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: The district collector of Kota, the Rajasthan district known as India’s IIT and medical coaching factory, has written a letter to parents of students against the backdrop of rising suicides by youngsters whose dreams were not fulfilled.

Around 1.5 lakh students reach Kota every year to enrol themselves in the coaching centres.

The five-page letter by collector Ravi Kumar Surpur came three days after 17-year-old Kriti Tripathi jumped to her death because her score in the IIT Mains was not up to her expectations. Kriti had written a five-page letter to her parents, saying she was sorry for not being up to the mark, for her disinterest in engineering and wanting to pursue pure science and also for her eventual action. She urged her parents to let her younger sister study whatever she wanted.

Surpur told The Telegraph his letter was one of “the multiple interventions we are trying to do to ease the situation that has arisen because of the constant stress and competitiveness the students face in the run-up to the actual examinations…. Doing it through the age-old classical letter seemed the best option to us. So we have despatched the letter to the institutes which would deliver them to the parents either through email or through post.”

The following is the letter Kota collector Ravi Kumar Surpur has written to the parents:

Dear Parents,

On behalf of Kota City, I take this opportunity to welcome your child to a city of wonders which processes the young minds of this country and fuels their passion to become the architects of Modern India.

My humble request at the beginning of this letter is to read this with some patience and time and it would be ideal if both the parents can read this together.

It is the dream of every parent to see his child touch the pinnacles of success and reach places which only few can afford. Every parent plants a seed in the mind of the child which over a period of time bears fruits but after careful nourishment and tendering since the seed is so tender that any mishandling may fail us from realizing our dream.

It is a very difficult situation for parents to leave their child in a place where they do not live and things become still difficult when the purpose for which the child is left behind is for dedicated and committed efforts in scaling excellence in education.

When parents look at the huge billboard signage/hoarding/ newspaper clips depicting pictures of young beautiful children who have achieved what they dream for their child, the resolution to inspire and motivate their children becomes still stronger.

Good career in the field of Engineering & Medicine, as the case may be, is more or less like certain insurance in terms of decent earning and living standards. I sincerely think that in most of the cases, this is the very reason that makes us dream such careers for our children.

There is nothing wrong in thinking on a certain kind of Assured Career Insurance for one’s child since limited resources and high degree of competition demands one to think ahead of times.

However, I think we all agree that the World too has changed drastically in the last 15-20 years so much so, that most of the facilities and services that were available for a limited few are now available to many due to the huge progress in technology which was witnessed in this period.

Art, Entertainment, Professional Sports, Literature, Health & Fitness, Entrepreneurship, Journalism, Photography, Event management, Music, Adventure, Destination tourism, etc, to name a few too witnessed immense growth in comparison to the bygone era.

Many of these even created a new niche which not just nurtured creative potential of the human mind and its capabilities but also were very successful career options.

Well, the point is not about asking you to see them as better options but certainly to see them also as options.

It is a matter of fact that today, young children are facing immense amount of pressure relating to their academic performance and due to the same many of them go through various levels of stress.

Even if we consider that a certain element of stress would exist in competition… parental support, care and the right kind of family situations would help the child to cope with any difficult situation.

However, current reality is that due to the lack of right kind of conditions and support systems, many children are going through stress uncared and unattended for and in a few cases such situations disabled the children to such an extreme extent that they committed suicide…

Don’t get frightened suddenly as to what is being said about your child…. Your child is perfectly safe and sound and you have no reasons to worry, but you have reasons to have concern of your child which I believe you will understand as we read my letter further.

I consider myself a very unfortunate person because I got a chance to read around 20-25 Suicide Notes of Young, Brilliant, Beautiful and Wonderful Children.

Am I giving so many adjectives to such children because they committed Suicide?

I am sorry…. Answer is No… They were in fact, as I said earlier, Young, Brilliant, Beautiful and Wonderful Children.

