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Communication Motivation by Carles Sabarich

We have all had that period in our lives where we feel, regardless of what happens, we simply have nothing positive going for us. It’s easy to criticize yourself in just about anything–from your competence in the workplace to how you deal with situations at home–and this can make it easy to become clouded to our own successes in life.

This kind of constant action and lack of clarity can make it easy to believe that you are a failure, even when all the evidence in your life–personally and professionally–points to other conclusions. If you are too busy in life fighting fires, you’ll likely never make the time to actually appreciate your own success and accomplishments. You could already be successful and just not realize it. Here are some signs that is the case:

1. You aren’t controlled by your income.

Many people feel like they are tied to that next paycheque to make things work for them. If you are able to go day-to-day without the worry that you won’t have enough money to last until the end of the month, then you are most definitely a success! You might not be able to afford a Rolex, but if you aren’t living from week-to-week you are a success.

2. You don’t seek praise.

Seeking praise from loved ones and colleagues is something that we typically grow out of in our teenage years. If you aren’t hanging around waiting to get the proverbial pat on the back at work or at home, you are a more successful individual than you might even know. Being able to do your part without looking for praise is a strong sign of mental security.

3. You suffer less drama.

Look back even just a year in your life: are you finding that things are quieter? At home and at work? If this is the case then you can probably say that your life is pretty successful–a lack of chaos points to order and harmony.

4. You have a plan.

Success is built on structure and having a long-term plan to get to where you want to be. If you actually have a framework to follow in your life to reach your life goals, you are already pretty successful. Most people don’t plan ahead!

5. You crave more.

For someone who might feel like they aren’t doing well very in life, if you tend to look for more from any situation you are already on your way to success. Ambition and a desire for knowledge points to a determined individual who seeks to better themselves.

6. You are an early bird.

You know the old saying. The early bird catches the worm. If you are to make your life a success, you can’t be starting each day in the afternoon. When you find that you are jumping out of bed, ready to attack the day, you can probably point to a successful lifestyle and personality.

7. You are socially active.

Success tends to come in many different ways, not just your rank or your pay packet. If you are able to get involved in many different situations with a variety of social circles you can point to a healthy and harmonious life–people don’t tend to stick around toxic personalities.

8. You offer mutual respect.

Success tends to come from your own experiences in life, including going through stresses and difficulties. If you understand the value of treating others with respect, you already harness one of the most important aspects of success.

9. You wish to help others.

Again, your success in this world goes far beyond the cost of your car. If you are able to provide people with a solid base to work with, and act as a pillar of strength for colleagues, success is not too far off.

10. You are driven.

Anybody without an engine and a willingness to get through the hard times and the difficulties will struggle to succeed. If you don’t mind getting your sleeves rolled up and your hands dirty, you are better off than you think.

11. You possess confidence without arrogance.

The big difference between a successful person and someone who believes they are successful is the way they conduct themselves. If you can show some genuine humility for others, whilst inspiring those who are struggling, you are already a successful individual

12. You have fought back.

We have already touched on how failure can be the point needed to succeed. You need to hit the bottom before you can reach the top. Being able to battle back from a position of failure to success–any success–is a sign of an iron-willed individual with the nous to succeed in life.

13. You strive to improve.

Many people fall into the trap of believing that they “made it”. When you always look to improve on the previous performance, even if it was spectacular, you are setting yourself up to be a long-term success.

14. You have discipline.

Discipline can only come from being a success and seeing how things have gone in the past. Learning how not to make mistakes and how to make the right call is vital to being a long-term success.

15. You preach patience.

Patience is a virtue that the most successful people emit on a large-scale basis. Without patience, it can be hard to ever make the type of impact that you originally intended in any work or personal environment.

16. You can say no.

We spoke earlier about the power of being able to avoid needing to be praised–this is the same ideal. If you are able to say no then you have already avoided the need to please everyone. This is the sign of a successful individual.

17. You manage time well.

Time management is a sign of long-term success, and being able to use the time in any given day to be productive is the sign of a successful person. Capable of dealing with plenty of tasks in any given day? You are already a success.

18. You have successful friends.

Success around you is the easiest way to inspire yourself. If you find yourself surrounded by those who are also doing well it can be easier to actually improve and develop yourself in the right manner.

