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Mumbhai
My neighbour asked me to play the TV at a low volume at night. It's perplexing that she made this request when she herself frequently shouts in front of our house throughout the day. Despite feeling disturbed, we haven't confronted her, choosing instead to exercise tolerance within our community. It seems unfair that she can't tolerate a normal TV volume at night, especially considering we tolerate her noise throughout the day. It's not that we always have the TV on late at night, it's rare, it happened on a holiday, and I was careful to adjust the volume during sudden loud scenes. It's disconcerting how some people can be intolerant while not adhering to the same standards themselves. 
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Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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she must be having sleep issues due to disturbance.

sometimes you must understand needs of elders and respect them equally like you respect parents and relatives.

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https://nyaaya.org/legal-explainer/filing-a-noi...

Remedy under Indian Penal Code (IPC), 1860

If there is any noise after 10 p.m., you may contact the local police and they shall give your neighbor a warning. If they do not stop, you may file a case under Section 290 of the IPC and they shall have to pay a fine of INR 200.

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it's common sense to not put loud music or flashy light at night. even Indian railways turns of all the light by 10.

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If only one person is watching, the best option is to use a bluetooth headphone. You can hear minute details, which normally you cannot hear through the TV speakers.

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Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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she must be having sleep issues due to disturbance.

sometimes you must understand needs of elders and respect them equally like you respect parents and relatives.

Critic Critic
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I do understand that. Even I would have complained, but believe me it wasn't that loud to be concerned about. It's quite normal when you stay in apartments where the main doors are facing each other. U need to adjust when others are adjusting too.

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Deal Subedar Deal Subedar
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Such ppl are everywhere and are best ignored.

Tolerance is a virtue.

Also, you can't justify high volume here only because she also shouts. You can not correct one wrong by another.

Just politely ask her to give rest to her throat and lungs when she shouts. Some ppl have this habit and they do not even realize that they are loud, unless someone tells them.

 

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Yes, bro, I'm trying my best to ignore. And, not trying to justify my actions here, but you can't deny the fact that it's hypocrisy when you preach things that you can't follow yourself. It might be true that she doesn't realize how loud she is, and I don't want to confront her due to her quarrelsome nature..

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Disconcerting to you (for now): perhaps yes.

However, even the best of the best surgeons often may not lead a major surgery on their own immediate family member.

One can always risk loosing objectivity or staying rationale in situations that get personal to us.

It is common though, and I am not taking the side of the other person/ lady either. I/we do not know if she too was merely a messenger. Like someone in their home cribbing about the TV sound and she opting to be the one to come out to speak.

I always find it amusing (sometimes annoying) when even my own close acquaintance or even relatives try to negotiate/ bargain and some even go ballistic when they get confronted by traffic cops for silly signal jumping violations and they claim.. aap ne unko tou jaaney diya or the classic alibi 'the actual pole/ light was not visible in traffic and we were focussed on the vehicle in front of is' (we did what the ones in front of us did).


And same happens at-least with some of the elders, ladies in our households.
Hypocrisy at its core and projecting a fake persona.
If others report their kids eloped or chose to have interfaith/ inter-community or even inter 'caste' marriage or even declare themselves to be homosexuals.. it is all okay for these ladies/elders.
But the scenes and perpetual "Rudali" that happens if by chance their own kids/ brothers/sisters so much as hint at something like that.


For now, you might be right in your feelings (that you got the short end of the stick).
But overall us Asians (except for some Japanese folks) have our own matrices of what is acceptable civic sense.
(Had once confronted the alleged educated, multimillionaire living in a decent gated community/ building complex.. about them having their kid urinate by the compound wall.. in public space and they just shrugged 'isko bahot zor se aa rahi thi'. The kid was well over 7½-8 years and still the sole justification was that his bladder was full.)

TL:DR hamaam meiñ sab nange! [The community bath/ public bath/ pre-Aufguss sauna is not really where one ought to judge others for their body type and (whether they trim) body hair.]
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The permissible noise level in India varies in day & night.

So just because your neighbor shouts during day time you can’t make noise at night.

Tolerating your neighbour for a while may also ensure long term peace.

At the same time you can politely tell your neighbour that she is disturbing you

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Buy a puppy.
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Deal Captain Deal Captain
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You are flawless king, don't be perturbed by the antics of a common citizen

Benevolent Benevolent
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Watch parking movie on OTTs. It's about how far a small tiff with a neighbor goes. 

Helpful Helpful
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just watched very good movie..can u suggest more relieved

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Hunk Hunk
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Move to a different place bro otherwise you won't be able to watch tv at midnight. It is huge problem for you.

Benevolent Benevolent
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 Never surrender! Never back down! Never retreat! Take such abusers head on!!
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https://nyaaya.org/legal-explainer/filing-a-noi...

Remedy under Indian Penal Code (IPC), 1860

If there is any noise after 10 p.m., you may contact the local police and they shall give your neighbor a warning. If they do not stop, you may file a case under Section 290 of the IPC and they shall have to pay a fine of INR 200.

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it's common sense to not put loud music or flashy light at night. even Indian railways turns of all the light by 10.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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all good but cops gonna take bribe of rs10000 to FIR for sure
Tech Guru Tech Guru
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Use headphones. No?