A Girl with an amazing command of English language in her suicide note (grammatically perfect 5-page Suicide Note with beautiful running handwriting) thanks her mother for giving up her career for raising the children…. Subtle hint that she was pricked on this matter again and again…. Another girl wants her grandmother to become her mother in her next birth…. Another requests her parents to allow her younger sister to do what she likes and not what they like…. One tells candidly that he was manipulated to study science which was not his taste…. Many simply write in fewer lines that they could not fulfil the expectations of their parents…. Rather few say they were not really capable of doing what is being asked for by them…. All of them thought that Death was a much peaceful and effortless action than going through this dilemma of artificially doing what parents want them to do….

As they say “Tip of the Iceberg” reveals little and hides mountains within, similarly apparent Suicide Cases reflect numbers but reality or the hidden mountain is all those children who did not opt to take this extreme step but certainly are going through stress/worry/anxiety due to pressure on performance.

Many Parents cannot believe after the disaster that it was their own child who took such a drastic measure and I don’t mean to hurt their sentiments any further but the reality is that the child was mentally looking for some blade of grass which a drowning man searches for…. That blade of grass could have been your simple appreciation of his efforts… your solacing words of comforts of asking him to do his best and forget the results… your absolute unconditioned appreciation of his extraordinariness….

In return, what the child got was threats of performing still better…psychological manipulation by repeat and re-telecasting of the hardships you have gone through for the sake of family…. comparison with better performers (neighbors, relatives, children of colleague, ancestors…could be anyone)… sharing imagination on the loss/notional gain of social status being dependent on child’s performance.

We need to understand that statistically speaking not many children commit suicide in comparison to the total number of children coping with such academic pressure if we analyze the numbers but life analysis tells us that their hopes and dreams are overlooked and hurt many a times…. So it is high time we pause and contemplate a bit…

I need to take a pause here since I hear many of you saying kids do not like many things which are good for them…. So the question I tend to hear from you is… Should parents go children’s immature ways? Not necessarily….

Well let us try to see what all good things they resisted…. Eating right, sleeping right, talking right, behaving right, seeing right, listening right, reading right etc.

Child actually observes parents and never follows anything blindly….

Moreover there is one thing which is certain…. Child analyses and looks at the parents to see whether in case any of those things preached are followed by parents to begin with and if so…. Whether their parents are really loving, joyful, peaceful and happy by doing so….

They tend to pick up only those habits of their parents that make them happy and peaceful…

In case you have seriously messed up situations, your child may even not like you….

It may appear strange and extremely annoying…. But there is a possibility of your child not liking you…. This comes in many forms and shades…. Absolute dislike, not liking few traits of yours, not liking you by comparing you with someone better, not liking you for your over protective care and concern which you may think as love but is suffocating for the child, not liking you for your double standards (we may have…) etc.

So, is it the objective of this letter to make you realise that your child dislikes you?

Answer again is a big No…. Your child does not dislike you… I am just making a point that unconsciously we may have created such a situation, which we need to undo….

Children are parents’ responsibility and we are no one to teach a parent their responsibility nor do we intend to do so…. Parents really think good for their children’s future but the point I need to make is that your dreams are always limited to your experience of what is good… what is successful… what is the best thing…. Well, the truth is your child may surpass your imagination and reach places which you never even dreamed of….

We all come from different segments of the society in terms of social & economic status, culture, religion, belief systems etc. However as far the natural principle of upbringing a child is concerned they remain the same everywhere.

I am not an expert in Parenting nor have many credentials in “Right Child Care Practices” and I fully understand that different kind of children need different kind of interventions yet I would request you to divert little attention to these fundamental aspects relating to child management.

Creating the right kind of atmosphere for the child to grow and flower in home by making home a really happy, loving and peaceful place to live.

Understanding the needs of the children… There are two extremes in this case… Making the child go through terrible hardships to realise “Your” dreams is one end and the other end is over-pampered care…. Both of them definitely do not work….

