Pratyusha Banerjee || How Our Generation Is Failing To Cope Emotional Troubles

Thought for concern !

Very true
A life like hers is just a dream for many….how can she end her life for such a fool. Very depressing news

I have no idea how and Why her Parents left her alone to live with Live in Relationship with a person whom she having differences.

Carving n expectations are the cause of suffering
-buddha

@hps21 wrote:

I have no idea how and Why her Parents left her alone to live with Live in Relationship with a person whom she having differences.

So u think parents can control her..Is it right to blame parents for everything..what can they do if children does not listen..
One should take his own resposiblity..

Nothing against op
I cant understand why these topics are highlighted on a model suicide. Why we are giving her so much of importance. Even farmers suicide who are the real heroes, but we rarely discuss on these type of topics. When a common man suicides he/she remains limited to local newspaper. Op i am just posting in ur thread not against you, i know your thread is on a different topic. Even a special thread created on her suicide. Even news channels are repeating it from yesterday. May i be harsh in my words but its my opinion.

@mjuneja13 wrote:

Nothing against op
I cant understand why these topics are highlighted on a model suicide. Why we are giving her so much of importance. Even farmers suicide who are the real heroes, but we rarely discuss on these type of topics. When a common man suicides he/she remains limited to local newspaper. Op i am just posting in ur thread not against you, i know your thread is on a different topic. Even a special thread created on her suicide. Even news channels are repeating it from yesterday. May i be harsh in my words but its my opinion.

May be because, she is quite famous with Balika vadhu TV Serial
May be because, everyone knows her
Trust me, everyone from my home including my grand father and grand mother are fans of her. They used to watch this TV Soap daily until she got replaced by someone else. There will be lots of others similar to my family members
Its human tendency to care for someone we actually know (doesn’t actually have to be a real life acquaintance)
We can’t react for everything and everyone around the world right?

@prebhartia wrote:

Very true
A life like hers is just a dream for many…how can she end her life for such a fool. Very depressing news

Which life u r talking ,
-Break up once and lose of confidence in 2nd ?
- fame more than one can digest and suddenly shortage of utility ( job /money)
- alone ( without parents /joint family) in the ugly Bollywood ?

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

@prebhartia wrote:

Very true
A life like hers is just a dream for many…how can she end her life for such a fool. Very depressing news

Which life u r talking ,
-Break up once and lose of confidence in 2nd ?
- fame more than one can digest and suddenly shortage of utility ( job /money)
- alone ( without parents /joint family) in the ugly Bollywood ?

Most of these actors prefer leaving alone….n her present jobless state mayb because of her selective nature n continuous trying different things. But the mass scale appreciation name n fame Wht she got is real tough thing to attain for….in just a span of 4-5 yrs…she has earned in crores with no godfather in the industry. She was really the chosen one. But how she handled it carved her destiny. Such name fame is not easy to attain.

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

@prebhartia wrote:

Very true
A life like hers is just a dream for many…how can she end her life for such a fool. Very depressing news

Which life u r talking ,
-Break up once and lose of confidence in 2nd ?
- fame more than one can digest and suddenly shortage of utility ( job /money)
- alone ( without parents /joint family) in the ugly Bollywood ?

+1

one should learn how to lead life, when low confidence.
Ups and downs are common in life
god father should be there to take care at difficult time
one should learn to lead life with less utility, to know the value of high utility.
The Samething is happening with youths now a days, more marks competition (students), high salary competition(professionals), etc, if they dint find any solution, they go with above solution

@prebhartia wrote: Very true
A life like hers is just a dream for many… how can she end her life for such a fool. Very depressing news

you have insider information or her close friend who was present when the abetted suicide or murder happened ?

http://www.desidime.com/forums/dost-and-dimes/t...

@Fml

Its not solution its only escape !

@Pb

Fame is always dynamic,
The ugly Bollywood does not recognize the talent and even the public does not recognise until trumpeted on all channels , same time crap like masti, kapil are popular despite no merits.

Nobody should aspire like flybynight fame, many exmples like jiya, hina and divya r there. Not only TV, Hema was artist in painting, who was killed.

But, young stars cant save the money earned from initial success , perhaps the fake ego or status level apart (so called) by public does not allow them to live the life of mediocre.