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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yep bro can start a crowd funding to buy headphones?
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Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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bro go sleep early and wake up at 5am & work hard to become a billionaire & then go buy a yatch and party all night with full sound in the middle of the ocean

Critic Critic
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This is the most practical piece of peace advice my bro... smile

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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If only one person is watching, the best option is to use a bluetooth headphone. You can hear minute details, which normally you cannot hear through the TV speakers.

Tech Guru Tech Guru
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I do that with two persons, with a tws earbuds/earphones. We each wear one earphone . We always keep one ear open to listen to each other and outside noise.
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Cool Cool
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Bro problems of  neighbours is universal, mine neighbours always ask about my job, salary and personal questions.

One time i was sick so I didn't go to work for 10 to 12 days and she inquired about me to my mom iska job chala gaya kya? joy joy

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Keh dete joy dusri company zyada deri thi interview leave pe hu.aag lga deti wo

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Benevolent Benevolent
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Bruh what would you do if you were in her shoes ? Think about it,have a conversation with that lady and politely let her know how shouting causes inconvenience to you,there is nothing wrong in confronting her but first try to resolve it amicably.

If nothing works ,there is a saying “Rod is the logic of high handed & rude miscreants”.Talk to society management / building owner,file a police complaint or share your grievance with public representative.It can jeopardize your relations & she too can invoke it against you if she is really getting disturbed with loud music / TV but you can't put your right to live in peace & quiet at stake just to appease such miscreants.

Alternatively you can considere watching TV/playing music without subwoofer (esp at night) ,using headphones or soundproofing opposing walls.

Article 21 of the Constitution guarantees "Right to Sleep" & "Right to live in peace, comfort and quiet" as well.

"Article 21 of the Constitution guarantees the life and personal liberty to all persons. It guarantees the right of persons to life with human dignity. Therein are included, all the aspects of life which go to make a person’s life meaningful, complete and worth living. The human life has its charm and there is no reason why life should not be enjoyed along with all permissible pleasures. Anyone who wishes to live in peace, comfort, and quiet within his house has a right to prevent the noise as pollutant reaching him.

No one can claim a right to create noise even in his own premises that would travel beyond his precincts and cause the nuisance to neighbors or others. Any noise, which has the effect of materially interfering with the ordinary comforts of life judged by the standard of a reasonable man, is nuisance…. While one has a right to speech, others have a right to listen or decline to listen. Nobody can be compelled to listen and nobody can claim that he has a right to make his voice trespass into the ears or mind of others.

Nobody can indulge in aural aggression. If anyone increases his volume of speech and that too with the assistance of artificial devices so as to compulsorily expose unwilling persons to hear a noise raised to unpleasant or obnoxious levels then the person speaking is violating the right of others to a peaceful, comfortable and pollution-free life guaranteed by Article 21. Article 19(1)(a) cannot be pressed into service for defeating the fundamental right guaranteed by Article 21"

I hope the issue gets resolved soon.

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Bro aunties kbhi shant nii rhti jb dekho chillati rhti haii....kuch ni kr skte tmm iska 

Generous Generous
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are u suggesting its some kind of deep dry hidden frustration in them ?

Tech Guru Tech Guru
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@Mumbhai Does she have a baby or a sick person? Is your neighbour and you have a common or adjoining wall? Did you played the TV after 12 o'clock? 

If  all the answers are NO. Then she's being unreasonable and you need to confront her about the shouting.... Politely.
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No baby/senior, she stays with her husband, I can assure it doesn't even bother her much she just wants to boss around..

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Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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If you live in a society complex then during society meeting the issue can be raised. If not then there is impasse.

It's the short temper of the women because of which she can't sleep with a minimal noise of your tv. 

I think you have wall mounted the TV on the shared wall with your neighbour, if not she must take sleeping pills at night.

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No, actually, I checked myself, it is very much bearable. However, when you have to assert who is the boss, one can't help it. No, the TV is not mounted on the same wall. She is just too insecure in her own way...

Generous Generous
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She may be tired after shouting all day. You ask her to lower her volume first, win win for both. 

Helpful Helpful
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Aisa Kya dekh rhe the raat ko itni tez aaaaaaahwaz mein.....

Deal Cadet Deal Cadet
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Same case in my neighborhood. Tolerating them since 2 years 😤

Pro Tech Guru Pro Tech Guru
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We should have planned mohallas with planned neighbours😅

Generous Generous
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meri neghbor ho sunny leone
Generous Generous
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SHE ?

- and you are fighting??

Deal Lieutenant Deal Lieutenant
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U can't change other ,try sound proof glass or any other device which will reduce soind

Benevolent Benevolent
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Mumbai man shares CCTV footages of how two young women, with an intention of being cool, entered their building to disturb residents by ringing bells at 2:30 a.m.

Children playing mischievous pranks, such as ringing doorbells and running away, are a common sight in residential societies. However, the scenario took an unusual turn when two young women entered a building in Mumbai around 2:30 a.m. with the sole purpose of ‘disturbing’ residents. Shresht Poddar, a resident, took to social media, sharing CCTV footage and detailing how these women frightened mostly senior residents by latching their doors from the outside before ringing their bells needlessly.

https://www.news18.com/viral/mumbai-mans-post-o...

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