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Michael Jordan was born in 1963, in the slums of Brooklyn, New York.
He had four siblings and his fatherâs earnings were not sufficient to provide for the whole family.
He grew up in a poor neighbourhood. Exposed to mindless violence and heavy discrimination in the slums, he saw for himself only a hopeless future.
His father saw in Michael, a lost soul and decided to do something.
He gave Michael, who was 13 years old, a piece of used clothing and asked: âWhat do you think the value of this outfit would be?â
Jordan replied,âMaybe one dollar.â
His father asked, âCan you sell it for two dollars? If you can sell it, it would mean that you are a big help to your family.â
Jordan nodded his head, âIâll try, but no guarantee that Iâll be successful.â
Jordan carefully washed the cloth clean. Because they didnât have an iron, to smoothen the cloth, he levelled it with a clothes brush on a flat board, then kept it in the sun to dry. The next day, he brought the clothes to a crowded underground station. After offering it for more than six hours. Jordan finally managed to sell it for $2. He took the two dollar bill and ran home.
After that, everyday he looked for used clothing, washed and ironed it, and sold it in the crowd.
More than ten days later, his father again gave him a piece of used clothing, âCan you think of a way you can sell this for 20 bucks?â
Aghast, Jordan said, âHow is it possible? This outfit can only fetch two dollars at the most.â
His father replied, âWhy donât you try it first? There might be a way.â
After breaking his head for a few hours, finally, Jordan got an idea.
He asked for cousinâs helpto paint a picture of Donald Duck and Mickey Mouse on the garment. Then he tried to sell it in the school where the children of the rich study.
Soon a housekeeper, who was there to pick his master, bought that outfit for his master. The master was a little boy of only 10 years. He loved it so much and he gave a five dollar tip. 25 dollars was a huge amount for Jordan, the equivalent of a monthâs salary of his father.
When he got home, his father gave him yet another piece of used clothing, âAre you able to resell it at a price of 200 dollars?â Jordanâs eyes lit up.
This time, Jordan accepted the clothes without the slightest doubt. Two months later a popular movie actress from the movie âCharlieâs Angelsâ, Farah Fawcett came to New York for her Movie promos. After the press conference, Jordan made his way through the security forces to reach the side of Farah Fawcett and requested her autograph on the piece of clothing. When Fawcett saw this innocent child asking for her autograph, she gladly signed it.
Jordan was shouting very excitedly, âThis is a jersey signed by Miss Farah Fawcett, the selling price is 200 dollars!â He auctioned off the clothes, to a businessman for a price of 1,200 dollars!
Upon returning home, his father by broke into TEARS and said, "I am amazed that you did it My child! Youâre really great! "
That night, Jordan slept alongside his father. His father said, âSon, in your experience selling these three pieces of clothing, what did you learn about success?â
Jordan replied, âWhere thereâs a will, thereâs a way.â
His father nodded his head, then shook his head, âWhat you say is not entirely wrong! But that was not my intention. I just wanted to show you that a piece of used clothing which is worth only a dollar can also be increased in value, Then how about us â living & thinking humans? We may be darker and poorer, but what if we CAN increase our VALUE.â
This thought enlightened young Jordan. Even a piece of used clothing could be made dignified, then why not me? There is absolutely no reason to underestimate myself.
From then on, Michael Jordan felt that his future would be beautiful and full of hope.
He went on to become the greatest basketball player of all times.
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Twelve Ways to Stay Cool under Pressure
No one can claim that they are never under pressure. Some situations or people cause pressure to others.
The pressure is often aggravated by your personal frustrations. If you wanted to complete a task but due to whatever reasons you donât do it, it causes frustration. Often times you may try to ignore it. But it cannot be erased. Such frustrations which cause pressure can be avoided by following:
Donât expect to do more than a human being is capable of within 24 hours.
If you are made to do something which you donât like, it will cause pressure. You will not be able to do it well. It is not abnormal.
It will cause frustrations which can be avoided if you put your mind and soul in what you are doing.
By following above, enjoy the collateral benefit of starting to be happy with your work.
Watch your body language. Keep a smile on your face. You may find it difficult in the beginning. But as you consistently try, you will find it very rewarding.
Take a pen and paper and write down the cause of your pressure. You will find that the cause is ill conceived. That realization will by itself bring down the pressure.
Listen to some calm and soothing music of your liking. Music can do wonders.
Practice â âAct, but never Reactâ. When you act, you use your mind. But if you react you lose your mind. Evidently using mind is far better than losing it.