Take time to switch from teaching mode to learning mode from the child since children show you the way to be really happy and peaceful at times…Instead of learning form them we tend to always assume the role of teacher/preacher…

Allow the child “to be” on his own terms and here I mean especially the child’s engagement with nature and world around and empower them with the right kind of communication skills which are more accommodative…. Interaction with the other gender due to their coming of age is not an aberration but a normal process, which you can keep a note on but not try to prevent it totally.

Spend time with children without complaining of your office, life situation, problems, hardships all the time…. It may be really too late before you want to spend and there is no more time available with the child… Why? Because we may have made him just like ourselves in an effort to tutor him…. We certainly are not the benchmark for the child. Many a times, we may be regressive rudimentary types in comparison to the ability of the child.

Just a final thought. Are we interested in making the child realise “Your Dreams” at any cost or should it be like creating such situations that the child realises “His/Her” Dreams?

I could have simply attended a Parents Counselling Session during admission and spoken on these issues but usually it so happens that in such gatherings we are conditioned and influenced more by impression of the person sitting next to you or people who think different.

Nothing wrong in disagreeing but it is best to disagree on own terms instead of getting influenced by others…. Finally, I would like to tender my unconditional apology for taking your time and telling you things about Child Management in which I am no expert and my words in this letter have been gathered by my limited experience in Kota dealing with similar cases and certainly there are great men who have inspired me to put my thoughts before you….

Be the Best Parent in the World!!!!

I am sure there is no competition there…

Yours Sincerely

Dr Ravikumar

District Collector, Kota

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A degree to die for: Of the 2 lakh aspirants for IIT admission, only 5% will sail through

Ravikumar Surpur, district collector of Kota, has in the recent past made several interventions to ease the pressure in the system.
By Vanita Srivastava

The streets of Kota have only one story to sell: the IIT dream. The entire city, in Rajasthan, roughly 250 km south of the state capital Jaipur, is dotted with hoardings of coaching institutes, competing with each other by splashing the photos of young, cheerful boys and girls who have made it to the IITs, along with their fancy scores. Some billboards even promise to “tap them young” — start IIT coaching from Class VI.

But camouflaged behind these huge, colourful posters is a story of a less cheery kind. Be it the vegetable seller or the fruit vendor on the streets, the mention of IIT is enough to bring a gleam to their eye. Even a housemaid of this city has an IIT aspiration for her kid.

Inevitably, many of those dreams turn out to be empty ones, and it is around these extreme emotions that the city is knitted — hope that can quickly descend into frustration. In the meanwhile, housewives have gone on to become entrepreneurs, opening hostels and messes for students who have arrived in the city to be coached. Parents have sold their ancestral properties and shifted base to Kota just to give the “right” environment for their children preparing for IIT; in some cases, families are dislocated as mothers choose to accompany the children in their training endeavours. Students from Class VI have started attending coaching institutes to get a “preliminary” taste of the exam.

Kota has a population of around 12 lakh; this includes nearly 1.5 lakh students who come here for coaching.

The Big Pressure After two years of self-exile, intense sacrifice, no social life and zero entertainment, the results are mixed. A few students walk out accomplished. But a large number of them are left disenchanted and drained.

Recently, an IIT aspirant, who was studying in a coaching institute in Kota, committed suicide. It was after the Joint Entrance Examination ( JEE) Mains held in early April, a filter for the big one, JEE Advanced, which will be held on May 22.

Student suicides aren’t unusual in Kota; there were 17 in 2015 and four till date this year.

Ravikumar Surpur, district collector of Kota, has in the recent past made several interventions to ease the pressure in the system. Through regular advice to coaching institutes, notes to children and, more recently, through a five-page letter to parents, he has spelt out the need to reduce stress and to look at life in a broader perspective.

“It is a matter of fact that today young children are facing immense amount of pressure relating to their academic performance and… many of them go through various levels of stress,” Surpur wrote in his letter to the parents.

