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ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind
replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥
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what happend ?
is it love and hate ?
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Love at work, Cupid is turning out to be a bug for HR departments
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@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@
Love at work, Cupid is turning out to be a bug for HR departments
http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/news/news-b…
yes opp sex cnt do mutual wrk….they do mutual study
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@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@
Love at work, Cupid is turning out to be a bug for HR departments
http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/news/news-b...
Conclusion – Dont work in companies like IBM and PWC 
https://www.desidime.com/discussions/are-you-with-the-right-partner?page=2#post_1025493
rajdesidime wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@
Love at work, Cupid is turning out to be a bug for HR departments
http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/news/news-b…
yes opp sex cnt do mutual wrk….they do mutual study
does this applied to dd too ?
does not seems enjoyed/shared by the better half s ?
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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and
requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a
suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh,
good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home
during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I
need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest."
The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need
television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a
blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the
faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of
the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and
dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the
excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage
is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
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NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, “Many people praised you for a
successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?”
The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for
her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind
that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a
better husband than you.”
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are
afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he
would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is
the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one
finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
hmm kahi yeh apna expn toh nhi bol rhe BAROOD bhai…
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RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.
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rajdesidime wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@
NO POINTING FINGERS
Always bear in mind
that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could NOT find a
better husband than you."
hmm kahi yeh apna expn toh nhi bol rhe BAROOD bhai…
sure, balancing is required in status, culture and brain too.
https://www.desidime.com/discussions/are-you-with-the-right-partner?page=2#post_1025709
yess well said…baki option bhi toh nhi haii
https://www.desidime.com/discussions/are-you-with-the-right-partner?page=2#post_1025712
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech
will either prosper or ruin a nation.” Many relationships break off
because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we
always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without
considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.
A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,“Hi, Emily! Remember
me? We used to date in the secondary school.” On the way home, her
millionaire husband teased her, “Luckily you married me. Otherwise you
will be the wife of a construction worker.” She answered ,“You should
appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire
and not you.”
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad
relationship. It’s like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.
https://www.desidime.com/discussions/are-you-with-the-right-partner?page=2#post_1025713
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be
another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the
way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on
the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the
donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and
commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride
on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife
quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can
the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you
hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing
that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell
into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will
everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never
will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.
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rajdesidime wrote:
yess well said…baki option bhi toh nhi haii
other options have
Medically >> side effects,
Economically >> costly,
Legally >> time consuming,
Financially >> disastrous,
Professionally >> Risky,
Emotionally >> dis-connect,
Practically >> stressful,
Sensibly >> doubtful,
so, benefits are outweighing !
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FINGER EXERCISE TO AVOID DEPRESSION
Highly Recommended Exercise
CURES ALL TYPES OF DEPRESSIONS
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@deadman wrote:
I had 2 GF’s…..Ego came between us….married to some other girl… She’s way better than them. (from inside out)
Now 6th wedding anniversary is near….I’m still “learning to love the Person I found.”
Hello dear
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Good one 
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Kis kis ko pyar kru
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R.I.P. to those who read this small post
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@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@deadman wrote:
I had 2 GF’s…..Ego came between us….married to some other girl… She’s way better than them. (from inside out)
Now 6th wedding anniversary is near….I’m still “learning to love the Person I found.”
Hello dear
see his username! Lol.
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@rajdesidime wrote:
yess well said…baki option bhi toh nhi haii
Calling @daaku
@BlueWater
@Smarty
@prinkle
@asoka
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yes sir
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@rajdesidime wrote:
yess well said…baki option bhi toh nhi haii
Calling @daaku
@BlueWater
@Smarty
@prinkle
@asoka
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Aaj Meri Aankhei Khulgai
Ab Mai Ja Raha Hu Usse Shadi Ke Liye Final Karne
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@khantasticsrk838 wrote:
Aaj Meri Aankhei Khulgai
Ab Mai Ja Raha Hu Usse Shadi Ke Liye Final Karne
Mia biwi raji to kya karega qazi ?
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@B@R_0_0_D wrote:HaHaHaHaHaHaHaHa Well Said@khantasticsrk838 wrote:
Aaj Meri Aankhei Khulgai
Ab Mai Ja Raha Hu Usse Shadi Ke Liye Final Karne
Mia biwi raji to karega qazi ?
Exactly
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I really needed this, thank you OP
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