99% people are driven by emotions, instincts & don’t want to hear the truth !
Is Your Boss Pushing You to Your Limit? It’s Because He Cares
Bobby Campbell
Helping someone truly transform takes a huge amount of effort from a teacher. Because of this, truly great teachers are unwilling to teach everyone, because you can’t hope to reach everyone. Not everyone has the work ethic and hunger to deserve that type of effort and hard work. It takes an enormous amount of energy and personal sacrifice for a good leader to help someone transform themselves into something new.
I always tell people when they have a boss pushing them or hounding them to not worry — that boss probably cares about you improving and progressing. You should start worrying when your boss stops. When someone stops putting an effort into your progress, they may have given up on you.
I’ve seen this happen both ways while running my company. I’ve helped people transform who didn’t have the will out of necessity, and I’ve helped people who did have the will and wanted it more than anything. It’s a demanding process. In both cases, I think the individuals resented me to varying degrees, and that was okay. I wasn’t in it for them to thank me. I was in it to create an end product. While they may have not have completely understood at first why I was doing what I was doing, in most cases, I believe they came to an appreciation of how I was helping them.
To me, there is nothing more extraordinary than a human being changed at his or her core. Most people go through life and never change fundamentally. They don’t change — because it’s hard. Ninety-nine percent of people are driven by emotions, instincts, desires, lusts and hungers. An individual who wants to change must rise above, recognize himself or herself for who they are, make a conscious decision in every moment to face these things and choose to be different.
Making a choice to be different in every moment is the great challenge that anyone who has risen to the top of their field or had great success must recognize and conquer.
Here are five things a great boss who cares will do that you might resent him or her for:
1. A good leader will demand excellence.
For too many, mediocrity is okay. Most bosses or leaders will sell you short. They will say that’s as good as they can do, because they don’t care enough to demand your best. It’s just easier to except you as you are. The boss who demands more of you is the boss who is doing you a favor. He’s the boss who sees your potential and is willing to put the energy into you, to see you evolve.
2. A good leader will push you to the edge.
A great boss or leader will push you to the breaking point. You might think they are pushing you too far. However, if they really care about you and believe in you, they will push you past where you think you can be — but not so far that you break. A great leader knows that it’s at the edges where real progress is made. When you have gone further than you thought you could and get close to your breaking point, that’s where greatness is discovered.
Related: How Successful People Overcome Toxic Bosses
3. A good leader will tell you the truth.
Most people don’t want to hear the truth. They are just fine where they are. They do not want to disrupt the status quo. People often ask me for advice on business. Most of the time, I decline. The reason is that most people don’t want to hear the truth. Most people just want you to reassure them that what they are doing is good. The truth does not always reassure. Sometimes it can hit you hard, like a punch to the face. But the boss who is honest with you is the boss who will make you better.
4. A good leader will yell at you.
Sometimes leaders are tough — even jerks — but it’s always for a valid reason. Do not sell yourself short by being lazy and not appreciating what they are trying to do for you. Sometimes to get your attention, a boss may yell. If that’s what it takes to get you back on track, so be it. Would you rather they say something important in a way that is nice but doesn’t get your attention — and then you miss it?
5. A good leader will compliment you only when you deserve it.
A good boss is not there to hand out participation trophies. They want you to learn what it means to accomplish something and receive legitimate praise based on an actual accomplishment. It’s a great feeling and way different than an empty pat on the back. If they praise you for something undeserving, they will gradually lose your respect. It’s important in the process to not only to be fair with criticisms and challenges but also be fair with praise. A boss is there to measure your progress. The feedback they give will help you gauge progress and build confidence.
The next time your boss is pushing you hard and you don’t understand why, just remember — they might be trying to take you to a place you didn’t think you were capable of reaching.
Here’s what to do when your boss catches you looking for a new job
Business Insider
Whether you think your boss suspects that you’re looking for a new job – or you’re certain they know, here’s how to handle the situation.