They should learn from Neerja bhanaut, kangna , Priety etc. Good time should not be used for enjoying but even for taking protection for bad time.

One Stich in time saves nine.
( money/ relationship/ skill / kindness etc. )

@hps21 wrote: I have no idea how and Why her Parents left her alone to live with Live in Relationship with a person whom she having differences.

can a parent control children.
can children control what their parents do or not do ?

can anyone control anyone else ?

[even if we assume that one actually knows what the other is doing or thinking (state of the mind)].

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

@Fml

Its not solution its only escape !

@Pb

Fame is always dynamic,
The ugly Bollywood does not recognize the talent and even the public does not recognise until trumpeted on all channels , same time crap like masti, kapil are popular despite no merits.

Nobody should aspire like flybynight fame, many exmples like jiya, hina and divya r there. Not only TV, Hema was artist in painting, who was killed.

But, young stars cant save the money earned from initial success , perhaps the fake ego or status level apart (so called) by public does not allow them to live the life of mediocre.

They should learn from Neerja bhanaut, kangna , Priety etc. Good time should not be used for enjoying but even for taking protection for bad time.

One Stich in time saves nine.
( money/ relationship/ skill / kindness etc. )

Bhai ji, these your thoughts naa? plus one to >> perhaps the fake ego or status level apart (so called) by public does not allow them to live the life of mediocre.

any sometimes they just go on repeating whatever it takes to be in the limelight.
like >> http://www.desidime.com/forums/dost-and-dimes/t...
or >> http://www.google.com/search?q=reema+lamba+with... trying to get clicked with every Tom D and Harry.. hoping that their celeb status rubs off to them too.
or >> http://zeenews.india.com/entertainment/celebrit...

I found that opinionated half baked site (TLIndian) too superficial long back and so never read through ony of those link.

I find it odd that they use the terminology “our generation” .

whom are they identifying in that category?

insecure and easily swept off the ground realities people are easily disoriented to take irrational or extreme steps.
of any generation.

again, same sentiments, not that this is to put the OP in a spot.

@mjuneja13 wrote: Nothing against op
I cant understand why these topics are highlighted on a model suicide. Why we are giving her so much of importance. Even farmers suicide who are the real heroes, but we rarely discuss on these type of topics. When a common man suicides he/she remains limited to local newspaper. Op i am just posting in ur thread not against you, i know your thread is on a different topic. Even a special thread created on her suicide. Even news channels are repeating it from yesterday. May i be harsh in my words but its my opinion.

@Juneja ji the farmers usually do not adhere to the picture perfect notions of physical beauty nor have three or four make-up artists and hair stylists working on the ‘acceptable’ image that the really high pressure world of celluloid and idiot-box demand.

besides, unlike the protagonist, the farmers commit suicide immediately upon joblessness and do not join a zillion reality shows to survive on some earnings and limelight.

Farmers actual lives are a reality show and is too bland, boring and repetitive for the sleaze-ball gossip media and the even more sleaze-ball people who feed on the gossip.

