What is your EQ ?

What is your EQ ?

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Here is a conspiracy theory for you – some very intelligent people are here amongst us. Their IQ is described as “Artificial Intelligence” and like “walking Wikipedias” they always have an answer ready for everything. And from the look on their face you know that they are probably right. “How can they retain so much information?” you ask yourself.

Have they spent their teenage years locked up in their rooms reading? Do they flip over a few pages from scientific research papers before going to bed as a past time? Could it be that they have a direct connection to some unknown source of Universal knowledge?

I do not know about you, but in the past an encounter with such highly intelligent people would always leave me feeling two contradictory emotions: excitement, because I have learned something new and a slight sense of inadequacy, because I have never felt an urge to read the “Wall Street Journal” or wrap my mind around “Schrödinger’s cat” paradox.

It turns out that the latter emotion was unjustified, as recent studies in psychology confirm that our IQ has very little to do with accomplishing success in life.

What makes a big difference is our Emotional Intelligence, the concept that has been described by Daniel Goleman. Not only do qualities associated with high EQ (such as self-awareness, inner motivation, empathy and ability to recognize and manage our own feelings and those of others) account for about 90% of our professional effectiveness, they also enhance our intellectual performance – i.e. we work smarter, not harder!
Really great news is that, unlike IQ, which is set and almost unchangeable from childhood on, emotional intelligence can be developed and improved!

21 Strategies to Improve Emotional Intelligence

1. Learn to trust your intuition

Do you know how sometimes you “have a feeling” about something or someone? Well, do not rush to dismiss it, because it may help you to avoid a few costly mistakes.

For a long time intuition and rational thinking were considered two mutually exclusive concepts. Only now have scientists started to realize that our intuitive emotions serve as an efficient mechanism that improves our ability to make better, sounder decisions. So learn to trust your intuition and start relying on it more often!

2. Quickly un-wind your mind

When we are under stress, we quickly lose the ability to accurately “read” a situation, hear what someone else is saying, think rationally and communicate clearly. The first skill that can greatly improve our emotional intelligence is to quickly and efficiently manage stress when we are feeling overwhelmed.

3. Realize that you are not your emotions

A trap many people fall into is feeling that they “ought” to feel a certain way. Usually we are brought up to believe that it is wrong to express and even feel certain emotions, as if it somehow makes us a “bad person”. But in reality it is not the feeling that matters, but how you choose to act on it.

4. Talk about your feelings

Letting our feelings show has always been associated with weakness. While we were learning to smile politely and keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves, we should have been practicing to express those feelings. This is what people with high EQ do. They are not afraid to expose their feelings, vulnerabilities and thoughts. And guess what? No one perceives them as weak.

5. Practice “learned optimism”

Notice how you explain events to yourself, both good and bad. Do you take credit for your achievements or do you dismiss them as pure luck? Do you take responsibility for your missteps or does it seem more natural for you to shift the blame on something or someone else?

6. Start with your ego

Ego plays a huge role in how we perceive and react to different situations. You can not feel unappreciated, offended or hurt unless you let yourself feel that way. And the fact that you are feeling that way almost always means that your ego has been rubbed the wrong way. But you are not your ego. You are a spiritual human being and your natural state is happiness, not anger, resentment, envy.

7. Acknowledge your emotions

Another way to improve emotional intelligence lies in developing understanding that denying, ignoring or numbing our feelings will not make them go away. Acknowledging our emotions, both good and bad, allows us to get in touch with our own motivations and needs, and to communicate effectively with others.

8. Think about how you think

You may not always choose the situation or people you work with, but you CAN always choose the way you frame it in your mind.

9. Choose your words carefully

The words we use carry emotional baggage with them and evoke certain associations in your mind. One way of changing your thoughts and getting negative emotions under control is to choose positively-charged words like “solution”, “help”, “please”, “appreciate”, “understand”, “together”, “great”, “Thank you”. Words like this enhance people’s desire to listen and cooperate, versus fight, insist and get negativity back.

10. Step into their shoes

Being able to see a situation or a point of view from another person’s perspective is a skill that most of us develop at the age of 5. Too bad that when we are overcome by negative emotions we start acting like we are 4, by acknowledging only our thoughts, emotions and arguments. I know that it is hard, but next time you are in the middle of a heated argument, try to put yourself into the other person’s shoes really understand where they are coming from. You might discover that they have a valid point!