We’ve solicited readers to submit their most pressing career-related questions. With the help of Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of “Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job,” we’ve answered the following: “I think my boss knows I’m looking for a new job. What should I do?”
Whether you think your boss suspects that you’re looking for a new job – or you’re certain they know, because they caught you red-handed – you’ll probably feel anxious and perhaps even doomed.
“Maybe you were caught visiting a job board; there was a snitch among your ‘trusted networks’; or it turns out your boss actually does notice you – that is, your frequent LinkedIn updates, long lunches, and ‘doctor visits’ the days you come in wearing a suit. But before you seek refuge under the nearest credenza, take heart; you can recover from this,” Taylor explains.
First, she says, you need to realize that this happens to so many people. “Most workers stay employed while they conduct a job search, and even if you do it on your lunch hour or breaks, there can still be other outward signs if you’re not extra vigilant: a new, interview-worthy wardrobe, more absences and visible networking online, and an overall change in behavior,” she says.
If you’re in the midst of a job search or thinking about one, now is the time to be prepared for softening the blow to your manager (and to your career), she says. “Of course, more than an ounce of job hunting discretion doesn’t hurt, either.”
Here’s what to do if your boss calls you out:
-Know where you stand
Before you approach or respond to your boss, Taylor suggests you examine the following factors: -Your current level of job security (Do you have a great track record?) -How upset your boss might be as a result of this possible/perceived “betrayal” -Whether you’re willing to forfeit the job entirely -How comfortable you are telling the truth -Whether you feel your current job still has potential -Whether there are external factors that may legitimize a search, such as a downsizing or pending merger
-Stay cool
When your boss confronts you, the first thing to remember is to avoid panic, she says.
“Just how you react to the ambush is almost as important as the ‘misdeed,’” she explains. “Your boss is unlikely to be all smiles, so you’ll need to quash the tension.” Try to bring the conversation from contentious to constructive, with much as much diplomacy and respect as you can muster.
-Be empathetic
While it can sometimes seem dubious, your boss does have feelings and will likely feel dismayed and rejected, if not outright angry. “By identifying with his or her feeling of betrayal, your demeanor will be much more natural — and hopefully generate more patience and understanding,” Taylor says.
-Keep your response simple
This is no time for TMI, which can happen when your nerves are frayed, she says. “Less will be more in your damage control. You can give the overall truthful answer, but many details will exacerbate an already awkward situation.”
-Don’t lie
Savvy bosses have their antennae up when you’re job searching, so it’s hard to know the source(s) of their information. “That’s why it’s better not to lie and risk further harming your relationship,” advises Taylor. “You can, however, be diplomatic in how you describe your search.”
-Give a thoughtful explanation
Think about your desired goals and future at the firm beforehand.
Bad choice: “Yes, I’m not happy here, so I’ve been conducting an active job search for awhile.”
Better choice: “I’ve been reviewing a couple of opportunities to learn more about my marketability, but not actively. I’d prefer to stay here and am hoping we can discuss how to improve things to our mutual satisfaction. I’m fully committed to my position here.”
Best choice if accurate: “I have been approached by a couple recruiters/companies and felt that I should at least listen to them. But I’m most interested in staying here and want things to work out.” Then, discuss your commitment to and interest in resolving issues, Taylor suggests.
There may be other circumstances that make the news of your job search less traumatic for your boss. If your company or department has been downsizing, or there are rumors of a merger, for instance, it may not come as a big shock. The leak about your search could lead to a discussion clarifying your level of job security, she says.
-Shift the discussion to your job duties and career
Clearly, you wouldn’t be searching for a new job if things were entirely rosy. So this is an opportunity to lay some cards on the table, with the utmost tact, she explains. “The discussion could ultimately improve your relationship. Your next move will depend a great deal on the relationship you had with your boss before the ‘event.’”
Taylor says this could be your chance to candidly discuss your need for greater responsibility. You might bide a little time to think through your pitch for what’s missing from your job. Maybe you feel you deserve a promotion and/or raise. Consider asking for a follow up meeting about your job and career.
