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@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

Tum bhi to insaan ho na
Tum kis liye roye ?

@asoka wrote:

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

Tum bhi to insaan ho na
Tum kis liye roye ?

Insan ko insane bahut mile chup chup ke ..

"@B@R_0_0_D":http://www.desidime.com/users/2186 wrote:

Insan ko insane bahut mile chup chup ke ..

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

@asoka wrote:

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

Tum bhi to insaan ho na
Tum kis liye roye ?

Insan ko insane bahut mile chup chup ke ..

—.I am a lover of nature, I dont only love flowers, but I can live normally with thorns as well.

Kisi mahan shayar ne kaha hai ?

Who can argue with this philosophy?

We never get what we want,
We never want what we get,
We never have what we like,
We never like what we have.
And still we live love.
That’s life…

The best kind of friends,
Is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with,
Never say a word,
And then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.

It’s true that we don’t know
What we’ve got until it’s gone,
But it’s also true that we don’t know
What we’ve been missing until it arrives.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love you back!
Don’t expect love in return;
Just wait for it to grow in their heart,
But if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours.

It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,
An hour to like someone,
And a day to love someone,
But it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
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Don’t go for looks; they can deceive.
Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile,
Because it takes only a smile to
Make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile!

May you have
Enough happiness to make you sweet,
Enough trials to make you strong,
Enough sorrow to keep you human,
And enough hope to make you happy

Always put yourself in others’ shoes.
If you feel that it hurts you,
It probably hurts the other person, too.

The happiest of people
Don’t necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for
Those who cry,
Those who hurt,
Those who have searched,
And those who have tried,
For only they can appreciate the importance of people
Who have touched their lives.

When you were born, you were crying
And everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so that when you die,
You’re the one who is smiling
And everyone around you is crying.

Pass :
To those people who mean something to you,
To those who have touched your life in one way or another,
To those who make you smile when you really need it.

Women collectively fear love! There is good reason – men!

The glass, either half empty or half full is still not full. Love with any fear of closeness and total communication is not full either. It’s easy to love a dog or cat, especially a dog because they love back unconditionally especially if you feed them consistently. However, if the glass of love is half full or half empty love with a partner, life will be like the weather that changes daily from sunny days, rain, snow, dreary clouds, night and day and just anything. In other words, most are bankrupt on love because half love or part love is not what anyone in the beginning opted for.

Do men love with all their heart? If they know and love themselves beyond ‘ego acknowledgement’ they can! However, women are the temples of love even if holding on to generations ad infinitum of suppressed love because of fears. Yet, women would be better off trying to climb the highest mountain barefoot rather than trying to facilitate a man carrying a past of troubled love to open deeply and unconditionally. The good ‘just ok news’ is that, if you don’t mind the same old, same old life of most everyone you know, half baked love, like an old needing-repairs car, will get you across the country albeit not without joy and misery frequently changing places. Life doesn’t have to be a swinging pendulum of negative and positive.

You really choose to be the way you are, and who you pull into your love aura. Love doesn’t take work if the glass is half full or empty, but the many disguises that fear manifests in you, have to be detached from for the glass to overflow with love. Work on eliminating you fears! Love flowing over is about ‘quality of life’ and eliminating the ever changing vicissitudes of love and fears.
What is the difference between: I like you; I love you? Buddha had a beautiful answer and so simple – ‘’When you like a flower, you just pluck it.

But, when you love a flower, you water it daily.’’ One who understands this, truly understands life. Pluck the negatives out of who you’ve allowed yourself to become, and find opportunities to fill the glass with ways of love so that it overflows while releasing the negative. Taking your negatives into love may make them disappear for a moment, but then they always rise to extinguish the beauty that was, round and round, love and fear and love and fear again. The fears dilute the deep love that waits for you to make the choice to let them go! Love is a meditation, and meditating will fill the glass of love.

What is Maturity ?

Definition provided by Buddhist Lamas…
Maturity is when you stop trying to change people, and instead focus on changing yourself.
Maturity is when you accept people for who they are.
Maturity is when you understand that everyone is right in their own perspective.
Maturity is when you learn to “let go”.
Maturity is when you are able to drop “expectations” from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.
Maturity is when you understand that whatever you do, you do for your own peace.
Maturity is when you stop proving to the world how intelligent you are.
Maturity is when you focus on positives in people.
Maturity is when you do not seek approval from others.
Maturity is when you stop comparing yourself with others.
Maturity is when you are at peace with yourself.
Maturity is when you can differentiate between “need” and "want, and you can let go of your wants.
Maturity is when you stop attaching “happiness” to material things.
If any one of these qualities are still missing in you, then you can know for yourself that you are not fully mature as yet.

