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Traumatic experience faced in Bangalore being a North Indian.

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I was caught in a distressing incident in Bangalore. It had been raining lightly when I left from office, and I found myself following a family on a two-wheeler. A bus honked at them, causing the rider to suddenly veer left without putting an indicator. I ended up behind them, and due to the rain, there was water on the road.

As I overtook them, some water splashed onto either the rider or his wife, leading to his anger. He started following me and shouting, which distracted me, and I missed my turn towards Whitefield from Marathahalli. He continued shouting, so I pulled over under an underpass.

Stopping suddenly caused my scooty to wobble dangerously, and I couldn't even put the stand down. It scraped against the side of the road, and he began to physically assault me after looking at my number plate. He didn't even let me talk and started abusing me in Hindi very badly(He was from south) . The assault was so severe that my helmet broke, and my glasses shattered into pieces.

I tried explaining the situation and asking him to stop, but he only responded with more violence, berating me for overtaking from the left. I reminded him that I had honked at him and he had suddenly turned, leaving me with no choice. However, he wouldn't listen and continued his tirade.

His aggression didn't stop, and he even threatened to take me to the police. I looked at his wife, silently urging her to calm him down, and she finally intervened as their daughter began to cry.  so after beating the shit out of me and threatening me, like I'm with family, if I was alone I would've taken a nice case of you. His wife persuaded him to leave it so eventually he left and I was left in shock. I stood there still for 15 to 20 minutes figuring out what had just happened.

After collecting the broken pieces of my helmet and glasses in the rain, I tried to calm myself. My legs were shaking, but I focused on finding all the scattered parts of my belongings, which was particularly challenging without my glasses.

As I gathered the pieces, the rain intensified. Even with my raincoat, it was difficult to see clearly without my glasses. I sought shelter under the metro bridge until the rain subsided, then continued my journey home cautiously.

I narrowly avoided colliding with a white Swift Dzire, primarily the other driver's fault, but my shaken state prevented me from fully realizing it at the time. I felt the urge to donate at the Ganpati temple and fulfill my mother's wish to visit a Shiva temple(feels like this is a sign).

During the altercation, I think I injured the finger next to my index finger while trying to defend myself. He struck me with both his left and right hands. Although I wanted to retaliate, I realized that it could make the situation worse, especially in Bangalore traffic, and might lead to an accident.

Reflecting on the incident, I'm thankful that it didn't escalate further. He looked at my vehicle's registration number, and my out-of-state status seemed to provoke him further. I couldn't see his vehicle number as he continuously attacked me.

In summary, I now have swelling on the left side of my nose, which should heal soon, a cut inside my mouth near my upper lip, a swollen and painful finger, a completely shattered pair of glasses, a broken helmet, and lingering mental trauma. At that moment, I contemplated leaving Bangalore and returning to my hometown, overwhelmed by helplessness. It was a lonely and frightening experience, and I hope I never have to endure something like it again. To the aggressor, I can only say, karma will catch up with you.

I'm really sorry for this long post, for those who have read this, Please advice me on what else I could've done, I didn't beat and abuse him back and took the beating since I just wanted to get out of that situation.

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sorry about what happened to you. I would suggest this for anyone who are staying in a non-native state than theirs to make some efforts to learn the local language and believe me the risk of these things happening will reduce by 50%, don't be seen as an outsider. Just imagine someone from Bengaluru going to Delhi and speaks in Kannada while interacting outside, its the same case in state where Hindi is a third language even though its our official national language. The geo-political situations we live in and media do create lot of unconscious mental impact/bias on people.

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Sorry but if someone speaks in different lang in Delhi, he would’ve insulted a lot like racism. This is common in every state but we’ve to stood against them. Screw native language bro. 

For OP: ( no hard feelings for any culture) you’ll face this racism a lot when going to different states where they believe their lang is superior than Hindi: Example: Bangalore/Chennai etc from my past experience. 

Next time; kick these racially self minded hard by calling the local police. I was in Bangalore and some native guys insulted me in some other lang and I’m sure they’ll remember me for their lifetime. I can’t disclose much here since I know many dimers are from Bangalore and will feel bad but whenever such racist try to mess with a person like me, I’ll and will always spend as much money as possible to make their life hell. 


