Self Improvement [ Peace of Mind ]
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I Believe…
That sometimes when I’m angry
I have the right to be angry, but that
doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I Believe…
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had
And what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
I Believe…
That no matter how bad
your heart is broken,
the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I Believe….
That our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are, but,
we are responsible for who we become.
I Believe….
Two people can look at the exact same
Thing and see something totally different.
I Believe…
That credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything they have
Winner Frog
Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs…. who arranged a running competition.
The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.
A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants….
The race began….
Honestly:
No one in crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.
You heard statements such as:
“Oh, WAY too difficult!!”
“They will NEVER make it to the top.”
“Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!”
The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one….
Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher….
The crowd continued to yell, “It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!”
More tiny frogs got tired and gave up….
But ONE continued higher and higher and higher….
This one wouldn’t give up!
At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top!
THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally want ed to know how this one frog managed to do it?
A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal?
It turned out….
That the winner was DEAF!!!!
The wisdom of this story is:
Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic….
because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you — the ones you have in your heart!
Always think of the power words have.
Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!
Therefore: ALWAYS be…. POSITIVE!
And above all: Be DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!
Always think: God and I can do this!
Many of the things really count
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Many of things you count, don’t count. Many of the things you can’t count, really count is a thought provoking quote by Albert Einstein, the genius scientist.
How true it is no? Take the case of students. Sometimes the students fail or get less than expected marks in the examinations. Without second thought, they blame the examination system and of course, the valuation. They firmly believe that they have written well. Actually, it may not be the case. They wouldn’t have written the required answers or wouldn’t have carried out the stipulated steps while solving some problems or wouldn’t have written the exact equations. Finally, they curse themselves or the examiners or their ‘luck’. Some even go to the extreme of taking their own lives, unfortunately.
Even, in office atmosphere, this statement means a lot. Though the employees firmly believe that they have done their job correctly, in reality it may not be the case. Because of the employee’s inaction or discourteous service to the customers, the organisation or the company would have suffered business losses. Obviously the employee wouldn’t have got the salary jump or promotion. The employee, in turn, of course, will blame the boss or the organisation, without understanding or conveniently forgetting that his performance was lacklustre or below par. One needs to keep all these things in mind and should have the analytical ability when he has the desire to climb high in the ladder or when he expects a substantial salary increment or bonus.
Similar logic can be applied in our day-to-day life, amongst our circuit of friends, relatives or society. Though, we harp on the glories or our good rapport or the so-called good work done by us, there might be some shortcoming by us which actually, we would have failed to notice. Such aspects play a pivotal role in our relationships. Just because we have helped somebody, we should not expect them to like us. There might have been bigger issues where we would have hurt others, knowingly or unknowingly, which would have done all the damages.
Mother Teresa has rightly observed, If you judge people, you have no time to love them. We may judge people around us on different parameters, to the straight of our nose, which may not be true at all. We may judge people as bad, based on some incidents, which may not be true, in reality. These things do not count at all. If we start judging them on some incidents or based on some hearsay we will have no time to love them. Recently it so happened in my own case that one staff was to come on transfer to my office from another place. Somebody told me that she is not a good worker. I was worried. After a few days of her reporting, she actually turned out to be very sincere and good worker. Not only I realised that, even some of my other colleagues admitted their wrong judgment earlier. I cursed myself for being carried away by such unfounded ill judgment. Life is too short to frame an opinion on somebody.
We have seen some candidates losing in the elections. There might be some finer points due to which the electorate would have preferred the opposite candidate. Even in case of sitting representative, though he feels that he had done a good job and has taken care of his constituency, in reality, he might be disliked by the voters for lapses on his part, which he wouldn’t have noticed.
Film personalities will have a lot to tell on this subject. Many a times, we have seen that when the expectations run high, the film actually bombs in the box-office. Big budget, foreign locales, leading actors, etc. do not count at all and the cine goers simply dump the film. One can quote several such instances. At the same time, there are several films which create magic despite being low budget, new faces, new experiment and so on. In such cases, many of things which we have not counted really counted!
