I was caught in a distressing incident in Bangalore. It had been raining lightly when I left from office, and I found myself following a family on a two-wheeler. A bus honked at them, causing the rider to suddenly veer left without putting an indicator. I ended up behind them, and due to the rain, there was water on the road.
As I overtook them, some water splashed onto either the rider or his wife, leading to his anger. He started following me and shouting, which distracted me, and I missed my turn towards Whitefield from Marathahalli. He continued shouting, so I pulled over under an underpass.
Stopping suddenly caused my scooty to wobble dangerously, and I couldn't even put the stand down. It scraped against the side of the road, and he began to physically assault me after looking at my number plate. He didn't even let me talk and started abusing me in Hindi very badly(He was from south) . The assault was so severe that my helmet broke, and my glasses shattered into pieces.
I tried explaining the situation and asking him to stop, but he only responded with more violence, berating me for overtaking from the left. I reminded him that I had honked at him and he had suddenly turned, leaving me with no choice. However, he wouldn't listen and continued his tirade.
His aggression didn't stop, and he even threatened to take me to the police. I looked at his wife, silently urging her to calm him down, and she finally intervened as their daughter began to cry. so after beating the shit out of me and threatening me, like I'm with family, if I was alone I would've taken a nice case of you. His wife persuaded him to leave it so eventually he left and I was left in shock. I stood there still for 15 to 20 minutes figuring out what had just happened.
After collecting the broken pieces of my helmet and glasses in the rain, I tried to calm myself. My legs were shaking, but I focused on finding all the scattered parts of my belongings, which was particularly challenging without my glasses.
As I gathered the pieces, the rain intensified. Even with my raincoat, it was difficult to see clearly without my glasses. I sought shelter under the metro bridge until the rain subsided, then continued my journey home cautiously.
I narrowly avoided colliding with a white Swift Dzire, primarily the other driver's fault, but my shaken state prevented me from fully realizing it at the time. I felt the urge to donate at the Ganpati temple and fulfill my mother's wish to visit a Shiva temple(feels like this is a sign).
During the altercation, I think I injured the finger next to my index finger while trying to defend myself. He struck me with both his left and right hands. Although I wanted to retaliate, I realized that it could make the situation worse, especially in Bangalore traffic, and might lead to an accident.
Reflecting on the incident, I'm thankful that it didn't escalate further. He looked at my vehicle's registration number, and my out-of-state status seemed to provoke him further. I couldn't see his vehicle number as he continuously attacked me.
In summary, I now have swelling on the left side of my nose, which should heal soon, a cut inside my mouth near my upper lip, a swollen and painful finger, a completely shattered pair of glasses, a broken helmet, and lingering mental trauma. At that moment, I contemplated leaving Bangalore and returning to my hometown, overwhelmed by helplessness. It was a lonely and frightening experience, and I hope I never have to endure something like it again. To the aggressor, I can only say, karma will catch up with you.
I'm really sorry for this long post, for those who have read this, Please advice me on what else I could've done, I didn't beat and abuse him back and took the beating since I just wanted to get out of that situation.
sorry about what happened to you. I would suggest this for anyone who are staying in a non-native state than theirs to make some efforts to learn the local language and believe me the risk of these things happening will reduce by 50%, don't be seen as an outsider. Just imagine someone from Bengaluru going to Delhi and speaks in Kannada while interacting outside, its the same case in state where Hindi is a third language even though its our official national language. The geo-political situations we live in and media do create lot of unconscious mental impact/bias on people.
brucelee wrote:sorry about what happened to you. I would suggest this for anyone who are staying in a non-native state than theirs to make some efforts to learn the local language and believe me the risk of these things happening will reduce by 50%, don't be seen as an outsider. Just imagine someone from Bengaluru going to Delhi and speaks in Kannada while interacting outside, its the same case in state where Hindi is a third language even though its our official national language. The geo-political situations we live in and media do create lot of unconscious mental impact/bias on people.
Sorry but if someone speaks in different lang in Delhi, he would’ve insulted a lot like racism. This is common in every state but we’ve to stood against them. Screw native language bro.