19. You don’t blame others.

You have reached a point in your life where you fully understand what it means to take ownership of your actions and not target others for your frustrations and failures. That comes about from being active rather than passive, and noticing your inner power to transform your life. It also speaks to your ability to prevent the environment from leading you down a direction you do not desire.

20. You don’t waste your time.

Long gone are the days when you let others drag you along and make you invest your time in activities you deemed boring or even counterproductive to your self-development and self-esteem. Your greater sense of direction empowers you to know what you want without needing other´s approval.

21. You are assertive.

You understand that simply saying yes or no is not enough. Explaining your reasons in a clear manner is essential for others to understand that you are an individual with your own thoughts and needs. This does not mean being inflexible, but while being understanding you should never let anyone bend your way.

22. You stay positive.

You have learnt the hard way that being negative or skeptical to justify your potential defeats and failures does not serve any purpose. Not only it does make you feel unable and anxious, but also does affect the final outcome. By being positive and honest at pursuing your goals you will unleash the true achiever within you.

23. You take care of your health.

Quitting harmful activities that stop you from working towards the brighter future you have always dreamt is a powerful step. Be it smoking, taking drugs, eating too much saturated fats and sugar, or not exercising, you understand that leaving all of those behind will turn you into a stronger individual with greater drive and willpower.

24. You don’t seek a relationship to solve your personal issues.

It is easy to hide our failures behind someone who loves us. But, it is a bit immature for both sides in a relationship to stop tackling the real issues that harm each other’s lives. It is not a good idea to avoid helping the other towards becoming a better person just because it is easier not doing it or because “things are just fine as they are”.

25. You are mature.

When bad situations unfold in the workplace, or you need to deal with the individual who you have a problem with. A sign of success is being able to put personal grievances to the side for professional gain.

It’s always important to remind yourself that success isn’t something that can be judged so materially. If you are able to look at your lifestyle and understand that you do things in a mature, social and effective manner then you are already far more successful than any slap on the back will ever make you feel.

Success comes from acceptance of your own skills and abilities, not what somebody you might never have met before tells you.

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The Hermit And The Mouse – Short story

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Long time ago, in the jungle of Malkand, there lived a hermit named Shalakya. Everyday at dawn he would take a dip in the holy Ganges, chant mantras, and worship God.

One evening when he was sitting near the banks of Ganges, he saw a small mouse hiding from the piercing eyes of a hawk. “Oh poor mouse! If I don’t take it along with me, the hawk would carry it off.”
So, Shalakya took the mouse to his hermitage.
“I will change this mouse to a girl,” he thought. “Then she would stay with me as my daughter, and look after me.” He transformed the mouse to a girl. He named her Apsara. With the passing years, she became a beautiful damsel. She took care of the hermit, brought flowers from the forest, and arranged for the puja. Shalakya decided to look for a groom for Apsara. Seeing the radiant beauty of Apsara, the hermit thought the Sun God would be the perfect match for her. He invited the Sun God with his spiritual powers.

The Sun God was spellbound by her beauty. “Ah! Beautiful maiden, would you like to marry me?” he proposed.

“I cannot marry you,” said. Apsara. “Your heat would be unbearable for me.”

The hermit then asked the Sun God, “Is there anybody more powerful than you; who would be worthy of my daughter?”

“The Cloud would make a better pair with Apsara,” he replied. “He can overcast me with his power.”
Then the hermit invoked the Cloud.
“The Cloud is like a vagabond!” said Apsara. “So I am not willing to marry him also.”

The cloud advised, “Mountain is more powerful than me. It can block my way.”
Now Shalakya invoked the mountain.
Apsara expressed her unwillingness. “The mountain is too heavy! I will be crushed under his weight!”

The mountain said, “The mouse would be the ideal match for you. He can dig up holes through me.”
Then sillakya called a mouse.

Apsara was delighted to see the mouse and thought it to be the perfect match for her. Seeing the glow on Apsara’s face the hermit transformed Apsara to a mouse.

The hermit blessed the Mouse couple and realized that.

“Just by changing the outer appearance one cannot change one’s inner self.*

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The Hermit And The Mouse – Short story

@bookface

@Aarya

@Smarty

@srocks

@sinha.vipul





Long time ago, in the jungle of Malkand, there lived a hermit named Shalakya. Everyday at dawn he would take a dip in the holy Ganges, chant mantras, and worship God.