We need to realize that within control anger is harmless. In fact anger enables us to fight for our rights. But when anger goes out of control, it cuases blood pressure and various other health hazards. So, always keep anger within your control.
Practice deep breathing. It gives more oxygen to our system. This, in turn, helps us to keep our mind cool. Deep breathing also makes it easy for us to express our selves articulately. You may ask how it will help. More breath in your lungs will enable you to speak longer sentences in one breath. Thus, improper pauses can be avoided.
Increasing your self- awareness will also help. You become aware that you are doing your best. This awareness gives you a satisfaction which blows out your pressure.
Develop a positive attitude. Concentrate on the positive aspects of life. Consider that life is a great boon and it is your duty to get the best out of every minute of your life. After all, time is the only resource which has been equally distributed by God, the almighty.
No doubt, it is difficult to control your temper and remain cool in difficult situations. But we all agree that if the can remain cool the results that we desire, will be achieved. Our efforts to follow the aforesaid points, therefore, are well deserved.
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Intel Disrupted: Why large companies find it difficult to innovate, and what they can do about it
In the 21st century itâs harder for large corporations to create disruptive breakthroughs. Disruptive innovations are coming from startups â Tesla for automobiles, Uber for taxis, Airbnb for hotel rentals, Netflix for video rentals and Facebook for media.
Whatâs holding large companies back? Here are four reasons:
First, companies bought into the false premise that they exist to maximize shareholder value â which said âkeep the stock price high.â As a consequence, corporations used metrics like return on net assets (RONA), return on capital deployed, and internal rate of return (IRR) to measure efficiency. These metrics make it difficult for a company that wants to invest in long-term innovation. Itâs a lot easier to get these numbers to look great by outsourcing everything, getting assets off the balance sheet and only investing in things that pay off fast. To do that, companies jettisoned internal R&D labs, outsourced manufacturing and cut long-term investment. These resulting business models made them look incredibly profitable.
Second, the leaders of these companies tended to be those who excelled at finance, supply chain or production. They knew how to execute the current business model.
Intel under their last two CEOs delivered more revenue and profit than any ever before. They could point to record investment in R&D for more expensive chip fabs yet today the writing is on the wall that Intelâs leading days are over. Why?
Over the last decade, Intel missed two important disruptive trends. First, the shift away from desktop computers to mobile devices meant that Intelâs power-hungry x86 processors werenât suitable. ARM, a competitor, not only had a better, much lower power processor, but a better business model â they licensed their architecture to other companies that designed their own products. Intel attempted to compete, (and actually owned an ARM license) but fell victim to a classic failure of ignoring a low-end disruptor and hobbling their own chances by deciding not cannibalize their own very profitable x86 business. All of Intelâs resources â fabs, manufacturing strategies, and most importantly executive mindset â were geared towards large, expensive x86 processors, not low-cost mobile cores of someone elseâs design.
The result, Intel just laid off 12,000 people, 11% of their company.
But itâs not over for Intel. Their most profitable segment is very high-end processors used in data centers in servers and the cloud. Today thatâs built on the premise that an x86 architecture is the one best suited for big data. Itâs becoming clear that extracting intelligence from that big data requires machine learning architectures which are better implemented with non x86 chips from companies like NVidia. Itâs possible that by the end of this decade history might repeat itself in Intelâs most profitable segment.
The third reason why companies find it hard to innovate is the explosive shifts in technology, platforms and markets that have occurred in the last 15 yearsâpersonal computers moving to mobile devices; life science breakthroughs in therapeutics, diagnostics, devices and digital health; and new markets like China emerging as consumers and suppliers.
Which brings us to the fourth reason itâs harder for large corporations to offer disruptive breakthroughs: startups.
For the first 75 years of the 20th century, when capital for new ventures was scarce, the smartest engineering talent went to corporate R&D labs.
But starting in the last quarter of that century and accelerating in this one, a new form of financing â risk capital (angel and venture capital) â emerged. Risk capital has provided financing for new ideas in the form of startups. Capital is returned to these investors through liquidity events (originally public offerings, but today mostly acquisitions).
Startups have realized that large companies are vulnerable because of the very things that have made them large and profitable: by focusing on maximizing shareholder return, theyâve jettisoned their ability to do disruptive innovation at speed and scale. In contrast, startups operate with speed and urgency, making decisions with incomplete information. Theyâre better than large companies at identifying customer needs/problems and finding product/market fit by pivoting rapidly. Their size lets them adopt flatter and more agile organizational structures while providing incentives that reward risk-taking and collaboration.