For OP: ( no hard feelings for any culture) you’ll face this racism a lot when going to different states where they believe their lang is superior than Hindi: Example: Bangalore/Chennai etc from my past experience.
Next time; kick these racially self minded hard by calling the local police. I was in Bangalore and some native guys insulted me in some other lang and I’m sure they’ll remember me for their lifetime. I can’t disclose much here since I know many dimers are from Bangalore and will feel bad but whenever such racist try to mess with a person like me, I’ll and will always spend as much money as possible to make their life hell.
This is not acceptable in any state of our country and people doesn’t understand specially low culture/education prospective.
Full Support to you OP.
Bro, in these cases, try to get the following:
Leave this country Bhai,
Even if you'll ask police for help they will keep delaying the stuff until you quit. 😐
Even on reddit, i could see hatred
People take pride of their culture and talk shit about others, violence of this kind is not acceptable 😤
Sorry for what happened with you bro.
Just speechless & no words with what weird things are happening around.
Maybe, they can suggest something @kartikxxx @guest_999 @tappukepapa @Ash-D @bikidas2060
Just a side note, sometimes some things happen with us for very first time in life and hence we find it very weird, odd, out of the world & feel like why it happened with me? But, that's why how it works, something happen with me yesterday evening it happen with me for very first time & damn I was thinking about it every single time (I am an overthinker) but I do accept the fact that I shouldn't think about it much but since it happen for first time I keep thing about it.
With time this shall pass too.
shh_my_dog_is_sleeping wrote:Sorry for what happened with you bro.
Just speechless & no words with what weird things are happening around.
Maybe, they can suggest something @kartikxxx @guest_999 @tappukepapa @Ash-D @bikidas2060
Just a side note, sometimes some things happen with us for very first time in life and hence we find it very weird, odd, out of the world & feel like why it happened with me? But, that's why how it works, something happen with me yesterday evening it happen with me for very first time & damn I was thinking about it every single time (I am an overthinker) but I do accept the fact that I shouldn't think about it much but since it happen for first time I keep thing about it.
With time this shall pass too.
Be a dangerous guy bhai. Being a dangerous guy does not mean that you are going to be an aggressor. But that means if something happens then you ll be able to stand your ground. Defend yourself guys. And if possible try to invest in a GoPro. Record yourself while you are on the road. Call the cops immediately. Remember that if you don't help yourself then nobody ll.
Thats why its called HOMETOWN , where the home/peace is ... a person is outsider everwhere else .
Its jungle out there .
I think you should file a complaint in the Police Station. Hope you have noted the vehicle number. Take photos of the injuries and the broken helmet. Since that seems to be a busy area, there might be a lot of CCTV cameras which may have recorded the incident.
Sorry for what happened to you brother. It is a hard fact that People can be so mean sometimes, but it is what it is.
Everyone is struggling here to survive and have limited time on earth, but many do not understand it.
It is good that you did not try to escalate the matter from your side. You were helpless here.
Sometimes I feel that we should be allowed to keep guns, at least one can self-defend himself in such situations, Otherwise, it's a mess out here, people beat/kill you over petty things and no one cares about it as we are already 150 crores, some 100s of death daily does not matter.
flash007 wrote:filing a complaint will give opportunity to Police also to harass him and make some money out of him.Bro, in these cases, try to get the following:
- Make sure to note the aggressor's vehicle number; it can be vital for filing a complaint.
- Check if anyone nearby captured the incident on video; this could serve as valuable evidence.
- If there are any bystanders or witnesses to the incident, ask if they would be willing to provide their contact information in case it's needed as evidence or for statements.
- Remember, it's essential to calmly communicate your side of the story, especially if you believe you're not at fault. Silence can sometimes be misinterpreted as guilt.
First, take leaves from your office and go to your hometown or to your family.
- I can understand the trauma u are dealing with right now.
You need to relax and get yourself treated first, physical damage will take 7-10 days while mental can take even more than 6 months.
-If required take counseling as well.
Few things to remember - these things are common every where, since this is first time , u saw this or experienced this.
(Though south has more hatred towards north, maybe due to politicains, dont want to go into this).
- as per observation (till now from my life) , taqarbaar vyakti kamjoor ko dabata hai, har jagah. They feel proud in this or may be this is life.