11. Think Law of Attraction

If you believe that “What goes around comes around” think of what may come back to you every time you send negative emotions and thoughts into the Universe. The Universe does not care if “this moron has really upset you” or “this stupid idiot has cut in front of you almost causing a car incident”. Other people’s deeds are their karma. Take care of yours!

12. Breathe anger out

Anger is a powerful emotion, but it has equally powerful ‘side-effects’. After it dies down we are left feeling exhausted, drained and often foolish. A great way to keep anger at bay is to put some distance between you and the object of your irritation. Take a few deep breaths, imagining your breath shooting the anger and tension away and cool air calming your mind and slowing your heart rate down. Do not tackle the problem that pushed you off your balance until you will feel completely calm and composed.

13. Listen

Mahatma Gandhi used to say, “Speak only if it improves upon the silence”. I would add, speak only if it objectively improves the conversation. Otherwise, listen!

14. Give yourself some love

If you do something well – celebrate. If you fail – learn the lesson and improve. There is no sense in dragging yourself down for every little mistake. Judging and criticizing yourself will not make you a better person. Self-awareness, understanding and compassion will.

15. Give positive feedback to others

Train your mind to see actions that are worth complimenting on, rather than focusing on cherry-picking little things that can be criticized or improved. When you learn to compliment with ease and refrain from judging, your EQ will sky-rocket and your relationships will flourish. Guaranteed!

16. Choose your arguments carefully

Arguments take time and energy, especially if you want to resolve them in a positive way. Before getting yourself into one, consider what is worth arguing about and what is best left alone.

17. Forgive

People with high EQ have less emotional ‘baggage’, while people with low EQ tend to have more unresolved personal issues which often act as triggers for conflicts and emotional strain. The best way of dealing with these issues is to forgive those who have wronged you in the past. Not so much for their sake, but for your own.

18. Know your hot buttons

Pay attention to the times when you let other people push your buttons. What are they? What are the specific conditions where you are likely to let your guard down? Try to avoid putting yourself in these situations where you aren’t able to choose a graceful response.

19. Look out for the sarcasm alert

Sarcasm is usually an indication that someone is being defensive. When you hear sarcasm or are the one using it, ask yourself why? What is the underlying emotion behind it? Why are you or the other person being defensive?

20. Pay attention to people’s non-verbal communication cues

Often the key to successful relationships at work and harmony in your family lies in your ability to understand non-verbal cues that are communicated through gestures, body language of the eyes and slightest micro-expressions.

21. Practice empathy

You have the power not only to improve your emotional intelligence, but to become a good influence on others, improving their creativity and intellectual performance. Robert Rosenthal, a Harvard expert on empathy, has demonstrated that when people administering IQ tests treated their subjects warmly, the test scores were higher.
Here is a simple test that will help you to determine you current EQ

http://psychology.about.com/library/quiz/bl_eq_...?

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How to get along with difficult people !

We all have difficult people in our lives. You know—the ones you dread talking to; the ones you try to avoid at all costs. They may be your ex-spouse, a co-worker, or a family member; they may be a bully, a control freak, passive-aggressive or someone who loves to play the role of victim.

So, how do we deal with these people? How can we work together productively, whether in a parenting, a working, or a family relationship?
Here are a few secrets to being able to keep your cool when dealing with that difficult person in your life:

1. Know Your Triggers
Self-knowledge is powerful.
We all have subjects and idiosyncrasies that push our buttons, and I can almost guarantee that the difficult person in your life knows what those are—but do you? Spend some time exploring what really ticks you off. Is it when somebody talks about politics, money, or your family?
Once you have your list of those trigger buttons, you are ready to arm yourself.
Create a plan. What will you do when the conversation steers dangerously close to one of your buttons?
You can practice deep breathing, take a short time-out, walk away from the conversation, or any combination of the three. Whatever allows you to center yourself and regain your focus on the purpose of the conversation will work.

2. The STOP Phrases
If you are having a conversation with a difficult person and you just want it to end, these phrases seem to do the trick (or at least take the wind out of the other person’s sails).
“Sorry you feel that way.”
“That’s your opinion.”
“Oh.”
“Perhaps you’re right.”
If you just repeat these phrases over and over during the conversation, eventually the other person will give up trying to get you to join the argument.

