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Feeling very stressed and depressed, how to deal with stress and live a peaceful life ?

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Generic advice is available throughout the internet. Never approach the so called gurus. Try to get closer to nature. Even being kind to street dog helps. Get enough fresh air. Get sunshine (irrespective of the day). Drink natural water (if possible the rain water). No RO water. Listen to music or speeches. Never ever watch YouTube or TV. Both only increase the stress. Proven by science. Try to find the purpose of life, everyday. That itself will show you the path to a peaceful life. Read books, if possible. Even Kindle helps. Try time restricted eating.


I follow all the above in varying degrees.

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Can only hope that THAT remark on depression is not some loose remark or self diagnosis.

If things are getting out of hand, never too late to seek timely help.
Even if it means approaching a a clinical (= authorised) psychologist, psychotherapist or other such trained professionals.

Unfortunately in some segments of our culture, there still is 'stigma' attached in seeking out mental health professionals or going in for any counselling also.


As for stress

Nature, evolution designed 'stress' as part of coping mechanism, aide to decision making.

Remember 'flight or fight response'?

Thusly, by itself, 'some' stress is not a bad thing actually.

However, stress management is an art, science which not many can decipher (let alone master).

Back in 1999-2000, i took ☟these☟ photocopies.
  ‣ https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/298066/original/3190949Stress_article_Sept1999_page_01.jpg

  ‣ https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/298097/original/3190949Stress_article_Sept1999_page_02.jpg

  ‣ https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/298125/original/3190949Stress_article_Sept1999_page_03.jpg

  ‣ https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/298144/original/3190949Stress_article_Sept1999_page_04.jpg
and the photographs of these phitocopies too were only taken from an average camera, in the years to follow.

May be you want to go through some of the points in that report/article.

Okay I just rechecked if it is still behind a paywall. Previously the article was available on some subscription based platforms.

However, maybe it still is free to read at ☛☞https://indiatoday.in/magazine/living/story/19990913-stress-becomes-new-age-killer-as-young-achievers-are-struck-down-by-overwork-insecurity-824259-1999-09-12.☜☚

Only YOU know your specifics and I/others would not really attempt to get into your brain,
                            hence things are a bit dicey.

In the past, I myself might have laughed at someone having myocardial infarction over some usual business loss or legal issues or people ending their lives overall marital issues, love life.

But now I have matured a bit to not always express my disdain.

But I still stand my ground, that not all issues are worth letting them get onto us. In the thick of things when one is overwhelmed, it often seems like 'oh no, this is it!'

But more likely than not, when one visits these same scenarios in hindsight, there is a much more likelihood of one realising the overreaction (or overwhelming) at that time (in the past).

@ikha247 Hope you get to confide in and seek the counsel of any sibling, elder, matured acquaintance/ friend, senior or an elder whom you can talk to relatively openly.

Decoupling from situations for a while helps too. Especially so in relationships. Be it with family members or in the professionals realm.
While for financial matters, it is always better to plan, plan and plan.
Because if one fails to plan, one has 'planned to fail'.
Self loathing is never a solution. Nor does unending brooding help.
So be on guard to not end up brooding too much or indulging in self loathing.

Can reach out in private if you feel like getting some professional help in Madhya Pradesh or wherever you are.
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Telling from personal experience -

1. Adopt an indian dog (also known as stray dog for some fuckers) , i personally taking care of 12 dogs since 5 yrs, all vaccinated, sterilized and regularly feeding. It will give u immense joy and satisfaction that u r contributing something to the society apart from just focusing on u.

2. Deactivate fb and insta for some months, just keep whatsapp for emergency, avoid any groups , don't use YouTube also, just focus on u. It's a game changer.

3. Get into an relationship or just make new friends, use couchsurfing app and meet new stranger , kya pata yaaro ke yaar bn jao, i have hosted 6 foreigners in my city and I have got a best friend from london since 4 yrs.

4. Start solo traveling, traveling is the ultimate heeler and will give u some perspective of life, I'm a regular traveler and have done most of the indian trips, and have been to 5 countries abroad.