In the recent London Olympics too this theory holds good. We had projected our Hockey team as a contender to win a medal, thinking that our past record of eight gold medals will count for doing a wonder there! Actually, it is the selection of good players, co ordination amongst themselves, team coach, playing style vis-à-vis other top countries, really count. Ultimately, we had to finish at the ignominious last in the list of 12 participating countries. Several other medal prospects too failed. Though we had counted on certain aspects, in the real playing conditions certain other things counted. In the final analysis, much smaller countries bagged more gold medals and more aggregate medals than India.
Hence, always remember that “Many of things you count don’t count. Many of the things you can’t count, really count”
“Don’t part with your illusions. When they are gone you may still exist, but you have ceased to live.”
~ Mark Twain
“Life can be wildly tragic at times, and I’ve had my share. But whatever happens to you, you have to keep a slightly comic attitude. In the final analysis, you have got not to forget to laugh.”
~Katharine Hepburn
“You get the best out of others when you give the best of yourself”
~Harry Firestone
“Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions all life is an experience.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
*Acrimony hurts, harmony heals
Bharat Savur*
Throw away your doctrine of how a relationship should be, and learn to relate in a deep way. Negative thoughts multiply and cascade into criticism, accusations, and retaliations.
You cannot be happy if you are always self-preoccupied and believe that everybody should behave according to your doctrine. Life then becomes one long-suffering litany of ‘wrongs’ done to you — friends ‘disappoint’, family doesn’t ‘care’, colleagues are ‘selfish’ and so on.
This thought-pattern puts you in a negative hole. Your mounting expectations and disappointments lead you down to depression, ulcers, high blood pressure, migraines…
The wise explain lucidly: Thoughts constitute the mind. So, unless thoughts transform, the mind cannot transform. To transform the thought-pattern from depressive to positive, we need a three-pronged change in our thinking:
Quality — When our thoughts are loving, they soothe the mind and make it peaceful and creative. So, dwell endlessly in the great inspirational words of Einstein, Osho, The Mother of Pondicherry, Tagore, Thich Nhat Hanh. Loving thoughts are high-quality thoughts. Discard negative thoughts — they are of very poor quality.
Quantity — Negative thoughts multiply and cascade into criticism, accusations, and retaliations. But, when thoughts are positive, inspirational, the quantity of thoughts reduces and the mind quietens. In the early stages, you may feel a little uneasy at the absolute silence in the head that is so used to talk, tension and anguish. Let the uneasiness pass. Feel a hushed gladness rise in your mind — it is the dawn of a new free way of being.
Direction — The mind can apply itself efficiently in one direction. When pulled in different directions, it gets scattered — like a broken mirror reflecting distorted thoughts — and stressed. Lead your mind towards one direction —that of your highest self. Take the path of fine arts — music, mantras, and poems — as a hobby. Here, express your emotions in rhythm and melody, beauty and purity, and goodness and joy. The mind becomes integrated, focused, cohesive, and thoughts, emotions and words become harmonious.
With this new understanding humming in you, always look for opportunities, for ways to make your relationships harmonious rather than acrimonious. Replace every complaining, martyred, accusing, ultimatum delivering thought with this consistent, beautiful one: “What is the kind and loving thing for me to do right now?” This is very pleasant — you sit in this thought that is so blissful, so attuned to accord, so in-sync with good intentions, happiness and well-being. This is a deep practice. This mental state knows no hurt, recognises no failure, and perceives no slights.
Now, with an open heart and a much-lightened mind, look into the eyes of people. Feel them as you would your own self. See them change, grow; see them laugh, cry; see them struggle, triumph; see them live, love, flourish. Let affection for them arise in you. Try to be an answer to their prayers rather than demand they be an answer to yours.
As important is to establish harmony in your own body, mind, spirit. Most of us do not know that our body is a little off-balance. Since we always stand or sit through the day, our blood circulates more to the lower body. The upper body is relatively less nourished.
To re-balance, do two exercises: Ride a stationary bike for 35 minutes as a nice warm-up to get the circulation chugging. Then, do the Inverted Pose. Lie flat on your back. Raise your legs and place them vertically against the wall. Your butt should touch the wall. Hold for three minutes. This helps nourish the brain with oxygen-rich blood.
Get your adrenaline going in both directions. Get the blood to flow to your brain. The soup is always going to be under-salted, the tea always tepid, but love in the heart, equanimity in the mind, joy in the spirit put happiness in the air, in life. Get fit. Feel good about yourself from inside and you’ll feel good about everything outside.