Towards the end of last year, the district administration asked the coaching institutes to introduce career and psychological counsellors, mandatory weekly holidays, easy exit options and a series of helplines. They were also asked to introduce recreational activities, yoga and meditation sessions.

Geetanjali Kumar, a Delhi-based counselling psychologist, recently got a call on her helpline from a girl studying in Kota. “She shared with me the pressure on her when she went home and mingled with her community. They would ask her: ‘Aur engineer saheb, kaise ho?’ Never mind that she had only just started preparing for the exam. Can one imagine the state of mind of that girl? How frustrating it must be to live under such extreme pressure,” says Kumar.

She cites another case of a father who called her up and said that his son had distanced himself just because he had refused to send him to a coaching institute. In most cases, however, the pressure comes from parental expectations. “Why should we live with the notion that only those who study science are academically brilliant? Parents should help the child explore his or her interest. They will then stand a better chance of being successful,” says Kumar.

Brand IIT Pramod Maheshwari, director at Career Point, a popular coaching institute in Kota, reckons that it is incorrect to attribute student suicides to pressure. “I agree there is parental and peer pressure, but how can you avoid it? Pressure is a vital ingredient of growth. But more than that I feel kids are not exposed properly to different career options. For most, engineering or medicine is an end in itself. Time has come when they should take a peek outside this world.”

Kota may be the epicentre of IIT coaching, but the stress on students is building up across the cities in the country.

RL Trikha, director of the Forum for Indian Institute of Technology and Joint Entrance Examination (FIIT JEE), a coaching institute, points out that these days any prestigious competitive examination like the JEE is more of an invitation to rejection rather than selection.

“The number of aspirants is far higher than the number of openings/seats available. Even one mark can make a difference. IITs are institutions having international recognition but this cannot be the final destination for everyone,” says Trikha.

He says that it is imperative that students and parents set — and reset — their goals in an honest and transparent manner. “They are advised to relook their goals as the preparation progresses, based on performance.”

Sanjiva Dayal, who runs a coaching institute in Kanpur, says, at the end of the day, it is the survival of the mentally fittest. “I was selected for IIT in my first attempt and without any coaching. I never found the stress to be unbearable. Excellence cannot be achieved without stressful training. Those who lack calibre and passion find the stress unbearable and the IIT system cannot be blamed for that,” he says.

Beat the Stress Soumya Sharma speaks fluent German, loves to play the keyboards and is an avid chess player. These days the 18-yearold is devoting a minimum of seven hours a day for the JEE Advanced. “More than the number of hours, being consistent is important for JEE. I take frequent breaks after practice sessions and am quite relaxed,” says Sharma, who lives in Delhi.

After scoring 325/360 in the JEE (Mains) this year, Sharma has some pearls of advice for those contemplating a similar path. “You have to like the subject, be passionate about it, to crack the exam. I do not mean that those who do not like the subject don’t succeed but the chances are slimmer.” In fact, Sharma contends that the eagerness to write the exam will determine the level of stress. “If it is a personal, self-motivated choice, the stress will be less. But if you are writing the exam because of parental or peer pressure, it is bound to be more.”

Sixteen-year-old Puru Mathur, an IIT aspirant in Kota, has already decided that if he is not selected this time he will spend one more year preparing for it. “My JEE (Mains) marks were a little below my expectations but I am sure that with a little more effort, I will do better next year.”

Acknowledging that parental pressure should be checked, he says: “In my case, there has been no such pressure. Parents should know whether their child is oriented towards IIT or not. Blindly following what others are doing is unjustified.”

Mathur feels that children should not neglect their school boards for the IIT exam. “There has to be a balance between the two. An extreme tilt towards any exam can be frustrating and depressing. There should be a system where one-year preparation in Class 12 should be enough.” Stress, he says, is a natural offshoot of intense and focused preparations. “It is, therefore, essential to indulge in something that you like. I like to play the guitar and sing songs — this helps me relax.”