“Even if the job isn’t in your long-term interest, you still want to improve upon interim problems as best you can while you’re there,” she adds. “Personality clashes may be tough to tackle, but a lot may stem from the need to set better boundaries and expectations, improve communications, project flow and/or deadline prioritization.”
-Don’t burn your bridges
If you have a combative attitude, you’ll lose a valuable reference, burn your bridges, and hurt your reputation.
If you respond, “Yes, I’m looking elsewhere and unhappy” (i.e., “you got me!”) with no interest in a resolution, most employers will feel that you’ve already checked out — and your prospects at the company will be dim, says Taylor. “Stay professional. It will be remembered, despite your setback.”
-Try to regain trust
Regardless of where your career is headed, you want to try and regain your boss’s confidence as best you can. This can be challenging, as managers are leery of proprietary leaks, especially to direct competition. Also, at this point they’ll be more skeptical about how hard you’re working. “You may get the cold shoulder for awhile,” Taylor warns.
“Still, do your best to work hard and remain accessible. Make sure you conduct any job search activities outside the office and avoid any social media tip-offs, such as adding 100 new LinkedIn industry contacts overnight.”
-Stay focused
It’s easy to get distracted after a setback like this; it will feel like a very bad day. But don’t dwell on the fact that you “got caught.” It doesn’t mean that you’ll lose your job; you may ultimately be able to modify it. If you do ultimately part ways, it will likely be for the best — your dream job could be around the corner, she says.
-Show commitment and enthusiasm
“You’re likely under a microscope now, and there may even be rumors about your allegiances,” says Taylor. “The pressure is on to show you’re still dedicated and producing excellent results.”
Continue to meet deadlines and be helpful to your boss and colleagues. Be upbeat and avoid any inference that you may have one foot out the door. (And be careful chatting up your search with peers!)
Stay positive and in control. “You could end up staying at the company in a related capacity. Or, someone at the company could end up hiring you at your next job.”
Simply awesome! Proud of this girl and others who stood up for truth!! 👏👏👏
Dear Mr. Rahul Gandhi, I was attending your interaction session today and want to make a few quick comments about your lecture. First, we are independent thinking young women who are not hired by your party agents to gather and cheer for everything you say or nod to whatever you preach. You raised some extremely good points to which we applauded and supported you but for some of your views where we could not agree we expressed dissent. Please take it in the right spirit. For a moment even if we agree to what you said" Swach Bharat" is not working I would say that it’s the nation’s failure not PM’s alone! Do you realise that such programmes run with every individuals support like the polio campaign. It ran for decades and only now we are seeing the outcome. How can you clean a country that has accumulated filth for decades and centuries? It’s a culture change that all of us have to bring in, including you and I. Will Modi or the govt officials make it clean by themselves? No. It is we who need to join hands in the success of this extremely important and good initiative. Anyways, the reality is that youngsters like me and millions across the country who have a positive vision for India are doing our bit by maintaining our surroundings clean, joining some of our weekend College drives to clean areas and localities, spread awareness, donate garbage bins, and many such small but effective means. It’s working good for us though in a limited capacity. So I said “yes” when you asked about it. Second point about “Make in India” being flop. I wanted to counter question there itself but could not do because of all the commotion and hulla boo around. Have you done anything to make this program successful? Nothing more is expected of you and your party members than to allow the Parliament to work and support bills that will bring Make In India to the forefront. Will you do it? You derail the nation’s focus to trivial issues, bring communal angles, and everything to the table but not the bills and laws that will enable the Make in India to succeed. Please leave your ego aside and help the nation to grow. Modi rolled one more fantastic initiative of girl child saving and education, beti bachao and beti padhao. Did you support it? I never heard or read anything positive from you. All you say is govt is bad. You support whoever says govt is bad. It may be bad on few things but it is good in some. Why not take that point forward? This is not happening. You made a big issue of PM’s suit and halred the country! Did you raise a stir about Mulayam singh Yadavs birthday splash of 90 crores? Ok I am not. BJP bhakt or Aaptard. Just an aware student who wants our nation move ahead. We are taught to be positive and constructive. I would say the same to you. Please be constructive and we need leaders who are not opposing everything that the govt is doing. This is unfair. Oppose where you should, support where you should. This is how India has worked, especially the new and aspiring India. Last point, I am told that you are offended by the embarassment and before leaving Bangalore you have asked your state Cong state govt to teach us a lesson. It is unfortunate that you are stooping so low and making this an ego issue. Let me tell you that don’t you dare to harass our college or any of our students. We are completely appolitical but politically aware students. If your state govt tries any such gimmicks we will express our dissent as we did today. May be on a larger scale. There is a saying in Kannada that translates to something like, Never play with with fire or female youth, both can make or break.