बालिका वधु की आनन्दी की मौत से सबक ले हमारा हाई फाई समाज। जिन्दगी में सुकून और संतोष होना जरूरी।
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टीवी सीरियल बालिका वधु में आनन्दी का रोल कर मशहूर हुई प्रत्यूषा बनर्जी की दर्दनाक मौत एक अप्रैल को मुम्बई में हो गई। 24 वर्षीया प्रत्यूषा बिहार के जमशेदपुर से पढऩे के लिए मुम्बई गई थी और फिर टीवी सीरियल करने लगी। यानी पढ़ाई और केरियर के दौरान प्रत्यूषा को माता-पिता और घर परिवार का वातावरण नहीं मिला। यही वजह रही कि प्रत्यूषा को नशे की लत लग गई थी। देर रात की पार्टियों में प्रत्यूषा को नशे की स्थितियों में कई बार देखा गया। प्राथमिक जांच में पता चला है कि उसका ब्वाय फ्रेण्ड राहुल राज भी नशेड़ी ही था। आर्थिक तंगी की वजह से दोनों परेशान भी बताए हैं। प्रत्यूषा की मौत का कारण फांसी लगाना बताया जा रहा है। हो सकता है कि इस मामले में ब्वाय फ्रेण्ड राहुल राज को भी गिरफ्तार कर लिया जाए लेकिन सवाल उठता है कि क्या प्रत्यूषा को भारतीय संस्कृति के अनुरूप परिवार का माहौल मिला? प्रत्यूषा की दर्दनाक मौत से हमारे हाई फाई समाज को सबक लेना चाहिए। यह माना कि लड़कियों को पूरी आजादी मिलनी चाहिए और उसके साथ किसी भी प्रकार का भेदभाव नहीं होना चाहिए। कुछ इसी तर्ज पर प्रत्यूषा बनर्जी ने मुम्बई में अपनी जिन्दगी व्यतीत की थी यानी जिस फ्लेट में प्रत्यूषा रहती थी उसमें विवाह से पहले ही उसका ब्वाय फ्रेण्ड राहुल भी रहता था। प्रत्यूषा मुम्बई में क्या कर रही है इसकी जानकारी जमशेदपुर में रह रहे उसके माता-पिता को नहीं थी यानी प्रत्यूषा को पूरी आजादी थी। क्या यही आजादी प्रत्यूषा की मौत का करण बनी? हमारे हाई फाई समाज में ऐसी बहुत सी लड़कियां हैं जो प्रत्यूषा की तरह आजादी चाहती हैं। लेकिन हमें इस आजादी के परिणाम पर भी विचार करना चाहिए। कोई माता-पिता नहीं चाहता कि बन्धनों की वजह से लड़की को आगे बढऩे से रोका जाए। लेकिन हर माता-पिता यह भी चाहता है कि उसकी बेटी अपना वैवाहिक जीवन आनन्द के साथ गुजारे। हमने देखा कि प्रत्यूषा ने शोहरत खूब कमाई लेकिन उसे घर परिवार का माहौल नहीं मिला। यह बात सिर्फ लड़कियों पर लागू नहीं होती बल्कि लड़कों पर भी होती है। लड़कों को भी भारतीय संस्कृति के घर परिवार में सीमाओं का पालन करना चाहिए। जो युवा गरीब मां-बाप को छोड़़कर आगे बढ़ते हैं उनकी तो जिम्मेदारी कुछ ज्यादा ही है। शोहरत और दौलत अपनी जगह है लेकिन जीवन में सुकून और संतोष भी जरूरी है। ईश्वर हर व्यक्ति को उसकी जरूरत के अनुरूप देता है लेकिन जब व्यक्ति संतोष नहीं करता तो उसके जीवन में सुकून भी नहीं होता। प्रत्यूषा ने जो आजादी हासिल की उससे वह ऐसे चक्रव्यूह में फंस गई जहां उसे मौत को गले लगाना पड़ा। अन्दाजा लगाया जा सकता है कि प्रत्यूषा किन परिस्थितियों में मरी होगी। पुलिस के अनुसार उसकी मांग में सिन्दूर भरा हुआ था और थोड़े दिन पहले ही उसने विवाह के लिए कपड़े डिजाइन करवाए थे यानी जो प्रत्यूषा दुल्हन बनने के सपने देख रही थी उसी प्रत्यूषा ने फंदे पर झूलकर जान दी। प्रत्यूषा की मौत से उन अभिभावकों को जागरूक होने की जरूरत है जिनके बच्चे बड़े महानगरों में पढ़ाई अथवा नौकरी कर रहे हैं। कई बार बच्चे ऐसे रास्ते पर चले जाते हैं जहां से वापस लौटना मुश्किल होता है। फिल्मी दुनिया में काम करने वाले युवाओं को तो ज्यादा ही सतर्कता बरतने की जरूरत है। टीवी सीरियल के माध्यम से शोहरत और दौलत दोनों ही जल्दी मिलती है लेकिन इसको संभाल पाना बेहद मुश्किल हो जाता है।

the actual rate at which customers gets the produce of farmers – has any one thought of that

when we go to retail shops for fruits veggies and groceries – the charges are almost double than what the farmer gets.

in recent time green chilies sold in whole sale is around 50 – 70 and in retail around 140 – 150 per kg

its the middle man who is making a good profit…

also the govts have failed to tackle this issue….