Alongside, throw away your doctrine of how a relationship should be, and learn to relate in a deep way, sweetly, without expectations, without demands. Take care of your health. Monitor your blood pressure daily. Avoid spicy food that inflames ulcers. Avoid chocolates, cheese, MSG, peanuts as they trigger migraines. If a depressive, take your medication regularly. Become more and more aware that every incident of unpleasantness, of aggression and pressure becomes a doorway to disease and a setback to the quest of health, serenity and happiness.
Do this mind-transforming meditation: Sit comfortably, spine straight, relaxed, eyes closed gently. Focus on the in-out flow of your breath for five minutes. Be in the calming, quietening of the mind. Let thoughts come and go, continue focusing on your breath.
Now, imagine you are putting the mind to rest. It sits in a lush green field of grass and flowers like a tired pilgrim. Think of the world, the globe circling the sun. Visualise you and your loved ones flourishing, faces raised to the sun. See the glow of happiness on their faces.
Be aware that life is too precious, too short and that you must make the best use of being alive with the people you love. Let your love flow to them…
Every cloud has a silver lining.
There are lots of opportunities on our way.
We have to hit when iron is hot.
To gather makes difference.
One cannot pears their ears by them self.
It is easy to say hard to do.
Action counts more than words.
Action is better than reaction.
One ask a question remains fool for one time but does not ask a question remains fool for ever.
Choice is yours.
Never ever give up.
Any relationship to maintain only CONCERN is required nothing is required so go for it.
Think before you speak and look before you leap.
Because Speech is Silver Silence is Golden.
Reflection our presence is more important than absence.
Every one misses each other.
“Let our New Year’s resolution be this: we will be there for one another as fellow member of humanity, in the finest sense of the word.”
~ Goran Presson
“We will open the Book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.”
~ Edith Lovejoy Pierce
You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.
Abraham Lincoln
*The Five Part Happiness Formula
Kimberly Englot
I am a fan of happiness. I like to read about it, write about it, teach it and live it! Happiness comes easily to me but I understand that that isn’t the case for everyone. I’ve come up with what I think is the exact formula needed.
Excitement + Freedom + Joy + Inspiration + Love = Happiness
It might look a little complicated, but it really isn’t. You can start small and look for small ways to incorporate more of those states into your life.
- 1. Excitement*
By excitement, I don’t necessarily mean jumping up and down, or heart-pounding situations. It could be what comes with thinking about something you are really passionate about, or planning a party, or a trip. It could be a ride at an amusement park, or just rolling down the windows in your car. Anything that adds that shiver of fun to your life will instantly lift your mood.
2. Freedom
The ability to make your own decisions goes a long way in happiness. When you base your decisions on what other people might think or say, or when you feel obligated to do things that independence disappears, and your happiness goes right along with it. Start small, or start to appreciate the things in your life that you do have complete control over, like what kind of socks you can wear or the route you take to get to work.
3. Joy
This is just another word for happiness, but it implies peace. Joy is an internal feeling; it comes from loving people and your environment. Joy does not depend on the things you have, but rather the way you feel about them. Add more joy to your life by creating a Gratitude Guide and writing 10 things in it every night.
4. Inspiration
Nothing like feeling inspired to act. You can’t help but succeed when you follow divine inspiration! It could be trying a new recipe, or dancing to your favourite song. It could be taking a leap to change careers or move to a new city. Big or small, inspiration instantly increases your happiness when you follow it.
5. Love
The original happiness formula did not have love in it. I assumed that most people are surrounded by love, and this is true, but many do not recognize it. Love comes from within. You must love yourself fully because others can only love you to the extent that you love yourself. When you fully love yourself, you also realize that everything is love. When you’re angry, it’s actually love misdirected. For example, when I was working a job I hated, I used to get very upset and aggravated. I started to listen to the story I was telling myself and it went something like this, “Why should I have to work at this job? I hate this job. No one appreciates me. I’m meant to do something bigger…” I dug a little deeper and realized that instead of frustration, what I was actually feeling love. So I changed my perspective, “I love the fact that I’m angry about being stuck at this job because it means I know I deserve better.” Then I made the choice to act like I loved myself, left the job and started something I’m truly passionate about.
