Self Improvement [ Peace of Mind ]
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A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Communicating Effectively
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Zig Ziglar
My friend, author-speaker Nido Qubein, in his Executive Briefing newsletter, gives some advice on communicating with people from other cultures. “We must remember that people from different backgrounds send and receive messages through cultural filters. Words, expressions and gestures that mean one thing in one culture may mean something entirely different in another culture. A term or a gesture that may seem perfectly harmless to you may be offensive to someone from another ethnic group.” Nido says that, “We must first find out what terms and expressions are offensive to minority ears and avoid slang words that refer to people of different racial, ethnic or national minorities. Don’t use them even in joking. Next, we need to understand that English is a precise language but is perceived as blunt by many speakers of other languages. For example, Americans often pride themselves on ‘telling it like it is,’ but this is a turn-off to Japanese workers who practice ‘ishin-denshin’ – that is, communication by the heart.”
“Saving face” is an important consideration in some cultures and this may influence the way people respond to you. If you say, “Do you understand?” to someone from an Asian culture, you may get a polite “yes” when the person has no idea what you’re talking about. If they say “no,” it can only mean one of two things to many Asians: They’re too dense to comprehend or you are a poor instructor. Nido says that it’s important to watch the facial expressions of the person with whom we’re talking. It’s hard to disguise puzzlement and it’s usually easy enough to tell whether the face comprehends. He suggests that first of all we ask for feedback; second, that we listen carefully for questions because if there are no questions, there’s likely to be no understanding. Third, we should use clear, simple language. This is only a minute capsule of communicating properly with those from other cultures, but it’s a good place to start. Give it a try and I’ll see you at the top!
How Old is your Brain
Brain Age
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Congratulations! Your Brain Age is 43 (pefect for me)
Time Management
The below tips can be useful to manage your time effectively.
1. Write the things down
2. Prioritize your list
3. Plan your week
4. Carry a notebook
5. Learn to say no
6. Think before acting
7. Continuously improve yourself
8. Think about what you are giving up to do your regular activities
9. Use a time management system
10. Identify bad habits
11. Don’t do other’s work
12. Keep a goal journal
13. Don’t be a perfectionist
14. Beware of ‘filler’ tasks
15. Avoid ‘efficiency traps’
Silence and smile are two powerful tools
Take a Bow
Zig Ziglar
Several years ago Shinichi Suzuki, a Japanese teacher, developed a method of teaching music which later was adapted to teaching other skills. The first thing Suzuki did was teach his students how to take a bow. The reason is simple: When performers take a bow, the audience will applaud. Shakespeare said that “the applause of a single human being is of great consequence,” so for a youngster to hear applause is an important step towards having that youngster feel good about himself.
The Suzuki method was simple but effective. Suzuki placed a recording by the side of the baby’s crib and played the same song many times. This process was repeated for two or three years. At about age three the child was taken with its mother to music lessons and watched the adult play the violin. At about age four the child was given a miniature violin and started learning the scale and initially some simple melodies.
At one particular grand event, Suzuki had over fifteen hundred youngsters, ranging in age from seven to twelve, playing in concert. They were not playing simple melodies; they were playing the works of the great violinists of the world, symphony orchestra pieces and sophisticated classical music. They played it beautifully. The interesting thing is that, according to Suzuki, very few, if any, of these children had any “natural” musical ability. It was a learned skill.
Those children had been conditioned to love and appreciate music. They had been exposed to good teaching and training and with much effort and hard work they had become accomplished musicians. This approach will work in virtually any area of life.
Now, just in case you might be thinking negatively “this won’t work for me,” let me remind you that I’m talking about a scientifically validated procedure for acquiring skills that will make a difference in your life. Give it a try and I’ll see you at the top!
How to Recover from a Bad Mood
LeslieBeth Wish
In a column about relationships, it’s easy to overlook that the number one person you must always relate to is yourself. Yet, sometimes, when circumstances make us veer off our usual course, we get irritable, pessimistic and just plain old down in the dumps. Here are some tips to help you strengthen your positive coping skills, gain a perspective, a sense of control and feel better.
1. Be aware, know your physical reactions. Make friends with your body. Be on the look-out for your body’s personalized ways of signaling you that you are stressed. Do you get headaches? An upset stomach? A racing heart? Do you feel as though an elephant is sitting on your chest? Knowing and recognizing your somatic symptoms will allow you to get into solution mode quicker.
2. Link your physical reactions with your emotions. Now that your body’s warning signals have put you on alert, name the emotions that usually trigger these reactions. For example, if your stomach churns every time you have to give a presentation, you know that you are feeling anxious. Or, if you feel listless after a negative review or fight with your partner, then you know that you are feeling depressed.