This is not acceptable in any state of our country and people doesn’t understand specially low culture/education prospective. 

Full Support to you OP. 

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Leave this country Bhai, 

Even if you'll ask police for help they will keep delaying the stuff until you quit. 😐

Even on reddit, i could see hatred 

People take pride of their culture and talk shit about others, violence of this kind is not acceptable 😤

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Bro, only thing I can suggest you that whenver somebody try to verbally abuse you, listen at max for 2nd abuse.  After that don't hesitate to abuse back.

And when somebody physically assault you, why didn't you fight him back? Agar tum weak bhi ho to, 2-3 to laga hi sakte the. 🤔 Uski family k samne agar tum uske kaan k niche 2-3 bhi laga dete, to aage se wo kisi se esi Fight ni karta. There is no reason to take anybody's beating whether he is right or wrong. 

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Bro get urself treated and get well soon.if u need any help then let us know. Aise bkl har jagah honge bhai, don't leave the city if you haven't faced any other racial shit other than this.
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sorry about what happened to you. I would suggest this for anyone who are staying in a non-native state than theirs to make some efforts to learn the local language and believe me the risk of these things happening will reduce by 50%, don't be seen as an outsider. Just imagine someone from Bengaluru going to Delhi and speaks in Kannada while interacting outside, its the same case in state where Hindi is a third language even though its our official national language. The geo-political situations we live in and media do create lot of unconscious mental impact/bias on people.

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Sorry but if someone speaks in different lang in Delhi, he would’ve insulted a lot like racism. This is common in every state but we’ve to stood against them. Screw native language bro. 

For OP: ( no hard feelings for any culture) you’ll face this racism a lot when going to different states where they believe their lang is superior than Hindi: Example: Bangalore/Chennai etc from my past experience. 

Next time; kick these racially self minded hard by calling the local police. I was in Bangalore and some native guys insulted me in some other lang and I’m sure they’ll remember me for their lifetime. I can’t disclose much here since I know many dimers are from Bangalore and will feel bad but whenever such racist try to mess with a person like me, I’ll and will always spend as much money as possible to make their life hell. 


This is not acceptable in any state of our country and people doesn’t understand specially low culture/education prospective. 

Full Support to you OP. 

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Bro, in these cases, try to get the following:

  • Make sure to note the aggressor's vehicle number; it can be vital for filing a complaint.
  • Check if anyone nearby captured the incident on video; this could serve as valuable evidence.
  • If there are any bystanders or witnesses to the incident, ask if they would be willing to provide their contact information in case it's needed as evidence or for statements.
  • Remember, it's essential to calmly communicate your side of the story, especially if you believe you're not at fault. Silence can sometimes be misinterpreted as guilt.
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filing a complaint will give opportunity to Police also to harass him and make some money out of him.
No one cares about the story, Might is Right here.
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Leave this country Bhai, 

Even if you'll ask police for help they will keep delaying the stuff until you quit. 😐

Even on reddit, i could see hatred 

People take pride of their culture and talk shit about others, violence of this kind is not acceptable 😤

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So you staying in this  country  and  suggesting  others  to  leave  this  country . Original   Crap 




@DooMLoRD  this  thing  happens  every where to anyone , leave alone  in our country , but every country , in some form or other .  Take care and  move on .

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Sorry for what happened with you bro.

Just speechless & no words with what weird things are happening around.


Maybe, they can suggest something @kartikxxx @guest_999 @tappukepapa @Ash-D @bikidas2060

Just a side note, sometimes some things happen with us for very first time in life and hence we find it very weird, odd, out of the world & feel like why it happened with me? But, that's why how it works, something happen with me yesterday evening it happen with me for very first time & damn I was thinking about it every single time (I am an overthinker) but I do accept the fact that I shouldn't think about it much but since it happen for first time I keep thing about it.


With time this shall pass too.