3. Resist the Temptation to get Sucked In
Difficult people want to engage you: don’t fall for that trap. Listen to what you’re saying: are you trying to justify, argue, defend, or explain your position? If you are, stop. If you don’t, the conversation will just continue to go around in circles. You will never change the mind of a difficult person—otherwise you probably wouldn’t be seeing them as “difficult.”

4. The Big One
While the 3 secrets above can help you to avoid or get out of an uncomfortable conversation with a difficult person, there is one secret that can truly change your relationship with that person in your life: that secret is, that they are human, and are dealing with their own issues and their own crap that they’re bringing to the table.
Their difficult behaviors are benefiting them in some way that helps them deal with those issues, and most of the time their behavior has nothing to do with you.
A person might feel more secure when they are bullying someone or controlling others, or they might feel a sense of importance when they’re getting a lot of attention—even negative attention. They might try to gain a sense of belonging by playing the victim and getting others to help them, or someone who’s inflicting hurt and provoking hostility might be trying to protect his own sense of identity.

If we take the time to figure out what unconscious beliefs may be behind someone’s difficult behavior, we may be able to change our interaction with them and improve our relationship. Once you figure out what may be driving their behavior, you can begin to try different ways to help them get their emotional needs met without resorting to that behavior any longer.
The main idea here is to tap into your empathy pool and realize that the person you see as the bane of your existence is just another human being trying to get along as best they can.

A Final Thought
Yes, sometimes we have to disengage in order to save our sanity, but keep in mind that everybody is doing the best they can with the emotional tools they have at their disposal. It is possible to get past our reactions to their difficult behaviors so that we may be able to do our part in building a calmer, more productive relationship, and in the end, this is all we can truly control—our own reactions.
You never know—one day, you may actually look forward to seeing these people.

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How about ignoring them cos with their foolishness they will drown you.

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@asoka wrote:

An email id:

The best gift a parent can give their child is an email id. Create an email id in your child’s name, keep sending mails on a regular basis praising them on their small accomplishments they have made, let it be the 1st time they went to school or the time when they won a prize in drawing. Capture these beautiful moments and mail it to them with images, write through your heart, write what ever you want to tell the adult them. On their 18th birthday, give them the email id and password. https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif

Imagine the happiness in their face while going through those mails! Priceless!
Just like u did @[email protected]_0_0_D for us.


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Here are 7 habits of highly stressed people (and how to avoid them)


1. Drinking excessive amounts of caffeinated beverages

We hear conflicting reports all the time about coffee – some people say we should avoid it like the plague, and other researchers seem to think it’s practically the elixir of life. Most people would never dream of giving up coffee, but drinking it excessively can negatively affect your health. Since caffeine is a stimulant, drinking too much of it can make you feel overly anxious and contribute to insomnia, irritability, and digestive issues. Try to limit your intake of caffeinated beverages to 400mg per day, as this amount seems safe for most adults, according to the Mayo Clinic.

2. Seeing the negative in everything

If you always see the glass half-empty, you probably have a high level of stress. Pessimistic people tend to dwell on problems, and this fixation on negativity can really ramp up your stress level.

When the world starts to look dark and depressing, remember to take a step back, breathe, and feel grateful for everything and everyone in your life. Putting things into perspective can really help you find the beauty in life, even in adverse situations.

3. Obsessing over every detail of their lives

Highly stressed people tend to have a Type A personality, wanting to control every aspect of their lives, and work hard to ensure that every little hair falls perfectly into place. However, this obsessive behavior can lead to unnecessary stress and anxiety, and make you unable to adapt to new situations. Remember that you can’t control everything, so don’t try.

Only focus on things that you can change, and let the rest of the issues work themselves out.

4. Expecting perfection

As an extension of the last point, counting on perfection usually leaves us sorely disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and trying to live within these parameters will surely leave you chronically stressed, unhappy, and bitter. Having unrealistic expectations of people and life in general doesn’t normally end well, because mistakes happen. The sooner you can accept this, the less stressed and anxious you will feel.

Related article: 5 Reasons to Stop Chasing Perfection

Instead of attempting to control everything and set impossible standards for yourself and others, simply do the best you can, accept everyone else’s best effort, and choose to see the beauty in the imperfections.

