. Forget about love, even a beggar has to beg in the street. If we can’t be the initiator then we need to put ourselves into a suitable place, where we ll get highlighted even if we sit morosely. Right! And don’t try luck with strangers n tinders. One night stands suck big time. It’s my opinion. They ll be all lovey dovey for a night then they part ways. You won’t meet them again n even if you meet them they might give you cold shoulders. That’s alright. Appropriate environment ll be a place where people of opposite gender come n go. And they have to be regular. Ex: gym. And it all takes a hi to start a conversation. 

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