*Find ways to bring more love into your life. Smile at a stranger, practice more empathy, or cuddle your cat. Anything you can do to release love, will automatically add happiness.
Now that you have my formula and a few ideas that you can use to get started I suggest that you apply changes immediately. Start living in the moment, appreciating what you do have and loving the life that is right in front of you. Your perspective will change and so will your happiness.*
The Projection Factor:
How clearly do you see yourself in the eyes of others?
Self-Perception vs. Self-Definition
- Don Neviaser*
If during a variety of interactions the responses from others seem to be more negative than the messages you intended to convey, or if you sometimes feel others just don’t like you for some reason, perhaps it’s time to consider the source. Is it possible your messages and actions are not being accurately received because of your delivery? Is there perhaps something in your emotional background adding a more debasing lean to your perceptions of how others see you, and if so, might you be reacting toward them in line with these false perceptions?
It can be difficult to plug into a variety of interactions when one’s true self and relative values are shrouded by self-doubt and uncertainty. When self-perceptions are rife with self-loathing and disappointment, it can be hard for some to imagine others may actually see them in a more positive light. With such an inclusive mindset, it is not uncommon to project these same negative perceptions onto the perceptions of others resulting in varying degrees of defensive posturing; the resulting unwarranted agitation is then picked up on and reacted to by others accordingly.
Ironically, negative reactions to a reaction based on false pretences tend to simply verify and justify one’s original negative interpretations that were projected onto others in the first place. Sadly, interactions such as these damage or destroy a variety of personal and professional relationships completely unnecessarily!
Regardless of why certain negative perceptions exist, ultimately they come down to a matter of perspective, and as such, can be affectively controlled or curtailed by countermeasures designed to shift focus, belief and perception. Ironically, particularly resilient negative perceptions are actually outstanding examples of how certain perspectives can affect and influence one’s life; a reality that can be equally utilized for life-views of a more positive nature! It would therefore make sense to counter them by incorporating the same recipe of assumption, attitude and perspective that brought them to life to begin with; powerful factors in how we see ourselves, our life and others.
It is helpful to honestly and openly attempt a realistic, relative view of how one fits into the world and affects others. Perhaps try taking a step back and seeing one’s self, and interactions with others, from an unbiased third party perspective to, if anything, help illuminate outward messaging such as body language. Ultimately, one must attempt to adhere and assimilate to one’s true self so as to think, feel and act from centre with inner confidence and faith.
An extremely effective way of doing this is to make a distinction between self-perception and self-definition. Self-perception is based more on an idea and can be impacted or defeated by habit, self-doubt or old negative messages. Self-definition, on the other hand, is a specific, definitive state of being in thought, feeling, action and reaction that draws from one’s true, unique inner-self and incorporates specific needs, desires, talents and abilities that allow one to rise above confining comfort zones and diminishing perspectives.
Start by taking a realistic personal inventory of your assets, whatever they may be, and don’t be afraid to honestly and openly ask those close to you for help. Once done, define and combine all these factors and create a visualization of this new you and the future you desire. Make specific notes that confirm, support and encourage this new mindset, including ample positive affirmations, and read them daily! Also take some time to genuinely consider this newly defined persona in a variety of personal or professional situations, the more uncomfortable the better, and imagine what his or her thoughts, feelings, reactions and end results would be; taking care not to think or react as who you are now, but as who you ultimately want to be.
The next step is to choose a day and time when you will stand up and make a definitive conscious decision to just “be” who you really are, with an eye on who you WILL be in the future!
Believe that change is possible for you and that you are worthy of being happy and enjoying life! Then simply start thinking, feeling, acting and reacting in line with this persona.
The power of perspective and a healthy appreciation for life can literally make all the difference between living and existing, happiness and despair or success and failure.
The sooner this change of personal perspective begins, the sooner you can start walking your true life path in line with who you really are!