- Madhuri, Mount Carmels College, Bengaluru.
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
on the contrary 
Big trees have big uses; small trees have small uses. Good and bad bowls both have their uses. Nothing is to be discarded. Keep both good and bad friends; this is your responsibility. You must not reject any element; this is true wisdom. Be free from discriminating thoughts.
-—THE COMPASS OF ZEN.
A family of four members was forced to leave a cinema hall after they refused to stand up when the national anthem was played just before the movie’s screening. A video, which has gone viral both on YouTube and on microblogging site Twitter, shows some people arguing with the man who refused to stand when the national anthem was played. Some reports said the incident took place in a cinema hall in Kurla, Mumbai. Initially, the man refused to stand up saying that he didn’t want to stand, but later changed his statement to say that he had a problem with his knee. Even as he is arguing with the rest of the audience, a woman is seen trying to pacify the agitated crowd.
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to START & FINISH within three or four years .
It’s a LIFE TIME course not just to STUDY
but also to FEEL & LIVE .
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@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
RELATIONSHIP is not a DEGREE or a DIPLOMA to START & FINISH within three or four years
Sabka Degree/Diploma prescribed time mein complete nahin ho paata. 🙈🙉🙊
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
RELATIONSHIP is not a DEGREE or a DIPLOMA
to START & FINISH within three or four years .
It’s a LIFE TIME course not just to STUDY
but also to FEEL & LIVE .
🌹 🌹
@srocks
@devashi
Thanks bro notify me
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
RELATIONSHIP is not a DEGREE or a DIPLOMA
to START & FINISH within three or four years .
It’s a LIFETIME course not just to STUDY
but also to FEEL & LIVE.
🌹 🌹
@srocks
@devashi
@vishusgh
@Magus
@mahidada
@asoka
@Plato
@hese
@raj0390
@Achilles
is there any crash course ?
crash course -crush course 
@Plato wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
RELATIONSHIP is not a DEGREE or a DIPLOMA to START & FINISH within three or four years
Sabka Degree/Diploma prescribed time mein complete nahin ho paata. 🙈🙉🙊
theek bola plato diploma prescribed time pe nhi hota aajkal 
Aarya and Troll are in same class from past 4 years can’t pass it both are pathetic students but good love birds
Crush course is very flexible and weaken ur willpower to come out of it.
This rog let the patient love his/her illness, so patient Dont want to get rid of it until some better and improved FRESH air is felt.
Keep renewing ur energies with ur street corner buddies, chat and spat with dimers can give u courage to enlive ur inside story , ask @FeelMyL0Ve 4 enrollment.
@vishusgh wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
DEGREE or a DIPLOMA
START & FINISH
LIFETIME STUDY
FEEL & LIVE.
🌹 🌹
is there any crash course ?
crash course -crush course
Yeah! Like for any Degree- Diploma, Inter course is the minimum eligibility criteria. Did you pass there with flying colors? I failed once in Inter, twice in Degree and thrice in Diploma. But got experience of a Life-time.