Not the End of the World Abha Srivastava has had a flavour of Kota for more than four years — first with her elder son and now with the younger one. “It is like a self-imposed sanyas. The first time I was alone; this time my husband is with me so life is relatively easier. Both my kids were self-motivated and there was no pressure from our side. But I have seen how parents push their kids without actually analysing their capacity.”

The child’s mind, she explains, is fragile at this age. “A system has to be gradually evolved where cracking the exam is not linked to coaching alone. There has to be a fine balance.”

Ashok Rathore, an engineer, got a posting in Kota four years back. “It was a golden opportunity” to fulfil his daughter’s desire of entering an IIT, he says. Rathore insists that it is his daughter’s “dream, and we have always supported her. The child has to be self-motivated. Parental pressure of any kind will not help”.

So what happens if his daughter doesn’t make it? “IIT is a dream, not a final destination,” says Rathore. “Parents also need to explain that IIT is not the end. There are so many who have been successful despite not having an engineering degree from IIT.”

As the countdown begins for the big exam, Puru Mathur picks up his music system, clears his vocal chords and belts out All izz well…. from Aamir Khan’s movie 3 Idiots. His friends join in.

Life is much more than the three-letter word, grins Mathur.

(The writer is a Delhi-based freelance journalist)
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In the backdrop of SSLC exam results & many more to come, there will be celebrations, but also depressions, bouqets but also brickbats. While I appreciate the efforts of achievers & Toppers ,my heart goes out to students who are upset, dejected and even succumbed to the pressure.
Sad that a student’s life is just restricted to exam performance.
Guys, I dedicate this poem I penned for all the Parents & Parents to be and to all the lovely children who deserve much more :

My child is still a Star
Treading a path so far

Let me not mock him for his marks
Making him a fish amongst the sharks
God, give me the patience to see him bloom
He’s still growing n needs lot of room
It’s a big, bad world which puts you down
No, I don’t want to see him ever frown

My child is still a star
Treading a path so far

He may not be the best
He may not top the test
God give me the sense not to treat him like a scale
His worth being measured by Pass or Fail
He’s a fine piece of art !!!! My lovely child
Coz God crafted him with strokes so mild

My child is still a star
Treading a path so far

Some day he’ll unfold his mind, body n soul
Until then let not the false world take a toll
God give me the strength to teach him to rise
For every fall will surely make him wise
For now, I shall just let him be
And live his life with mirth n glee

Coz my child is still a star
Treading a path so far
However bright he may some day shine
Or even if he doesn’t he’s still just fine
Coz a Star is always a star

Dr Arundhati Patil
Gulbarga

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In the backdrop of SSLC exam results & many more to come, there will be celebrations, but also depressions, bouqets but also brickbats. While I appreciate the efforts of achievers & Toppers ,my heart goes out to students who are upset, dejected and even succumbed to the pressure.
Sad that a student’s life is just restricted to exam performance.
Guys, I dedicate this poem I penned for all the Parents & Parents to be and to all the lovely children who deserve much more :

My child is still a Star
Treading a path so far

Let me not mock him for his marks
Making him a fish amongst the sharks
God, give me the patience to see him bloom
He’s still growing n needs lot of room
It’s a big, bad world which puts you down
No, I don’t want to see him ever frown

My child is still a star
Treading a path so far

He may not be the best
He may not top the test
God give me the sense not to treat him like a scale
His worth being measured by Pass or Fail
He’s a fine piece of art !!!! My lovely child
Coz God crafted him with strokes so mild

My child is still a star
Treading a path so far

Some day he’ll unfold his mind, body n soul
Until then let not the false world take a toll
God give me the strength to teach him to rise
For every fall will surely make him wise
For now, I shall just let him be
And live his life with mirth n glee

Coz my child is still a star
Treading a path so far
However bright he may some day shine
Or even if he doesn’t he’s still just fine
Coz a Star is always a star