Startups are unencumbered by the status quo. They re-envision how an industry can operate and grow, and they focus on better value propositions. On the low-end, they undercut cost structures, resulting in customer migration. At the high-end they create products and services that never existed before.
As weâve seen, corporations are very good at maintaining, defending and refining existing business models, and theyâre pretty good at extending existing models by identifying adjacencies. But corporations are weak, and have become weaker, in identifying new disruption opportunities.
Innovation can come from inside the corporation, by adopting Lean Startup language and methods, developing intrapreneurship, and fostering innovation-driving behaviors such as GEâs FastWorks program. And corporations can foster innovation from the outside by promoting open innovation and buying startup-driven innovation. Google has bought close to 160 companies in the last decade. Its acquisition of Android may have been the biggest bargain in corporate history.
So to succeed, corporations must re-think and then re-invent their corporate innovation model, replacing a static execution model with three horizons of continuous innovation: This requires a corporate culture, organizational structure, and employee incentives that reward innovation. It requires establishing acceptable risk level and innovation KPIs for each horizon.
And it also requires understanding the differences between executing the existing business model, extending the business model and searching for and disrupting the business model.
Lessons Learned
âEven the most innovative companies eventually become yesterdayâs news
âTo survive companies need to run three-horizons of innovation
Horizon 1 â execute their existing business model(s)
Horizon 2 â extend their existing business model(s)
And for long-term survival â Horizon 3 â search for and create new/disruptive business model(s)
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Feelings are the Language of the Soul
Vikramaditya Duggal
Leadership Training-Coaching | Developing Behavioural Competencies | Organisational Development |
Feelings are another integral part of human existence. In their own way, they control the nature of energy that flows in the body. Our feelings affect the bio-chemistry of our body and that in turn influences our actions. To understand what I am saying, just observe the actions of the person who is looking happy and ask for a reason. Similarly, do so for the person who is looking angry.
I am curious to know an answer to two questions:
What is the nature of feelings that you normally experience?
What is the nature of feelings that people around you normally experience?
The answer to these two questions will give you a lot of insight into what is required to be done at the individual or organisational level?
Left uncontrolled, they can create havoc in our life. When mastered, they have the power to propel us to heights of success. The explanation for success outcome is simple â our actions are in the direction of achievement of goals and right feelings give a quality to actions.
The good news is that feelings can be mastered by regular practice. And one must work towards that because they start having an impact on the body over a period of time.
Some of various factors that contribute to mastering feelings and/or emotions are:
Self-Awareness â in totality
Discipline
Productive habits
Exercise
Meditation
Coaching and Mentoring
How to Stay Focused When You Feel Like Giving Up
Gerard Adams
Entrepreneur, angel investor, self-made millionaire at 24
Gerard Adams is The Millennial Mentorâ˘, inspiring the generation to leverage their passions for success and create the lifestyle they dream of. A serial entrepreneur, angel investor, self-made millionaire by the age of 24 and millennial himself, he is most popularly known as the co-founder of Elite Daily. To date, he has built, backed or invested in nine businesses across multiple industries that have all delivered over seven-figure profits. Gerard has recently developed a video series, Leaders Create Leaders, to offer a behind-the-scenes look at what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur
What is the one true obstacle we all must face down as entrepreneurs? Overcoming fear. Keeping the faith. Not throwing in the towel when it gets hard. Entrepreneur or not, life tests us.
We receive challenges every day in the form of things not going quite as we had planned â and thatâs the lesson, you can plan, but you canât really plan.
Sometimes, no plan is the best plan, and running with a crazy idea can take you further than youâd imagined.
Take, for example, Satya Twena, who had the enormous pleasure of interviewing for my video series LeadersCreateLeaders. She came to New York with no money, no job, no apartment, no idea what she was going to do. For most people, this is the ultimate nightmare. But, for those of us who like a challenge, and I do hope you like a challenge if youâre on the path of entrepreneurship, because there will be many â itâs an adventure. She is now a super successful young entrepreneur, running the only hat factory in New York City, and keeping an art alive. Sheâs been covered by the Wall Street Journal, and her designs have graced everyone from Oprah to Usher. She had no idea this is what sheâd end up doing. She just did it.
It starts with your thoughts.
The key is not letting your thoughts get in the way of where you want to go. The key is staying so motivated that nothing can sway you â including the prospect of failure.
Weâll all face down failure at one point or another. We might also face down exhaustion, confusion, curve balls, and many moments where stopping seems tempting. However, if there is one muscle that is absolutely imperative to strengthen, no matter who you are or what youâre doing, itâs your faith in yourself.