One evening when he was sitting near the banks of Ganges, he saw a small mouse hiding from the piercing eyes of a hawk. “Oh poor mouse! If I don’t take it along with me, the hawk would carry it off.”
So, Shalakya took the mouse to his hermitage.
“I will change this mouse to a girl,” he thought. “Then she would stay with me as my daughter, and look after me.” He transformed the mouse to a girl. He named her Apsara. With the passing years, she became a beautiful damsel. She took care of the hermit, brought flowers from the forest, and arranged for the puja. Shalakya decided to look for a groom for Apsara. Seeing the radiant beauty of Apsara, the hermit thought the Sun God would be the perfect match for her. He invited the Sun God with his spiritual powers.

The Sun God was spellbound by her beauty. “Ah! Beautiful maiden, would you like to marry me?” he proposed.

“I cannot marry you,” said. Apsara. “Your heat would be unbearable for me.”

The hermit then asked the Sun God, “Is there anybody more powerful than you; who would be worthy of my daughter?”

“The Cloud would make a better pair with Apsara,” he replied. “He can overcast me with his power.”
Then the hermit invoked the Cloud.
“The Cloud is like a vagabond!” said Apsara. “So I am not willing to marry him also.”

The cloud advised, “Mountain is more powerful than me. It can block my way.”
Now Shalakya invoked the mountain.
Apsara expressed her unwillingness. “The mountain is too heavy! I will be crushed under his weight!”

The mountain said, “The mouse would be the ideal match for you. He can dig up holes through me.”
Then sillakya called a mouse.

Apsara was delighted to see the mouse and thought it to be the perfect match for her. Seeing the glow on Apsara’s face the hermit transformed Apsara to a mouse.

The hermit blessed the Mouse couple and realized that.


“Just by changing the outer appearance one cannot change one’s inner self.*


read this long long time back when we were in school!! panchatantra story i think! https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_biggrin.gif

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Bhaiya I feel tht u being sucessful brings a sense of envy among ur work mates. So maintaining a cordial n amicable relations with them is not always possible. This sometimes makes me feel tht am I dng anything wrong? or this is wht they deserve

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Bhaiya I feel tht u being sucessful brings a sense of envy among ur work mates. So maintaining a cordial n amicable relations with them is not always possible. This sometimes makes me feel tht am I dng anything wrong? or this is wht they deserve


Workmates includes :

- people helpful to u in normal case, may be guiding, experience sharing , mentoring etc..

- people indifferent to u, no outwardly help, defensive attitude or no direct confrontation.

- people who don’t fall in any above categories,
We have be careful of them, they can be enemies in disguise, could be helpful in some circumstances or at least they have some first hand information about resources or pitfalls, so we have take best out of waste !
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one reason I love desidime is your post https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif


Me toooo https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif

Oh Wait ! And a couple of more reasons.

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one reason I love desidime is your post https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif


LOL https://cdn2.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_cry.gif

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Whatever u post Plz Post Summary 2

so Lazy Ppl Like Me can also read https://cdn2.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_cry.gif


Beta,

I think I have to break it in pieces,
U r NOT at all lazy, probably ur mind behaves like lazy.

U don’t want rs 10 lac lottery , u like rs 5/ or rs 10 recharge only.

BTW Which is region of raj. U r familiar !
#Seedha sawal

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@uberfree wrote:

one reason I love desidime is your post https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif


Me toooo https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif

Oh Wait ! And a couple of more reasons.


me too love @B"@[email protected]_0_0_D":http://www.desidime.com/user...86 sir’s posts always have some useful message or some teaching in his posts https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_biggrin.gif

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@[email protected]_0_0_D Uncle

Whatever u post Plz Post Summary 2

so Lazy Ppl Like Me can also read https://cdn2.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_cry.gif


Beta,

I think I have to break it in pieces,
U r NOT at all lazy, probably ur mind behaves like lazy.

U don’t want rs 10 lac lottery , u like rs 5/ or rs 10 recharge only.

BTW Which is region of raj. U r familiar !
#Seedha sawal


#Never Got Seedha Jawab From Barood #

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http://www.desidime.com/forums/dost-and-dimes/t...

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Aila chomu !

Thank god !