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Be a dangerous guy bhai. Being a dangerous guy does not mean that you are going to be an aggressor. But that means if something happens then you ll be able to stand your ground. Defend yourself guys. And if possible try to invest in a GoPro. Record yourself while you are on the road. Call the cops immediately. Remember that if you don't help yourself then nobody ll. 

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Thats why its called HOMETOWN , where the home/peace is ... a person is outsider everwhere else . 

Its jungle out there . 

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I think you should file a complaint in the Police Station. Hope you have noted the vehicle number. Take photos of the injuries and the broken helmet. Since that seems to be a busy area, there might be a lot of CCTV cameras which may have recorded the incident. 

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Sorry for what happened to you brother. It is a hard fact that People can be so mean sometimes, but it is what it is.

Everyone is struggling here to survive and have limited time on earth, but many do not understand it. 

It is good that you did not try to escalate the matter from your side. You were helpless here.

Sometimes I feel that we should be allowed to keep guns, at least one can self-defend himself in such situations, Otherwise, it's a mess out here, people beat/kill you over petty things and no one cares about it as we are already 150 crores, some 100s of death daily does not matter.

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First, take leaves from your office and go to your hometown or to your family.

- I can understand the trauma u are dealing with right now.

You need to relax and get yourself treated first, physical damage will take 7-10 days while mental can take even more than 6 months.

-If required take counseling as well.

Few things to remember - these things are common every where, since this is first time , u saw this or experienced this.

(Though south has more hatred towards north, maybe due to politicains, dont want to go into this).

-  as per observation (till now from my life) , taqarbaar vyakti kamjoor ko dabata hai, har jagah. They feel proud in this or may be this is life.

- let the bygones be bygones, u have a job so avoid police thing in a new city where u are alone, as it will he more cumbersome to manage things.

- take care buddy, relax and try to recover from this incident, dont forget your goals , ye sab ata jata rehta hai, bhulke aage badne ka prayas karo(talking from self exp)

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Whatever happened with you is not right.

But, I will suggest you to let time heal this. No point going to the police and stretching the matter.

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That guy's straight-up aggressive, piece of shit.

I get it, you had a rough day, and believe me, out there, you'll run into all sorts of folks. Some folks mistake being peaceful for being weak. I mean, you must've felt like knockin' some sense into him, right?

But here's the deal, you gotta treat yourself better. Learn from this, man. You don't wanna stoop down to his level. Karma's got its own way of sorting things out.

You bounce back, stronger than ever. Keep that kindness of yours intact, buddy. Not everyone's cut from the same cloth. Sure, there's racial hate out there, but this, this is just pure evil.

If that dude had acted like you, we'd be talkin' about the kindness and helping spirit of the South.

I'm from NCR myself, and you'll run into these kinds of people here too, unfortunately.

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Have you noted down the number plate of that guy?

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Bro, only thing I can suggest you that whenver somebody try to verbally abuse you, listen at max for 2nd abuse.  After that don't hesitate to abuse back.

And when somebody physically assault you, why didn't you fight him back? Agar tum weak bhi ho to, 2-3 to laga hi sakte the. 🤔 Uski family k samne agar tum uske kaan k niche 2-3 bhi laga dete, to aage se wo kisi se esi Fight ni karta. There is no reason to take anybody's beating whether he is right or wrong. 

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Ek police complaint toh banta hai bhai.. Karenge kuch nahin police waale but incident report toh karo. 

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While it's raining, it's extremely difficult to drive and control a two wheeler especially with droplets on the helmet and spectacles. Under these circumstances, 2-wheeler drivers who are used to drive in whatever lane, overtake and turn without watching the rear view mirror or on the sides, maneouver through narrow passages, often end up in accidents or near misses. Hostile weather also encourages short-tempers. Cool & composed, disciplined slow driving can minimize such accidents

Under these circumstances 1st logical thing to do, instead of arguing, is to politely accept your mistake and apologise if you have made some mistake. This would prevent matters from escalating. At the same time if the opponent appears extremely aggressive, one should try to escape ignoring him and not stopping at all. Verbal abuse can be ignored if your opponent appears more stronger than you. In case he resorts to physical violence, then you have to defend yourself and try to capture the video/pics of the person and reg. number plate of the vehicle.