3. Identify similar situations and physical reactions that have happened to you in your past. To paraphrase the famous philosopher and writer, George Santayana, if you can’t recognize your past situations, you just might end up repeating your unpleasant emotions and not be able to change them. Our present—and future—is connected to our past, whether we like it or not. Imagine, for instance, that all your negative experiences with bosses are lights that are strung on the same chord. When one bad experience happens, your other unpleasant ones light up, too. Of course, the brain-body connection does not work quite that simply, but many memories and the feeling associated with them get activated in the brain. When you can identify past similar situations, you are more able to develop targeted strategies to adjust your mood.
4. Make a list of the successful steps you took in the past to change your mood. If a technique worked once, it might work again. When one of my clients became depressed after months of job searching, she recalled a similar time in her past. She remembered how she volunteered to build her resume and connections. She also recalled that she sent out many more queries than she sent out this time. Apply any successful solutions that worked for you previously. Adjust them to fit the current situation.
5. Develop positive self-talk. If you have been successful in the past with similar situations and negative moods, make a list of the solutions that worked. Make a list of all your accomplishments and positive attributes. Think about all the words of encouragement you used to make you feel better. Usually, these pep talks address two distinct processes:
-Restoring a positive self-view
-Getting a perspective
In the example where my client was not seeking employment productively, she restored her self-view by making a list of her educational and career accomplishments and her positive characteristics. She felt good about completing college and a masters degree while raising two children, and she reminded herself that she is hard-working and ethical.
She also recalled her parents’ criticism of her. They said she was “not the smart one.” By connecting her past to her present mood, she was able to lessen the impact of her parents’ words by saying to herself, “They were wrong.”
She got perspective by recalling how long it took her to find a job in the past and how she is not alone. Millions of people—good, decent, smart people are also out of work.
These pep talks prevented her from giving up—or beating herself up emotionally.
6. Smile and laugh. Read the funnies, recall fun times, look at photos from vacations or holidays. In other words, activate the pleasure centres in your brain and use them to jump-start positive feelings. When we feel happy, we beat the blues and become more productive.
7. Connect. Call a friend, send an e-mail. Social support soothes us. Join a support group or develop a buddy system where you can call a friend who can empathize. And one of the best medicines is to do volunteer work.
8. Do a task. Sometimes bad situations overwhelm us so much that we can’t get anything done. Set a goal to do at least one task a day. The act of completing a goal can make you feel more in charge.
9. Change your setting. Get up, go for a walk, take a hot shower, run an errand. Changing your environment signals your brain to activate different neural connections. People often, for example, come up with ideas and solutions when driving or taking a bath.
10. Develop gratitude. Make a list of all the things that make you feel grateful. You might think about your health, your family, your job or anything that makes you feel luckier than the people you hear about in the news. Sometimes, when we realize that we are lucky, we are also motivated to give back.
Be sure to use these tips to lift your spirits the next time you are feeling down in the dumps.
“Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you.”
~ H. Jackson Brown
“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”
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~ Carl Bard*
A wise Man said:
You can cure a diseased body……
……but not a diseased ‘mind’
*“No one gets out of this world alive, so the time to live, learn, care, share, celebrate and love is now.” *
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~ Leo Buscaglia
“All of the animals except for man know that the principle business of life is to enjoy it.”
- Samuel Butler
“*To touch the soul of another human being*
is to walk on holy ground.”
~ Stephen Covey
He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends.
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your
silence !!!
Mindchow
Ambition is the last refuge of the failure.
A good neighbor is a fellow who smiles at you over the back fence, but
doesn’t climb over it.
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
~Oscar Wilde
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
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~ Eleanor Roosevelt*
“In three words I can sum up everything I have learned about life: It Goes On.”
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~ Robert Frost*
“When the power of LOVE overcomes the love OF POWER, the world will know PEACE .”
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~ Jimi Hendrix*
“When someone does something well, applaud! You will make two people happy.”
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~ Samuel Goldwyn*
Thanks to Ratan Tata !!
TATA Motors rejected Pakistan’s proposal for supplying 380 TATA Sumo Grande for use of Pakistan Police.
TATA Motors spokesperson Capt. P J Singh said they had received a proposal from Pakistan’s interior ministry two weeks back, after discussing with board they have decided to not to accept the proposal due to Pakistan’s direct involvement in terror strike and their role in attack.
If TATA’s want they can do business and make more profit, but they know very well that “Country First Everything Next”.
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A big Salute to all TATA employees – You made us Proud.*
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Nice post…!!!!!!!!!!