Respect every relation, but know the priorities.

This was narrated by an Indian Air Force (IAF) pilot to IIT students during a Seminar on Human Relations:

Venkatesh Balasubramaniam (who works for IIT) describes how his gesture of booking an air ticket for his father, his maiden flight, brought forth a rush of emotions and made him (Venkatesh) realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never travelled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways. The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for a window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him. When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me. But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life. As a child, how many dreams our parents have made come true.

Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for cricket bats, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us? Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young. It is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments. Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care needs to be given to our parents and elders. Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes.

Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.

Take care of your parents. THEY ARE PRECIOUS.

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@mahidada @goldigger @asoka @prinkle @raj0390

Tolerate Intolerance

Talk of love is mostly superficial when it’s just a use of words that sound good. All talk of tolerance is really buried in intolerance. The world has always been a ‘lights dimmed’ example of the opposite of ‘love your neighbor replaced with ‘tolerate your neighbor’ and put on a false happy face. Toleration is to put up with, overlook, swallow a reaction and any mirroring of a situation or and of another.

Toleration is a good quality to have in many areas of life except in a personal love because love shouldn’t require toleration if genuine, where communication flows freely within a loving dialog. However, much of life centers around what could be referred to as ‘customer service’ with the many services we encounter. The ‘toleration’ works both ways, but particularly needs to from those offering the service when dealing with the recipient especially an unhappy one who could be riding a fine line between tolerance and intolerance. Toleration requires the best use of common sense, empathy, even compassion for it may be unnecessary sometimes when you see the situation from 360º with clear intelligence.

People are intolerant of each other, inspite of feigning tolerance because they don’t go deep into their personal self love, staying instead complacent with unresolved issues of duality. Examples of duality are man vs woman; one religion vs another; good vs bad and so forth. Duality thinking creates prejudice’s that enter as factors.

Tolerance can become love? If you want to know the ‘truth’ you must go beyond all polarities or dualities. Be interested in ‘knowing’ and seeking the truth beyond all prejudices. Go beyond all conditionings to a higher truth and an attitude of higher intelligence from discernment will become an overwhelming habit beyond the state of not questioning with an open mind and heart.

Always seek ways to find harmony within, and anyone you’re close to, however there is no seeking if it’s already there within and within another. There is no toleration if you love yourself, and with someone else who also does. Deep love has already moved beyond the need to tolerate another in the same space.

In the outer world of interaction, have a sense of ‘detachment’. Detachment is not a state of not caring. It refers to seeing that no experience, thought, state, or other manifestation ultimately affects or changes your true nature as emptiness or formless awareness. Come into the moment, with an open heart. Just BE and see!

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@B@R_0_0_D Sahi baat!

Here’s what I;ve learned. People will be people, you can trust no one. It’s not a bad thing/cynical. I trust people to be people, to act in their own self-interests. If you understand that, you can use that! People will be disloyal, I’ve heard there are wives that sleep around, etc. We are disloyal, bu loving, kind, gracious. We are a contradiction, the negatives are not bad if you see them for what they are. You cannot trust people, big deal, you CAN trust them to be self-interested, and I use that all the fucking time.

Source : https://reddit.com/r/netsec/comments/3hr9f0/i_a...

@RichSoul wrote:

Here’s what I;ve learned. People will be people, you can trust no one. It’s not a bad thing/cynical. I trust people to be people, to act in their own self-interests. If you understand that, you can use that! People will be disloyal, I’ve heard there are wives that sleep around, etc. We are disloyal, bu loving, kind, gracious. We are a contradiction, the negatives are not bad if you see them for what they are. You cannot trust people, big deal, you CAN trust them to be self-interested, and I use that all the fucking time.

Source : https://reddit.com/r/netsec/comments/3hr9f0/i_a...

Loyalty is give and take , hence its in self interest.
How can be self interest isolated from long term goals. It may be difficult to focus on long the life and peace due to attraction of materialism world.

Suraj pancholi + Rahul Raj ne kya paya /?

@RichSoul wrote:

Here’s what I;ve learned. People will be people, you can trust no one. It’s not a bad thing/cynical. I trust people to be people, to act in their own self-interests. If you understand that, you can use that! People will be disloyal, I’ve heard there are wives that sleep around, etc. We are disloyal, bu loving, kind, gracious. We are a contradiction, the negatives are not bad if you see them for what they are. You cannot trust people, big deal, you CAN trust them to be self-interested, and I use that all the fucking time.

Self-Interest is fine but my actions should not be harmful/hurt others. We should compromise,sacrifice which gives us the greater joy than anything. Again this statement is subjective but in present world it has become the most precious thing.
I will tell a small incident when I was a kid, whenever we(me and my parents) used to go to a new place and were unsure of the address, there would be people who would accompany us to that spot and now even the rickshaw driver demands extra money for you to not know the correct address.

P.S. May be unrelated but this incident struck me after reading the quoted text.
cc: @B@R_0_0_D

it takes a minute to find a special person.
An hour to appreciate them.
A day to love them.
And an entire life to forget them.

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