If you are sure that you were absolutely not at fault, reporting the incident to the Police is also equally important.

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please register a complain, it happened to you, and will happen to others later.

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These types of people are everywhere. They are just frustrated with their own lives and taking out their anger on people on the road.

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I think either stop immediately or do not stop at all.

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OP,

1)You are outsider. You should never stop the vehicle even when the sky falls down.
2)Bengaluru Bhoomi putras have been made to vacate their lands and outsiders have occupied them in the form of apartments/villas/shopping malls/development.
3)It is a known issue in Bengaluru that these Bhoomi putras have to earn to keep up their life style which was taught by outsiders. Many incidents of robbing case reported. Just check team bhp forum.
4)Upgrade yourself to four wheeler (car) so that you can escape physical assault. If not possible, use public transport / uber etc
5)You are still lucky (no police case or no robbery)
6)Learn to forgive and move on.


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This does not appear to be a case of Bhoomiputras, as the intention was not robbery just mad road rage.
Bhoomiputras target 4 wheelers only and often try to jump on to the bonnet of car for claiming accidental injury and seek compensation. Numerous such videos have been captured with dashcams, which people have started installing to deal with this menace.
Outsiders are not the only targets. All professionals residing in effluent remote townships of Bengaluru are the likely victims.
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See road rage is not a new thing same could have happened in your home-town for some completely different reason what would you have done then left that place too. I would suggest to take a break accept what happened & move on a lot of things happen in life & this is one of it. Not indulging with such people is best IMO but you should have retaliated there's no reason to physically abuse anyone no matter who was wrong or right anyways let it go & don't overthink about what could have happened as it never helps.

Filing a complain is your choice I am not sure of the demographics & police working as no matter what we say we know the corruptions & power influences so depends if you want to get into that.

Lastly make friends with local people that will be very helpful in such scenarios would not suggest to leave the place just for that moreover it's easy to say things but one who is facing knows how it is.

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I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you, brother. I can completely understand. Some people act that way, thinking that venting their family's frustrations on others will make them feel better, but karma has its way of teaching them a lesson. In many of these cases, it involves middle-aged individuals who are frustrated with life.

But this behavior isn't limited to the South. To be honest, I've witnessed such incidents more frequently in the North than in the South. For instance, once in the North, an Ola driver asked me to get out of his car in the middle of the road while shouting abuses when he found out the payment mode is online. He almost raised his hand.

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I think it's normal road rage aggression & it's found throughout the country.

Anybody abused in there own language first & been from out of state might have amplify the situation (but not necessarily has to do with north indian).

Anyways get yourself healed & work upon your body/defense. A person should not harm any living been but if the situation arises he shouldn't even be afraid to be kshatriya.

Putting this in forums social media will gain you only sympathy but in future if situation arise you should be ready to tackle.

Just my 2cents

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As some have suggested, start using dashcam which is anyway recommended given poor traffic rules situation here. If you feel the footage is in your favour then simply file a police case in such a situation.

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I hope this could be helpful -

https://reddit.com/r/bangalore/s/J18AJbs3Te

https://reddit.com/r/indiasocial/s/qBEt...BX

Please do check DM.

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Why to highlight about being "North Indian". Road rage is even worse in Delhi and other parts of North India. Still remember the Navjyot Singh Siddu scandal. And the way people from North East are treated in North India will put anyone to shame.

Racism has now become part of many cities of India. And the present political leaders are only fanning it more.

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If not police complaint, publish this story in Facebook, X and Instagram. Tag Bangalore police, they do take action many times and I expect some serious action in your case as it involves physical assault. Upload some injury pics also. That fellow should at least get some bashing from Police.

It looks like he was furious that you did not stop just after splash, and others become aggressive when there is no retaliation

Self defense or retaliation now a days is very delicate, any small retaliation could lead to loss of life sometimes esp in road rages, I say what you did that time is right thing. At the end of the day, your loved ones need you, that is most important.

