my friend gives me negative vibes, what should I do
I have made a friend on internet & it's been a long time (many 5+ years) of commitment, but lately acting weird very weird, due to which I have started getting negative vibes, should I say good bye & move on or wait for things to settle?
I am a very anxious person & even a bit of change in something makes me anxious & uneasy. I rarely makes friends but whenever I make one I am very loyal & commited to that person maybe that's why this change is hurting me?
TBH I have only friend in real life who I can call as my brother.
By weird, I mean we used to a long talk, play games together, used to share daily stuff at the end of the day, used to shares stories and stuff together, passing on memes / songs.But, suddenly from last few days everything has came to halt we hardly had any long talks in last few days, she think that I consider them as liars, sometimes she says let's take break I said OK, then they come back again within hours and start talking like nothing happen it is so weird cause that she aren't giving me any clarity whether they want me to be in their lives or not, if they ask me to exit I am ok with it but there should be some sort of clarity sometimes they act as If they care a lot about the friendship and sometimes they make feel like screw this crap, it is too much deal with, there's no clarity at all.
Please suggest
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People change as time changes or they may leave you without giving any reason. If you are ok with changes, then keep that relationship. If you are judgemental, want as per you want, and if you only want positive vibes then avoid doing friendship, relationship. These things are not made for you. It will hurt you.
Although, I know that this things shouldn't hurt me much but still I fail to control myself and end up hurting myself on those things
I am a very anxious person & even a bit of change in something makes me anxious & uneasy.
Take a break from things / persons you think are possible anxiety triggers until u get some clarity on how to effectively deal with them and feel okay. And friendship is a two way thing, there's no need for explicit good byes / trying to move on.. u can simply state the truth about being anxious & that you need some time off.. but of course not making them feel like a cause for it (Even a considerable gap / less time together can make people to have new habits and companionships). Often people get back together and who knows, you might feel different then
My solitude might teach me something new
. those who wanna stay they stay those who wanna go will go you can't keep people out of their wish.
I liked the point you mentioned very much, I wouldn't kick them I might take a short pause but won't kick them out since as you said kicking them out myself would make myself feel bad and I would keep overthink about it, If they want to kick me out I will happily get out from them (not matter how time and efforts I have given to them, no regrets). Good luck to you too bro we overthinker have really bad time thinking about all these
By weird, I mean we used to a long talk, play games together, used to share daily stuff at the end of the day, used to shares stories and stuff together, passing on memes / songs.
But, suddenly from last few days everything has came to halt we hardly had any long talks in last few days, she think that I consider them as liars, sometimes she says let's take break I said OK, then they come back again within hours and start talking like nothing happen it is so weird cause that she aren't giving me any clarity whether they want me to be in their lives or not, if they ask me to exit I am ok with it but there should be some sort of clarity sometimes they act as If they care a lot about the friendship and sometimes they make feel like screw this crap, it is too much deal with, there's no clarity at all
No idea bhai. 😔
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But, I am getting very bad vibes from the female friend and hence I am curious to know If they she want me to get out I will get out but there should be some sort of clarity from them cause I don't want to make it look like I had problems with her and I left them alone, and it will hurt me back too
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If you consider your online person as friend, then whatever you posted in OP can be copy pasted as a message to that person. If you are afraid, then you need the relationship more than that person. And then its not friendship.
Dump that girl, study n get job which bring lots of happiness that u can't even imagine..
When you are in negative mode frequently trying to understand your mind about what happened and solving the problem is tough and not advisable at that time. Thats not the only way to solve it. We can't take control over our entire body through mind like we feel, most of the functions are automatically programed (brain too).
1. Most tablets prescribed by professionals are sleeping pills. So uninterrupted sleeping for at least 12 -15 hrs for you will surely have an impact on your brain next day itself. If you consistently do after sometimes you have better clarity to solve your problem without emotions involving
2. Doing exercise (running, cycling, lifting weights) at the starting time of anger, stress, feeling bad etc.. would be way better to exhaust pain and come back to normal
3. If your friend gives you negative vibes, you should think like " thats his/her plan and if you respond or act even inside your mind (nobody is watching you), they won". If you want to win, ignore honestly (when nobody is watching) and do your work to improve yourself. sometimes its tough -- there sleep helps
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