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@Troll @Achilles @thrifty_indian @Gr@h@m@lkene™ @cancob

End of Love

Love is like a box of chocolates – you’re never going to know what you’ve gotten into until it’s too late. Like chocolates, love is love but there it ends as only time will expose what that first bite probably didn’t offer a clue to. At the end of a rainbow is not a pot of gold, but a fading memory, and yet one that never really disappears, often either one that brings everlasting joy and bliss, or one that always punches your being of memory on ‘when’ it was. Then again, it may have never really made it up the mountain of love beyond the dark forests at the bottom.

Once love enters your being, it can follow two extremes, or a lot of mystery in between the two. Love at one extreme sours leaving ‘loves messy memories’, or at the other extreme, hitting the jackpot of love where everything rings true on all aspects of harmony. Love ends in a deep reverence of wordless appreciation, or in endless pain unless you access the love within yourself. In between, are the people who drop into the intellectual repression of love, or the traumatic inability to escape love’s loss with not ‘mind energy’ but heart energy.

There never is an end, and perhaps the beginning never comes but like a circle, it’s there everyday like the stars in the sky on a clear night. All those stars that you see represent all the love’s you’ve experienced since the beginning of your time. You would think that after endless time, you’d have gotten the secrets of love down to shine like the brightest star in the sky. However, life in the past was often short and unfavorable to love’s highest possibilities. Love’s opportunities are better now than at anytime on earth. How has that been working for you?

Love is a spiritual journey either alone where meditating helps or by jumping in the ocean of love in full consciousness
to fly among the stars. However, to be a rocket of love, all inner impediments need to be cleared, and all systems ‘go’! That may take little or likely much in preparation. Relying on the intellect and the body’s needs leads to shallow love in the end, hence tuning in to full body and soul with uninhibited harmonious emotion is the fuel to reach love’s heavens.

Sadly, at this opportune time of love, most fizzle out like a ‘roman candle’ shooting into it’s beauty to only drop to the ground with it’s last response. Real love has no endings or beginnings. Only those who faltered, choosing an incomplete ending in a world of ‘duality’, destroy love’s meaning putting love on crutches for them and possibly to the one left holding the candle. Love always takes care of itself even if love is confused love. Endings of love are an opportunity to stay open, and in the heart to move the soul up to a richer, more benevolent love within. Always remain open to anyone that you’ve love with love and compassion.

Good One

@itzdreaming wrote:

Good One

@Gr@h@m@lkene™

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

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@Gr@h@m@lkene™

Good! Par baat to ek hi hui na, Sir

@Gr@h@m@lkene™ wrote:

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

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@Gr@h@m@lkene™

Good! Par baat to ek hi hui na, Sir

What are boundaries?

Boundaries help to create healthy relationships. Think of them as a psychological fence between people: this is you, and this is me. We are separate. Our boundaries help to establish guidelines about suitable behavior and responsibilities. Boundaries build “win-win” relationships. I can be good to both you and me through healthy boundaries. If I close the door when I enter the bathroom, I am establishing a physical and psychological boundary: Closing or locking the door means I want to be alone when I’m in the bathroom.

Boundaries are essential if your loved one is a smoker or addict. As you claim your power with boundaries, you raise the likelihood that your loved one gets better. Boundary setting is absolutely essential when you’re dealing with addiction, particularly teenage drug abuse.

Who needs boundaries?

Everyone needs to have healthy boundaries in relationships. There are three types of people who particularly need boundaries.
1. DOORMATS~Some people have been raised to believe that martyrdom, self-denial and incessant caretaking are righteous virtues to be practiced to the point of misery. When people are doormats, they allow others to take advantage of them.
2. ENABLERS~Then there are parents who want to make sure their children have everything they didn’t get, and they protected them from every problem and emotion. It’s the other side of the coin and it’s just as bad. These people create a sense of over-entitlement, over-protection and inflated self esteem in their children.
3. PLEASERS~ Some people focus so much on pleasing others that they don’t focus on taking care of themselves. They avoid conflict, and have no sense of who they are, what they feel, need, want, or think. They take on the feelings of others as if they are their own. Sometimes they tolerate abuse or disrespectful treatment and can’t see the flaws or weaknesses in others.

Why have boundaries?

