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my friend gives me negative vibes, what should I do

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I have made a friend on internet & it's been a long time (many 5+ years) of commitment, but lately acting weird very weird, due to which I have started getting negative vibes, should I say good bye & move on or wait for things to settle?


I am a very anxious person & even a bit of change in something makes me anxious & uneasy. I rarely makes friends but whenever I make one I am very loyal & commited to that person maybe that's why this change is hurting me?

TBH I have only friend in real life who I can call as my brother.

By weird, I mean we used to a long talk, play games together, used to share daily stuff at the end of the day, used to shares stories and stuff together, passing on memes / songs.But, suddenly from last few days everything has came to halt we hardly had any long talks in last few days, she think that I consider them as liars, sometimes she says let's take break I said OK, then they come back again within hours and start talking like nothing happen it is so weird cause that she aren't giving me any clarity whether they want me to be in their lives or not, if they ask me to exit I am ok with it but there should be some sort of clarity sometimes they act as If they care a lot about the friendship and sometimes they make feel like screw this crap, it is too much deal with, there's no clarity at all.

Please suggest

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opposite sex?

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then he's obviously not playing it smooth 😄
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People change as time changes or they may leave you without giving any reason. If you are ok with changes, then keep that relationship. If you are judgemental, want as per you want, and if you only want positive vibes then avoid doing friendship, relationship. These things are not made for you. It will hurt you. 

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Yes bro, exactly this thing happens with me. Even a very small change hurts me a lot hence I have only one real life friend in life I am not making more friends cause I am afraid of getting hurt by others sad


Although, I know that this things shouldn't hurt me much but still I fail to control myself and end up hurting myself on those things sad
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I am a very anxious person & even a bit of change in something makes me anxious & uneasy.

Take a break from things / persons you think are possible anxiety triggers until u get some clarity on how to effectively deal with them and feel okay. And friendship is a two way thing, there's no need for explicit good byes / trying to move on.. u can simply state the truth about being anxious & that you need some time off.. but of course not making them feel like a cause for it (Even a considerable gap / less time together can make people to have new habits and companionships). Often people get back together and who knows, you might feel different then

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Thanks bro, this sounds good I completely understood what you are saying. I haven't been in touch with anyone for a good long time (2-3 years) and now all these things act as anxiety triggers for me. I will try some excuse and take a gap from them for some days and try to understand myself why I always feel anxious when I am with them & why even a small change in someone makes me anxious. Once again thanks bro I will try to take a break and try to understand myself smile

My solitude might teach me something new smile
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you are an overthinker laughing can feel you whenever people change we feel like either they give their 100% or nothing at all because people like us are like this only. Don't overthink and let things as they are if they wanna stay they will be there for you if they don't wanna stay they won't. losing people slowly make overthinker people feel bad but this overthinking is a habit and if you kick people out then overthinking will make you regret later for a longer period of time, you won't regret if they go themselves. so just focus on living 
. those who wanna stay they stay those who wanna go will go you can't keep people out of their wish. 
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Exactly bro, I am an overthinker, even after knowing the fact that I am an overthinker I couldn't stop myself from overthinking not just relations or friendships I even overthink about my work, family and day to day life. I have tried multiple times not to overthink but I still end up overthinking and making stupid moves. I also ADHD hence I couldn't even focus on one thing for long time and keep on overthinking about every single.


I liked the point you mentioned very much, I wouldn't kick them I might take a short pause but won't kick them out since as you said kicking them out myself would make myself feel bad and I would keep overthink about it, If they want to kick me out I will happily get out from them (not matter how time and efforts I have given to them, no regrets). Good luck to you too bro we overthinker have really bad time thinking about all these sad 
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Please define what you mean by weird, then people can understand whether it's really weird and help u
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By weird, I mean we used to a long talk, play games together, used to share daily stuff at the end of the day, used to shares stories and stuff together, passing on memes / songs.


But, suddenly from last few days everything has came to halt we hardly had any long talks in last few days, she think that I consider them as liars, sometimes she says let's take break I said OK, then they come back again within hours and start talking like nothing happen it is so weird cause that she aren't giving me any clarity whether they want me to be in their lives or not, if they ask me to exit I am ok with it but there should be some sort of clarity sometimes they act as If they care a lot about the friendship and sometimes they make feel like screw this crap, it is too much deal with, there's no clarity at all sad

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No idea bhai. 😔

Crowdpuller Crowdpuller
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Thanks for your time to write these 3 words even when you have no idea

Benevolent Benevolent
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In Most Cases People Lie About Opp Gender And Talks About Same Gender. (This Is Marriage Season)

If Gender Not Married And No news About Their Marriage, Here Are Few Steps To Do.

1. Stop Drinking Milk And Banana.

2. Stop Eating All Types Of Nuts & Raw Dal & Any Other Protein Food Like Eggs.

3. Stop Looking Their Pictures Or Anything About Them.

In 6 to 7 Days Ur Mind Stops Reacting On Opposite Gender Even If U Think.

If Gender Is Married Visit Mind Doctor If U Can't Live Properly ( Or ) GoTo Temple And Sit There For Hours.
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Brother, there is nothing to hide one is male and other is female, I am having good times with my male friend we talk daily play games together after work hours and everything is good out there.

But, I am getting very bad vibes from the female friend and hence I am curious to know If they she want me to get out I will get out but there should be some sort of clarity from them cause I don't want to make it look like I had problems with her and I left them alone, and it will hurt me back too sad
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Make a beautiful gf she'll give u positive vibes nd many more ..... sweat_smile 

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If you consider your online person as friend, then whatever you posted in OP can be copy pasted as a message to that person. If you are afraid, then you need the relationship more than that person. And then its not friendship.

Deal Captain Deal Captain
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You didn't ask me, so i won't give you my advice. Now feel bad about that blush
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Same is happening with me too, One of my friend ,I used to share lot of memes and chat daily with her And now all of a sudden she didn't even wished me on my birthday , I wished she didn't even care to Reply .. Well I really felt bad and didn't knew what to do , so I just uninstalled every social media and every female contact list (precisely only 2 friend ) I don't fking know why I am overreacting bt after doing this all I am bit ok 
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Bro, all these girls are selfish very selfish, not all but all those who pose such mentality. I have also learnt the lesson hard way. They only realise they value when the get betrayed by someone, at that time they would comeback to us with all their crying & stuff. I am damn glad for you that you managed to get out of this quickly. Try not to get involved in all this stuff ever again bro, it's one of the worst mental pain one can go through & more worst when the opposite person doesn't even cares about us. All the time, effort & everything we waste for them, ahh, it is just unexplainable. I am really sorry for what you have went through & belated Happy Birthday to you 🙂  
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Dump that girl, study n get job which bring lots of happiness that u can't even imagine..

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To whom are u referring with 'they'?
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When you are in negative mode frequently trying to understand your mind about what happened and solving the problem is tough and not advisable at that time. Thats not the only way to solve it. We can't take control over our entire body through mind like we feel, most of the functions are automatically programed (brain too).

1. Most tablets prescribed by professionals are sleeping pills. So uninterrupted sleeping for at least 12 -15 hrs for you will surely have an impact on your brain next day itself. If you consistently do after sometimes you have better clarity to solve your problem without emotions involving

2. Doing exercise (running, cycling, lifting weights) at the starting time of anger, stress, feeling bad etc.. would be way better to exhaust pain and come back to normal

3. If your friend gives you negative vibes, you should think like " thats his/her plan and if you respond or act even inside your mind (nobody is watching you), they won". If you want to win, ignore honestly (when nobody is watching) and do your work to improve yourself. sometimes its tough -- there sleep helps

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