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@Cross wrote:

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Bhaiya I feel tht u being sucessful brings a sense of envy among ur work mates. So maintaining a cordial n amicable relations with them is not always possible. This sometimes makes me feel tht am I dng anything wrong? or this is wht they deserve


Workmates includes :

- people helpful to u in normal case, may be guiding, experience sharing , mentoring etc..

- people indifferent to u, no outwardly help, defensive attitude or no direct confrontation.

- people who don’t fall in any above categories,
We have be careful of them, they can be enemies in disguise, could be helpful in some circumstances or at least they have some first hand information about resources or pitfalls, so we have take best out of waste !
https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif
@raviteja425 @ravitejaa425


Barood Bhai https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_eek.gif
barood bhai https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_eek.gif
barood bhai https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_eek.gif
you tagged my user name wrongly(probably a typo), actually there is double “a” after “j” but you mistakenly typed it once,
And that’s why i didn’t got notification of the tag, but while going through all the threads i found the post and corrected you… https://cdn2.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_wink.gif
Anyway barood bhai Have a pleasant day night https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif

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OK, the difficult part is to remember 420 in u,
But why u made another I’d @raviteja425

Both of u
@ravitejaa425
@raviteja425 pl. Respond !

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Lol, do you even think i will make a another ID?
And by going the id relate to my user name it’s seventh month old id, and by that time i didn’t even know about dd,
I remember i have signed up just 6 month ago,
But while signing up, i noticed something,
first i have tried to sign up using the user name ‘raviteja425’ then got a popup saying " ID already exists " so i have simply put an extra " a" and signed up…
Us wakt mujhe kaha pata tha ki barood bhai mera katal karenge es karan ke liye… Oh bhi jo karan mujhese kuch sambandh hai hi nahi…
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Btw bro there is many user name related id’s in DD,
(Example there is many dimer with the name of vaibhavjain where every one is different and dimerabhi too
P.s: i meant they all are different not duplicate I’d)

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OK never mind

Just pinching !

I was surprised to hit the wrong tag -

Enjoy dear , I meant 425 in you .

Happy !

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Troll is BOGO

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9 Phrases Smart People Never Use In Conversation

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@chinzzz

@thrifty_indian

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TRAVIS BRADBERRY
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Co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and President at TalentSmart

We’ve all said things that people interpreted much differently than we thought they would. These seemingly benign comments lead to the awful feeling that only comes when you’ve planted your foot firmly into your mouth.

Verbal slip-ups often occur because we say things without knowledge of the subtle implications they carry. Understanding these implications requires social awareness—the ability to pick up on the emotions and experiences of other people.

TalentSmart has tested the emotional intelligence (EQ) of more than a million people and discovered that social awareness is a skill in which many of us are lacking.

We lack social awareness because we’re so focused on what we’re going to say next—and how what other people are saying affects us—that we completely lose sight of other people.

This is a problem because people are complicated. You can’t hope to understand someone until you focus all of your attention in his or her direction.

The beauty of social awareness is that a few simple adjustments to what you say can vastly improve your relationships with other people.

Related: 9 Things Successful People Won’t Do

To that end, there are some phrases that emotionally intelligent people are careful to avoid in casual conversation. The following phrases are nine of the worst offenders. You should avoid them at all costs.

1. ‘You look tired.’

Tired people are incredibly unappealing—they have droopy eyes and messy hair, they have trouble concentrating, and they’re as grouchy as they come. Telling someone he looks tired implies all of the above and then some.

Instead say: “Is everything okay?” Most people ask if someone is tired because they’re intending to be helpful (they want to know if the other person is okay). Instead of assuming someone’s disposition, just ask. This way, he can open up and share. More importantly, he will see you as concerned instead of rude.

2. ‘Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!’

Once again, a well-meaning comment—in this case a compliment—creates the impression that you’re being critical. Telling someone that she has lost a lot of weight suggests that she used to look fat or unattractive.

Instead say: “You look fantastic.” This one is an easy fix. Instead of comparing how she looks now to how she used to look, just compliment her for looking great. It takes the past right out of the picture.

3. ‘You were too good for her anyway.’

When someone severs ties with a relationship of any type, personal or professional, this comment implies he has bad taste and made a poor choice in the first place.

Instead say: “Her loss!” This provides the same enthusiastic support and optimism without any implied criticism.

