Self Improvement [ Peace of Mind ]

Self Improvement [ Peace of Mind ]

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10 Commandmen​ts

1. Do Not Interfere In Others’ Business Unless Asked.

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too
often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we
have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way,
our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not
conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered
to the right direction, our direction. This thinking
denies the existence of individuality and consequently
the existence of God. God has created each one of us
in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act
in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way
they do because God within them prompts them that way.
There is God to look after everything. Why are you
bothered? Mind your own business and you will keep
Your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget.

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We
often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the
person who insults us or harms us. We nurture
grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep,
development of stomach ulcers, and high blood
pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but
nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly
remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Believe in
the justice of God and the doctrine of Karma. Let Him
judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is too
short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and
march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition.

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom
praise anybody without selfish motives. They may
praise you today because you are in power, but no
sooner than you are powerless; they will forget your
achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why
do you wish to kill yourself in striving for their
recognition? Their recognition is not worth the
aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely
and leave the rest to God.

4. Do Not Be Jealous.

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our
peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your
colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get
promotions; you do not. You started a business several
years ago, but you are not as successful as your
neighbor whose business is only one year old. There
are several examples like these in everyday life.
Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody’s life
is shaped by his or her previous Karma, which has now
become his destiny. If you are destined to be rich,
nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so
destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be
gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy
will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your
peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment.

If you try to change the environment single-handedly,
the chances are you will fail. Instead, change
yourself to suit your environment. As you do this,
even the environment, which has been unfriendly to
you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured.

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an
advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences,
ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond
our control. If we cannot control them or change them,
we must learn to put up with these things. We must
learn to endure them cheerfully thinking, “God wills
it so, so be it.” God’s plan is beyond our
comprehension. Believe in it and you will gain in
terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew.

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often
tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable
of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know
your limitations. Why take on additional loads that
may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind
by expanding your external activities. Reduce your
material engagements and spend time in prayer,
introspection and meditation. This will reduce those
thoughts in your mind that make you restless.
Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly.

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing
thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind.
Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate
earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will
tend to become peaceful during the remaining
twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be
easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit
by gradually increasing the period of daily mediation.
You may think that this will interfere with your daily
work. On the contrary, this will increase your
efficiency and you will be able to produce better
results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant.

An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil
actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind
occupied in something positive, something worthwhile.
Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your
interest. You must decide what you value more: money
or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or
temple work, may not always earn you more money, but
you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement.
Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself
in healthy reading or mental chanting of God’s name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret.

Do not waste time in protracted wondering “Should I or
shouldn’t I?” Days, weeks, months, and years may be
wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never
plan enough because you can never anticipate all
future happenings. Always remember, God has His own
plan, too for you. Value your time and do the things
that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail
the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and
succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will
lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not
brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened
was destined to happen only that way. Take it as the
Will of God. You do not have the power to alter the
course of God’s Will. Why cry over spilt milk?

33 Dimers
Criss angel
Deal Captain

These days I am too frustrated…!

Deal Captain
tycoon74 wrote:

These days I am too frustrated…!

why are you so frustrated
going against the first point

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Deal Subedar

awesome barood bhai…i think no:7 suits my situation…..

Deal Colonel

One Sure-fire Way to Success

- Zig Ziglar*

One of the main reasons people fail to reach their full potential is because they are unwilling to risk anything. They are fearful of losing, failing, or getting hurt and just want to do the things they believe will keep them safe. They simply want to maintain their status quo and avoid anything that might upset the mediocre expectations they have for their lives. Now, I don’t want you to get the idea that I am making fun of people who have mediocre expectations. Most people have mediocre expectations for themselves, and they come by it naturally. Their experience has conditioned them to believe mediocrity is about as good as it gets, so their expectations match their experience.

What I am saying is that experience is a great teacher but we should never let our experience influence what we think about our potential. Did you know that every human being is created with a purpose and that they have a responsibility to not only discover their purpose but also to fulfil it? I don’t mean that it is every person’s destiny to be rich and famous, but it is every person’s destiny to do something that will make a positive difference in the lives of others. That is one of the reasons I believe you can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want. I love what Joan of Arc said when she stated, “I’m not afraid. I was born to do this.” If you believe as I do that you were born to win, you’re going to have to find your fears and start facing them. Face them over and over again until you have nothing to fear but fear itself.

To discover your purpose and act on it, you will have to take risks. What does it mean to take a risk, and how can you overcome the fear of taking risks? First, let’s consider how you might have become fearful of taking risks in the first place. Most people become fearful because they have been hurt by taking risks in the past. That is why our experience contributes to possibly limiting what we think we can do or are willing to do. The way to correct this thinking is to realize that the mistakes we made in our past are actually assets that we can use for our benefit today. It is not that we should stop taking risks. It is that we should not repeat things we have done in the past that did not work.

There is a big difference between the two!

Think about all the lessons you have learned from past attempts and then find a way to use them in a new endeavour. By taking risks you open your life up to new and exciting possibilities. Let others sit around and wait for opportunity—you go out and find it.
Vendetta man
Deal Cadet

That’s a long post brood :p

Deal Colonel

Beautiful poem by Rabindranath Tagore

A meaningful poem written by the first Indian Nobel prize winner (for literature) in 1913.
Deal Colonel

Yesterday I was clever so thought of changing the World, today am Wiser so am changing Myself.

Deal Colonel

“To fight the darkness do not draw your sword, light a candle” – Zarathustra

Deal Colonel

Parents Last Wish…

Deal Colonel

Married or not… you should read this.


“When I got home that night as …my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was greying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you share this with your friends, you just might save a marriage.

Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Deal Colonel

Pick me up: 7 Instant mood boosters

Life is not going in the right direction. The promotion that you were entitled to went to someone else. Either your toaster blew up or your cat died. Any which way you feel worthless. Ring a bell?

So what do you do when you feel utterly depressed? Let us show you the way on how to keep the mind occupied and keep negative thoughts at bay.

1. Surf the Internet:

Technology provides a gateway to entertainment and knowledge all within the confines of your comfort zone. With a host of existing sites dedicated to cater to a wide range of users, finding stuff to do online is not a difficult task. Try and disengage your mind from the negative thoughts and listen to music, or play games.

2.Watch Movies:

When you are feeling sad, watching upbeat humorous movies helps make you feel better. So, the next time when you feel that your life cannot get any worse, you should watch a feel good film, for an instant dose of feel-good happiness.

3. Take a Warm Bath:

There’s nothing like the feel of warm scented water to get rid of negativity. The warmth from the bath will have a calming effect on the nerves and will soothe the body. The bath will leave you feeling fresh and positive.

4. Snack on a Bar of Chocolate:

Studies have shown that dark chocolates help produce serotonin in the body. Serotonin is known to counter the effects of depression by stabilizing hormone levels. However, you should be careful not to over consume the chocolate. You do not want an added reason to be depressed about, right?

5. Aromatherapy:

When you are feeling blue, aromatherapy comes as the answer to this problem. Aromatherapy calms the senses by means of activating the olfactory sensations, using a host of aromatic oils. You can light a scented candle in a dark room, and lie down. Inhaling the rich smell of incense will provide the much needed relief.

6. Pamper Yourself:

There is nothing more calming than a day spent at a spa to lift the curtain of blues. A spa treatment, which although a slightly expensive alternative, is proved to have cured depression. Massages with aromatic oils stimulate the body and mind, and drain the negative energy from the body.

7. Have Some Soup: Mothers all around the world deem this to be the ‘numero uno’ cure for all illnesses, mostly because of its nourishing and feel-good properties. There is nothing like a bowl of creamy, piping hot soup to banish those depressing feelings.

There are numerous household ways to battle depression, but if one feels that their situation is out of control, they need to seek medical attention immediately. Depression is a curable condition. However, one needs proper medication to experience normal life once again._

Deal Cadet

Really very great thoughts barood bhai

Keep posting such good things,really very valuable and inspirational thoughts!!!!

Deal Colonel

Be a LEADER – not a “boss” nor a “pal”

One of the many things I’ve learned over the years is that most leadership “wounds” (problems) are self-inflicted. After all, supervisors are human … they aren’t perfect … sometimes they shoot themselves in the feet. And of all the mistakes we can make, two stand out as the most common and the most problematic.

The first mistake is relying almost entirely on authority and control to get the job done – telling employees what to do and looking over their shoulders to make sure they do it. Described conversationally, it’s “I talk, you listen … I direct, and you comply. “Described attitudinally, it’s I’m the boss. No matter how you describe it, IT’S A PROBLEM! Why? Because most employees don’t like being bossed around. They resent it and they resent you for doing it. Worse yet, authoritarian approaches typically stifle team member initiative, creativity, commitment, and satisfaction. Eventually, employees turn off. Some quit and leave … others quit and stay. Either way, you’re toast!

The second supervisory mistake is the opposite extreme of the first – being (or trying to be) “one of the guys or gals” and then trading on friendship in order to get the job done. What’s wrong with that? Lots of things – including the increased potential for favouritism and loss of objectivity when dealing with issues and problems. Then, there’s the blurring of your role and authority – which leaves team members with the task of figuring out which “hat” (friend or supervisor) you’re wearing at any given moment. Finally, there’s the reality that it’s just plain tough to manage your buddies. Too often you end up having to choose between doing your job and keeping a friend. Either way, you lose!

So, here’s the deal in a nutshell: Your people don’t want a “boss” and they undoubtedly have more than enough friends. If you’re looking to get the most and best from your group, don’t be a dictator or a chum, be a LEADER – someone who motivates, inspires, and models top-notch performance and conduct.

Does that mean you should give assignments or hold people accountable for their performance and results? No, it doesn’t.

Does it mean you can’t have positive and friendly relationships with the members of your team? No, again.

What it means is that your primary mission is enabling and empowering your people to succeed.

  • Lead well … LEAD RIGHT*
Deal Cadet

Yes need leaders and not bosses…. good one

Deal Colonel

Fabulous compilation. .!

Napoleon said…
“The world suffers a lot. Not because of the violence of bad people, but because of the silence of good people!”

Michael Paul said…
I wrote on the door of heart, “Please do not enter”
Love came smiling and said: “sorry I am an illiterate”

Einstein said…
“I am thankful to all those who said no to me
It’s because of them I did it myself.

Abraham Lincoln said…
“If friendship is your weakest point then you are the strongest person in the world.”

Shakespeare said…
“Laughing faces do not mean that there is absence of sorrow!
But it means that they have the ability to deal with it”

Shakespeare said…
“In the times of crisis I was not hurt by the harsh words of my enemies,
But by the silence of my friends”.

Shakespeare said…
“Never play with the feelings of others because you may win the game
But you will surely lose the person for life time”

Shakespeare said…
“Coin always makes sound but the currency notes are always silent.
So when your value increases keep yourself calm silent”

William Arthur said…
“Opportunities are like sunrises, if you wait too long you can miss them”

Hitler said…
“When you are in the light, everything follows you,
But when you enter into the dark, even your own shadow doesn’t follow you”

Shiv Khera…
“If we are not part of the solutions, we are the big problems”
“Winners never do the different things,
They do the things differently”.

John Keats said…
“It is very easy to defeat someone, but it is very hard to win someone”