ACCHE DIN are still coming

@desidude2013 wrote:

the actual rate at which customers gets the produce of farmers – has any one thought of that

when we go to retail shops for fruits veggies and groceries – the charges are almost double than what the farmer gets.

in recent time green chilies sold in whole sale is around 50 – 70 and in retail around 140 – 150 per kg

its the middle man who is making a good profit…

also the govts have failed to tackle this issue….

ACCHE DIN are still coming

I do also belong to Agriculture Backgraund. This year Production in our Farms is 50% Less comparred to last year due to Bad Weather conditions and Rainfall at wrong Times. Finally, The Selling Price per 100Kg Wheat is 1250Rs only, Now in City, you can see peoples getting Wheat Flour, from an decent brand company such as Ashirwad Ata at about 27 Rs Per Kg from Malls like Big Bazaar. So you can see that Farmers like me getting even less than half price of final product reaching to common Man and middle-man like Broker in my village making profit in crores every season without paying any Tax to Govt. There is no Achhe Din for Farmers who selling Wheats for just 12.5 Rs per Kg and also for common people who buying Wheat flour for 27 rs Kg.

@lostdrms wrote:

@hps21 wrote:

I have no idea how and Why her Parents left her alone to live with Live in Relationship with a person whom she having differences.

So u think parents can control her..Is it right to blame parents for everything..what can they do if children does not listen..
One should take his own resposiblity..

I did not said that parents can fully control their Children, But I said I cant understand, how a person in city like Mumbai and working in Televisions can be such a alone and can decide for suicide at just 24 Years Age…

@desidude2013 wrote:

the actual rate at which customers gets the produce of farmers – has any one thought of that

when we go to retail shops for fruits veggies and groceries – the charges are almost double than what the farmer gets.

in recent time green chilies sold in whole sale is around 50 – 70 and in retail around 140 – 150 per kg

its the middle man who is making a good profit…

also the govts have failed to tackle this issue….

ACCHE DIN are still coming

Actually people tend to miss/forget some basic facts into consideration and media trial also doesn’t help

1. Do you even know how much freight is there for making it to the local mandi’s. It includes Vehicle Fare + Loading Unloading Labour at Farm.

2. Do you know that there is weight loss of 1~4 kg on every 50 kg from Farm to Final Destination. Who considers that?

3. Freight Charges from Local Mandi to Destination Mandi + Labour Charges who considers that?

4. Farmer’s liability ends when it is sold at the farm. To make it reach to the final customer the liability lies with the middleman because of vegetables being perishable in nature. Do you want them to take risk for free?

5. A simple logic – When Tomato rates are low such as 10/kg you purchase 4 kg and thes local shopkeeper (who is also poor) makes Rs.6 (assuming) because he needs Rs.400-500 to pay rent and earn something. When the rate rises to rs.40/kg you purchase 1 kg but unfortunately the local shopkeeper has to make up for it because he has to earn Rs.400-500 daily to make his living. He charges you Rs.48~Rs.50 and you say ohh look he is looting us.

5. You know that local shopkeeper’s don’t purchase the fruits/vegetables in cash from Middlemen. They are financed by Middleman. The cost of finance and risk of loosing money who will add this cost to product price?

PS → I hv left many points. Go to the ground and you’ll know the reality.

@hps21 wrote:

@desidude2013 wrote:

the actual rate at which customers gets the produce of farmers – has any one thought of that

when we go to retail shops for fruits veggies and groceries – the charges are almost double than what the farmer gets.

in recent time green chilies sold in whole sale is around 50 – 70 and in retail around 140 – 150 per kg

its the middle man who is making a good profit…

also the govts have failed to tackle this issue….

ACCHE DIN are still coming

I do also belong to Agriculture Backgraund. This year Production in our Farms is 50% Less comparred to last year due to Bad Weather conditions and Rainfall at wrong Times. Finally, The Selling Price per 100Kg Wheat is 1250Rs only, Now in City, you can see peoples getting Wheat Flour, from an decent brand company such as Ashirwad Ata at about 27 Rs Per Kg from Malls like Big Bazaar. So you can see that Farmers like me getting even less than half price of final product reaching to common Man and middle-man like Broker in my village making profit in crores every season without paying any Tax to Govt. There is no Achhe Din for Farmers who selling Wheats for just 12.5 Rs per Kg and also for common people who buying Wheat flour for 27 rs Kg.