5. Get into some hobby, start learning something new. It's a easy process and who knows that it will lead you to something great.

Now , why I'm telling u these things bcoz I've also faced this kind of turbulence in my life...lost my career, lost relationship, loosing hair 😂, depressed, single,  lived 32 yrs in Agra with parents, how depressing is that, haina...

But still going through, have done all the above mentioned points... So u should too...

I hope it will steer u...cheers mate 🤞🏻 🙏🏻👍🏻

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Generic advice is available throughout the internet. Never approach the so called gurus. Try to get closer to nature. Even being kind to street dog helps. Get enough fresh air. Get sunshine (irrespective of the day). Drink natural water (if possible the rain water). No RO water. Listen to music or speeches. Never ever watch YouTube or TV. Both only increase the stress. Proven by science. Try to find the purpose of life, everyday. That itself will show you the path to a peaceful life. Read books, if possible. Even Kindle helps. Try time restricted eating.


I follow all the above in varying degrees.

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Never approach the so called gurus. And read books

Contradicting statements. 

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Discover Yourself Within YOU

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First mention reason for depression, then dimers will help you with their out worldly knowledge.

My advice, forget everything & sleep peacefully.

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exactly, tell the reason as even Ambani and Adani are depressed and stressed at times so everyone has stress in some form or the other and best is not to consider them as stress and feel depressed as thinking about it is the main reason for all stress and depression and easily shoots up BP/diabetes etc.. 

moreover, unless the reason is not unknown then I don't think this thread will be helpful for you as all will give their thoughts which might be a stress buster for them but may turn out to be a stress causer and depression inducer to you while reading their comments 😄
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1. Switch off social media for a while. 
2. Take leave from work and go on a solo date.

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Having good amount of money and not having high expectations. A passion to live for. 

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+ saying so jao to us otherwise simbha will come
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Can only hope that THAT remark on depression is not some loose remark or self diagnosis.

If things are getting out of hand, never too late to seek timely help.
Even if it means approaching a a clinical (= authorised) psychologist, psychotherapist or other such trained professionals.

Unfortunately in some segments of our culture, there still is 'stigma' attached in seeking out mental health professionals or going in for any counselling also.


As for stress

Nature, evolution designed 'stress' as part of coping mechanism, aide to decision making.

Remember 'flight or fight response'?

Thusly, by itself, 'some' stress is not a bad thing actually.

However, stress management is an art, science which not many can decipher (let alone master).

Back in 1999-2000, i took ☟these☟ photocopies.
  ‣ https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/298066/original/3190949Stress_article_Sept1999_page_01.jpg

  ‣ https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/298097/original/3190949Stress_article_Sept1999_page_02.jpg

  ‣ https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/298125/original/3190949Stress_article_Sept1999_page_03.jpg

  ‣ https://cdn0.desidime.com/attachments/photos/298144/original/3190949Stress_article_Sept1999_page_04.jpg
and the photographs of these phitocopies too were only taken from an average camera, in the years to follow.

May be you want to go through some of the points in that report/article.

Okay I just rechecked if it is still behind a paywall. Previously the article was available on some subscription based platforms.

However, maybe it still is free to read at ☛☞https://indiatoday.in/magazine/living/story/19990913-stress-becomes-new-age-killer-as-young-achievers-are-struck-down-by-overwork-insecurity-824259-1999-09-12.☜☚

Only YOU know your specifics and I/others would not really attempt to get into your brain,
                            hence things are a bit dicey.

In the past, I myself might have laughed at someone having myocardial infarction over some usual business loss or legal issues or people ending their lives overall marital issues, love life.

But now I have matured a bit to not always express my disdain.

But I still stand my ground, that not all issues are worth letting them get onto us. In the thick of things when one is overwhelmed, it often seems like 'oh no, this is it!'

But more likely than not, when one visits these same scenarios in hindsight, there is a much more likelihood of one realising the overreaction (or overwhelming) at that time (in the past).

@ikha247 Hope you get to confide in and seek the counsel of any sibling, elder, matured acquaintance/ friend, senior or an elder whom you can talk to relatively openly.