5. Eating their feelings

Stress eating has practically become an epidemic, as people use food to deal with negative emotions. However, there’s a scientific reason behind why people choose to eat unhealthy foods to cope with stress. According to Harvard Health Publications at Harvard Medical School, our bodies release cortisol when we feel stressed, which can ramp up our appetite and lead us to make unhealthy choices. Not surprisingly, most people choose foods heavy in fats and sugars, which inevitably lead to weight gain if eaten in excess.

If you feel overly stressed, try to get to the root cause of the stress first, instead of reaching for unhealthy foods out of habit. The foods may seem comforting, but they only mask the real problem.

6. Overworking themselves

Work stress is also another growing problem, with 8 in 10 Americans stressed about their jobs, according to the third annual Work Stress Survey by Harris Interactive. Poor pay and increasing work hours topped the list of concerns for those surveyed, which should make us really think about our chosen place of employment.

If you work at a job you don’t enjoy, plus you have to work long hours, you might think about getting a different job that suits your interests more and offers better work-life balance. On the other hand, if you actually like your job, but still work long hours, you should talk to your boss about cutting back your hours, or have a conversation with yourself if you can’t seem to pull yourself away from work at a reasonable hour.

7. Thinking too much

Above all else, this one might take the cake for reasons why people feel stressed. Our world runs on thinking; in our jobs, our home lives, at school, and pretty much everything else. We have to think in order to get virtually everything accomplished, but overthinking can lead to alot of issues later on. Our thoughts become things, they become reality, so we must take care of them if we want to lead a happy, fulfilling life.

Related article: How to Stop Overthinking

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@[email protected]_0_0_D wrote:

Here are 7 habits of highly stressed people (and how to avoid them)


1. Drinking excessive amounts of caffeinated beverages

We hear conflicting reports all the time about coffee – some people say we should avoid it like the plague, and other researchers seem to think it’s practically the elixir of life. Most people would never dream of giving up coffee, but drinking it excessively can negatively affect your health. Since caffeine is a stimulant, drinking too much of it can make you feel overly anxious and contribute to insomnia, irritability, and digestive issues. Try to limit your intake of caffeinated beverages to 400mg per day, as this amount seems safe for most adults, according to the Mayo Clinic.

2. Seeing the negative in everything

If you always see the glass half-empty, you probably have a high level of stress. Pessimistic people tend to dwell on problems, and this fixation on negativity can really ramp up your stress level.

When the world starts to look dark and depressing, remember to take a step back, breathe, and feel grateful for everything and everyone in your life. Putting things into perspective can really help you find the beauty in life, even in adverse situations.

3. Obsessing over every detail of their lives

Highly stressed people tend to have a Type A personality, wanting to control every aspect of their lives, and work hard to ensure that every little hair falls perfectly into place. However, this obsessive behavior can lead to unnecessary stress and anxiety, and make you unable to adapt to new situations. Remember that you can’t control everything, so don’t try.

Only focus on things that you can change, and let the rest of the issues work themselves out.

4. Expecting perfection

As an extension of the last point, counting on perfection usually leaves us sorely disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and trying to live within these parameters will surely leave you chronically stressed, unhappy, and bitter. Having unrealistic expectations of people and life in general doesn’t normally end well, because mistakes happen. The sooner you can accept this, the less stressed and anxious you will feel.

Related article: 5 Reasons to Stop Chasing Perfection

Instead of attempting to control everything and set impossible standards for yourself and others, simply do the best you can, accept everyone else’s best effort, and choose to see the beauty in the imperfections.

5. Eating their feelings

Stress eating has practically become an epidemic, as people use food to deal with negative emotions. However, there’s a scientific reason behind why people choose to eat unhealthy foods to cope with stress. According to Harvard Health Publications at Harvard Medical School, our bodies release cortisol when we feel stressed, which can ramp up our appetite and lead us to make unhealthy choices. Not surprisingly, most people choose foods heavy in fats and sugars, which inevitably lead to weight gain if eaten in excess.

If you feel overly stressed, try to get to the root cause of the stress first, instead of reaching for unhealthy foods out of habit. The foods may seem comforting, but they only mask the real problem.