4. ‘You always…’ or ‘You never…’

No one always or never does anything. People don’t see themselves as one-dimensional, so you shouldn’t attempt to define them as such. These phrases make people defensive and closed off to your message, which is a really bad thing because you likely use these phrases when you have something important to discuss.

Instead say: Simply point out what the other person did that’s a problem for you. Stick to the facts. If the frequency of the behavior is an issue, you can always say, “It seems like you do this often.” or “You do this often enough for me to notice.”

Related: Please Stop Saying These Ridiculous Phrases at Work

5. ‘You look great for your age.’

Using “for your” as a qualifier always comes across as condescending and rude. No one wants to be smart for an athlete or in good shape relative to other people who are also knocking on death’s door. People simply want to be smart and fit.

Instead say: “You look great.” This one is another easy fix. Genuine compliments don’t need qualifiers.

6. ‘As I said before…’

We all forget things from time to time. This phrase makes it sound as if you’re insulted at having to repeat yourself, which is hard on the recipient (someone who is genuinely interested in hearing your perspective). Getting insulted over having to repeat yourself suggests that either you’re insecure or you think you’re better than everyone else (or both!). Few people who use this phrase actually feel this way.

Instead say: When you say it again, see what you can do to convey the message in a clearer and more interesting manner. This way they’ll remember what you said.

7. ‘Good luck.’

This is a subtle one. It certainly isn’t the end of the world if you wish someone good luck, but you can do better because this phrase implies that they need luck to succeed.

Instead say: “I know you have what it takes.” This is better than wishing her luck because suggesting that she has the skills needed to succeed provides a huge boost of confidence. You’ll stand out from everyone else who simply wishes her luck.

8. ‘It’s up to you.’ or ‘Whatever you want.’

While you may be indifferent to the question, your opinion is important to the person asking (or else he wouldn’t have asked you in the first place).

Instead say: “I don’t have a strong opinion either way, but a couple things to consider are…” When you offer an opinion (even without choosing a side), it shows that you care about the person asking.

9. ‘Well at least I’ve never ___.’

This phrase is an aggressive way to shift attention away from your mistake by pointing out an old, likely irrelevant mistake the other person made (and one you should have forgiven her for by now).

Instead say: “I’m sorry.” Owning up to your mistake is the best way to bring the discussion to a more rational, calm place so that you can work things out. Admitting guilt is an amazing way to prevent escalation.

Bringing it all together
In everyday conversation, it’s the little things that make all the difference. Try these suggestions out, and you’ll be amazed at the positive response you get.

A version of this article first appeared at TalentSmart.com.

Related: 15 Body Language Secrets of Successful People

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9 Phrases Smart People Never Use In Conversation

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@prinkle

@ravitejaa425

@krishan42933

@jit.bila947

@sheetalvarunyadav2223

@Troll

@srocks

@asoka

@hese

@BUTTERFLYBOY

@Magus

@chinzzz

@thrifty_indian

@sinha.vipul

@farzimaal

@dipakpatel

@marketdimer

@Secretagent

@Ashwin

@bala.realvalueinn

@bumblefoot

@cm4444

@kage01






TRAVIS BRADBERRY
CONTRIBUTOR
Co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and President at TalentSmart

We’ve all said things that people interpreted much differently than we thought they would. These seemingly benign comments lead to the awful feeling that only comes when you’ve planted your foot firmly into your mouth.

Verbal slip-ups often occur because we say things without knowledge of the subtle implications they carry. Understanding these implications requires social awareness—the ability to pick up on the emotions and experiences of other people.

TalentSmart has tested the emotional intelligence (EQ) of more than a million people and discovered that social awareness is a skill in which many of us are lacking.

We lack social awareness because we’re so focused on what we’re going to say next—and how what other people are saying affects us—that we completely lose sight of other people.

This is a problem because people are complicated. You can’t hope to understand someone until you focus all of your attention in his or her direction.

The beauty of social awareness is that a few simple adjustments to what you say can vastly improve your relationships with other people.

Related: 9 Things Successful People Won’t Do

To that end, there are some phrases that emotionally intelligent people are careful to avoid in casual conversation. The following phrases are nine of the worst offenders. You should avoid them at all costs.

1. ‘You look tired.’