Decoupling from situations for a while helps too. Especially so in relationships. Be it with family members or in the professionals realm.
While for financial matters, it is always better to plan, plan and plan.
Because if one fails to plan, one has 'planned to fail'.
Self loathing is never a solution. Nor does unending brooding help.
So be on guard to not end up brooding too much or indulging in self loathing.

Can reach out in private if you feel like getting some professional help in Madhya Pradesh or wherever you are.
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A perfect answer 

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- Avoid Mobile Use and any kind of Media specifically
Strictly avoid using Credit Cards If you want Peace in Life

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By going to a place where time stops.

Coupon Baba Coupon Baba
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Try reading some books that brings out inner peace. My preference: Shrimad Bhagwat Geeta

Deal Captain Deal Captain
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Go to somewhere new places alone where u have never been, ur mind will then engage in adopting the new place.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Read some good books (or maybe a long summary, if you're not a reader)

Ikigai is one of my favourite 

Walk as much as you can (anywhere and everywhere - terrace, garden, road, highway, rooftop...) (with phone in pocket)

Buy yourself (or your family) something small - a treat once in while

And Gym actually works man! (if you have time for that) 

Generous Generous
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to Love and labour is the sum of life

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Forget that thing that depression thing and do something that you love doing it always from childhood:) 

and you will return to normal

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Join dance classes. 

Deal Captain Deal Captain
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Q: How to live a peaceful life?

A: By not considering others opinions

PS: includes mine

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close all credit cards.

Tech Guru Tech Guru
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Don't try to find happiness. Live your life. That's it 

Community Angel Community Angel
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Such comments rare

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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take a day off & go on travel ; repeat when u are down

does not matter could be a walk to your nearest landmark

But have open mind to explore & observe.

U will see & realise that there is far more poverty, pain, suffering & struggle around you & u are in better position.

Pro DealBaba Pro DealBaba
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Peace will come after death, life has no peace in it's dictionary .
All u can do is stress management

The PostMighty The PostMighty
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Stay off social media or even internet as far as possible and seek professional advice. Don't go around posting in public forums.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Find purpose in life and work on it. Then you won't have time to even think about stress and depression

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Telling from personal experience -

1. Adopt an indian dog (also known as stray dog for some fuckers) , i personally taking care of 12 dogs since 5 yrs, all vaccinated, sterilized and regularly feeding. It will give u immense joy and satisfaction that u r contributing something to the society apart from just focusing on u.

2. Deactivate fb and insta for some months, just keep whatsapp for emergency, avoid any groups , don't use YouTube also, just focus on u. It's a game changer.

3. Get into an relationship or just make new friends, use couchsurfing app and meet new stranger , kya pata yaaro ke yaar bn jao, i have hosted 6 foreigners in my city and I have got a best friend from london since 4 yrs.

4. Start solo traveling, traveling is the ultimate heeler and will give u some perspective of life, I'm a regular traveler and have done most of the indian trips, and have been to 5 countries abroad.

5. Get into some hobby, start learning something new. It's a easy process and who knows that it will lead you to something great.

Now , why I'm telling u these things bcoz I've also faced this kind of turbulence in my life...lost my career, lost relationship, loosing hair 😂, depressed, single,  lived 32 yrs in Agra with parents, how depressing is that, haina...

But still going through, have done all the above mentioned points... So u should too...

I hope it will steer u...cheers mate 🤞🏻 🙏🏻👍🏻

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Log off Desidime, you will be peaceful. 

Comrade Comrade
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Typical Indian advice.....

Get married...... 

Community Angel Community Angel
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And make new enemies within your paternal house

Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Worry

Be like a non-stick pan. Let nothing stick. Nothing. No matter what 😊

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Send your Charan to sparsh

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Duniya chod doo

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Bhai if you are in stress, no activity(like dance/travel/..) gonna reduce your stress.

Someone rightly mentioned remove all social media apps including youtube.

as @freebaba posted an image, follow that, which actually means- No to Over Thinking.



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