Dr Arundhati Patil
Gulbarga


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UPSC टॉपर टीना डाबी से ज्यादा नम्बर होने के बाबजूद अंकित को नहीं मिली सफलता, क्युकी वो समान्य वर्ग से थे…..
UPSC के रिजल्ट आने के बाद से ही सोशल मीडिया पर अंकित श्रीवास्तव की काफी चर्चा हो रही है! क्युकी अंकित श्रीवास्तव और 2015 की UPSC टोपर टीना डाबी दोनों 2015 के UPSC एग्जाम में साथ में परीक्षा दिए थे लेकिन अंकित इसमें असफल रहे! अंकित ने अपनी असफलता के पीछे भारत की आरक्षण प्रणाली को जिम्मेवार ठहराया है! रिजल्ट प्रकाशित होने के बाद अंकित ने सोशल मीडिया फेसबुक पर एक पोस्ट डाला है जिसमे उन्होंने लिखा है ”टीना का CSP 2015 का स्कोर 96.66 हैं और मेरा 103.5 और इतना ही नही पेपर 2 में मेरे 127.5 अंक है जबकि टीना के 98.7″
अंकित आगे लिखते है मैंने टीना से 35 अंक ज्यादा प्राप्त किये है! अंकित ने अपने पोस्ट में लिखा है की आरक्षण वयवस्था की महिमा कितनी न्यारी है ये आज मुझे पता चला! ज्ञात हो की तीन किसी गरीब तबके से नहीं आती और उनके मत पिता दोनों दोनों इंजीरियंग सेवा में अधिकारी रहे हैं और वो हम जैसो की तरह संपन्न मिडिल फैमिली से बिलोंग करती है.!
अंकित ने लिखा है की मैं टीना के प्रयासों की प्रशंसा करता हूँ लेकिन एक प्रश्न और उठता है की मेरे जैसे न जाने कितने लड़के बड़ी बड़ी नौकरियां छोड़कर दिन रात एक करके 12-14 घंटे की पढाई करते है, वो आज किसके द्वारा किये गए अन्यायों की सजा काट रहे है, क्या उनका सामान्य वर्ग से बिलोंग करना गुनाह है! क्या आरक्षण वयवस्था की समीक्षा की जरुरत नहीं है, क्या इसे जाती विशेष से हटकर आर्तिक रूप से पिछड़े लोगो को देने का राजनैतिक साहस किसी में नहीं है?

अंकित ने अपने पोस्ट में टीना और अपने रोल नंबर के साथ साथ मार्क शीट भी पोस्ट किया है !

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Technical Language-vs.-Emotional Language

Emotional language is the language that governs the internal communication system or the hormonal communication system among the cells in our bodies. From the moment of zygote onwards the mother will be communicating with the baby in her womb through her native mother tongue. The words gradually become hormonal triggers.Words, phrases, clauses, songs, tunes; sounds of harmony all embed themselves in the internal hormonal system. The mother tongue becomes part of the biology. Conceptualization becomes emotional conceptualization and the cells respond automatically. No translation from any other language can instantly get similar emotional tuning.

Technical language is the language of machines, mathematical formulae, engineering, mechanics etc, where there is no emotional embedment. It does not touch the Amygdala, the emotional centre and keeps itself to the cortex or the analytical brain. This language is normally confined to the classrooms and not to the romance of living. The biggest paradox is as we cannot directly access or see the microcosm of atoms etc and also the Macrocosm of planets, stars etc, we depend on machines. Those machines are built on the basis of the principles of Newtonian Mechanics which are not valid in the Quantum Microcosm and also in the world of the theory of Relativity or the Macrocosm. Science is embedded in this basic paradox. Those machines do not touch our emotions. When you look at your hands which you use, you emotionally feel that it is you that is working. When you use a machine you only think that the machine and not you is working.