The thing is, if you donât believe in yourself, thereâs no point in starting. You can receive all of the praise in the world from other people, but youâre not living for other people, so thatâs false confidence. Your confidence has to come from your trust in yourself, your ability to follow your gut feelings, and to take leaps as necessary.
For those of us interested in leading legendary lives, and leaving the ordinary behind, the goal is a high one: to stay committed to our vision when it seems all odds are stacked against us.
Satya is a great example of this. Her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer, and it was a harrowing experience for her, because these are the times when we realize how precious life is. Itâs not to be wasted on worrying about possible future outcomes that havenât happened, and may not ever. Thatâs the thing of it â we sometimes spend more time worrying than we do taking action. That leads absolutely nowhere â and in the wrong direction â as you are simply treading water.
If you truly want the life of your dreams, you have to be willing to keep swimming. Keeping your head above water is easy when you are determined, but in the moments where youâre not sure if you can do it, here are a few ways to bring yourself back to whatâs important:
Recognize how far youâve come.
I live in New York City. That in itself is a lifelong dream for many people. I owe it to anyone who has ever dreamed of living here to make the most of it. And I owe it to myself to leave an impact during my time here, and on the planet. What are you doing if youâre not living, and living fully? Iâll let you answer that. Reflecting back, recognize what youâve accomplished. Use that as inspiration to keep going. Youâve overcome hardship before, youâll do it again.
Get grateful.
Complaining is a pretty common thing. âItâs hard.â âI donât want to.â âIâm tired.â While I support listening to your needs and taking great care of yourself, sometimes you just have to jump the hurdle one leg at a time and be grateful that you have legs at all. We make a lot of excuses. Ninety percent of the time theyâre cop-outs for fear. That little voice in your head that tells you to give up? Thatâs your ego. You can easily put it in time-out by shifting your perspective. List some things youâre grateful for. Write them down. Say them out loud. Tell someone youâre grateful for them. Appreciate everything that you have, and youâll realign with your readiness to receive a whole lot more. Keep complaining, and youâll keep yourself stuck.
Change your scenery.
We can all be victims to the relentless grind, and taking breaks is mandatory. One of the biggest return-on-investment activities there is? Rest and recovery. Athletes know this. You canât keep pushing, your muscles need time to rebuild themselves. Itâs the same with your mind and your energy. Take a break. Go somewhere else. Get into nature. Visit people you love. If you feel like giving up, sometimes itâs just because youâre wearing yourself down. Instead, drop what youâre doing, do something that makes you feel good, and come back to what you were doing before a day or two later, and I can promise you youâll have a whole new perspective. You might even have a solution.
Keep your mind right.
Thoughts become things. What you think is exactly what youâll experience. What I mean by that is, if you expect bad things to happen to you, then they will, because thatâs already the perception youâve set yourself up to have of the world. Itâs the real deal that if you keep an optimistic mindset, it can increase your health, satisfaction, and magnetize more opportunities to you. It takes a little bit of effort to tell your ego to cut it out when youâre marinating in self-pity or fear, but itâs worth it, because if you canât think inspiring thoughts, youâre not going to have an inspiring life. And who wants that? Take your inner dialogue seriously. Look at it. Change it.
Itâs important to do what you say youâre going to do. Even if everything seems to be pointing toward failure or loss, if you consistently take small steps every day toward what you really want, you never actually know how things are going to turn out â but this ensures that you are always setting yourself up for some kind of win, big or small. Whether itâs finally sending that email to collaborate, or finally sitting down with that investor (even IF you donât think it will work out), or finally publishing that piece of writing â itâs all good material for your growth, experience, and success. You never know where life is going to lead you, so stop expecting the worst, and start to let things unfold how theyâre going to.
Keeping the faith is the ultimate test. Itâs one thatâs going to come up a lot, both in business and in your personal life. There might come a time when you do actually have to throw the towel in, but youâll know that itâs that time because it wonât be a snap decision. Stay focused. Stay inspired. Remember how far youâve come. Be grateful. Take care of yourself. Then see what happens.
You can spend your whole life listening to other people tell you that itâs not possible or that you will never pull it off or you can listen to yourself, believe in yourself and back yourself. Whatever your vision, goal or dream is you have to know with absolute faith and conviction that you will get there and you will make it happen. You become unstoppable when your purpose becomes clear within your own mind and when you believe with everything you have that itâs possible!
9 Signs Youâre Successful â Even If It Doesnât Feel Like It
https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/278062?utm...