6. Overworking themselves

Work stress is also another growing problem, with 8 in 10 Americans stressed about their jobs, according to the third annual Work Stress Survey by Harris Interactive. Poor pay and increasing work hours topped the list of concerns for those surveyed, which should make us really think about our chosen place of employment.

If you work at a job you don’t enjoy, plus you have to work long hours, you might think about getting a different job that suits your interests more and offers better work-life balance. On the other hand, if you actually like your job, but still work long hours, you should talk to your boss about cutting back your hours, or have a conversation with yourself if you can’t seem to pull yourself away from work at a reasonable hour.

7. Thinking too much

Above all else, this one might take the cake for reasons why people feel stressed. Our world runs on thinking; in our jobs, our home lives, at school, and pretty much everything else. We have to think in order to get virtually everything accomplished, but overthinking can lead to alot of issues later on. Our thoughts become things, they become reality, so we must take care of them if we want to lead a happy, fulfilling life.

Related article: How to Stop Overthinking

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@[email protected]_0_0_D wrote:

@asoka wrote:

An email id:

The best gift a parent can give their child is an email id. Create an email id in your child’s name, keep sending mails on a regular basis praising them on their small accomplishments they have made, let it be the 1st time they went to school or the time when they won a prize in drawing. Capture these beautiful moments and mail it to them with images, write through your heart, write what ever you want to tell the adult them. On their 18th birthday, give them the email id and password. https://cdn1.desidime.com/assets/textile-editor/icon_smile.gif

Imagine the happiness in their face while going through those mails! Priceless!
Just like u did @[email protected]_0_0_D for us.


My pleasure darling !


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A 19-year-old second year student at Chennai’s Satyabhama University hanged himself at his Hyderabad home on Friday, allegedly as a consequence of the constant ragging he faced at the hands of college seniors. He left an eight-page note claiming he was forced to run errands for them apart from getting beaten up and hospitalised six months ago.
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A 19-year-old second year student at Chennai’s Satyabhama University hanged himself at his Hyderabad home on Friday, allegedly as a consequence of the constant ragging he faced at the hands of college seniors. He left an eight-page note claiming he was forced to run errands for them apart from getting beaten up and hospitalised six months ago.
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Things Highly Confident People Don’t Do

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Two decades ago, when the bullies at our high school called her a nerd for being a virgin and a straight-A student, my best friend Sara smiled and confidently said, “Thank you. I’m really proud of it.” She honestly was. What those bullies said never bothered her one bit. And this is just one tiny example of Sara’s incredible self-confidence.

I was reminded of Sara this morning when I received an email from a blog subscriber named Lane who is struggling with a similar bullying issue at a small community college where he’s taking classes. After describing his predicament in detail, he ended his email with this:

“I love your book and blog. Both have helped me get through a very low point in my life. But even though I’ve made progress, I often struggle with my self-confidence. These bullies really get the best of me. And I know my shattered confidence is motivating me to do what confident people don’t do. So what I need now more than ever is to learn how to follow in a confident person’s footsteps, in all walks of life.”

Therefore, in an effort to help Lane walk in Sara’s footsteps, here are some things highly confident people don’t do:

1. They don’t allow themselves to get caught up in drama. – Some people love to stir up controversy and drama for no apparent reason. Don’t buy in to their propaganda. Stay out of other people’s drama and don’t needlessly create your own. Instead, imagine what would happen if you spent this entire day, and every day hereafter, with all your energy directed toward your most positive possibilities. Rather than being annoyed, be amused. Instead of getting angry, become curious. In place of envy, feel admiration. Life is too short to argue and fight and be negative in any way. Count your blessings, value the people who matter and move on from the drama with your head held high. ( from the “Happiness” chapter of our book)

2. They don’t find joy in people-pleasing. – Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing everyone they meet. They are aware that not all people agree on things, and that’s just how life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the quantity of them. So never let the opinions of the masses define who you are or what you can or cannot do. When you let go of the need to impress everyone, that’s when you begin to be truly impressive to the few people who actually matter. When you earn the trust and respect of these select few people, no matter where you go or what you try, you will do it with confidence – because you know the people who matter are behind you.

3. They don’t insult and antagonize other people. – Generally speaking, the people who love to gossip, who speak negatively of others, do so because they hope, by comparison, to make themselves look better. Of course, that’s not how it works. Because when you have no respect or consideration for others, it’s impossible to have any true confidence in yourself. The only comparison a truly confident person makes is to the person she was yesterday – and to the person she hopes to someday become.