Below are several original quotes and perspectives that express some of these ideas. While reading them, let them drift through your mind and settle in your heart. As you see fit, apply them to the unique person that is you and to any relevant experiences or perceptions.
q “Pride and self-respect are the forerunners of self-esteem. Neither is a given and must be earned by positive and fulfilling actions that allow one to enjoy genuine approbation and personal appreciation from within as well as from others.”
q “Happiness isn’t a matter of who or what you are in the world, it is a matter of who and what you are inside.”
q “There will be times of great failure and disappointment in life, but with an open mind and an expanded perspective on the relative importance of each of these experiences, in relation to your life as a whole, each will be less of an excuse for accepting defeat and more of a catalyst for opportunity and personal growth through adaptability, change, new experience and maturity.”
q "Every ending is a beginning; a change that portends the start of something new and different and an opportunity to make a fresh, new start.
q “How many heights of proficiency, skills, incredible experiences and accomplishments are never known because someone simply assumed they could or would not reach such heights that fall so far outside of their immediate purview, so why even try? Ironically, those who have and will acquire incredible skills and abilities, or accomplish great things, commit to doing whatever is necessary because they assume they will succeed and failure simply isn’t a consideration.”
q “You cannot dance to the song in your heart without knowing the rhythm that it beats.”
q "Developing “inner relations” and self-awareness is vital to happiness and success in life; One cannot know inner peace or move forward in life without knowing who and what one really is deep inside and acting in unison with his or her true self. To better know one’s self is to better know one’s true needs, desires, strengths, abilities, and weaknesses, as well as how one fits into the world and affects those around him or her. In order to be true to one’s innermost self, one must genuinely think, feel and act from that most basic person within in order to become familiar with, validate and appreciate one’s unique, individual identity. The rewards of learning how to comfortably feel, think and act from one’s true centre include inner unity, strength, confidence and clarity for the right life-path upon which to walk, including the right people or person to walk by your side!"
q “The brighter you see the light in you, the brighter others will see it too.”
@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@
10 Commandments
8. Meditate Regularly.
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing
thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind.
Osho says:
Where there is mind, there can’t be peace. Peace Is, when Mind is Not. The very nature of mind is Restlessness.
Peace and Mind are two opposites; two sides of a coin that can never be together.
I read this in one book of Osho:
Osho was asked to review a book, title “Peace of Mind”. Osho wrote to the author saying the title of the book itself is wrong stating what I’ve written above. Osho said since the contents of the book would be about the title, hence the entire book becomes wrong. He asked the author to change the title. This also meant changing the whole content of book, a complete re-write. Author never wrote back to Osho.
buddyisin wrote:@B@R_0_0_D wrote:@
10 Commandments
8. Meditate Regularly.
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing
thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind.
Osho says:Where there is mind, there can’t be peace. Peace Is, when Mind is Not. The very nature of mind is Restlessness.
Peace and Mind are two opposites; two sides of a coin that can never be together.I read this in one book of Osho:
Osho was asked to review a book, title “Peace of Mind”. Osho wrote to the author saying the title of the book itself is wrong stating what I’ve written above. Osho said since the contents of the book would be about the title, hence the entire book becomes wrong. He asked the author to change the title. This also meant changing the whole content of book, a complete re-write. Author never wrote back to Osho.
Good share bro, keep them coming no pics. to be added for this
TILL last month,
i also thinking you follow OVERHAUL REVERSE advice, (although not now)
whether Buddy i sin ?
END IS NOT THE END.
IN FACT E.N.D. IS “EFFORTS NEVER DIES”
& IF YOU GET NO IN ANSWER,
REMEMBER, N.O. IS “NEXT OPPORTUNITY”…
SO ALWAYS BE POSITIVE!!!
*Stop Doing These 7 Things Forever!
Kristie Blankenship*
There are some things in our lives that we just need to stop doing. They aren’t good for us and they mess with our mindset.
I don’t know about you, but I have found that some things I have done for so long that I just do them without thinking. Yet, some of those same things are just ruts that we get in and can’t get out of. A lot of them are about how we think about things.
Here is a list of 7 things that we could SO do without!
1. Over-thinking things.
How many times do you find yourself fixated on some thought or idea and you’ve thought about it so much that you have it totally out there like in fantasy world or something or get so worked up about something because you’ve imagined all sorts of imaginary happenings? Stop thinking so hard. I know this is one area I’m really needing to work on some more because the way I’m made up I tend to think and think and think about things. Thinking about things is good, but only if you keep it balanced. Don’t over think things.