Today the world of mechanics is edging out the world of emotions. Emotions integrate you with the mother earth—the flora, fauna, winds, rains, rivers, oceans, mountains, valleys…, all extensions of your body. They are not economic resources. They triumph on the basis of symbiosis, synthesis, autopoeisis, coordination, cooperation and the ultimate harmonization. You participate in them, in their songs, sounds, tunes and you dance happily.

In fact they can take you to the emotional situation arising out of positive conceptualisation of the entire universe. They bring emotional understanding and you cannot use machines to destroy the forests etc.There is an emotional route to study the Microcosm and the Macrocosm.

But thanks to the dismal science economics, nature has become resource. Instead of symbiosis, synthesis and harmonisation we have equilibriums which jump from one point to another point on the basis of the factors at war called competition.
The mechanization of everything is gradually eliminating all social institutions. Married life and families are on their way out. Men marry men; women marry women or simply not marry at all. If a woman out of emotional loneliness wants a baby she can buy sperm from the corner shop, go to a hospital get the zygote fertilized in her and then rent a surrogate mother’s womb who hands over the developed baby after nine months of pregnancy service. The surrogate mother cannot afford to invest any emotion to the baby growing in her womb. The very biological basis of the mother tongue is gone.

Sex no longer has any romance in it. In fact it is changing into a sport or just biological relief.
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दुःख में ज्यादा दुखी नहीं ख़ुशी में ज्यादा खुश नहीं होने का गीता का सिद्धांत हरियाणा की भूमि ने बखूबी अपनाया है।

उदाहरण न: 1

छात्र: ताऊ, मैं फर्स्ट डिवीज़न तै पास होग्या।
ताऊ: तो कोण सा पटवारी लाग ग्या? जा जाके धार काढ़ ले।

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छात्र: ताऊ, मैं फेल होग्या।
ताऊ: तो कौण सा कुम्भ का मेला सै जो 12 साल बाद आवेगा। अगले साल फेर परचा भर दिए। जा इब जाके धार काढ़ ले।😝😜

@sukhichd710

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 the point I need to make is that your dreams are always limited to your experience of what is good… what is successful… what is the best thing…. 

Excellent line https://cdn2.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif

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Pressure is a vital ingredient of growth….
Excellence cannot be achieved without stressful training….

I never understood the idiosyncrasies of these bullshit people…
I think you really need to have a good environment for healthy learning…

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Kota coaching institutes should be regulated..They play with emotion and desires of parents and creates suffering for students
All they need is money ..they charge 1lakh per year

Not every has the capablity to put much that effort

At the end lot of students even spoil their board %

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Worst part of story is most of the children dnt knw what they want to do in live..
They study without knowing their passion. ,some of them dnt knw whAt they want do with life even after completing engg..
Some of them get lucky with jobs while others try for P.O. Upsc ,food inspector

Had their parents asked them" beta bannae kya chate ho"
Had they helped their children to Realise their passiom
Instead of saying mera beta engineer banega
Thing would have been different
So many wondeeful lives could have been saved

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@lostdrms wrote:

Worst part of story is most of the children dnt knw what they want to do in live..
They study without knowing their passion. ,some of them dnt knw whAt they want do with life even after completing engg..
Some of them get lucky with jobs while others try for P.O. Upsc ,food inspector

Had their parents asked them" beta bannae kya chate ho"
Had they helped their children to Realise their passiom
Instead of saying mera beta engineer banega
Thing would have been different
So many wondeeful lives could have been saved


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Know your child

Children should be encouraged to interact with various age groups. This is very important and will indicate whether they are developing any superiority or inferiority complex or if they are becoming introverted or extroverted.

Children with an inferiority complex like to interact more with children younger than them. They will try to avoid the older ones and may even try to avoid those of the same age. Those with superiority complex will try to shun the younger ones and will only want to relate to those older than them.

By encouraging interaction with all age groups, they can be moulded into balanced and flexible human beings with personalities free of complexes.
—Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

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