If youâre ambitious, youâre bound to feel like a failure from time to time. Lofty goals lead to inevitable moments when you arenât yet living up to your expectations.
We live in a world that reinforces this feeling. Though most people wonât admit it â other than the guy with the âHe who dies with the most toys winsâ bumper sticker â in the back of our minds, we equate material possessions with success.
Itâs a shame we fall prey to materialistic thinking because we certainly know better. A study by Strayer University found that 90% of Americans believe happiness is a bigger indicator of success than power, possessions or prestige. Digging a little deeper, 67% defined success as âgood relationships with friends and family,â and 60% said it is loving what you do for a living. Only 20% stated that monetary wealth determines success.
But saying and doing are two very different things.
Related: 14 Things Ridiculously Successful People Do Every Day
When it comes to success, our eyes often lead us astray. Itâs hard not to feel like the most successful people are those with the biggest houses, the most expensive cars, and the most influential friends. Regardless of what you achieve, thereâs always someone with more, and this can make you feel like youâre losing. The problem isnât your lack of toys; itâs believing that toys indicate true success.
Real success is about who you are and how far youâve come. If you ever worry that youâre not as successful as you should be, you may be evaluating yourself against the wrong criteria. Sometimes you just need a reminder as to what youâve really accomplished in life. The success indicators that follow will help you do just that.
1. Youâre no longer the center of the universe. We all know âsuccessfulâ people who act like theyâre the center of the universe. Itâs their world and the rest of us just live in itâŚright? Thatâs not success. True success requires the ability to feel empathy â to realize that other peopleâs feelings and dreams are just as important as ours, and we cannot succeed without them.
2. You stay positive. Hope and optimism are essential components of a happy life. If you dwell on the things that go wrong, you become bitter and resentful. When that happens, you fail â no matter what you may have achieved. Real success means always seeing the bright side and believing you have the power to make even the worst situations better.
3. You know that failure isnât forever. Youâve learned that the only people who never fail are those who donât try. When you fail, you donât automatically assume that youâre a failure. Instead, you embrace each failure as an opportunity to learn something â and then you move on. If you still struggle with this at times, know that youâll never experience true success until you learn to embrace failure. Your mistakes pave the way for your success by revealing when youâre on the wrong path. The biggest breakthroughs typically come when youâre feeling the most frustrated and the most stuck. Itâs this frustration that forces you to think differently, to look outside the box and see the solution youâve been missing.
4. You keep things in perspective. Sometimes bad things happen. Itâs part of life. For most of us, however, our very worst day would seem like a vacation to somebody who has real problems â like not having enough to eat, or trying to survive a civil war. Locking your keys in the car â or even getting passed over for a promotion â arenât that bad once you learn to develop perspective. If youâve mastered the ability to keep your problems in perspective, mark it down as a huge success.
5. You ask for help when you need it. Refusing to ask for help, no matter how much youâre struggling, is a sign of emotional immaturity. Asking for help means that you no longer feel like you have something to prove by being perfect. It shows you arenât afraid of people discovering your weaknesses and you understand no one succeeds alone.
6. You realize that life isnât a zero-sum game. Itâs not a see-saw, either. Just because somebody else achieves a big success, that doesnât mean you suffer a loss in equal proportion. You just didnât win that particular time. One sure sign of success is the ability to celebrate othersâ achievements with sincere enthusiasm.
7. You can tell the difference between drama and excitement. Remember the days when stable relationships were boring, and you quickly got tired of anyone who treated you as they should? If that kind of âdramaâ is a thing of the past, congratulations. If you prefer stability and depth to drama, youâre succeeding.
8. You no longer care what other people think. You only worry about what other people think when you still feel like you have something to prove. Conversely, you know youâve âmade itâ when you donât worry about that anymore â when youâre true to yourself and your principles, and satisfied with your life. You know youâve made it when you understand that other peopleâs opinions are just that â opinions. They have no effect on reality. They donât change who or what you are.
9. You accept what you canât change and change what you can. Thereâs a difference between pessimism and practicality. If thereâs a hurricane headed your way, thereâs nothing you can do to stop it. But once you accept that the hurricane is coming, you can start working to mitigate its effects. If your company downsizes and you get laid off, every moment you spend in denial just delays whatever is waiting over the horizon. Youâre able to move on only when you start exploring your options and making plans to change what you can. Taking responsibility for changing the things you donât like about your life is one of the biggest indicators of success.
Bringing It All Together
Thereâs no sense in feeling like a failure just because you think you should have a better job, a bigger house, or a nicer car. Real success comes from the inside, and itâs completely independent of circumstance.
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