· Boundaries are important to help protect and care for oneself. If you’re not getting the respect that you deserve, take a look at your boundaries.
· Boundaries are also an important part of raising children. You can’t be a good parent without good boundaries. Not only do you value yourself as you establish boundaries, you’re teaching your children to value themselves.
· Boundaries help you to define yourself. Without boundaries, you won’t know who you are, what you want, or how you feel.
· Boundaries help to minimize stress and conflict in a relationship. With clear boundaries, there’s nothing to argue about.

Telltale signs that you need better boundaries

· You’re constantly telling him what to do.
· You’re warning him about what will happen if he doesn’t do it.
· You’re bringing up the past of what he did wrong.
· You’re giving him solutions when he hasn’t asked for them.
· You’re preaching about what people should and shouldn’t do.
· You’re criticizing.
· You’re mind-reading.
· You’re sending guilt trips.

How Do You Set Healthy Boundaries?

Setting healthy boundaries involves taking care of yourself and knowing what you like, need, want, and don’t want. It also involves (1) going inside of yourself to figure out what you feel and then (2) clearly communicating that with the other person.

Examples of clear boundaries:

1. “Yes, I’ll be happy to drive you to the mall as soon as you’re finished with your chores.”
2. “I want to hear about your day. I’ll be free to give you my full attention in 15 minutes.”
3. “You can borrow my CDs just as soon as you replace the one that you damaged.”
4. “If you put your dirty clothes in the hamper by 9:00 Saturday morning, I’ll be happy to wash them for you.”
5. “Can I give Jessica a message? Our calling hours are from 9:00 a.m. until 9:00 p.m. I’ll let her know that you called.”
6. “I’m sorry; that doesn’t work for me. I won’t be loaning you money until you have paid me what I loaned you previously.”
7. “You’re welcome to live here while you’re going to college as long as you follow our rules.”
8. “I’m not willing to argue with you.”
9. “I’ll be happy to talk with you when your voice is as calm as mine.”
10. “I love you and I’m not willing to call in sick for you when you’ve been drinking.”

Get help.

Boundaries need to be clear, specific, and clearly communicated. You may need to think about what you want to say and how you want to say it before doing so.

In life there are people that will hurt us and cause us pain,
but we must learn to forgive and forget and not hold grudges.

In life there are mistakes we will make,
but we must learn from our wrongs and grow from them.

In life there are regrets we will have to live with,
but we must learn to leave the past behind and realize it is something we can’t change.

In life there are people we will lose forever and can’t have back,
but we must learn to let go move on.

In life there are going to be obstacles that will cause interference,
but we must learn to overcome these challenges and grow stronger.

In life there are fears that will hold us back from what we want,
but we must learn to fight them with the courage from within.

God holds our lives in his hands. He holds the key to our future.
Only he knows our fate.

He see’s everything and knows everything.
Everything in life really does happen for a reason: “God’s Reason”.

@B@R_0_0_D wrote:

Good post bro

Brain Athleticism

Rarely are people not set in their ways by the time they reach 30 years old (at best). If you’re not an accomplished athlete in your 20’s, there is no likelihood that you will change at anytime in life. Likewise, inner emotional, mental, and spiritual intelligence is set in cement early in life with few exceptions. Those who’ve early on put effort into the inner ‘athleticism’ and are continuing that, have a little better chance to unfreeze where they are and have been. People generally become friends with who they think they are in their late teens, and 20’s even though the friendship is frequently a love/hate relationship with themselves.

Feeding the mind with fleeting ideas of more openness even provides little chance of converting to an active ‘walking the mental talk’, if not part of your life early on. One of the advantages of getting older and paying attention to people’s inner growth is to see how really rare it really is. People have ideals that mostly take a ‘dust gathering backseat’ to other interests and activities including possibly staying in physical shape, but which has LITTLE to do with opening the heart and your spiritual emotional self.

Alcohol and various drugs including marijuana stymy all inner growth, and instead repress issues which never go away affecting unconscious behavior as well as causing ailments in health. With 70,000 plus toxins in the environment that are unavoidable for those not paying attention, and being more discerning for healthier foods and general living conditions, the cards are stacked to become a barrier to all growth. Focusing on money and material gains is another barrier to hide behind. Have you become like a broken toy that is unconsciously manipulated by your inner athletic rigidness? As we age, and early on, we become less able to do outer activities. For those with an active evolving mind, emotional, and spiritual self while moving toward the light at all times, the future is unlimited, and the view and perspective of things goes far beyond physical athleticism abilities.