- let the bygones be bygones, u have a job so avoid police thing in a new city where u are alone, as it will he more cumbersome to manage things.
- take care buddy, relax and try to recover from this incident, dont forget your goals , ye sab ata jata rehta hai, bhulke aage badne ka prayas karo(talking from self exp)
Whatever happened with you is not right.
But, I will suggest you to let time heal this. No point going to the police and stretching the matter.
Original wrote:Leave this country Bhai,
Even if you'll ask police for help they will keep delaying the stuff until you quit. 😐
Even on reddit, i could see hatred
People take pride of their culture and talk shit about others, violence of this kind is not acceptable 😤
So you staying in this country and suggesting others to leave this country . Original Crap
@DooMLoRD this thing happens every where to anyone , leave alone in our country , but every country , in some form or other . Take care and move on .
That guy's straight-up aggressive, piece of shit.
I get it, you had a rough day, and believe me, out there, you'll run into all sorts of folks. Some folks mistake being peaceful for being weak. I mean, you must've felt like knockin' some sense into him, right?
But here's the deal, you gotta treat yourself better. Learn from this, man. You don't wanna stoop down to his level. Karma's got its own way of sorting things out.
You bounce back, stronger than ever. Keep that kindness of yours intact, buddy. Not everyone's cut from the same cloth. Sure, there's racial hate out there, but this, this is just pure evil.
If that dude had acted like you, we'd be talkin' about the kindness and helping spirit of the South.
I'm from NCR myself, and you'll run into these kinds of people here too, unfortunately.
Faug wrote:Sorry but if someone speaks in different lang in Delhi, he would’ve insulted a lot like racism. This is common in every state but we’ve to stood against them. Screw native language bro.
For OP: ( no hard feelings for any culture) you’ll face this racism a lot when going to different states where they believe their lang is superior than Hindi: Example: Bangalore/Chennai etc from my past experience.
Next time; kick these racially self minded hard by calling the local police. I was in Bangalore and some native guys insulted me in some other lang and I’m sure they’ll remember me for their lifetime. I can’t disclose much here since I know many dimers are from Bangalore and will feel bad but whenever such racist try to mess with a person like me, I’ll and will always spend as much money as possible to make their life hell.
This is not acceptable in any state of our country and people doesn’t understand specially low culture/education prospective.
Full Support to you OP.
We should put all the facts together bro. Op mentioned daughter in the end of story but not at the start (we may get another version of story if we note this). Father becomes Aggressive when something like splashing dirt water on his daughter.
water splashes only when bike goes a bit fast (which suggesting OP driving at a bit higher speed).
Even if it is fellow kannadiga he Might have responded the same.
Im from Andhra and been in Bangalore for almost 6 years now and never encountered such thing like racial abuse nor abused any.
Pro tip: when its ur mistake just accept and Appologize. Else dont even back a step even if whole world against u. (But when u r in a different state just beware that police favours Locals coz of some political influence. So act accordingly to make ur life easier)
Have you noted down the number plate of that guy?
Original wrote:Leave this country Bhai,
Even if you'll ask police for help they will keep delaying the stuff until you quit. 😐
Even on reddit, i could see hatred
People take pride of their culture and talk shit about others, violence of this kind is not acceptable 😤
Leave this country?
And u expect other country people to be polite and respectful?
only those staying abroad knows the Hatred people have on them and the racial abuses which we dont know coz they dont share it with us.
if u cant coexist with people of ur own country then Plan to survive in another country is like a joke.
still not beleiving? Try asking people in ur circle who have gone abroad abt the racial discrimination and abuses faced by them, only then u will understand what it is like be in INDIA🇮🇳
Lootster wrote:Leave this country?
And u expect other country people to be polite and respectful?
only those staying abroad knows the Hatred people have on them and the racial abuses which we dont know coz they dont share it with us.
if u cant coexist with people of ur own country then Plan to survive in another country is like a joke.
still not beleiving? Try asking people in ur circle who have gone abroad abt the racial discrimination and abuses faced by them, only then u will understand what it is like be in INDIA🇮🇳
You are so smart, than why so many leaving? Get out of your bias. Get the data and facts, and review again. Even my PM love to travel foreign 😁😁😁.
mv3qu66Da wrote:You are so smart, than why so many leaving? Get out of your bias. Get the data and facts, and review again. Even my PM love to travel foreign 😁😁😁.
