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Ok so guys My girlfriend wants to see me but her parents know we are in love but she is afraid to meet me cause she is thinking what if she will hurt her parents. Her parents told her not to meet me before marriage. Now, what is the best solution to this without hurting anyone’s feelings? Please help me, dimes <3

Update:

So I texted her mom in WhatsApp and asked her politely. Aunty, I understand and respect your words but you know we are also kids and we like to see each other sometimes and you know we have been so busy we did not see for 2 years. This will only create stress on your daughter and asked her to please allow us to meet in the temple once a month. She took time and she said okay smile

Thanks, everyone for the help <3. Just started this post to ask some of you before doing something stupid biggrin

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Are you engaged with the girl? If not than should behave like a man and go to her parents ans ask their permission to see her.

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Find another girl friend until you get married to her. Ask her as well to get a temporary bf until marriage. That way, both of you will not miss each other. Lol

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Marry her or guide her to a better future.

And what is this girlfriend boyfriend bullshit today’s kids are mad about? Mindlessly copying all western things, having sex, spreading STDs, STIs, lies and destroying families.

During our time, there was no gf/bf concept. Study hard, work hard, get married. Be disciplined.

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just meet, or mate?

parents in their 40s would be understanding enough to let people get to know each other better.

give her parents number.
after two three days, will send them the link of this topic.
they will understand you are genuine person (you are no?).
be supportive of your partner in whatever decisions they want to take.
if empty doubts and fears are only coming in the way, then communication communication and communication between everyone is the only way.

if still in teens or just outside but studying, then better prove yourself first.
(by studying, part time/ full time job or something for community)

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Budhe-Baba wrote:

Marry her or guide her to a better future.

And what is this girlfriend boyfriend bullshit today’s kids are mad about? Mindlessly copying all western things, having sex, spreading STDs, STIs, lies and destroying families.

During our time, there was no gf/bf concept. Study hard, work hard, get married. Be disciplined.

Bro’s not that

We don’t do things like that. You see we are loving each other for 6 years and you know She miss me okay? Don’t you miss your friend? We have not seen for more than 2 years.

Mostly we talk about our career and life.

Yes we are engaged and her parents have accepted but the thing is this old practice that before marriage I must not see her or She must not see me.

Caring for each other and helping out each other. Being there for them is also important in relationship bro.

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Guys do you understand. We are not trying to be immature. We just miss each other a lot ok. We used to talk and video call when she was in college hostel but as she is at the home it is so restricted. She can’t talk to me She can’t express anything to her parents. I mean don’t just see love as a just sex thing.

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Budhe-Baba wrote:

Marry her or guide her to a better future.

And what is this girlfriend boyfriend bullshit today’s kids are mad about? Mindlessly copying all western things, having sex, spreading STDs, STIs, lies and destroying families.

During our time, there was no gf/bf concept. Study hard, work hard, get married. Be disciplined.

And 2. How many of arranged marriage couples are really understanding right now? There are fights and It takes time to understand each other.

You see we love each other and we care for our parents and we want to get good in life.

We have our own duties and we don’t have time for other things that are not relevant now.

It’s just simple. She just wants to see me.

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NadeemS wrote:

just meet, or mate?

parents in their 40s would be understanding enough to let people get to know each other better.

give her parents number.
after two three days, will send them the link of this topic.
they will understand you are genuine person (you are no?).
be supportive of your partner in whatever decisions they want to take.
if empty doubts and fears are only coming in the way, then communication communication and communication between everyone is the only way.

if still in teens or just outside but studying, then better prove yourself first.
(by studying, part time/ full time job or something for community)

Ok bro Thanks 😘😘😘

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It depends on your and her age bro. If you are of agr of marriage, meet her parents and ask her hand

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Budhe-Baba wrote:

Marry her or guide her to a better future.

And what is this girlfriend boyfriend bullshit today’s kids are mad about? Mindlessly copying all western things, having sex, spreading STDs, STIs, lies and destroying families.

During our time, there was no gf/bf concept. Study hard, work hard, get married. Be disciplined.

you from Old India… This is New India so all are open sunglasses

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BARCODE wrote:

https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/573112/original/SAVE_20190630_182629.jpg?1561899404

yeh aadmi ka bahut famous dialogue hai yeh expression pe…. idhar post nahi kar sakte

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alphagirl wrote:

Find another girl friend until you get married to her. Ask her as well to get a temporary bf until marriage. That way, both of you will not miss each other. Lol

best solution laughing

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here you have to make ur girl understand according to present situation ,, and tell her that we will only call and do videocalling as it hurts your parents so we cant meet each other as of now …
later on when things get better , just have a meeting .

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alphagirl wrote:

Find another girl friend until you get married to her. Ask her as well to get a temporary bf until marriage. That way, both of you will not miss each other. Lol

Worst idea.
True lover/beloved does not need temporary gf/bf. Only one is enough to experience true love even if he/she is miles/planets/galaxy away.

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hackerboys wrote:

here you have to make ur girl understand according to present situation ,, and tell her that we will only call and do videocalling as it hurts your parents so we cant meet each other as of now …
later on when things get better , just have a meeting .

Yeah, I think you are right. Thanks, bro <3

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Budhe-Baba wrote:

Marry her or guide her to a better future.

And what is this girlfriend boyfriend bullshit today’s kids are mad about? Mindlessly copying all western things, having sex, spreading STDs, STIs, lies and destroying families.

During our time, there was no gf/bf concept. Study hard, work hard, get married. Be disciplined.

aapki age kitni hai?

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HondaSimpson wrote:

27 dude. We are planning to get married next year.

Wait for 1 year then, you already did it for six years. I know it’s tough but you have to wait.

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desiman wrote:

yeh aadmi ka bahut famous dialogue hai yeh expression pe…. idhar post nahi kar sakte

laughing

Ping me the dialogue if it is veg.

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If you are Tamil guy, you will under stand this " friendhu, love materu, feelu aiutaapula"

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Itha restrictions mother and father kar rahe hai its ok,
Agar mother/ father inlaws ne kar diya hota toh Yudhh ho jata..

Just kidding .
Understand their feelings and at the same time also try to convince them your feelings , if you cannot then involve someone elder in the family .
Dada Dadi / Nana nani ,bhuwas , Mosis can be easily convinced to get your job done

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Common-man wrote:

Itha restrictions mother and father kar rahe hai its ok,
Agar mother/ father inlaws ne kar diya hota toh Yudhh ho jata..

Just kidding .
Understand their feelings and at the same time also try to convince them your feelings , if you cannot then involve someone elder in the family .
Dada Dadi / Nana nani ,bhuwas , Mosis can be easily convinced to get your job done

Ya, I texted her mom in WhatsApp politely and said requested to allow us to meet once or twice in a month in temple biggrin. She said Okay biggrin

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HondaSimpson wrote:

Ya, I texted her mom in WhatsApp politely and said requested to allow us to meet once or twice in a month in temple biggrin. She said Okay biggrin

Clever men.

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