@GoogleCA wrote:

@desidude2013 wrote:

the actual rate at which customers gets the produce of farmers – has any one thought of that

when we go to retail shops for fruits veggies and groceries – the charges are almost double than what the farmer gets.

in recent time green chilies sold in whole sale is around 50 – 70 and in retail around 140 – 150 per kg

its the middle man who is making a good profit…

also the govts have failed to tackle this issue….

ACCHE DIN are still coming

Actually people tend to miss/forget some basic facts into consideration and media trial also doesn’t help

1. Do you even know how much freight is there for making it to the local mandi’s. It includes Vehicle Fare + Loading Unloading Labour at Farm.

2. Do you know that there is weight loss of 1~4 kg on every 50 kg from Farm to Final Destination. Who considers that?

3. Freight Charges from Local Mandi to Destination Mandi + Labour Charges who considers that?

4. Farmer’s liability ends when it is sold at the farm. To make it reach to the final customer the liability lies with the middleman because of vegetables being perishable in nature. Do you want them to take risk for free?

5. A simple logic – When Tomato rates are low such as 10/kg you purchase 4 kg and thes local shopkeeper (who is also poor) makes Rs.6 (assuming) because he needs Rs.400-500 to pay rent and earn something. When the rate rises to rs.40/kg you purchase 1 kg but unfortunately the local shopkeeper has to make up for it because he has to earn Rs.400-500 daily to make his living. He charges you Rs.48~Rs.50 and you say ohh look he is looting us.

5. You know that local shopkeeper’s don’t purchase the fruits/vegetables in cash from Middlemen. They are financed by Middleman. The cost of finance and risk of loosing money who will add this cost to product price?

PS → I hv left many points. Go to the ground and you’ll know the reality.

so the middlemen are justified in charging double the wholesale rates to the end consumers… let the farmers end their lives WHO CARES???

@superwoman wrote:

@GoogleCA wrote:

@desidude2013 wrote:

the actual rate at which customers gets the produce of farmers – has any one thought of that

when we go to retail shops for fruits veggies and groceries – the charges are almost double than what the farmer gets.

in recent time green chilies sold in whole sale is around 50 – 70 and in retail around 140 – 150 per kg

its the middle man who is making a good profit…

also the govts have failed to tackle this issue….

ACCHE DIN are still coming

Actually people tend to miss/forget some basic facts into consideration and media trial also doesn’t help

1. Do you even know how much freight is there for making it to the local mandi’s. It includes Vehicle Fare + Loading Unloading Labour at Farm.

2. Do you know that there is weight loss of 1~4 kg on every 50 kg from Farm to Final Destination. Who considers that?

3. Freight Charges from Local Mandi to Destination Mandi + Labour Charges who considers that?

4. Farmer’s liability ends when it is sold at the farm. To make it reach to the final customer the liability lies with the middleman because of vegetables being perishable in nature. Do you want them to take risk for free?

5. A simple logic – When Tomato rates are low such as 10/kg you purchase 4 kg and thes local shopkeeper (who is also poor) makes Rs.6 (assuming) because he needs Rs.400-500 to pay rent and earn something. When the rate rises to rs.40/kg you purchase 1 kg but unfortunately the local shopkeeper has to make up for it because he has to earn Rs.400-500 daily to make his living. He charges you Rs.48~Rs.50 and you say ohh look he is looting us.

5. You know that local shopkeeper’s don’t purchase the fruits/vegetables in cash from Middlemen. They are financed by Middleman. The cost of finance and risk of loosing money who will add this cost to product price?

PS → I hv left many points. Go to the ground and you’ll know the reality.

so the middlemen are justified in charging double the wholesale rates to the end consumers… let the farmers end their lives WHO CARES???

Can’t bang my head against the wall. I was trying to explain that how price increases.

@superbeep wrote: so the middlemen are justified in charging double the wholesale rates to the end consumers… let the farmers end their lives WHO CARES???

@Nigel please change this @superbeep to EkAurFlameTroll

@hps21 kaun sa grade ugaya. i think this season the crops did get odd showers damage so it won’t be easy.

but for home use, sharbati is good tthis side. for the crops for sale is it other numerical grades so i wondered which ones you had (and which area/geography)