2. Stuff my feelings.
There are different ways we all deal with our feelings. One way is we don’t express them and just stuff them down inside. While it may be appropriate sometimes to not express our feelings and emotions, always stuffing them down inside without letting them out and expressing them is not healthy in more ways than one. When we stuff different emotions down inside and don’t deal with them or express them or handle them, we are asking for trouble. This causes stress to build up, which we all know causes so many illnesses in itself. Without going into a lot of detail, for the purpose of this article, let’s just say that we all need to express our emotions in a healthy way. If you need to cry, just do it. Don’t feel ashamed because you feel however you feel. Emotions are just emotions. What you do with those emotions is what counts. Choose to deal with them in a healthy way.
3. Filling up all your time slots-juggling too many things at once.
Okay. So, I imagine we’ve all been guilty of this — being WAY too busy. Do you fill up all your time slots on your calendar with stuff that keeps you so busy you have no time to relax? Stop. Breathe. I know we all have responsibilities and things we have to do to keep things going, but there is a point when too much is just too much! Let some of it go. If you really want peace and happiness in your life, you have to find more time for yourself and spending time doing the things you love and being with those you love to be around. Juggling too many things does nothing but keep you run down all the time, stressed out, and feeling like you never can get it all done. Believe me when I say that the more simple your life is the more peaceful you will be. So, slow down friend!
4. Tolerating stuff from other people.
We all have a personal space around us that we don’t like anyone to cross. The closer we are to someone usually the closer we let them in. That being said, there are some things that we just shouldn’t tolerate at all and sometimes we have to set boundaries. I have had to do this in my own life. There are some things I absolutely won’t discuss with certain people. I know I’m not going to change their mind and all it does is upset me when we have certain conversations. I let them know I won’t discuss it and if they insist, I leave. I refuse to stand there and listen to someone criticize me and talk down to me or go on and on about how they disagree with my decisions or actions. There are some things we have to take a stand for. If someone is always making you feel bad every time you get around them, either set some boundaries with them and gently let them know you won’t put up with it or get some new friends. Respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself. Yes, you may have made some mistakes in the past, but you don’t have to listen to anyone harp on them every time you see them. You will find yourself a lot happier if you hang out with those who lift you up, inspire you to do great things, encourage you, and make you happy!
5. Creating or tolerating drama.
I hate drama! I know a lot of people that can’t survive without always causing drama or being involved with someone else’s drama. Why would I want all the stress it brings? I can’t stand being in a conflict with someone let alone being involved in their drama. If you are involved in creating or tolerating drama, you aren’t going to find any peace. Most of the time, all drama does is accuse, point fingers, exaggerate, and make people feel bad. I find that drama is never uplifting to anyone. Just remember this, what you reap you will sow. If you create drama about others, more than likely others will be creating drama about you.
6. Trying to change people.
I know I have been guilty of this one. Why do we try to change people anyway? Is it because we don’t appreciate them for who they are? Maybe don’t like something they do or the way they act? We are all different. None of us are the same. You do realize don’t you that you aren’t perfect either? I’m sure there are things about you they aren’t that crazy about either. Let’s just give everyone the benefit of the doubt and accept them for who they are. Give each other a little space. We are attracted to people and like them and don’t really always know why; we just like them. When we start faultfinding and nitpicking, we are damaging the relationship and not enjoying the uniqueness of the other person. Just enjoy one another in all their glory. Each one of us should be able to be our true selves and not try to fit the mold of what someone else thinks we should be. You are unique yourself. You are special. Just remember, so are they.
7. Own other people’s problems!
Raise your hand if you don’t have any problems of your own. No hands? Imagine that! What we have to realize is that we have our own problems, which are enough for us to handle. Yes, we always look for a way to help our children or loved ones or friends when they have a problem. This is normal. This is love. Where it begins to be a problem is when we start to “own” their problems. Don’t become so engrossed in other people’s problems that you get stressed out, ill, find yourself thinking about it non-stop, and basically have unknowingly placed yourself right in the midst of the problem when you don’t need to be there. This is their problem. You might be able to help or might not. Step back and let them handle it. If they ask for your help, don’t over obligate yourself. Help in any way you feel comfortable, but remember that the other person will only grow if they learn to handle their own problems. Always bailing your kids out when they need money? “Oh, but mom or dad, the phone will be cut off if I don’t have the money today!” I have given in to this one countless times (I have 5 kids), but eventually you realize they aren’t learning the lesson of blowing their bill money and then suffering the consequences! This is just an example, but it is a hard one to learn when we just want to help them. They are grown ups now. Let them learn what they need to learn. If this example didn’t resonate with you, just remember this: You aren’t doing yourself or them any good if you are letting yourself get involved in their problems when it is not appropriate.