Why people leaving
1. Dowry will be more for People who have gone abroad
2. AP/TS just becoz of pressure by relatives 😂
3. My friend earning more in abroad why cant I - sort of feeing
4. Education loans are cheap and easy to get for Students studying abroad.
My Facts are correct coz i have my cirlce. “Data” what u mentioned are based on above.
Loaferg wrote:So you staying in this country and suggesting others to leave this country . Original Crap
@DooMLoRD this thing happens every where to anyone , leave alone in our country , but every country , in some form or other . Take care and move on .
You may disagree with my opinion and call it absolute crap.
On any day if given opportunity i will choose to move instead of staying here in India.
Bro, only thing I can suggest you that whenver somebody try to verbally abuse you, listen at max for 2nd abuse. After that don't hesitate to abuse back.
And when somebody physically assault you, why didn't you fight him back? Agar tum weak bhi ho to, 2-3 to laga hi sakte the. 🤔 Uski family k samne agar tum uske kaan k niche 2-3 bhi laga dete, to aage se wo kisi se esi Fight ni karta. There is no reason to take anybody's beating whether he is right or wrong.
Ek police complaint toh banta hai bhai.. Karenge kuch nahin police waale but incident report toh karo.
Original wrote:Please do it at the earliest . May God Fulfill your this Desire in fasttrack basis .You may disagree with my opinion and call it absolute crap.
On any day if given opportunity i will choose to move instead of staying here in India.
While it's raining, it's extremely difficult to drive and control a two wheeler especially with droplets on the helmet and spectacles. Under these circumstances, 2-wheeler drivers who are used to drive in whatever lane, overtake and turn without watching the rear view mirror or on the sides, maneouver through narrow passages, often end up in accidents or near misses. Hostile weather also encourages short-tempers. Cool & composed, disciplined slow driving can minimize such accidents
Under these circumstances 1st logical thing to do, instead of arguing, is to politely accept your mistake and apologise if you have made some mistake. This would prevent matters from escalating. At the same time if the opponent appears extremely aggressive, one should try to escape ignoring him and not stopping at all. Verbal abuse can be ignored if your opponent appears more stronger than you. In case he resorts to physical violence, then you have to defend yourself and try to capture the video/pics of the person and reg. number plate of the vehicle.
If you are sure that you were absolutely not at fault, reporting the incident to the Police is also equally important.
please register a complain, it happened to you, and will happen to others later.
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Sorry but if someone speaks in different lang in Delhi, he would’ve insulted a lot like racism. This is common in every state but we’ve to stood against them. Screw native language bro.
For OP: ( no hard feelings for any culture) you’ll face this racism a lot when going to different states where they believe their lang is superior than Hindi: Example: Bangalore/Chennai etc from my past experience.
Next time; kick these racially self minded hard by calling the local police. I was in Bangalore and some native guys insulted me in some other lang and I’m sure they’ll remember me for their lifetime. I can’t disclose much here since I know many dimers are from Bangalore and will feel bad but whenever such racist try to mess with a person like me, I’ll and will always spend as much money as possible to make their life hell.
This is not acceptable in any state of our country and people doesn’t understand specially low culture/education prospective.
Full Support to you OP.
Leave this country Bhai,
Even if you'll ask police for help they will keep delaying the stuff until you quit. 😐
Even on reddit, i could see hatred
People take pride of their culture and talk shit about others, violence of this kind is not acceptable 😤
Bro, only thing I can suggest you that whenver somebody try to verbally abuse you, listen at max for 2nd abuse. After that don't hesitate to abuse back.
And when somebody physically assault you, why didn't you fight him back? Agar tum weak bhi ho to, 2-3 to laga hi sakte the. 🤔 Uski family k samne agar tum uske kaan k niche 2-3 bhi laga dete, to aage se wo kisi se esi Fight ni karta. There is no reason to take anybody's beating whether he is right or wrong.