I always tell people who are single and looking for a partner, that assuming you are an inner evolving person, which is pretty uncommon unfortunately, to meet another without settling for someone who brings the ghosts of the past to bed, is far from a guarantee! Always be mindful of your opening the heart emotionally with no limitations. Be compassionate, empathetic, open to gaining knowledge of which there is more and more available to be learned, and don’t forget meditation along with healthy everything to fuel living a more divine love filled life.

Learn to let go of all negatives, even if they are from a loved one, while still remaining in the heart with them, but from a different arrangement. You are already perfect inside, but without letting go of inner and outer barriers, all aspects of life become ‘clogged’. Be free always moving toward love, joy, awareness, and blessings will follow!

20 Quotes That Will Get You Through Any Breakup By Michelle Dufflocq |

Breakups suck. There’s no other way to put it. We all have a standard recovery routine: tears, Ben & Jerry’s, a little Nora Ephron (okay A LOT of Nora Ephron.) But the modern girl knows all too well that there is nothing more therapeutic than a good quote. We’ve rounded up the best wisdom the internet has to offer to get you through any heartbreak.

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1) “YOU ARE ONE HEARTBREAK CLOSER TO BEING WITH THE PERSON YOU ARE MEANT TO BE WITH.”
– Unknown

2) “SOMETIMES YOU MISS THE MEMORIES, NOT THE PERSON.”
– Maria Beaulieu

3) “NO RELATIONSHIP IS EVER A WASTE OF YOUR TIME. IF IT DIDN’T BRING YOU WHAT YOU WANT IT TAUGHT YOU WHAT YOU DON’T WANT.”
– Unknown

4) “NO GIRL SHOULD EVER FORGET THAT SHE DOESN’T NEED ANYONE WHO DOESN’T NEED HER.”
– Marilyn Monroe

5) “I USED TO HOPE THAT YOU’D BRING ME FLOWERS. NOW I PLANT MY OWN.”
– Rachel Wolchin

6) “THIS TOO SHALL PASS.”
– Unknown

7) “THE ARE FAR, FAR BETTER THINGS AHEAD THAN ANY WE LEAVE BEHIND.”
– C.S. Lewis

8) “SHE NEEDED A HERO, SO THAT’S WHAT SHE BECAME.”
– Unknown

9) “BEFORE I AM ANYONE ELSE’S, I HAVE TO BE MINE.”
– Emilia Orland

10) “WHAT A REVELATION IT WAS WHEN SHE REALIZED SHE DIDN’T NEED TO SETTLE.”
– Unknown

11) “WHEN IT’S REAL, YOU’LL KNOW, YOU WON’T BE CONFUSED ABOUT IT.”
– Unknown

12) “I USED TO THINK THAT THE WORST THING IN LIFE WAS TO END UP ALONE. IT’S NOT. THE WORST THING IN LIFE IS TO END UP WITH PEOPLE WHO MAKE YOU FEEL ALONE.”
– Robin Williams

13) “I THINK PART OF THE REASON WHY WE HOLD ON TO SOMETHING SO TIGHT IS BECAUSE WE FEAR SOMETHING SO GREAT WON’T HAPPEN TWICE.”
– Unknown

14) “THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GIVING UP, AND KNOWING WHEN YOU HAVE HAD ENOUGH.”
– Unknown

15) “WHAT’S MEANT TO BE WILL ALWAYS FIND A WAY.”
– Trisha Yearwood

16) “MAYBE LIFE ISN’T ABOUT AVOIDING THE BRUISES. MAYBE IT’S ABOUT COLLECTING THE SCARS TO PROVE WE SHOWED UP FOR IT.”
– Unknown

17) “IT’S OKAY TO WALK OUT OF SOMEONE’S LIFE IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU BELONG IN IT ANYMORE.”
– Unknown

18) “IF YOU GOTTA FORCE IT, JUST LEAVE IT ALONE. RELATIONSHIPS, FRIENDSHIPS, PONYTAILS..JUST LEAVE IT.”
– Reyna Biddy

19) “IT’S BETTER TO BREAK YOUR OWN HEART BY LEAVING, RATHER THAN HAVING THAT PERSON BREAK YOUR HEART EVERY DAY YOU’RE WITH THEM.”
– Unknown

20) “ABOVE ALL BE THE HEROINE OF YOUR OWN LIFE, NOT THE VICTIM.”
– Nora Ephron

Michelle DufflocqEditorial Contributor, University of Montana
Major: Marketing
Her heart belongs to: Airports, city lights, Carrie Bradshaw’s closet, fresh flowers, rom coms, Harry Potter and baked goods
Her guilty pleasures: Movies intended for tweens, carbs, binge watching YouTube videos, sleeping until noon and every show tune known to man.

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