4. They don’t make excuses. – Have a plan that’s bigger than your excuses. There is so very much to touch, to do, to create, and to experience. Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work – they know THEY were late. They don’t excuse their short-comings with excuses like “I don’t have time” or “I’m just not good enough” – they make the time and they keep on improving until they see results. Even a tiny effort is infinitely more productive than a big, impressive excuse. So stop seeing every obstacle as an excuse and start seeing those obstacles as forming a pathway to your goal. ( from the “Adversity” chapter of our book)

5. They don’t always pretend or need to be right. – Highly confident people take a stand not because they think they’re always right, but because they’re not scared to be wrong. Cocky, conceited people tend to take a position and then preach, argue, and totally disregard differing opinions or points of view. They “know” they’re right (even when they’re wrong) and they want (actually, they need) you to know it, too. Their behavior isn’t a sign of confidence, though; it’s the trademark of a bully. Truly confident people don’t mind being proven wrong. They feel finding out what is right is a lot more important than being right. And when they’re wrong, they’re secure enough to back down graciously and appreciate the lesson learned.

6. They don’t let success get to their head or failure get to their heart. – If success makes you arrogant, you haven’t really succeeded. If failure makes you determined, you haven’t really failed. Period. Think about success and failure differently. Don’t take everything that goes wrong personally, and don’t get a big head when everything goes right either. Be a humble, life-long learner. Create, enjoy, learn, love, experience, succeed, fail, persevere, make mistakes, make progress, take risks, and find the treasure in each day. ( from the “Goals and Success” chapter of our book)

And of course, if you’re struggling with any of these points, know that you are not alone. We are all in this together. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and keep our lives on track. This is precisely why Marc and I wrote our book, “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.” The book is filled with short, concise tips on how to do just that.

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Love, Sympathy, Kindness. Responsibility…

A little girl came home happily “mom, I want to have a bicycle, would you mind buying me one?” asked her mother.

Mother broke deep inside, got sad but “sure dear;” said tenderly. "I will buy one for you and you can play with your friends.

Late at night when everyone fell asleep, mother was crying near her ill husband’s bed, “why we are this poor that can’t buy even one thing of all our daughter want!”

Poor father was sad hardly ever and he cried as well.

Next day the little girl was silent but happy eating her breakfast.

Mother came closer to her, fondled her hair, smiled “well… I thought all night and decided to do something.” she said.

“what?” little girl asked.

“let’s promise both of us,” she said, “you promise to get 10 top mark at school and I promise to buy you a bicycle then. Ok?”

Little girl got happy and accepted.

Every night her mother checked her papers. She was doing well

A few days later her mother noticed that still she has just eight top marks.

She felt sad that her little daughter loses her motivation and she won’t believe in what she says again.

Tomorrow she went to buy something for home.

when she was buying some apples, she saw the fruitier using some papers to pack the fruits.

She picked one of them to read, surprisingly it was her daughter’s handwriting.

“sorry, where did you find this paper? "She asked the man.

“oh, madam,” he said, "I have a little friend, she said her mother asked her to get 10 top mark at school so that she will buy a bicycle for her, but for they’re poor, she gave her top papers to me to not force her family doing something they can’t.

Love, sympathy, kindness, responsibility is not related to our age, culture and education!

They should be somewhere deep in our hearts.


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Love, Sympathy, Kindness. Responsibility…



A little girl came home happily “mom, I want to have a bicycle, would you mind buying me one?” asked her mother.



Mother broke deep inside, got sad but “sure dear;” said tenderly. "I will buy one for you and you can play with your friends.



Late at night when everyone fell asleep, mother was crying near her ill husband’s bed, “why we are this poor that can’t buy even one thing of all our daughter want!”



Poor father was sad hardly ever and he cried as well.



Next day the little girl was silent but happy eating her breakfast.



Mother came closer to her, fondled her hair, smiled “well… I thought all night and decided to do something.” she said.



“what?” little girl asked.



“let’s promise both of us,” she said, “you promise to get 10 top mark at school and I promise to buy you a bicycle then. Ok?”



Little girl got happy and accepted.