I did see such things in a smaller way, but I learn local language with local accent so opposite guy can not guess u r outside even with number place. Watch Kirathaka  movie 5 times you will be speaking Kannada soon

The same dirty minds send their kids abroad and feel proud, and expect equal treatment as hosting country citizens.

Pray to God that u do not face such situation again. Take care


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Next time kick such guys hard in their Balls once they abuse physically and move on 

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Thank you so much guys for reading my post and spending your valuable time to make me feel better and giving me advice, trust me, after going through each of your responses, It made me feel way better than what I was feeling after the incident. Yes, I'm still in the loop of those thoughts, which is affecting my concentration at work and I keep thinking about whether I should have retaliated or what I did was correct by not retaliating but I'm trying to move forward.

Some of you mentioned that I should have asked bystanders for help, but unfortunately, the incident occurred under an underpass which is my mistake, I should have stopped at a crowded place since I'd missed my turn, I had nowhere to go, and there were no people around except for fast-moving vehicles. I was genuinely scared that if a fight had broken out and he had pushed me, I might have ended up getting hit by a passing vehicle. I didn't have any evidence, and in the shock of the moment, I forgot to memorize his license plate. There were no CCTV cameras in the vicinity either. However, as some of you suggested, I will try filing a complaint, even though it may not lead to any significant action.

I'd like to mention one small thing, as soon as the biker stopped, he started punching and hitting me on the face. I repeatedly apologized to him, He didn't stop,  and when I mentioned that he hadn't used his indicator and had suddenly turned, it only made him angrier. I tried my best to convey my message calmly but all in vain. It seemed like he was already frustrated with something else as well as mentioned by @Tejaa or maybe I didn't stop on time as mentioned by @caks2006407 .

I took a day off from work and went to see a movie with a friend, hoping it would help clear my mind, but the incident keeps replaying in my thoughts.

Most of you advised me to forget and move on, and I agree that's the best course of action now since nothing can change the past. I did feel the urge to retaliate, perhaps with my helmet, but seeing his daughter cry reminded me of a similar childhood incident. I was just numb when all of this happened.

Yes, I do have local friends in the area, but since it was raining slightly, I didn't want to trouble them as they live quite far from where the incident occurred. I'm also working on learning the local language. I can understand some Kannada (not fluently), but I struggle with speaking it, even though I know many words.

@Deal_Breaker_ As I mentioned, I couldn't memorize the number plate. :/

@panchabhut I want to apologize if my reference to being "North Indian" offended you or anyone in general, but it felt relevant because the biker used that as an insult ("Hindi Wala") during the incident. He told you mf**g outsiders come here and cause a lot of problems.

@Dimer_Number_420 suggested me in dm to post on the Reddit Bangalore channel, unfortunately, my post hasn't been approved even after two days. I messaged the mods, but I received no reply, seen-zoned. Just wanted to highlight this.

@Lootster I commute daily to my office and drive at speeds ranging from 30-50 km/h (economy) to save fuel and avoid accidents.,  My scooty tends to shake at higher speeds so I usually avoid traveling at high speeds. 

You have been living in Bangalore for 6 years, You must be well aware of Bellandur to Marathahalli traffic (so there is no point in overspeeding) and the water clogging problem on Bangalore roads during rains, even if I drive slowly, water gets splashed, can't avoid it.

It would've maximum got splashed on his or his wife's feet, his daughter looked 4 or 5 years old so there is no way water would've jumped that high, but I feel since I didn't stop, it enraged him more, that's all I can say, and seeing MP on my license plate, he kept following me and abusing me in Hindi all the way till some 5-6 km until I decided to stop and have a chat which you know didn't even happen. 

As you mentioned that I shouldn't have argued but as soon as I said sorry he punched on my face so the argument didn't even start... I appreciate your advice and totally agree that the police would've favored him since he was with his family and a localite so I didn't indulge with him.  

Lastly, I don't want to come across as complaining. I genuinely want to thank all of you from the bottom of my heart for your support and blessings. I hope everyone can learn something from my experience and the advice provided by others, including myself which was the main motto of this post.  Thank you all once again for your concerns, support, and blessings. ❤️




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