These are just 7 things we need to stop doing forever. Can you imagine how many there really are? This is a good start though! If we conquer these 7 things we are coming along and will feel better about ourselves and find more peace.
Barood yeh kiya hai……..
donreturns wrote:
Barood yeh kiya hai……..
is thread me peace hain, yahan koi lalchiboyz nahi jhankta,,
tks
buddyisin wrote:
Osho says:
Where there is mind, there can’t be peace. Peace Is, when Mind is Not. The very nature of mind is Restlessness.
Peace and Mind are two opposites; two sides of a coin that can never be together.
I read this in one book of Osho:
Osho was asked to review a book, title “Peace of Mind”. Osho wrote to the author saying the title of the book itself is wrong stating what I’ve written above. Osho said since the contents of the book would be about the title, hence the entire book becomes wrong. He asked the author to change the title. This also meant changing the whole content of book, a complete re-write. Author never wrote back to Osho.
Aha! Buddy… I see you mentioning Osho at many places.
Now I see where you get your attitude from. 
Reading Osho without proper inquiry can result in disastrous effects, especially in our behaviour towards others. Though we think we have become non-judgemental after reading him, if we intensify our perception we can see that our judgemental attitude has become even more subtle and so difficult to recognize.
Please don’t think that I’m finding fault with you in this case. I’m just sharing my view which I have seen in my own personal experience. It’s always recommended to read Osho in conjunction with many other sages especially Jiddu Krishnamurti, which will help us in clearing our own misunderstandings of Osho’s message. This is because he is not here with us anymore to clear our misinterpretations. 
Just a humble suggestion. That’s it!
Note: At first I thought of pm-ing you. But then I thought this could help more Osho readers around if I post this publicly. That’s why this is here. Hope you won’t mistake me. 
*Effective Leadership is More Than Good Ideas…
It is Great Behaviours !!!
From The 10 Commandments of Leadership (by Eric Harvey)*
Let’s face it, effective and respected leaders do more than just ‘talk’ good ideas. They must also “walk” them with their daily actions and behaviours. Here are a few specific ways we as leaders can support our team members and give them the skills and confidence they need to be successful and make our “leadership lives” more productive and enjoyable:
Be accessible and available. Unless you’re on personal leave, make sure they can contact you for any needed clarification or guidance. And, if you are away for a significant time period…give them a person they can contact in your absence.
Keep the environment respectful and “safe.” Do not allow derogatory humour, destructive feedback, or the criticizing of input and ideas. Take immediate action to stop them if they occur.
Back their decisions and act on their recommendations whenever possible and appropriate.
Minimize obstacles. Identify any organizational factors (including your behaviours) that inhibit team member success. Eliminate or minimize those obstacles as best you can.
Think and plan before assigning work and implementing projects so you can minimize unnecessary changes and extra work.
Maithreya wrote:
Now I see where you get your attitude from.
Nope, I don’t get my attitude from him. It’s been a product of life long conditioning and probably past life impressions. Osho just confirms it in his writings. Of all that I’ve read about Osho, 99% of it I read in last 6 months. Prior to that, I had just read one book “Intuition” and very few random texts that came up in google search while exploring something else.
Maithreya wrote:
It’s always recommended to read Osho in conjunction with many other sages especially Jiddu Krishnamurti, which will help us in clearing our own misunderstandings of Osho’s message.
I’ve read writings of few sages along with Osho, so I do have a broad perspective while judging him. Not only that, I also understand practical implications of his teachings and especially his techniques. I’ve tried few of his techniques. Haven’t studied Jiddu Krishnamurti, though.
Also, I’m not offended at all with whatever you’ve written. Do write whatever you want to about me, my attitude…
BTW, I saw this post of yours just today so…
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I Believe….
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re
down will be the ones to help you get back up.