Tired people are incredibly unappealing—they have droopy eyes and messy hair, they have trouble concentrating, and they’re as grouchy as they come. Telling someone he looks tired implies all of the above and then some.

Instead say: “Is everything okay?” Most people ask if someone is tired because they’re intending to be helpful (they want to know if the other person is okay). Instead of assuming someone’s disposition, just ask. This way, he can open up and share. More importantly, he will see you as concerned instead of rude.

2. ‘Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!’

Once again, a well-meaning comment—in this case a compliment—creates the impression that you’re being critical. Telling someone that she has lost a lot of weight suggests that she used to look fat or unattractive.

Instead say: “You look fantastic.” This one is an easy fix. Instead of comparing how she looks now to how she used to look, just compliment her for looking great. It takes the past right out of the picture.

3. ‘You were too good for her anyway.’

When someone severs ties with a relationship of any type, personal or professional, this comment implies he has bad taste and made a poor choice in the first place.

Instead say: “Her loss!” This provides the same enthusiastic support and optimism without any implied criticism.

4. ‘You always…’ or ‘You never…’

No one always or never does anything. People don’t see themselves as one-dimensional, so you shouldn’t attempt to define them as such. These phrases make people defensive and closed off to your message, which is a really bad thing because you likely use these phrases when you have something important to discuss.

Instead say: Simply point out what the other person did that’s a problem for you. Stick to the facts. If the frequency of the behavior is an issue, you can always say, “It seems like you do this often.” or “You do this often enough for me to notice.”

Related: Please Stop Saying These Ridiculous Phrases at Work

5. ‘You look great for your age.’

Using “for your” as a qualifier always comes across as condescending and rude. No one wants to be smart for an athlete or in good shape relative to other people who are also knocking on death’s door. People simply want to be smart and fit.

Instead say: “You look great.” This one is another easy fix. Genuine compliments don’t need qualifiers.

6. ‘As I said before…’

We all forget things from time to time. This phrase makes it sound as if you’re insulted at having to repeat yourself, which is hard on the recipient (someone who is genuinely interested in hearing your perspective). Getting insulted over having to repeat yourself suggests that either you’re insecure or you think you’re better than everyone else (or both!). Few people who use this phrase actually feel this way.

Instead say: When you say it again, see what you can do to convey the message in a clearer and more interesting manner. This way they’ll remember what you said.

7. ‘Good luck.’

This is a subtle one. It certainly isn’t the end of the world if you wish someone good luck, but you can do better because this phrase implies that they need luck to succeed.

Instead say: “I know you have what it takes.” This is better than wishing her luck because suggesting that she has the skills needed to succeed provides a huge boost of confidence. You’ll stand out from everyone else who simply wishes her luck.

8. ‘It’s up to you.’ or ‘Whatever you want.’

While you may be indifferent to the question, your opinion is important to the person asking (or else he wouldn’t have asked you in the first place).

Instead say: “I don’t have a strong opinion either way, but a couple things to consider are…” When you offer an opinion (even without choosing a side), it shows that you care about the person asking.

9. ‘Well at least I’ve never ___.’

This phrase is an aggressive way to shift attention away from your mistake by pointing out an old, likely irrelevant mistake the other person made (and one you should have forgiven her for by now).

Instead say: “I’m sorry.” Owning up to your mistake is the best way to bring the discussion to a more rational, calm place so that you can work things out. Admitting guilt is an amazing way to prevent escalation.

Bringing it all together
In everyday conversation, it’s the little things that make all the difference. Try these suggestions out, and you’ll be amazed at the positive response you get.

A version of this article first appeared at TalentSmart.com.

Related: 15 Body Language Secrets of Successful People


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Bhaiya I feel tht u being sucessful brings a sense of envy among ur work mates. So maintaining a cordial n amicable relations with them is not always possible. This sometimes makes me feel tht am I dng anything wrong? or this is wht they deserve


Workmates includes :

- people helpful to u in normal case, may be guiding, experience sharing , mentoring etc..

- people indifferent to u, no outwardly help, defensive attitude or no direct confrontation.

- people who don’t fall in any above categories,
We have be careful of them, they can be enemies in disguise, could be helpful in some circumstances or at least they have some first hand information about resources or pitfalls, so we have take best out of waste !
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How u judge them ???

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