Every night her mother checked her papers. She was doing well



A few days later her mother noticed that still she has just eight top marks.



She felt sad that her little daughter loses her motivation and she won’t believe in what she says again.



Tomorrow she went to buy something for home.



when she was buying some apples, she saw the fruitier using some papers to pack the fruits.



She picked one of them to read, surprisingly it was her daughter’s handwriting.



“sorry, where did you find this paper? "She asked the man.



“oh, madam,” he said, "I have a little friend, she said her mother asked her to get 10 top mark at school so that she will buy a bicycle for her, but for they’re poor, she gave her top papers to me to not force her family doing something they can’t.



Love, sympathy, kindness, responsibility is not related to our age, culture and education!



They should be somewhere deep in our hearts.

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People are addicted these days ! One Café shop sign says : We do not have WIFI. Converse with your loved ones. The major cause of divorce in 2018 will be the smartphone. Your friends and family members are so close and yet so far. The smartphone today is not dissimilar to opium in the last century. It kills off our communication skills, and poisons our hearts and souls. You don’t have to wonder any more why so many young people don’t read, can’t spell or write decently and are often inarticulate.

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People are addicted these days ! One Café shop sign says : We do not have WIFI. Converse with your loved ones. The major cause of divorce in 2018 will be the smartphone. Your friends and family members are so close and yet so far. The smartphone today is not dissimilar to opium in the last century. It kills off our communication skills, and poisons our hearts and souls. You don’t have to wonder any more why so many young people don’t read, can’t spell or write decently and are often inarticulate.

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Yes very well written, how smartphone affecting our life we have examples in these days :-

To wish a birthday we are using whatsapp/ facebook,
To wish a festival we are using whatsapp/ facebook.
Planning/ Organizing event that too on whatsapp/ facebook.

In short Yes True :- Family members are so close and yet so far.

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[ ::: ♥ Wise Thoughts: Blaming Something or Someone ♥ ::: ]

When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don’t want it to be done and when we are not able to accept it, we become angry.

However, When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don’t want it to be done – and we are able to accept it- we remain tolerant.

When someone has something which we don’t have,
or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce- and we are not able to accept it – we become jealous.

When someone has something which we don’t have, or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce and we are able to accept it we get inspired.

Then emotional equation is quite simple.
Something + Acceptance = Positive Emotion
Something + Non Acceptance = Negative Emotion

So, it is not ‘something’ or ‘someone’ who is making us feel positive or negative, but it is our ‘acceptance’ or ‘non acceptance’ of something or someone, which is making us feel positive or negative.

It isn’t the world but the quality of our response to the world that determines the quality of our emotions. Next time we feel disturbed with a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing us, we will examine who or what we are resisting (not accepting) that is causing this disturbance in us. We will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.

Emotional management begins by stopping to blame that ‘something’ or ‘someone’ and starting to take the responsibility to respond life with ‘acceptance’.

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Why do you post ‘good times’ pictures on Facebook? Because you are jealous

According to a study, envy is a key motivator behind such posts and that contributes to a decrease in mental well-being.
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Published on:November 27, 2015 9:54 pm
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What drives you to keep posting your “good times” pictures on Facebook? Envy is a key motivator behind such posts and that contributes to a decrease in mental well-being among users, says a new study.
“Creating a vicious cycle of jealousy and self-importance, Facebook leads users to feel their lives are unfulfilling by comparison, and react by creating posts that portray their best selves,” said lead researcher professor Izak Benbasat from University of British Columbia, Canada.

Social media participation has been linked to depression, anxiety and narcissistic behaviour, but the reasons have not been well explained.
“We found envy to be the missing link,” Benbasat said.
According to Benbasat, travel photos are a leading contributor to Facebook envy, pushing friends to post their most perfect pictures.
He says the unrealistic portrayal of life is not motivated by the desire to make others jealous, but rather a need to compete and keep up appearances.
For the study, Benbasat and his co-authors surveyed 1,193 Facebook users at a German university.
Benbasat said the functionality of social networks encourages envy-inducing behaviour, and that’s unlikely to change.
“Sharing pictures and stories about the highlights of your life – that’s so much of what Facebook is for, so you can’t take that away,” he said.
“But I think it’s important for people to know what impact it can have on their well-being,” he warned.
The study was published in the journal Information Systems Research.

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