@Plato wrote:@vishusgh wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
DEGREE or a DIPLOMA
START & FINISH
LIFETIME STUDY
FEEL & LIVE.
🌹 🌹
is there any crash course ?
crash course -crush course
Yeah! Like for any Degree- Diploma, Inter course is the minimum eligibility criteria. Did you pass there with flying colors? I failed once in Inter, twice in Degree and thrice in Diploma. But got experience of a Life-time.
you failed for six years 
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
Crush course is very flexible and weaken ur willpower to come out of it.
This rog let the patient love his/her illness, so patient Dont want to get rid of it until some better and improved FRESH air is felt.
Keep renewing ur energies with ur street corner buddies, chat and spat with dimers can give u courage to enlive ur inside story , ask @FeelMyL0Ve 4 enrollment.
bade experienced lagte ho is mamle mein barooda hmm naughty boy
@Plato wrote:@vishusgh wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
DEGREE or a DIPLOMA
START & FINISH
LIFETIME STUDY
FEEL & LIVE.
🌹 🌹
is there any crash course ?
crash course -crush course
Yeah! Like for any Degree- Diploma, Inter course is the minimum eligibility criteria. Did you pass there with flying colors? I failed once in Inter, twice in Degree and thrice in Diploma. But got experience of a Life-time.
Brother fail hone ki aadat ni hai or pass hona mai chahta ni is liye hamesa tutorial class leke hi chod deta hu, kabhi tutor Bhaga deti hai to kabhi khud chahte hue bhi join ni karta. ( after results of such courses is not healthy)
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Is liye mostly I keep myself till tutorial classes
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
Crush course is very flexible and weaken ur willpower to come out of it.
This rog let the patient love his/her illness, so patient Dont want to get rid of it until some better and improved FRESH air is felt.
Keep renewing ur energies with ur street corner buddies, chat and spat with dimers can give u courage to enlive ur inside story , ask @FeelMyL0Ve 4 enrollment.
was in littile mood to join a crash course, tutor left said I can help you if you need but can’t be your tutor so now no more course at desidime centre
@krishan42933 wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
Crush course is very flexible and weaken ur willpower to come out of it.
This rog let the patient love his/her illness, so patient Dont want to get rid of it until some better and improved FRESH air is felt.
Keep renewing ur energies with ur street corner buddies, chat and spat with dimers can give u courage to enlive ur inside story , ask @FeelMyL0Ve 4 enrollment.
bade experienced lagte ho is mamle mein barooda hmm
barood ne aisee se lekar gate tak saare crash course kiye hai or sab me acchi AIR aayi h
@vishusgh wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
Crush course is very flexible and weaken ur willpower to come out of it.
This rog let the patient love his/her illness, so patient Dont want to get rid of it until some better and improved FRESH air is felt.
Keep renewing ur energies with ur street corner buddies, chat and spat with dimers can give u courage to enlive ur inside story , ask @FeelMyL0Ve 4 enrollment.
was in littile mood to join a crash course, tutor left said I can help you if you need but can’t be your tutor so now no more course at desidime centre
Jhagra kyon kara ?
Ainse kam taise kar deti hai life.
Anyways , we can recall the moment
1. When we felt extremely happy on events.
2. When we felt very bad and depressed.
So, they can bring smile or tears !
@vishusgh wrote:@krishan42933 wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:
Crush course is very flexible and weaken ur willpower to come out of it.
This rog let the patient love his/her illness, so patient Dont want to get rid of it until some better and improved FRESH air is felt.
Keep renewing ur energies with ur street corner buddies, chat and spat with dimers can give u courage to enlive ur inside story , ask @FeelMyL0Ve 4 enrollment.
bade experienced lagte ho is mamle mein barooda hmm
barood ne aisee se lekar gate tak saare crash course kiye hai or sab me acchi AIR aayi h
apni to bata bhai kitni baar crash hue kitni baar accident hua kitni baar choot lagi kitni baar dil toota lolz
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